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The White Dragon posted:outdoors cats are an invasive and highly destructive pest though, for the sake of all native flora and fauna don't ever let your pet cats outside. i highly doubt their fence keeps it in
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May 18, 2019 22:14
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quote:Smirking_Serpent posted: What the wife did was mean, but no amount of "but you promised" is going to mandate that she change her mind. He has to decide if that's a deal breaker or not. Barn cats are totally normal, but they should get fed every so often in the winter.
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May 18, 2019 22:15
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The White Dragon posted:outdoors cats are an invasive and highly destructive pest though, for the sake of all native flora and fauna don't ever let your pet cats outside. i highly doubt their fence keeps it in Those aren't pets though. They're clearly working animals and are held to different standards, especially by farm people.
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May 18, 2019 22:18
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Get those chickens a heat lamp or something though
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May 18, 2019 22:24
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Palpek posted:"I know that I'm facing just consequences of my actions but I don't want that." Someone should put this on a t-shirt and send one to the OPs of all these
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May 18, 2019 22:25
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Landlocked phobic girl is a mermaid.
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May 18, 2019 22:50
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Kill all feral cats. Don't let your cat outside.
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May 18, 2019 23:17
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [22M] girlfriend [20F] has given me a ‘free pass’ for a holiday abroad. Do I use it?
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May 18, 2019 23:23
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Haifisch posted:My (25F) MIL(69F) thinks that keeping our rural animals outdoors is abusive Haifisch posted:MIL(69F) Nice
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May 18, 2019 23:25
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it's funny because ethics students are studying philosophy, arguments, sociology, etc. It's an academic discipline, it's not as if she's sitting in a room doing the turtle test from Blade Runner for two years.
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May 18, 2019 23:27
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Legality of removing a private company's car boot from vehicles in my neighborhood? My HOA has contracted with this ridiculous company who is constantly booting vehicles (sometimes for legit reasons, but often times it is happening to vehicles that are following all of the rules) and it is getting out of hand. They are charging $300+ dollars to remove the boot. It is exorbitant and taking advantage of people; in my opinion it is complete bullshit to charge someone because they forgot their hang-tag IN THEIR OWN ASSIGNED SPOT THAT IS DEEDED TO THEM. So here's what I've been doing... I go around my neighborhood, I pick the locks that this company uses, and I remove the boot from the vehicle, and then re-lock it on their little boot stand where they keep all the boots on standby. I never damage the boots, my picking method doesn't damage any of the internals of the lock, and I save someone $300+ each time because gently caress that noise. Now to the original question... are there any repercussions (legal/civil) to what I am doing? I am not damaging any property, I am certainly not stealing anything, but what am I not thinking about? Many residents have already complained to the HOA and they vow to keep complaining until something is done, but for now I would like to continue doing my little part. Thanks for your time! I appreciate all of your replies, whether you agree with me or not and whether I agree with you or not. You took the time to comment and give sensical input and I appreciate it. With that said, I am going to keep doing my thing because it is the right thing to do, and I don't think it rises to being a criminal act as far as the statutes are concerned. The civil aspect I can see but only to an extent and only if I damaged the tow company's equipment. Furthermore, I will be asking an actual lawyer about this. I received a PM that was validated with some actual proof as to credentialing and namesake and I will be doing some offline corresponding with that person. Thank you all for your time!
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May 18, 2019 23:31
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Probably illegal, definitely the right thing
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May 18, 2019 23:35
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WIBTA for destroying my ex's sexist "shrine"? My ex and I broke up four days ago and I want to destroy a "keepsake" he has of previous girlfriends. Every girlfriend he's had, he has a pair of their underwear and keeps them in his car dangling from his rear view mirror. He makes jokes it's his "shrine of conquest" and it's an "air freshener". He said they've given him them willingly and he even has a pair of my own I gave him. But now that I think of it, it's incredibly sexist and degrading to women, reducing them to "conquests". It's also cringey as all hell. I want to meet with him once more, get into his car, and take the 6 or 7 pairs of underwear from his RVM and dispose of them. But would I be the rear end in a top hat? It's his property but I feel like it's justified maybe?
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May 18, 2019 23:41
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Legality of removing a private company's car boot from vehicles in my neighborhood? Marxist-Jezzinist posted:Probably illegal, definitely the right thing Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for destroying my ex's sexist "shrine"? Marxist-Jezzinist posted:Probably illegal, definitely the right thing
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May 18, 2019 23:46
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YTA for contributing to the gross shrine. Destroying it is how you can redeem yourself.
