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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I fired someone for not using the fan in the bathroom after they poo? get one of those bluetooth light switches so you can preëmptively turn it on when you see her get up from her desk.
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neither of those people are wrong.
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May 17, 2019 03:54
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Oh man shitcan that nanny why is it even a question
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May 17, 2019 03:55
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Tetramin posted:Oh man shitcan that nanny why is it even a question But shes so good at ignoring our instructions!
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May 17, 2019 03:58
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MasBrillante posted:Your family moved. That’s fine. I don’t expect families to engage; just protect their kid however they can. I just resent the suggestion that my working class parents somehow had an easier time advocating for me or that it was in any way (even legally, in the deep south, in the 90s if you know your education history) more expedient for them to do so. They didn’t. They did what they had to do. In part out of a recognition that the school should to better for students, and to help kids like you whose parents couldn’t be at the school. I was also bullied heavily in high school and both the school and my parents did make an honest effort to stop it. All such attempts just made it worse. They stopped trying after it became apparent I couldn't even switch schools anymore because the students at other schools in the area were in on the joke. The end result was that bullying me became teenage resistance to authority, "kill yourself" became a meme, and even kids that normally wouldn't get in on it did. Someone created a "kill yourself Xequecal" web site (super notable in 1998) and printouts were plastered around the school. One morning a student managed to read about a paragraph from this site over the PA system before they cut him off. It just got worse and worse until I withdrew from everyone and stopped reacting, after which everyone slowly lost interest and the bullying returned to the baseline level. Today with social media this would be infinitely worse and totally inescapable.
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i grew up Jewish, and when I was younger I was friends with my Muslim neighbors. Once I went over to their house and they had a new babysitter who just casually put on a VHS for us to watch about converting to Christianity. I was little so I didn't really crasp how hosed it was, all I really remember was that they had some mnemonic device to remember the different groups they were trying to convert, I think it was T.H.U.M.B. ? where H stood for Hebrew M stood for Muslim and B stood for Buddhist or something like that
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May 17, 2019 04:01
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Tetramin posted:Oh man shitcan that nanny why is it even a question She's hot?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:i grew up Jewish, and when I was younger I was friends with my Muslim neighbors. Nice of them to include Universal Unitarians.
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La Brea Carpet posted:She's hot? Pretty good guess
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cumshitter posted:Nice of them to include Universal Unitarians. Nah thats a separate tape for the unconvertibles of Catholics, Unitarians, and Mithridatists
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Xequecal posted:I was also bullied heavily in high school and both the school and my parents did make an honest effort to stop it. All such attempts just made it worse. They stopped trying after it became apparent I couldn't even switch schools anymore because the students at other schools in the area were in on the joke. The end result was that bullying me became teenage resistance to authority, "kill yourself" became a meme, and even kids that normally wouldn't get in on it did. I believe you. Like I said, the bullying didn’t stop. But the teachers and other faculty did stop participating. And I left with the feeling my parents were my advocates, which was psychologically helpful. I left the state for college in part though because I knew it would follow me to any one of the schools due to a similarly insular town situation. I’m so sorry dude. I quashed a lot of bullying as a teacher and that makes me feel better about it all.
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Probably the old man 29 year old in me speaking here, but the non anonymous internet where everybody you post with is somebody you know irl has got to make bullying way worse for middle and high schoolers. The 10-20 year old experiences goons have are probably completely different. This is a pretty boring derail though and I think there is a bully thread in e/n you could take this to?
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Xequecal posted:bullying me became teenage resistance to authority, "kill yourself" became a meme, and even kids that normally wouldn't get in on it did. This is insane to me. Of course there were bullies when I was in school (similar timeframe) but it was always just schoolyard poo poo like pushing you over at recess or writing "so and so has a tiny dick" in the bathroom, or at worst the psychological warfare that girls get into like "you can be my friend but you can never talk to your current best friend again" poo poo. A student reading out a suicide request over the school's PA system is unimaginable. Like, I remember one student council election assembly where one of the candidates went up and started reading a top-ten list of Reasons to Vote for Me. When she got to #5 on the list, "Jenny who?" -- Jenny being the other candidate -- the entire auditorium booed her off stage. Maybe that only happens in Canada.
