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feedmegin
Jul 30, 2008


he means 'bad' OP

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Cessna
Feb 20, 2013

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I feel really bad for the cleaning staff at that hotel.

Tiberius Thyben
Feb 7, 2013

Gone Phishing


Solice Kirsk posted:

I'm not wrong. Capitalism with large socialist safety nets would be the best solution. Never gonna happen, but if we're dreaming we may as well get weird with it.

That’s not what socialism means, capitalism is innately opposed to “safety nets,” and it is fundamentally constructed on capitalists exploiting labor for more than its value, so I would not call it “the best,” no matter the limits you place on it, even within the context of pure Utopianism.

El_Elegante
Jul 3, 2004

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Biscuit Hider

Solice Kirsk posted:

I'm not wrong.






wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

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Tiberius Thyben posted:

That’s not what socialism means, capitalism is innately opposed to “safety nets,” and it is fundamentally constructed on capitalists exploiting labor for more than its value, so I would not call it “the best,” no matter the limits you place on it, even within the context of pure Utopianism.

What country you live in boy?

Clearly you need some freedom brought to you.

Araenna
Dec 27, 2012




Lipstick Apathy

loquacius posted:

This is why the mental-health stigma in our society is so hosed-up. You wouldn't go to a doctor, be told you have a broken leg, and worry about being labeled as "broken".

I don't know your therapist, but the Occam's razor explanation here is that they're is doing their job, trying to help you figure out how to get your issues figured out; sometimes a diagnosis is part of that. There's no need to chicken out; if you stay the course maybe you'd be able to get on a path to improvement, but if you do nothing, you definitely wouldn't. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take etc etc etc.

Don't worry too much about suddenly being "broken" or whatever; you're exactly the same person as you were before, but you know a little more about how your own mind works now. Getting a diagnosis (ADHD in my case) was a huge turning point for me. It could be for you too.


Good to hear, ban evader :) Personally I won't be happy if one of the careerist pretenders like Beto or Buttigieg or Harris gets the nom, but Biden is the only one that would cause me to write in "Jim Davis' Garfield" or something

I felt the same after getting diagnosed with autism and ADHD last year. I'm not a different person, but I can't help but over analyze everything I do, and worry about how others see me. Even though I never loving cared before. I'm just now at the point where I'm stopping that poo poo, and using my diagnoses to help me understand myself and what I need to be functional and communicate effectively, instead of worrying if everyone knew I was retarded* my whole life, and I was the only one who didn't know. I do have to ask though, is it a therapist, or a psychiatrist? Because I am p. sure a real diagnosis comes from someone who can actually diagnose people. My psych actually referred me to a different psychiatrist to get evaluated, because it's not just a quick IQ test, it's an entire evaluation, and it's a p. specialized thing to screen for ASD in adults. Were you diagnosed with Aspergers, or did they just use that to explain where you are on the spectrum? Because Asperger Syndrome was removed from the DSM V I believe.

* I don't think people with Autism are "retarded", it's a fear that others see me that way, same as worrying people see me as a tranny

ElGroucho
Nov 1, 2005

We already - What about sticking our middle fingers up... That was insane
Fun Shoe
I think I might be a sociopath, but I don't want to see a therapist and get confirmation

Whoops! I mean, haha, that was my sister, being silly in the anon thread! Haha

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Araenna posted:

I felt the same after getting diagnosed with autism and ADHD last year. I'm not a different person, but I can't help but over analyze everything I do, and worry about how others see me. Even though I never loving cared before. I'm just now at the point where I'm stopping that poo poo, and using my diagnoses to help me understand myself and what I need to be functional and communicate effectively, instead of worrying if everyone knew I was retarded* my whole life, and I was the only one who didn't know. I do have to ask though, is it a therapist, or a psychiatrist? Because I am p. sure a real diagnosis comes from someone who can actually diagnose people. My psych actually referred me to a different psychiatrist to get evaluated, because it's not just a quick IQ test, it's an entire evaluation, and it's a p. specialized thing to screen for ASD in adults. Were you diagnosed with Aspergers, or did they just use that to explain where you are on the spectrum? Because Asperger Syndrome was removed from the DSM V I believe.

