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MarcusSA posted:Absolutely NTA. I was surprised to find myself agreeing. I definitely think the whole industry surrounding diamonds is bullshit, but to go that cheap when he's fine being extravagant on his own stuff absolutely does come across selfish and insulting.
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Pirate Radar posted:Burlesque When I think about all the women I know who got into burlesque my first piece of advice is to change your diet and exercise more
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Barudak posted:When I think about all the women I know who got into burlesque my first piece of advice is to change your diet and exercise more hahahaha
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New Coke posted:I was surprised to find myself agreeing. I definitely think the whole industry surrounding diamonds is bullshit, but to go that cheap when he's fine being extravagant on his own stuff absolutely does come across selfish and insulting. Yeah that was my thought and the fact he couldn’t see it was pretty insulting. Barudak posted:When I think about all the women I know who got into burlesque my first piece of advice is to change your diet and exercise more Lol Burlesque is awesome.
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I'm [32F] falling for a felon/ex-addict [32M]... Logical obstacles? Overthinking? Dumb? Before I get into this, I want to say that I'm not looking for any kneejerk responses to this. Trust me, any that you have to add, I've already considered or told myself. I'm coming here with a situation that has layers and I am looking for well thought out responses and clarity to help me make sense of my thoughts, concerns, and hang ups. I'm 32. I have a daughter from a previous marriage to a guy who turned out to be a loser. After we had her, he quit his job, stopped helping financially, started becoming incredibly lazy and rude, and we ultimately just split. It wasn't good. The guy I'm seeing, I've known since I was in middle school. We reconnected after my divorce. We messed around a little in HS, nothing seriously though. He was the football QB with community college plans in town, and I was a book nerd with university plans many hours away. Unlikely pairing lol. All this to say, I'm the goody two shoes who doesn't even have a speeding ticket to my name. So the fact that I'm even in such a position would probably make my grandmother cringe. Anyway. After high school, he made some stupid choices. Got addicted to cocaine, got an OWI, stole some stuff from someone to fuel his addiction. He was charged with three felonies in that time, obvious drug related misdemeanors and ultimately wound up in rehab. He's been clean for 5 years now, but obviously the felonies loom. He's an incredibly hard worker but a lot of companies rightfully so don't look at his resume because of his status. Nothing wrong with that, he made mistakes and they were bad mistakes. My potential concern here is a few fold, but first and perhaps most important: future financial stability. We've been seeing each other officially for quite a few months now and things are starting to get more serious, but I worry. My ex husband left a really sour taste in my mouth regarding finances and I don't want to be in that position again, not to mention we both want to grow a family together with my daughter, and doing so obviously puts an even bigger strain on finances. My career is one that doesn't pay well. It's my passion and I have a Master's for what I do, and I haven't the desire to change my career nor the means to support an entire family on basically just my salary. He has a job that pays basically minimum wage, and it's lovely hours and one with high turnover. He could probably find work in construction, which he doesn't mind, but we're in a climate where winter takes up a good chunk of that idea. Both of us making similar to my salary would be a decent pace of life. But "just my salary"ish for 3+ humans (especially one of whom loves dance, soccer, and softball) would be a major stretch. Plus, I have major goals of retiring at the appropriate age and those deductions towards my retirement account are something that would be put on the back burner if I moved forward. Secondly, I own a gun. Two actually. I have a CCW license and I do carry when I'm not around him, plus I have my hunting rifle. I'm not here for a gun debate but know, I come from a family where hunting turkey and deer annually is a big family affair. Living with and being in the presence of a felon obviously precludes my maintaining ownership of said guns. While that's not a deal breaker in and of itself, it is a factor in how I'm feeling conflicted, especially because my entire family has arsenals of guns to boot. But. I am genuinely falling for him. Looking beyond his past choices, he's a very kind, very loving man. He loves kids, he loves family, he works hard, he always has been a nice guy. We fit well together, always have--just took this long to really figure it out. There is part of me that wonders if we had stayed together back then, if he would've skipped the whole dark chapter of his early adulthood. I don't blame myself obviously, he made his own choices and I have my beautiful daughter from my own. It's just, my heart and my brain are arguing relentlessly and I'm just not sure which I should be listening to. Help? I'd love some stories of how it has or hasn't worked out for others, insight I'm not seeing, etc. TLDR: falling for an ex-addict/felon and long time flame. Feeling conflicted about logistic obstacles such as finances. Need help sorting feelings from reality.
