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Anne Whateley posted:If incels can find each other online to scream about the perfidy of women together, they should be able to find each other online to make friends and share emotional support I don't think anyone should be going to the internet for emotional support. No one on the internet is real.
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He says please don’t give relationship advice but how the gently caress else are people supposed to respond to someone doing something so wildly and unnecessarily lovely?
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May 19, 2019 17:21
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Anne Whateley posted:If incels can find each other online to scream about the perfidy of women together, they should be able to find each other online to make friends and share emotional support Yeah, this is an important point. Honestly this is the only primarily-male internet hangout I use and the character of this vs. female-centric ones is very different. However I sort of like it  .I can't imagine going somewhere more crab-buckety and abrasive, though  .
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May 19, 2019 17:21
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Literally A Person posted:I don't think anyone should be going to the internet for emotional support. No one on the internet is real. how dare you, you got raspberry plants from my dead grandmother's house!
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May 19, 2019 17:22
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Pick posted:how dare you, you got raspberry plants from my dead grandmother's house! Yeah but I mean until that moment you were basically just a random personality out of countless random personalities. It's cool to have a connection to someone but it's not as if I'd come to you with my own deep personal secret thoughts, you know. It's fun to talk to new people and get to know them and what not but using people that are for all intents and purposes anonymous for emotional support just doesn't sit right with me. To each their own of course but I think people need actual hand holding, hugging, emotional support if you know what I mean..
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May 19, 2019 17:26
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Literally A Person posted:Yeah but I mean until that moment you were basically just a random personality out of countless random personalities. It's cool to have a connection to someone but it's not as if I'd come to you with my own deep personal secret thoughts, you know. It's fun to talk to new people and get to know them and what not but using people that are for all intents and purposes anonymous for emotional support just doesn't sit right with me. To each their own of course but I think people need actual hand holding, hugging, emotional support if you know what I mean.. i do understand 100% i just think it's a funny anecdote to drop in this thread for the lurkers
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May 19, 2019 17:28
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Pick posted:i do i just think it's a funny anecdote to drop in this thread for the lurkers They'll be incredibly jel of our raspberry exchange. I hope whoever's in the old house is enjoying them.
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May 19, 2019 17:29
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People need irl support, but the internet is a way to find that. Form a "bros who want hugs" or "single dads sharing tips" meetup group or whatever
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May 19, 2019 17:29
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Anne Whateley posted:People need irl support, but the internet is a way to find that. Form a "bros who want hugs" or "single dads sharing tips" meetup group or whatever I guess that's true. I'm a pretty disconnected person as far as internet stuff goes so I really didn't think of that. I mean, remember I'm saying this stuff whilst the most technology I use throughout my day is the something awful dot com internet humor forums.
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May 19, 2019 17:31
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“a bloo bloo bloo men have it so hard” loving spare me. i never want to hear about a “problem” men face ever again unless they’re being culled (so i can help cull them)
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May 19, 2019 17:34
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Anne Whateley posted:People need irl support, but the internet is a way to find that. Form a "bros who want hugs" or "single dads sharing tips" meetup group or whatever 
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May 19, 2019 17:42
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Toxic masculinity is celebrated and centered in almost every major institution in America as role models for young men, and young men are taught through violence and social shaming from other men that failure to adhere to this structure means you're a loser who is vulnerable to harassment and assault from other men. These things can be unlearned/turned away from (I did) but require a certain amount of emotional/social support, economic flexibility (therapy is expensive, socializing and meeting people costs money) and a personal willingness to be vulnerable and grow and change. Basically, all things which are impossible when you spend all day on the computer playing video games.
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May 19, 2019 17:42
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AITA telling pregnant wife she has started gaining some weight? So my wife is 3 months pregnant with my child and yesterday while I'm in the living room she comes up to me asks me if I thought she has been putting on a bit of weight. So bear in mind I'm a pretty blunt and honest person and she knows that, so I my response without really thinking is "yeah you're pregnant, its what happens". Well she instantly broke down in tears and ran to our room. When I went to go console her she wouldn't let me in and said that I was the biggest rear end in a top hat in existence. I told her I said what I said so she wouldn't think it was weird that she was gaining a lot of weight right now. AITA?