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May 18, 2019 23:48
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for destroying my ex's sexist "shrine"? Lol, leave it as a warning sign for people who aren't stupid enough to date an rear end in a top hat who hangs used panties from his rear view mirror. Fuckin' a.
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May 18, 2019 23:49
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A dollar says she wouldn't care if it was just hers, the objection comes that it acknowledges previous girlfriends. But I woke up pretty cranky today so maybe I'm just being particularly petty.
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May 18, 2019 23:49
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regardless of the ick factor, having a bunch of underwear hanging from your rearview mirror seems like it would pointlessly obstruct your view and generally just get in the way.
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May 18, 2019 23:51
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FAUXTON posted:idk there's always been a part of me that suspects the worst of guys who prefer their women shaven clean, like dude you're not staging a loving porn shoot, adults grow hair, deal with it. Porn is loving weird with it, and it always looks off when both people are fully shaved. Almost always the women are, and it just makes me think about bad poo poo, like they look underage or something. I presume that's the point.
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May 18, 2019 23:57
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AITA for regretting our decision to let sister-in-law carry our child? When I was 19, I was diagnosed with cancer. Right before treatment, I froze some of my eggs on the advice of my oncologist. I eventually needed a full hysterectomy. I got better and returned to normal life and college. That's where I met my husband. We both knew we wanted children down the road. Years later, we started exploring both surrogacy and adoption. My sister-in-law Bethany (married to my husband's brother), learned that we were exploring both options, and had all of the sudden volunteered to carry the baby for us. She has 3 kids of her own and all of her pregnancies were smooth-sailing. She went out of her way to convince my husband and I that she'd be the best choice. My in-laws were thrilled. Eventually it seemed like I couldn't say no because everyone was so excited. I was taken aback by the generosity. While Bethany was preparing for the implantation, and she was undergoing injections, which are typically well tolerated but, Bethany was complaining of multiple symptoms & seemed to need a lot of rest. She wanted to persist and the whole family stepped in to help with her own kids, which included driving them to school and taking them in for sleepovers to help her rest. She became pregnant soon after. Bethany quickly started experiencing nausea and severe morning sickness. Every pregnancy is different but it seemed odd. Again, the whole family rallied behind her and prepared meals for her, took care of my nieces and nephew, paid for a cleaning service, and went above and beyond to dote on her. As soon as the morning sickness had subsided by month 4, she started having severe back pain. Again, a new pregnancy symptom for her. She started doing things that made me feel uncomfortable. She did a maternity photo shoot & included the rest of our extended family in the pictures. She posted the photos on facebook, as well as multiple updates on her pregnancy. She posted ultrasound pictures online for 'her little nugget'. She posted a long facebook post on mother's day detailing her pregnancy and how surrogate moms should be celebrated on mother's day. Now she is insisting on having a joint baby shower. I explained that as the new mom, I felt that I, for once, should be the center of attention and celebrated as the mom. She already had her baby showers for her own kids. It doesn't feel like it is acknowledged that it is MY child. I told my husband and he thinks I am the rear end in a top hat and that she's done this wonderful thing for us. It feels odd to me now that she has this control over the family and I am worried that she will continue to interject into my family well after the birth. I am already sensitive about not being able to carry my child, and watching her take this over the top has hurt me. Am I the rear end in a top hat for feeling hurt and wanting my own baby shower? Edit to add: some of her other behaviors: - I let he know that I wanted to have a gender reveal party with one of those cakes that are either blue or pink on the inside. She told my parents-in-law the gender before I could even start planning the party, and then she made it sound as if it's no big deal, because there were other people that don't know the gender yet. She blamed the whole thing on her 'pregnancy brain' - She wants our mother-in-law to be in the room when the baby is born, and while I am grateful that she has allowed me to be in the delivery room as well, I feel that it is strange. I wanted to have some bonding time with the baby and with my extended family in the delivery room and in the waiting room, there's no way I am going to have that privacy for the first two days. The strange thing is that she did not allow anyone in the hospital for 24 hours when her own kids were born. - She insisted on pumping exclusively for the baby. I told her that I would rather formula feed and she said that she's going to pump anyway in case I change my mind. She also asked if she could have skin-on-skin time with the baby to stimulate her milk production. She said she promises not to attempt to breastfeed our baby. I am going to formula feed and I don't understand.