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Before you go any further, do you have relatives or friends your child can be adopted by?
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I thought her gun concern would be owning a rifle with someone who has obvious severe mental health issues and probably massive trauma, but it’s gun culture. Of course.
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May 29, 2019 04:23
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making my “yes” to my boyfriend’s proposal conditional on him getting a better ring? Guillotine, both of them just to be sure.
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May 29, 2019 04:26
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Grape posted:Guillotine, both of them just to be sure. Co-sign.
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May 29, 2019 04:29
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Please do not date any character from All Hail West Texas, or really any Mountain Goats album
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May 29, 2019 04:29
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Antivehicular posted:Please do not date any character from All Hail West Texas, or really any Mountain Goats album I dunno, the protagonist of Deuteronomy 2:10 could use some lovin
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May 29, 2019 04:33
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Who is thinking enough about undergraduates to retaliate against them? I'm shocked a math Prof especially even took a dumb review site seriously, the nature and conditions of academic work in that field breed people who in my experience couldn't care less.
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shovelbum posted:Who is thinking enough about undergraduates to retaliate against them? I'm shocked a math Prof especially even took a dumb review site seriously, the nature and conditions of academic work in that field breed people who in my experience couldn't care less. They clearly don’t care about their actual professional reputation. Their ego is a whole other matter.
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May 29, 2019 04:46
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shovelbum posted:Who is thinking enough about undergraduates to retaliate against them? I'm shocked a math Prof especially even took a dumb review site seriously, the nature and conditions of academic work in that field breed people who in my experience couldn't care less. Well, yeah, they generally don't give a drat about undergrads.
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New Coke posted:I was surprised to find myself agreeing. I definitely think the whole industry surrounding diamonds is bullshit, but to go that cheap when he's fine being extravagant on his own stuff absolutely does come across selfish and insulting. She’s the rear end in a top hat for still caring about the ring instead of any meaningful change in their bizarre relationship where one person lives at a much higher standard than the other He’s the rear end in a top hat for being rich enough that it was an issue in the first place
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May 29, 2019 05:27
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Isn't there some snappy term for the supportive, long term gf that gets the guy through the hellish nights of med/law/architecture school and placements, and then gets dumped when he's clear on the other side raking it in? I've seen it ITT in reference to similar stories... like this guy went out of his way to be an rear end in a top hat, obviously the "x months salary on a ring" marketing is BS but 0.1% of your first year take-home on something she's supposed to look at every day is deliberately pushing her away. And if he has no debt he was probably already from a rich background. He's cratering it on purpose now and reddit guys love those "revenge on woman for her womanhood" stories hence the YTA. It's something like trade-in or lease, or something else probably car related that suggests the school-era wife is the a-to-b beater that gets sold when the salary comes in. life is a joke fucked around with this message at 05:44 on May 29, 2019 |
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May 29, 2019 05:42
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Starter Wife/Girlfrind is the term Ive heard.
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Fallom posted:She’s the rear end in a top hat for still caring about the ring instead of any meaningful change in their bizarre relationship where one person lives at a much higher standard than the other Actually he became a doctor because he wants to help people
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r/MGTOW: STUPID STACEY tried to use her P*SSY PASS to get on the gravy train, but DOCTOR LOGIC set her up for an EPIC FAIL and she's revealed her SJW SLUT nature
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Midnight Voyager posted:Leave another review after you're out of her class. Say that she tried to shame the identity of the reviewer out of her class and it was unprofessional as hell. Yeah, if she wasn't an egregiously lovely prof she would at least not have done this. Lol that he wants to say it was him, fail the course & maybe she brings him up on disciplinary charges. what a moron
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DEAR AMY: You asked for suggestions for the problem posed by “Delicate”: how to dispose of old porn magazines. Magazines are great for composting! I use them to enhance my garden. Happy Gardener DEAR HAPPY: Great suggestion! I also use magazines (and cardboard) under mulch to create new garden beds (the “lasagna” method). Growing gorgeous flowers over a layer of porn sounds just right.