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May 19, 2019 17:45
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My (23f) boyfriend (26m) is driving across the country for a friend (26f) who he is attracted to. So long story short, my boyfriend of 6 months (we will call him David) has a friend (lets call her Daphne) from university who now lives in a different country. He has mentioned her before in passing, and told me how much he wants to go visit her (with me as well). Well Daphne is coming back this weekend for her best friends wedding; and David has offered to pick her up at the airport (very very early in the morning), and then drive her to her friends wedding (4 hours drive) attend the wedding as her plus one, and then drive her back to the airport the next morning (4 hours again). When he told me this was his plan, I told him he was a really good friend for doing that, to which he responded 'are you jealous'? I said no, I wasn't, to which he said 'well you should be, she's really hot'. He then pulled up her instagram account, and showed me pictures of her. I was visibly unenthused about this, and agreed she was pretty and then rolled my eyes. He then told me 'not to be silly' and started tickling me, and we moved on. The next day he tells me how Daphne really wants me to like her, and that she wants me to follow her on instagram (her account is private) so that I can watch her story whilst her and David go on their road trip to the wedding. I really didn't want to do this, because frankly I'm working all weekend and don't want to watch a very pretty girl and my bf on a fun trip together. Like I'd rather just ignore it. But after the second time he asked me to I agreed, and followed her account as he seemed really keen and I didn't want to show that I was jealous/annoyed any further. Basically I didn't want to have an argument. So they've been driving all morning today, he's sent me a few texts when they've taken breaks, and our conversation is normal. He keeps telling me to watch her instagram story, so I have which has been very annoying. Daphne is clearly very appreciative of David for doing this massive favour, and is posting things like 'my knight in shining armour' as well as videos of them singing and laughing and basically having a super fun time. I feel super super jealous, and I am in a foul mood (at work as well). I told David that work was busy and that I couldn't text much because basically I didn't want to talk to him anymore and have to pretend that everything is cool and that I'm excited for him. He keeps sending me updates about the drive and how much fun they are having etc. Am I overreacting to this situation? Should I just grin and bear the rest of the weekend or bring it up again? Should I ask him if he has feelings for her? Does he want me to be jealous? Thanks for reading  any advice is appreciated.TLDR; boyfriend (of 6 months) patently told me how attractive he finds his female friend, and is now driving across the country as a favour for her, and expects me to be excited about it. Am I overreacting? Does he have feelings for her?
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May 19, 2019 17:45
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Zzulu posted:Just don't give 'em anythin Not that simple. She's going to have to contest the will to begin with so even if she keeps the house it's still going to be a pita that involves paying a lawyer.
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May 19, 2019 17:45
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My BDSM pics were sent to my parents. I am a member of Fetlife an adult social media site and my photos were screenshotted by a relative and shown to my parents. This person sent these through Facebook messenger. This was done to intentionally hurt me. Would this fall under revenge porn or cyber bullying? How do I go about doing this? I live in Michigan if that helps. Thank you all very much.
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May 19, 2019 17:45
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My BDSM pics were sent to my parents. Oh they've seen you in diapers before.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA possibly over-reacting at my wife's "mistake" by leaving the house for a week wife sucks and knew exactly what she was doing
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May 19, 2019 17:47
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hi liter posted:Toxic masculinity is celebrated and centered in almost every major institution in America as role models for young men, and young men are taught through violence and social shaming from other men that failure to adhere to this structure means you're a loser who is vulnerable to harassment and assault from other men. it’s actually insanely easy and when men say they are losers, believe them
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May 19, 2019 17:48
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for being upset with my girlfriend for accepting a $10k (yes, that’s the correct amount) poolside cabana at Wet Republic and multiple thousand dollar bottles of champagne from a stranger? From the same guy a month ago... WIBTA if I approach this very attractive and sweet Instagram influencer that works out at my gym?...with the intent of asking her out? quote:Some background: I work out a gym close to my house. I am relatively recent transplant to the area but there are a lot of people who went to HS and college in the area. Wonder if this is the 3 week relationship or if he already had a GF? Since he's talking Instagram influencer here... 
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May 19, 2019 17:49
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Motherfucker posted:I can't be negged! To show how not negged I am I will attempt to seek approval by sending the man making negative remarks about me with nudes. Surely this couldn't be interpreted poorly! I'm not negged! I'm not negged! I continue to insist as I slowly shrink and turn into nudes I send to my ex
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May 19, 2019 18:13
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (23f) boyfriend (26m) is driving across the country for a friend (26f) who he is attracted to. Sounds like he wanted an ego boost and your jealousy was to be the hit he desired.
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May 19, 2019 18:17
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Literally A Person posted:I don't think anyone should be going to the internet for emotional support. No one on the internet is real. word
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May 19, 2019 18:21
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:20-70 years of “lol gay bro!” in different forms from other men anytime men attempt to talk about feelings or anything meaningful on a deeper level, among other things It's really true. I'm privileged/lucky to have very close bonds with my male friends, but it really is rare. So many men I know have barely any real friendship, constantly talking poo poo and trying to "steal" girlfriends, and never being emotionally open. And Lord help you if you show emotions or god forbid, cry when you're sad. Them you never hear the end of it. It seems an almost recent thing, like just the past few generations (not that the generations before were great, just at least better in men's relations) Toxic Masculinity and misogyny really make victims of men too. Turning them into emotionally repressed husks, that have sudden bursts of emotion coming out in the worst way possible. I'd assume a big part of it is subconscious jealousy of women being "allowed" to talk about their feelings, and trying to make them as miserable as us rather then learning from it.
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May 19, 2019 18:22
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Miserable Maid posted:Toxic Masculinity and misogyny really make victims of men too. No.