* I don't think people with Autism are "retarded", it's a fear that others see me that way, same as worrying people see me as a tranny

Personally speaking my therapist is a psychologist, and referred me to a psychiatric nurse-practitioner to get a med prescription; I assume one out of the two of them would have had to diagnose me or I wouldn't have been able to get the meds??? I don't think either one of them ever outright said "I am officially diagnosing you with ADHD" really so it's a bit unclear :shrug:

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Skipping one that was just someone talking poo poo about a list of GBS posters; that one's pretty straightforwardly against Thread Policy

Followup from the doormat guy who was terrified of Losing His Kids:

quote:

Poldarn posted:

Man you got some weird dreams.

Serious answer, you said she's the woman of you dreams but not a single thing about why you like her.
Years ago, when I met my wife, she was perfect, she was everything. We liked the same shows and movies, same foods, we actually communicated when we had disagreements. We had similar interests and ambitions. Lately, that is gone. Even if I did accept that it is time to move on, am I just to find another girl who is "perfect" only to go through a nasty split 10 years later? I cling onto the idea that this is fixable because things were better when we communicated and shared our feelings. Today I feel like I am being taken advantage of and bullied. We each do small things, I forgot to close the garage door for the first time in a week, I got yelled at for several minutes for being lazy and useless. It's like every good thing I do is overlooked as soon as there is one slip up. When I see things my wife has missed I simply do it and move on, when my wife sees something I have missed I get berrated and we start an argument.

D-Pad posted:

I think your lack of spine extends to you not being willing to give us the full context even in an anonymous confession. It would be an extremely incompetent counselor who would respond that way unless there is a ton of context we are missing.
My wife and I have been seeing this counselor for over a year. That was the last appointment, over a month ago. My wife did say "I'm done, I want a divorce" at which point the counselor switched straight into "when are you moving out?" mode. Is that normal?

This appointment started with me confronting my wife about her bullying behaviors. Case in point - I was getting my kids breakfast, we had some leftovers wrapped in unmarked foil, I knew which was which because I knew the bite marks and style of eating and I had wrapped each item. I started unwrapping my daughters, my wife yelled "that is NOT hers" I replied "no, I wrapped this, it's hers" the argument continued until I opened both up held them both up to show her the difference, she agreed with whose was whose and continued to insist I was wrong because I opened the wrong one first (false) and I was now waisting time and ignoring the kids. My counselor did not respond when I brought this up. Second, my wife insisted I was snooring and keeping her up, I laid in bed wide awake and I knew my wife was claiming I was snooring while I was awake and silent, so I made a recording of the whole night. I mentioned this in front of my counselor, I offered to demonstrate the recording that had her screaming at me in dead silence and my wife got upset because I had recorded her without her permission. Prior to this, my wife records EVERY phone conversation and keeps a copy, and my wife previously had full access to all of my e-mails on her personal phone without my knowledge. I don't really care but if anyone wants to get upset about invasion of privacy, I don't feel she has a right to.

D-Pad posted:

Your pre-acceptance of never seeing your kids again because your wife says so is pretty pathetic. Like you make it sound like your wife would say "we are getting a divorce and I won't let you see the kids" and you just accepting that without the numerous legal and other avenues that are open to you to at least get some visitation rights really does emphasize how much of a problem you have of being a pushover. As a dad I can't imagine accepting never seeing my kids again without a fight. Hell I'd probably come up with some elaborate Hitman scheme if it came down to it.

I believe the legal system favors Moms tremendously in divorce cases, I base this on my personal experience from when my parents got a divorce and seeing the results of my step-dad's divorce. I had a step-brother, for about a year. I watched him scream and shout at my step-dad and try to steal items from the house before moving to another city, per my step-dad the only contact they have now is when my step-brother calls up to tell him that he is Satan. Simply put, I've seen the effects of a bad divorce. I've seen my wife tell my kids I'm a terrible worthless person. My wife has told me she wants to move out of state. My wife has a good job, I don't. I now have a history of mental illness (a therapist said I have autism recently) my wife does not. I don't think there is a chance in hell of a judge giving me custody of the kids, the best I could hope for would be visitation on weekends - which would mean trying to convince my employer to give me weekends off (not going to happen) or finding a new job with weekends off (if only it were that easy). Besides all of that, a divorce is the last thing I want to put my kids through. I feel like my parents divorce was terrible, I don't want to put my kids through the same kind of pain, and I fear with how my wife acts irrational lately a divorce will be ugly.

D-Pad posted:

Go see a therapist by yourself and ask for your treatment to be focused on how to stand up for yourself and get what you want. You can turn this around.

