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Kullik posted:i think if you need your own space thats cool, and understandable, if you need your own bedroom cause the thought of sleeping every night with someone that you supposedly love isnt exciting to you then maybe dont be in a relationship or wait longer or get help I love my husband and vice versa, but I'd love to have separate beds. I'm a light sleeper, he snores like crazy and in the summer our bedroom gets super hot sleeping with another person. Also I tend to toss and turn and he claims I punch him in my sleep when I roll over. I'd be fine with separate beds in the same room but that doesn't block the snoring and I already sleep in the highest rated earplugs I can find. If their relationship is otherwise fine and they have the budget for a place with an extra bedroom, I say go for it.
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BOOTY-ADE posted:Try mixing up different things with the meat you use - my mom makes really good meatballs & she mixes them with crushed crackers & adds a couple eggs so they stay together while cooking. Could be like that, or maybe oats or something that changes the texture without affecting flavor. I whizz up my meatball meat in a food processor so it's kinda a little bit smoother. Also, try adding finely diced green bell pepper. 
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subpar anachronism posted:I love my husband and vice versa, but I'd love to have separate beds. I'm a light sleeper, he snores like crazy and in the summer our bedroom gets super hot sleeping with another person. Also I tend to toss and turn and he claims I punch him in my sleep when I roll over. I'd be fine with separate beds in the same room but that doesn't block the snoring and I already sleep in the highest rated earplugs I can find. If their relationship is otherwise fine and they have the budget for a place with an extra bedroom, I say go for it. It looks like it's not just the sleeping thing. She's also introverted and on a totally different schedule than him. She wants to move in but basically live the way they already do and only spend time with each other occasionally when they both feel like it, otherwise staying in their own separate places. At that point, why bother moving in?
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Vim Fuego posted:As a lawyer who has been fired by a sovereign citizen client, I can say he should go for it, but be sure the judge knows about it because judges love that poo poo Warn the judge so they can festoon the entire courtroom in gold fringe.
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subpar anachronism posted:I love my husband and vice versa, but I'd love to have separate beds. I'm a light sleeper, he snores like crazy and in the summer our bedroom gets super hot sleeping with another person. Also I tend to toss and turn and he claims I punch him in my sleep when I roll over. I'd be fine with separate beds in the same room but that doesn't block the snoring and I already sleep in the highest rated earplugs I can find. If their relationship is otherwise fine and they have the budget for a place with an extra bedroom, I say go for it. If he snores really loudly and sometimes starts and stops like he's choking get him to a sleep specialist to get a sleep study and maybe a CPAP.
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My partner and I just do not sleep well together. He gets up frequently, tosses and turns a lot, and can't stand to have the dog on the bed and I'm a light-sleeping sweaty burrito who likes when the dog is at the foot of the bed. Even though we have similar schedules, if we doesn't get enough sleep, it's hell for us. We've lived together in the past and that insistence on sleeping together almost killed the relationship. We don't share bedrooms now and things are delightful. gently caress what other people think - guard your precious sleep with the blood of others if you have to.
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Bag of Hamsters posted:light-sleeping sweaty burrito extremely 
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I (30/F) need help "breaking-up" with (46/M) only been dating 3 weeks and he's a stage 5 clingerquote:Like the title says, I (30/F) have been dating this guy (46/M) for only a little over 3 weeks. He was very sweet when we went on our first few dates, a little too sweet verbally to the point where I was uncomfortable and let him know. At least we don't need to say it this time.
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chitoryu12 posted:I (30/F) need help "breaking-up" with (46/M) only been dating 3 weeks and he's a stage 5 clinger Give yourself a bad sunburn or a full-body poison ivy rash and hope he becomes less interested in wearing your skin
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Fil5000 posted:I love how the way every single sovereign citizen discovers the idea is by asking the question "how do I avoid the consequences of my actions?" I mean yeah that's the entire premise of SovCit legal theory and you can tell why they did it based on how their crazy presents itself. Driving around with homemade license plates and citing Black's Law Dictionary because they're a Free Man on the Land? Lost their license because of DUIs. Writing checks against their fake corporate personhood? About to default on their mortgage. Claims they are not a federal citizen, but a citizen of their state? Owes lots of money to the IRS.