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May 18, 2019 23:59
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AITA for not supporting my boyfriend’s new tattoo? Last night, my boyfriend went to his friends party and got super drunk. Like his texts to me that night were “hebvgebjix.” Thankfully, he did text me that he was staying the night there so he wouldn’t be drunk driving. This morning, he texts me that he got a tattoo. I ask him “where did you get it done? Please tell me your friend didn’t do a lovely stick and poke on you.” He sends me a picture of this thing, and oh my god. It isn’t the blurriest, most crooked rear end writing ever that says “say less” on his middle finger. I have included a drawing that I traced over the picture so you can see what we’re working with. He asks if I like it, and I tell him that I have nothing nice to say about it and I don’t want to talk about it. He pressed me more and I told him we still have time to scrub it off. The A doesn’t even have a center space for fucks sake. I don’t have a problem with tattoos. I love them, but neither of us have any. If he had actually gone to a real shop to get it done, I wouldn’t be mad. But now he has this blurry, ugly thing on his hand for the rest of his life. I’m so mad and shocked that he likes it, and now he’s kinda of put down that I don’t like it. what his tattoo looks like: 
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May 19, 2019 00:00
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Smirking_Serpent posted:regardless of the ick factor, having a bunch of underwear hanging from your rearview mirror seems like it would pointlessly obstruct your view and generally just get in the way. smelling the taint of the saint as you are shredding paint on the altair of (??)
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May 19, 2019 00:03
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Help! Should I Dump My Girlfriend Over This One Disgusting Habit?quote:Dear Prudence, quote:I promise you that asking your partner not to smear her phlegm on various surfaces in public is not “too controlling.” If she’s coughing up phlegm regularly, it may be worth confirming with a doctor that there’s not something more serious underlying that habit. (It could be anything from untreated allergies to a more serious condition.) But even if there’s nothing else going on medically, pulling ropes of mucus out of your own mouth and wiping it on a guardrail or a wall is totally disgusting, totally unsanitary, and totally voluntary. I am shuddering as I write this! If she knows this grosses you out (and I promise you, it grosses out everyone who sees her do this), and her only response is “Well, it’s a bad habit of mine, so you just have to accept I’ll keep doing it,” then I think now is a good time to stop thinking about getting serious with her. Call Chris Hansen cause this guy is dating a child
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May 19, 2019 00:03
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for destroying my ex's sexist "shrine"?
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May 19, 2019 00:07
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Uh, is this the new cat army avatar?Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for destroying my ex's sexist "shrine"? Why stop with the shrine when your ex still lives? Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not supporting my boyfriend’s new tattoo? Lmao
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May 19, 2019 00:09
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for destroying my ex's sexist "shrine"? Cut his brake lines
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May 19, 2019 00:15
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I can't get the image of this guy sitting in traffic sniffing old panties out of my head. It's actually really weird.
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May 19, 2019 00:18
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You know, over a decade ago family friends were not sure the mom could handle another pregnancy, and I volunteered to be a surrogate. It never came to that, but I also never intend to have my own kids, so I don't think there would have been issues had it happened. I wonder if that poster got this done with all the legal poo poo in ink. That said, colostrum can be loving important so let the baby nurse and use the breastmilk, supplement with formula too. Assuming that lady ever gets to take her baby actually home with her!
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May 19, 2019 00:18
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This one goes off in a direction i wasn't expecting I (19f) just found out the reason why my ex (20m) broke up with me was because of my high school teacher quote:We dated 3 years ago in high school, we were perfect (at least that’s what I thought) both a model student, he’s good looking and im the cute girlfriend, we excel at almost every class and extracurricular we were in, teachers loves us because we actually work hard and gave our best into their assignments etc etc. But the only difference is, that he surrounded himself with another “good” and smart kids, while i was more ..socially open? Ok no, i was pretty wild i guess.
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May 19, 2019 00:24
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So wait, was he or wasn't he loving his teacher?
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May 19, 2019 00:43
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for regretting our decision to let sister-in-law carry our child? My wife's sister will most likely be carrying our baby so this is scary as gently caress.
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May 19, 2019 00:48
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^^^that goes for you too your sister-in-law owns you from here on out make peace with itSmirking_Serpent posted:AITA for regretting our decision to let sister-in-law carry our child? None of this rises to the level of needing to confront her because she's bearing a child for you. This goes for, like, the rest of your life. You can't call this lady out on anything short of stealing the baby from you.
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May 19, 2019 00:55
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [22M] girlfriend [20F] has given me a ‘free pass’ for a holiday abroad. Do I use it? lol it's like she took an example out of an ethics textbook from a chapter titled "how to sleep with other people without technically cheating"
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May 19, 2019 00:57
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Legality of removing a private company's car boot from vehicles in my neighborhood? This person is a hero and is showing an extremely high level of restraint The first time that my car was mis-booted in my own space I probably would have thrown that poo poo through the HOA president's window and then burned the little boot shack to the ground (and then gotten arrested for it because I am not a criminal mastermind)
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May 19, 2019 01:02
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QuarkJets posted:This person is a hero and is showing an extremely high level of restraint It is amazing that boots are even still being used now that cordless angle grinders exist.