Thats where I'm at, I know I need to stand up for myself. I don't like confronting people, I don't like arguing, I don't like shouting, but I guess it is what I need to do. Above all, I'm afraid it's already too late.

D-Pad posted:

I am definitely an rear end in a top hat for this but I have never been able to have any kind of sympathy for these types of spineless people. It's just so loving pathetic it makes me angry instead of having any kind of empathy. Like I understand that very often things in this person's childhood or life that were out of their control made them this way, but if the solution to your problems is "just loving do it you pussy" and instead you just rollover and show your belly and then whine and complain about your circumstances then gently caress you got mine.

I don't really know what to say other then yes, you sound like an rear end in a top hat. I want to change, I want to make things better, I don't know how to make that change. It's not easy to change life long behaviors.

Jesus Christ dude, just loving :sever: already. If you're being a reliable narrator, there isn't a whole lot to preserve in your marriage, and if not, well, that doesn't really change my recommendation. Get a good lawyer, do it first, take initiative, talk to them about what your chances are w/r/t custody etc, just do something about your life.

Definitely get some solo therapy either way ofc, and even if you don't get a divorce you should probably suggest a new couples counselor because it doesn't sound like either one of you are getting what you want out of your current one (frankly it sounds like they suck)

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About two weeks ago, I woke up in the middle of the night to check on a noise that I had heard in the living room. After checking the doors and making sure there that the windows were latched, I went to the kitchen to check everything and make sure something didn't fall off the counter or out of one of the cabinets.

What I saw was sort of traumatic to me. My husband was standing naked in the kitchen and pissing into the sink. I must have been really quiet, because he didn't hear me making noise in other parts of the house. For what seemed like a minute, he just kept pissing. I cleared my throat to get him to notice me standing there behind him, and he turned to look at me and freaked out.

He tried to stop urinating, but I guess it's hard for guys to do that mid way so he was just waving his dick around and pissing all over the kitchen that I'd just loving cleaned the day before. He finally grabbed a dish towel to control the remaining stream while I yelled at him for being crazy and gross.

After everything calmed down a little, he helped mop up some of the kitchen floor. I was still really angry with him. I told him that he was helping me re-clean the kitchen the next day, and he just nodded shamefully. I asked him why he was even peeing in the sink, and he said that, "He didn't want to wake me up by using the the bathroom in our bedroom". I also asked him how long he's been doing this, and he was evasive at first. I was finally able to find out that he's been doing this since a little after we got married. Apparently, it's some kind of compulsion.

All I can see now when I look at him is this gross naked man who's been peeing in my kitchen for almost 14 years. I can't even look at him anymore, and every time he tries to initiate sex I end up making some snide comment about peeing everywhere. Is this sexual? Is is a dominance thing? Is he marking his territory? I'm seriously considering divorce. I'm just glad we don't have kids, since I'd probably be dealing with more territorial piss spawn.

I'd rate a fairly low chance that this is sexual or a dominance thing but it is in fact p weird

Sort of seems like a juvenile bachelor thing that he just never got over??? Kind of a "haha the laws of society say I can't piss in a sink but guess what" kind of deal? I dunno I'm guessing

Chef Boyardeez Nuts
Sep 9, 2011

The more you kick against the pricks, the more you suffer.
Doormat: all states care about is the "best interest of the child(ren)" and most states default to 50/50 custody so that the child has a relationship with both parents unless there's a reason not to. Judges can and will tell a parent who wants to move out of state to gently caress off when doing so prevents the other parent from a meaningful relationship with his/her kids. Also, in my experience like 95% of the dudes who will tell you "courts favor moms because they hate men" gave their judge a really good reason to favor the mom in their case. Having a mental illness isn't going to weigh against you much if at all, refusing to treat a mental illness will.

Go see a lawyer tomorrow. Fortune favors those who file first.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
Also, autism isn't a mental illness

Colonel Cancer
Sep 26, 2015

Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
Sounds like she caused the problem wrt sink pissing and not her husband :shrug:

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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It's all pipes!

Not Wolverine
Jul 1, 2007
Years ago my cousin posted on Facebook: "If God didn't intend for men to piss in sinks why did he put them at dick level?" As a goony bastard, piss splatters everywhere, sure hope you're not storing your toothbrush near the sink. And old stale piss really brings a new meaning to p-traps.

Rad-daddio
Apr 25, 2017
lol, shine on piss goon!