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A guy like that is probably going to respond to her saying "leave me alone I'm no longer interested" by blowing up her phone even more she's kind of screwed either way. He's only going to back off if he is made to feel unsafe. So I say loving go to HIS work, with muscle in tow, and tell him to back off, in front of his boss if possible. Escalation is the only form of deescalation that works on people like him.
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Lmao, whoooooo boy. My Boyfriend(25M) Called Me(23f) a Stupid A and Dumb A Over Something Silly and Said Something iCant Get Over it. Relationships Tl;dr Boyfriend called me stupid and dumb because of rap music. My Boyfriend and i have been dating for 10 months now and He's Playfully insulted me but for him to seriously insult me is something that made me cry. However something thru me off. So the reason i was called stupid A and dumb A was because of.. Rap music. Recently i went to a family gathering of his and heard his little cousins saying the N-word but with the suffix -er. I told them that they shouldn't say it. My bf overheard and said if i Don't like that word I shouldn't listen to Rap music then because they say it in most songs. He himself makes rap music but he doesn't say that word but i Don't listen to his music. It's something i just can't vibe with it. Once he showed me his music Earlier in our relationship i told him my honest opinion. "I like your music, is it something I'd buy on iTunes? No, but i definitely support you and will help anyway iCan." However what thru me off was when he told me I'm a stupid-axx because I'm defending black rappers. Maybe I'm looking to much into it but his next comment was "you don't hear mexicans rappers calling themselves beaners." I told him he came off as micro-racist and he shouldn't have said black/mexican rappers, just say rappers. Next he called me a Dumb-axx because I'm a Sociology major yet know nothing of society. He Believes rap music is the heaviest influncer on young kids. So if i listen to it i shouldn't be suprised when kids say it. I said " I disagree social media does influence them but you're forgetting family, friends, and community that have more influence." Finally he told me i shouldn't talk shxt to his family ever, i Apologized because it wasn't my place to say something to them. Next, he told me to stop listening to mainstream rap and listen to his. I stopped talking to him after that. This happened last night. Am i taking his comments to serious and should dismiss them?
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QuarkJets posted:"I did some heinous crimes and got caught but don't want to go to prison. What are the correct magic words to say to make this go away?" it's straight up demonology but for The Man, it'd kind of own if most of them weren't pedophiles
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AlBorlantern Corps posted:A guy like that is probably going to respond to her saying "leave me alone I'm no longer interested" by blowing up her phone even more she's kind of screwed either way. it's pretty easy to just block someone's number and pretend they never existed these days Power Khan posted:I told him he came off as micro-racist and he shouldn't have said black/mexican rappers, just say rappers. i would say that is pretty macro-racist, actually.
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Power Khan posted:Lmao, whoooooo boy. Am I bad a person because I stopped reading at this and just agreed with him? Man I sure am a Stupid A. EDIT: Ok I lost brain cells and read it. I guess it's supposed to be a minced oath of dumb-rear end and stupid-rear end? And not that she thought dummy was spelled dumb-A? Hughlander fucked around with this message at 17:23 on May 15, 2019 |
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Power Khan posted:Lmao, whoooooo boy. I struggled to parse this. Am i a stupid-axx now?
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i vomit kittens posted:it's pretty easy to just block someone's number and pretend they never existed these days She's terrified that because he knows her car and general area that he'll stalk her until he finds her house if she does that, but she's also too spineless and anxiety-ridden to do anything but cry in fear over it.
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i vomit kittens posted:it's pretty easy to just block someone's number and pretend they never existed these days Somebody with that much attachment and that little respect for boundaries could try and find her in real life. Given that she directly stated shes worried about that given he knows her general whereabouts and car, I doubt just blocking would work. Sending him a gently caress off card could work.