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Tetramin posted:Probably the old man 29 year old in me speaking here, but the non anonymous internet where everybody you post with is somebody you know irl has got to make bullying way worse for middle and high schoolers. The 10-20 year old experiences goons have are probably completely different. If you are in a small town it’s the same. Also, people who weren’t bullied have no idea what bullying was like 20 years ago. You’re just repeating the same “common wisdom” that was used to ignore systemic torment back then.
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May 17, 2019 04:22
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Sagebrush posted:This is insane to me. Of course there were bullies when I was in school (similar timeframe) but it was always just schoolyard poo poo like pushing you over at recess or writing "so and so has a tiny dick" in the bathroom, or at worst the psychological warfare that girls get into like "you can be my friend but you can never talk to your current best friend again" poo poo. A student reading out a suicide request over the school's PA system is unimaginable. It is imaginable to me but I don’t feel like rehashing specific experiences. That’s why I started by validating that experience. You don’t need the internet for poo poo like that.
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May 17, 2019 04:23
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Smirking_Serpent posted:i grew up Jewish, and when I was younger I was friends with my Muslim neighbors. What were the T and U though??
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Me [23F] with my bf[23M]...I get anxious in/am scared of landlocked states/cities?quote:This is mostly a personal problem and not really a him problem. Been with my bf for the past 6 months, but I've known him since high school and we've always been close (just didn't really have a label until recently). Everything's good, I love him, there aren't any problems, yada yada.
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May 17, 2019 04:48
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Haifisch posted:Me [23F] with my bf[23M]...I get anxious in/am scared of landlocked states/cities? Dear Reddit, UPDATE: Welp the bf just got a job offer in Uzbekistan and
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Grape posted:What were the T and U though?? I just looked it up. Looks like I was wrong about the Hebrew part: Tribal Hindu Unreligious (Chinese!?) Muslim Buddhist
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I just looked it up. Looks like I was wrong about the Hebrew part: lol this made my day.
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if I can't be on a beach in a ~2 hour drive I'm upset so I'm with landlocked girl
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May 17, 2019 05:04
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Grape posted:Dear Reddit, UPDATE: Welp the bf just got a job offer in Uzbekistan and For her sake I hope she never ends up in Lesotho!
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Haifisch posted:Me [23F] with my bf[23M]...I get anxious in/am scared of landlocked states/cities? Geneva is in Switzerland, therefore landlocked cities aren't as susceptible to a siege. Thinking about those trade routes....
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May 17, 2019 05:20
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Schools will go to incredible lengths to ignore bullying, especially that of vulnerable, minority and disabled students. The only reliable option is going scorched earth in every sense. Iirc school shooters are more likely to be the bullies than the victims, who usually just commit suicide.
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May 17, 2019 05:24
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WIBTA for being upset at my Dad for dating my GF's best friend?quote:Throwaway since some people know my real account.
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big trivia FAIL posted:if I can't be on a beach in a ~2 hour drive I'm upset so I'm with landlocked girl That is exactly what I have said in the past and I'm with landlocked girl too. It doesn't help that the landlocked states have fuckall to do.
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dudeness posted:And here we were only a few pages ago saying that mermaids ain't real. Discovery channel aired a fake documentary about mermaids like a decade ago and I had people come into the office amazed that Discovery was the first network to ever record mermaids on film
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My [25F] sister [25F] is teaching the kid of a NFL player. My boyfriend [26M] is being creepy and borderline begging her to befriend the father. My sister is a teacher at a private school. She's teaching the son of an NFL player. I'm not going to say who it is. She's met this guy at a parent/teacher night, and spoke to him briefly. I don't want to put too much detail, and I'm being careful of what I say for obvious reasons of anonymity. so this will be short. My boyfriend is in love with the team this guy plays for. He's been begging my sister to become friends with the father to get to talk to him. He keeps bringing it up about how we have in to talk to NFL players. How do I get him to stop bringing this up every second day? TL;DR: Boyfriend thinks that because my sister teaches the son of a NFL player, he has an in to be friends with said NFL player.
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being frightened by the idea of a landlocked city having insufficient trade routes is some mega weird poo poo but i think wanting to live near some significant body of water is natural. civilization always follows the water.