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May 19, 2019 18:22
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real quick whats your opinion on male to female transexuals?
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Miserable Maid posted:Toxic Masculinity and misogyny really make victims of men too. It does, though? https://www.apa.org/pi/about/newsletter/2018/09/harmful-masculinity quote:In early childhood, violence and aggression are used to express emotions and distress. Over time, aggression in males shifts to asserting power over another, particularly when masculinity is threatened (Pellegrini & Bartini, 2001). Masculine ideals, such as the restriction of emotional expression and the pressure to conform to expectations of dominance and aggression, may heighten the potential for boys to engage in general acts of violence including, but not limited to, bullying, assault, and/or physical and verbal aggression (Feder, Levant, & Dean, 2010). http://www.apa.org/monitor/jun05/helping.aspx quote:(...)men of all ages and ethnicities are less likely than women to seek help for all sorts of problems--including depression, substance abuse and stressful life events--even though they encounter those problems at the same or greater rates as women. In a 1993 study published in Psychotherapy (Vol. 30, No. 4, pages 546-553), for example, psychologist John Vessey, PhD, reviewed several epidemiologic surveys and found that a full two-thirds of mental health outpatient visits were made by women. This inability, reluctance or straight-up unwillingness to get help can harm men's own mental and physical health, and can make life more difficult for their friends and families, says Berger. Like don't get me wrong, as a whole men have it better off in our society than women/nonbinary people, but that doesn't mean it's all sunshine and rainbows for them.
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ghost emoji posted:[It does, though?](https://www.apa.org/pi/about/newsletter/2018/09/harmful-masculinity) Like don't get me wrong, as a whole men have it better off in our society than women/nonbinary people, but that doesn't mean it's all sunshine and rainbows for them. Nice reddit formatting
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May 19, 2019 18:31
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ghost emoji posted:[It does, though?](https://www.apa.org/pi/about/newsletter/2018/09/harmful-masculinity) Like don't get me wrong, as a whole men have it better off in our society than women/nonbinary people, but that doesn't mean it's all sunshine and rainbows for them. Honestly, I wouldn't even bother trying to explain. Some people are dead set on the concept that all evil is masculine and there is no way men are somehow being manipulated into behaving a certain way.
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May 19, 2019 18:32
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Women are viewed as inherently inferior (misogyny) so men who act like women (express emotions) are choosing to be inherently inferior and that's shameful and appalling because they are expected to be "better than that". Boys get beaten by their fathers if they cry too much and told to man up. They are victims of misogyny.
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May 19, 2019 18:35
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For thousands of years and still in most parts of the planet a common man's value was based on how many other men he could hack limb from limb with a sharp stick. It's no longer like that in our corners of the world. Where as the common role of women, (child rearing, etc.) Has been relatively unchanged, up until recently. With the invention of Capitalism superiority through violence is no longer a thing, for the most part. Men kinda have to adapt to this while simultaneously being force fed media that's all guns explosions and what have you. So it's only natural that they are confused, and threatened by the leaps and bounds in progress regarding Women's Success. (This post was written with utmost respect for women and a firm belief that men aren't poo poo, and that planet Gazorpazorp from Rick and Morty should be a thing) So yeah, Men are very much so victims, and the terrible violence against women is a symptom of that, and it is not okay.
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May 19, 2019 18:38
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I'm sure all the women feel very respected by your rick and morty reference. Turns out the shittiest relationship in the thread is the average goons with their parents. Who knew.
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May 19, 2019 18:39
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Wow, the lack of accountability is...I was going to say astounding but actually just very typical. Men just HAD to adapt. They were FORCE FED media (that they created and marketed and profited from, lol). To read some of you all’s posts you’d think misogynist media and institutions just appeared out of thin air. Yes, boys are victims...of men, normalizing violence against boys, each other, and everyone else. Not of “masculinity.” When men start taking responsibility for their agency in perpetrating toxic masculinity, we can actually protect new generations of boys.
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May 19, 2019 18:42
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Motherfucker posted:I'm sure all the women feel very respected by your rick and morty reference. Sir this is a Starbucks drive through
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Sjs00 posted:Sir this is a Starbucks drive through You’re the one that just wrote a little essay about thousands of years of humanity lol.
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May 19, 2019 18:43
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Pick posted:yeah, same with the horses. that's why it's funny when men are afraid of horses. "oh no, a huge animal that is strong enough to easily kill me! and they're easily riled up!!" lmao whatever. i'm forced to interact with hundreds of these every day. "Men's emotions are ridiculous and contemptible, also, why aren't men more emotionally open?"
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I really don't understand what people want? I never lay a finger on women and never will. I'll never have kids. I'm not perpetuating the status quo!! You're welcome
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May 19, 2019 18:44
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“I’m not a monster, so why aren’t people praising me for it?!?!?!?”
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MasBrillante posted:You’re the one that just wrote a little essay about thousands of years of humanity lol. So what? I can write but I never do because of the toxic reactions I get instantly. Geez
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