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i vomit kittens posted:it's pretty easy to just block someone's number and pretend they never existed these days Yeah but he knows what her car looks like and the general area where she lives. Pre-emptive strike. If there's even a 1% chance he is going to stalk her we must treat it as an absolute certainty
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My girlfriend [f, 25] and me [f, 27] have been dating around a year and a half and she won't masturbate and it's causing tensionquote:I don't mean my girlfriend has to masturbate, but she puts the entire burden of her sex drive on me. She's constantly horny, and requests sex often. When we do have sex it's really one sided and rarely focused on me. I have suggested multiple times that she masturbate, especially when I'm out of town.
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chitoryu12 posted:It looks like it's not just the sleeping thing. She's also introverted and on a totally different schedule than him. She wants to move in but basically live the way they already do and only spend time with each other occasionally when they both feel like it, otherwise staying in their own separate places. At that point, why bother moving in? I think you're reading a bit more into it. Wanting a separate space in the home doesn't strike me as inherently unreasonable; if I were to share a two bedroom apartment with a girlfriend I would be open to treating the two bedrooms as "his and hers" rather than "bedroom" and "hobby room". There would presumably still be a common living room area that they would share. Also, "why bother moving in" - uh, because being in the same apartment is still closer than living down the block or across town? Because you could combine food and utilities? That said I can also understand a bit of hesitancy on the other partner's part. There's a lot of assumption in our culture that a successful relationship eventually means sharing the same bed every night and I think it's understandable for someone to feel a twinge of insecurity and wonder if "let's not sleep in the same bed every night" means "I'm not as into you as you are into me." I think that's something that could be talked through, as long as "sharing the same bed each night" is not something the partner specifically has as a required goal of their relationship.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's straight up demonology but for The Man This is the best description of SovCit theory I've ever read.
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chitoryu12 posted:My girlfriend [f, 25] and me [f, 27] have been dating around a year and a half and she won't masturbate and it's causing tension If I had a dollar for every time I said, "you need to masturbate so I don't have to do this for you," I'd have a 400% raise
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chitoryu12 posted:Man, today is just a day for going down the front page. I moved in with a girlfriend a long time ago and we each set up our own bedroom. Worked out pretty well because she'd just go to her bed instead of waking me up when I farted too much in my sleep. Basically, my room was 'our room', and her room was where she could leave clothes scattered around and occasionally get away from my noxious rear end.
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Lucid Nonsense posted:I moved in with a girlfriend a long time ago and we each set up our own bedroom. Worked out pretty well because she'd just go to her bed instead of waking me up when I farted too much in my sleep. Basically, my room was 'our room', and her room was where she could leave clothes scattered around and occasionally get away from my noxious rear end. Good for her, but doesn't that make your mini-fridge shredded cheese 'our mini-fridge shredded cheese' then?
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AITA for telling my neighbor that his fiancé might be cheating on him? I often walk my dog around the same times in the afternoon and the evening. Almost every day for the past 2 or so weeks, there’s a strange car from ~8:00PM to 12:00AM (my neighbor Matt works graveyard shift). I don’t really think anything of it (because who really concerns themselves about a neighbor’s car), but like an hour and a half ago, I saw Matt’s fiancé talking to some dude. They didn’t really notice me (or if they did, they didn’t care) as I was walking my dog, but I distinctively heard her say “bye sweetie” and gave him a kiss. Well I loving despise cheaters so I loitered for a bit until they went inside and then I took a picture of the car and texted a picture to Matt. I said and I quote hey dude, sorry to bother you, but there’s this car that’s been here every day and I saw some dude kissing your girl. Just thought you should know, sorry if I’m intruding or anything. Hope im just overreacting He didn’t say anything yet (I sent it 7 minutes ago) but I’m playing the situation in my head and wanted to ask Reddit if I was an rear end for sticking my nose into their business. Edit: He responded saying "Are you sure she wasn't hanging out with a girl". Apparently she was supposed to be hanging out with her girl-friend. I said I'm 80% sure because they