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May 19, 2019 01:05
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Legality of removing a private company's car boot from vehicles in my neighborhood? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrL5tqFczPE Just saw this last week wonder if that's where they got the idea from. I know some places have made it illegal to use boots, but I don't know all the specifics of it.
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May 19, 2019 01:09
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My girlfriend (25f) moved in with me (30m) and she's been very rude and confrontational with my neighborsquote:Kate and I have been together for three years. Up till now, she's lived in an apartment complex in a student area of a rather large Midwestern city as she went to grad school. The area was sort of rough, she told me about being harassed walking home at night. There were always loads of students and young adults wandering around drunk between bars and parties in the area. Quite often there would be groups of people loitering and smoking on the stoop of her building, and a lot of the streets and sidewalks had broken beer and liquor bottles around. Just to give you an idea of the place. I never worried too much about her, I knew she could hold her own, she's got her wits about her.
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AITA I'm terminally ill and don't want to give closure to my sister? Apologies in advance if this thread is a bit of a downer. This is a question I've been struggling with since I found out the extent of my condition, and it's honestly only gotten more stressful as time has gone on. By the way, please don't let my condition influence your judgement of me, I'm only including it here for context. I'm a 29 years old woman and was diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma. So let me take this opportunity to remind everyone to get a mole map done at some point, it most likely would have saved my life. Anyway my condition has only gotten worse and my chances of survival are 10% at best according to those treating me. I've basically been told that I should prepare everything now for when I (most likely) pass away. This leads me to a difficult situation regarding my sister. We've never really gotten along well, mostly living separate lives, and we completely stopped talking to each other several years ago. My sister was responsible for breaking up my first marriage after she told his parents something about me that they didn't approve of. His parents threatened to excommunicate him if he didn't divorce me, and he did. I haven't spoken to her since. I've never forgiven her for this. And I never will forgive her. Ever. However, my mother, father, and brother - while understanding my resentment - all want me to forgive my sister. They say that what she did was despicable and I'm completely right to despise her, but that if I don't forgive her before I pass she'll never get closure. Supposedly (all of this I've heard through my parents), she has been racked with guilt ever since she found out about my condition. She wants to apologise and seek forgiveness but I haven't given her the chance. As I said, I cannot and will never forgive her. This post is not about whether I should forgive her. This post is whether I should pretend to forgive her so that she can have closure. This is what my mother wants me to do. As it stands now, I have no intention of giving her closure and feel she doesn't deserve it. My family thinks I'm being vindictive (they haven't said this harshly due to my situation, but they really want me to forgive her). Everyone in my family is extremely attached to this situation and I need some unbiased opinions here. So AITA for not wanting to give her closure?
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AITA for wanting to report my friend to all the stores he rips off? Friend has clinical OCD which may play a factor in this but he still knows it's wrong and always says he'll stop. Never does. Been going on for the 6 years I've known him, and who knows how long before that. He's been banned from ordering from Amazon and now Boxed Lunch. What he does is: 1) Order something online 2) Receive the item and call and complain you didn't get it to get a refund 3) Take the item to the actual store and return it with no receipt for store credit 4) Profit I've been at the store when he ordered clothes, called and got his money back, took the clothes in and returned them but ALSO took stuff off the rack and returned them too. Store gave him a gift card. He just said it was a separate order and he didn't have the order information. Store doesn't care. They just process it. If one store blocks him, he'll drive out of his way to another location to return stuff. As long as he can get a refund, along with getting his money back He ordered a custom anime statue. It was delivered to an address he since moved from. He asked me to go grab it for him since I lived closer. I did. We unboxed it and everything. I log on Facebook a couple weeks later and a post happens on my timeline of him complaining to the artist that nobody called him back and he never received it. I'm like "wtf I know you got this one!" He just says to mind my own business. Am I in the wrong for wanting to report this stuff? It's annoying that he rips everyone off, and also annoying that he lies when questioned. I've been there in person for this stuff far too often, and it's uncomfortable. I've been at dinner where he's plucked his own hair out to put in the meal to get it comped...his dishonesty knows no bounds. I ordered something for him from Boxed Lunch for store picked up, forwarded him the confirmation pickup email, he picked it up and then I got an email thanking me for calling customer service. It threw up some red flags. I'm like "is he calling claiming they we are damaged or something", "did they give him a gift card or something"...luckily there's just a week delay between someone calling (I did) and getting the thank you email Am I an rear end in a top hat?
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