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

peeing in the kitchen sink is super messed up. do it in the bathroom sink like everyone else

ElGroucho
Nov 1, 2005

We already - What about sticking our middle fingers up... That was insane
Fun Shoe
I somehow doubt piss goon is a model husband and this is his one thing

That kind of poo poo doesn't exist in a vacuum, he's probably cumming in the hand soap too

Atlas Hugged
Mar 12, 2007


Put your arms around me,
fiddly digits, itchy britches
I love you all

ElGroucho posted:

I somehow doubt piss goon is a model husband and this is his one thing

That kind of poo poo doesn't exist in a vacuum, he's probably cumming in the hand soap too

Maybe he's also pooping in the sink out of his dick because he doesn't have a butthole.

alpaca diseases
May 19, 2009

doormat goon posted:

I knew which was which because I knew the bite marks and style of eating and I had wrapped each item

This combined with your purestrain D&D point by point responses tell me a not-insignificant amount of the problems in this relationship are actually being caused by you

necroid
May 14, 2009

snooring?

Splicer
Oct 16, 2006

from hell's heart I cast at thee
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loquacius posted:

My wife and I have been seeing this counselor for over a year. That was the last appointment, over a month ago. My wife did say "I'm done, I want a divorce" at which point the counselor switched straight into "when are you moving out?" mode. Is that normal?
I don't know if it's normal but it's clever. "I want a divorce" is the nuclear option of shouting at your spouse. If someone says something of that magnitude they either mean it, don't really mean it but are lashing out in genuine frustration, or don't mean it at all and are being deliberately manipulative. "When are you taking the first step in this huge change in your life" locks down where someone actually stands without outright asking. If they're just saying it as a manipulation tactic then it'll become obvious to everyone quite quickly. If they don't really mean it but are otherwise acting in good faith they'll realise this when they start thinking about it as a real actual thing instead of in abstract. And if they truly mean it it will push them to start making plans and putting things into motion, which is genuinely the best thing for everyone.

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

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Atlas Hugged posted:

Maybe he's also pooping in the sink out of his dick because he doesn't have a butthole.
If thats the case, does that mean that when he gets blown, he's also getting his rear end eaten at the same time?




Piss husband goon(ette?). Pissing in the sink ain't no thang. Lots of guys do it. Some times when you gotta go you gotta go.

Bust Rodd
Oct 21, 2008

by VideoGames
Sink pissing in a vacuum is gross, but maybe OP should consider that she she herself probably has at least 1 disgusting habit that she is ashamed of that her husband quietly resolved to never talk about about 6 months in to the relationship.

Goonette, reveal whatever your version of Sink Pissing is and reveal your true form to him.

Colonel Cancer
Sep 26, 2015

Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
If you keep your toothbrushes in the bathroom they are 100% most assuredly covered in pee and poo particles whether you piss in the sink or not hth

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!

Colonel Cancer posted:

If you keep your toothbrushes in the bathroom they are 100% most assuredly covered in pee and poo particles whether you piss in the sink or not hth

I live by myself, so its my own piss and poo poo anyway.

Thats ok, right? RIGHT??

RFC2324
Jun 7, 2012

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Pissing in the sink to avoid waking our SO makes sense to me. I have seen plenty of stories about people who went to use the guest bathroom at night so they didn't wake whoever they were in bed with, this seems like the logical step when you don't have a guest bathroom but have that inhibition.

Its the opposite of people who pee with the door open and just carry on conversations while full stream

Azza Bamboo
Apr 7, 2018


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Bust Rodd posted:

pissing in a vacuum is gross

I read this one wrong.

Escape_GOAT
May 20, 2004

Bust Rodd posted:

pissing in a vacuum is gross

Yea but it got me this cool custom title.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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RFC2324 posted:

Pissing in the sink to avoid waking our SO makes sense to me. I have seen plenty of stories about people who went to use the guest bathroom at night so they didn't wake whoever they were in bed with, this seems like the logical step when you don't have a guest bathroom but have that inhibition.

Its the opposite of people who pee with the door open and just carry on conversations while full stream

Having only lived with one significant other for about 5 months before we split up, I just don't understand the "don't pee/poop in front of them" mentality. You're living with someone. You should have pooped around them by then.

I'm not saying you had to have stood on top of the sink and distance dropped a deuce into the reservoir tank in front of your wife, but the basic bodily functions should have already been acknowledged and moved on from by that point.