have short hair (It was night time, after all) but I KNOW I did see her kiss and say bye babe. I have to go to bed at 11 but I'll try to update as I can until then. Huge update: She came to my door (I have a sill that opens up) and she starts screaming at me to mind my own business and why would I be so cruel to her and I don't even know her and why would I try to ruin her marriage and what I did she ever do to me. I said I'm sorry; I just don't like cheaters, and if she does not leave now, I will call the police. She said "let them come" and that she was going to call them for "harassing" her and to go gently caress myself and I'm a piece of poo poo for trying to destroy her life for nothing. I start recording her on snapchat and putting it on my story laughing (okay I might be TA now) as she's tantrumming and crying and screaming. She said "she'll be back soon" and left. Now I'm glad I told him so he can get away from batshit insanity. LAST UPDATE: PLEASE READ. So I’m going to leave this up as a lesson as myself and to others. I acted like a HOOMUNGUS douche-cannoe and I deserve to be shamed. Apparently his question was supposed to be literal. She was supposed to be hanging out with a actual girlfriend; apparently she’s bi and he’s straight and they both could have girlfriends. He expressed reservations in the past because he didn’t want her to sleep with another guy and she assured him that she’s completely okay with girls. That’s why he was asking “am I sure she wasn’t hanging out with a girl”. So when I said 80%, that really pissed him off, and he called her and told her off. They had a huge fight and after they hung up, she came to me and told me off. That’s when I started laughing at her and recording. She was pissed off and humiliated and she left, and shortly returned with the “guy” I saw which was a pretty, butch-looking girl with short hair. Soon afterwards, a police officer came and she said I was stalking and harassing her. She told him about the photos and the videos and the snapchat story and he asked to see my phone. I told him no, I know my rights, but he said if I didn’t, he was going to make this a lot bigger of a deal than it has to be so I eventually caved. He did see all my pictures (the 5 or so of her car, a couple I tried to get a glimpse in her window, and the videos I had of her crying). He asked me what the gently caress I thought I was doing, and I tried to explain my side of the story. He wrote up a report and went to go talk to her and that was a couple minutes ago. I’m scared shitless that they can press charges and IDK what happens from here. Just wanted to share this and somebody can learn from this experience. It’s getting late and I don’t feel like Redditing so maybe I’ll come back to this tomorrow.
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"Don't talk to the cops!" *cop says to talk to him* "Okay I'll tell you everything!"
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I (40sM) am a doormatquote:I used to think I was just caught in a bad marriage. Married too young and we ended up being very different people when we grew up. But I left that marriage and it was the same with the next two relationships. It's the same with my kids, too, and was the same with my parents growing up and so so many friends I've had and lost in life. I think it says something about him that when asking why people treat him so terribly he says that it must be because he's a piece of poo poo.
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i vomit kittens posted:i like how he conveniently leaves out the fact that he tried to take pictures through her window until the very last update Yeah but you see there was a chance this woman was a tramp!
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Pinecone Sample posted:Good for her, but doesn't that make your mini-fridge shredded cheese 'our mini-fridge shredded cheese' then? I wish. She had a degree in nutrition, so I couldn't even have processed cheese or thick sliced bologna in the fridge. That was probably the healthiest period in my life dietarily.
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AITA for treating cashiers like they’re stupid to avoid getting the wrong change (self.AmItheAsshole)quote:I pay in cash a lot of the time, and I like to avoid having any more than 5 singles in my wallet at a time, so I strategically give the cashier more dollar bills than necessary to cover the total, with the intention that my change will come out to $5.XX or $10.XX. This lets me get a larger denomination than one dollar bills so I’m not walking around with a bulging wallet that makes me look like I just robbed a strip club or a lemonade stand.
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zakharov posted:Why do people try to play amateur detective Because even when poo poo like that happens, "Yeah, but what if I was right?!"
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ghost emoji posted:AITA for treating cashiers like they’re stupid to avoid getting the wrong change (self.AmItheAsshole) They treat you like a child since you act like an autist playing Monopoly insisting you have to maximize the worth of your individual bills.
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