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Haifisch posted:Me [23F] with my bf[23M]...I get anxious in/am scared of landlocked states/cities? Those are good instincts. Wish him well on his journey and hit the dating pool
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AITA for telling a female coworker I can tell she’s been working out? Have this coworker, well call Hannah(obviously not her real name). Anyways she’s been hitting the gym real hard. She’s really into heath and fitness, but over the holidays, kinda stopped. She really went all in back in February. So a few months down the road, and you can tell she’s really been at it. She’s got increased muscle definition and lost some body fat. So anyways I told her, wow you’re really starting to show some progress! You must be working really hard. I wish I had that dedication. She thanked me, and I thought that was the end of it. But later I overheard her telling another coworker I was creeping in her and objectifying her. Definitely was not my intent. AITA? Edit: just some info, Hannah and I talk about health and fitness regularly. It’s one of pretty much the only common interest we share, so this wasn’t totally out of the blue And yes I would say this to a man, and I have. I appreciate people who are making progress on their fitness goals, and think they should know that
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I've grown up and lived my whole life on an island so I also feel weird not being near the sea. It's like having an aisle seat on the planet? My wife's from Moscow and Kiev so she never understood that feeling, but after living here for years she now practically runs to the ocean when ever she gets back from visiting her family saying "I need the ocean!" and associates the smell of the ocean with home, so I guess it's addictive?
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gently caress Your Website posted:Seems like we’ve had a good number lately where the age difference alone gives me the shudders.
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Baronjutter posted:I've grown up and lived my whole life on an island so I also feel weird not being near the sea. It's like having an aisle seat on the planet?
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AITA Going on a “pancake strike” to get back at my wife? My wife and I have been married for over 10 years, together close to 15. We have several children. Ever since we moved in together I have made her (and eventually our kids when we were blessed with them) pancakes every Saturday morning. The only time I’ve not done so is when I’ve been seriously sick or away on business. I’ll wake up at 7 and make a big pancake breakfast, honey roasted nuts, bacon etc. My father did the same thing and so it’s kind of a family tradition in some sense (not really though as my siblings have not carried it on). About 1-2 weeks ago my wife told me that she would be going on a “sex strike” that her feminist-mom group was organising (a Facebook group where moms get together to promote feminism/organise protests). Now I’ve never been a political person. I just want to live a happy life with my family and nothing more, but I try to be supportive of my wife since this stuff is important to her, and I’m not informed on any of this political stuff. But this just seemed wrong to me. Ofcourse she’s not obligated to have sex with me, but it seemed like she is trying to punish me for something I haven’t done. It really sat wrong with me. After a few days I asked if the sex strike was still something she wanted to do, and she reaffirmed so. My response was to go on pancake strike. For the first time in our entire marriage (absent sickness or being away) my family did not awake to pancakes. They were very upset. On the surface I think I haven’t done anything wrong. But on further reflection I think I might be the rear end in a top hat because: Not supporting something that’s important to my wife Ruining a pseudo family tradition Punishing my kids to get back at my wife The judgement given here will determine whether my family wakes up to pancakes tomorrow. I will not contest or argue with anyone’s points. Thank you
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [25F] sister [25F] is teaching the kid of a NFL player. My boyfriend [26M] is being creepy and borderline begging her to befriend the father. don't let your kids get close to t*m br*dy Baronjutter posted:I've grown up and lived my whole life on an island so I also feel weird not being near the sea. It's like having an aisle seat on the planet? i grew up in hawaii and idgaf about the shoreline. i can take it or leave it
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AITA for not wanting my twins to bathe together anymore?quote:So let me just say, I love my son and daughter dearly. They've been a blessing on the lives of my wife and I, and I thank God for them every day. When we first had them, we bathed them at the same time just to save time and because it's easier to keep an eye on them if they're in the same place. But they're about to hit puberty (Just turned11 last month) and I don't think they should be doing it anymore. It's not normal for pubescent children to bathe together, even twins. When I was younger I never saw my siblings naked, and I thinkthat's the way it should be. It's not just this, though. They're very close. They hang out all the time at home, in each other's rooms. They hug all the time and they hold hands in public.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:The judgement given here will determine whether my family wakes up to pancakes tomorrow. I will not contest or argue with anyone’s points. I’ve never... felt... so much POWWWWWEEEEEERRRRRRR!
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