The Diddler
Jun 22, 2006


Solice Kirsk posted:

Having only lived with one significant other for about 5 months before we split up, I just don't understand the "don't pee/poop in front of them" mentality. You're living with someone. You should have pooped around them by then.

I'm not saying you had to have stood on top of the sink and distance dropped a deuce into the reservoir tank in front of your wife, but the basic bodily functions should have already been acknowledged and moved on from by that point.

Knowing that all people poop doesn't necessarily mean I want an audience when I do it.

Bust Rodd
Oct 21, 2008

by VideoGames
Also “being afraid to wake someone up because of flushing” is a weird anxiety brain thing because I cannot ever remember having been woken up by that.

Colonel Cancer
Sep 26, 2015

Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
You've never been woken up by loud grunting, muffled swearing and knocking things about trying to find a plunger followed by loud splashing noises?

The Bible
May 8, 2010

Solice Kirsk posted:

Having only lived with one significant other for about 5 months before we split up, I just don't understand the "don't pee/poop in front of them" mentality. You're living with someone. You should have pooped around them by then.

I'm not saying you had to have stood on top of the sink and distance dropped a deuce into the reservoir tank in front of your wife, but the basic bodily functions should have already been acknowledged and moved on from by that point.

It isn't that.

If your husband/wife is significantly lovely to you, then the noise will wake them up, and they will put you through hell for it (and for any other minor slight/annoyance you may or may not be the cause of). It can sometimes get bad enough (physical violence, for example) that you'll go to any length to avoid disturbing them in any way at all, up to and including pissing in places that aren't toilets.

RFC2324
Jun 7, 2012

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Solice Kirsk posted:

Having only lived with one significant other for about 5 months before we split up, I just don't understand the "don't pee/poop in front of them" mentality. You're living with someone. You should have pooped around them by then.

I'm not saying you had to have stood on top of the sink and distance dropped a deuce into the reservoir tank in front of your wife, but the basic bodily functions should have already been acknowledged and moved on from by that point.

Its not a denial of those functions, its modesty. Those are very private things, and not everyone is comfortable with that. I personally don't care if my SO sees me making GBS threads, but even if we are talking while its going on I will turn my back to respect that privacy.

Some people just take it WAY too far lol

Colonel Cancer
Sep 26, 2015

Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
If you can't literally poo poo on and in your spouse you need to see a marriage counselor asap

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!

Colonel Cancer posted:

If you can't literally poo poo on and in your spouse you need to see a marriage counselor asap

Does rear end eating count if the hole isn't perfectly clean?

Splicer
Oct 16, 2006

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The Bible posted:

It isn't that.

If your husband/wife is significantly lovely to you, then the noise will wake them up, and they will put you through hell for it (and for any other minor slight/annoyance you may or may not be the cause of). It can sometimes get bad enough (physical violence, for example) that you'll go to any length to avoid disturbing them in any way at all, up to and including pissing in places that aren't toilets.
Jesus dude you don't have to jump straight to spousal abuse. They could just be a light sleeper and you care about them and want them to get a good night's sleep. That's also a reason to stealth pee*

*still don't pee in the sink

Bronze Fonz
Feb 14, 2019




I've seen my wife piss and vice-versa, like after a shower together or something, and we just laugh it off.
Don't exactly wanna see her poop, that's indeed much more intimate/private plus I don't like poop all that much, so.
She'd still turn me on afterwards, I just like to keep poop out of the game.

That being said, there's nothing wrong with peeing in the sink. Just rinse off whatever drops might be left, boom it's like there was never any piss.
It's not like you rub your toothbrush on the bottom of the sink before using it.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
It was the kitchen sink, which makes it not even remotely okay

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Feb 7, 2012

Taking the term "Koopaling" to a whole new level since 2016.

The Bible posted:

It isn't that.

If your husband/wife is significantly lovely to you, then the noise will wake them up, and they will put you through hell for it (and for any other minor slight/annoyance you may or may not be the cause of). It can sometimes get bad enough (physical violence, for example) that you'll go to any length to avoid disturbing them in any way at all, up to and including pissing in places that aren't toilets.

Did you have a rough childhood/marriage at one point?

Anne Whateley posted:

It was the kitchen sink, which makes it not even remotely okay

This is what's bad about it. The bathroom sink, while still gross, is nowhere near as nasty as the kitchen sink. Food is prepared around there!

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