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AITA for telling my coworker just how valuable his deadbeat son's trading card collection is worth? I have a coworker Bill who supports his wife and 30 year old son. Bill's a hard working guy who puts in 60+ hours a week. Well lately Bill had some financial emergencies and basically drained his savings and is afraid that in a few months he won't be able to make his house payments. Bill's son Ned is my age. We grew up together and were pretty close until a few years ago when he withdrew from a lot of his social circles. We still talk and hang out occasionally, but nothing like we used to. Ned hasn't had a job since he was 18 and has lived off an allowance from Bill in exchange for doing chores around the house since his mother is too physically ill to do much around the house anymore. Bill has admitted to me that life would be so much easier if Ned would just get even a part time job to help out a bit with the bills, but Ned just refuses. Well as Bill was telling me about his financial trouble I remembered Ned's rather large collection of Magic The Gathering cards. We used to play a lot and a few months ago I remember going through his binder of his rarest and most valuable cards. For example to those of you who know MTG he has a full playset of most of the original Alpha/Beta dual lands, a couple power nine cards, and a bunch of others. His entire collection is easily worth over $100,000. I told Bill about this and he didn't believe me at first. Thought I was just making a joke, but I sat him down and explained that with how well he's taken care of those cards over the years they are probably mostly in good condition and worth hundreds if not thousands for certain cards. Bill just sorta sat there stunned for a minute before going back to his office. Well he must have said something to Ned because I got a message on Facebook from Ned where he told me that I was a piece of poo poo for telling his dad about the cards and that he's now harassing him and threatening to kick him out if he doesn't either find a job or sell the cards. I told him that he should probably get a job then and blocked him because I didn't want to be attacked anymore. Part of me feels justified because Ned really should get a job and help Bill out, but then again was it none of my business? Should I have just kept it to myself and not tried to help especially if it is going to cause turmoil in the family? I'm really torn here.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My [22M] Girlfriend [21F] of 3 years blatantly asked me if she can have a One-Night-Stand. I said yes and now I feel like poo poo. The correct answer to her request would have been: "But you are single! So go ahead!" Edit: actually, y'know what: as a general rule, one partner taking a long international trip without the other, especially on their own, should raise a presumption of cheating Vim Fuego fucked around with this message at 07:02 on May 29, 2019 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my coworker just how valuable his deadbeat son's trading card collection is worth? NTA at all. gently caress Ned he’s a dirt bag.
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quote:threatening to kick him out if he doesn't either find a job or sell the cards. I told him that he should probably get a job then and blocked him op has actually done a mitzvah for ned, hope ned one day gains the wisdom to see it
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OP is only an rear end in a top hat for not warning Bill to secure the collection before confronting Ned, because now he's just going to stash the money cards then let Bill have the collection appraised and gloat when it comes back at maybe 1k total. Or (if he's smart), he'll leave in a couple of more beat up dual lands, let his dad 'force' him into 'begrudgingly' selling them for ~5k, then never ever let him live it down and use it as justification for never getting a job.
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Palpek posted:Worth reading for the answer: Lmao when your letter to the editor outs you as a pedophile.
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Xik posted:Lmao when your letter to the editor outs you as a pedophile. Edit: Rereading it, the writter seems to be genuinely curious and genuinely dumb. From the way they introduce the question, to the way they break it down into two subquestions, one for men and one for women to the "gay(male)." You can see the little wheels slowly turning as the writer struggles with the concepts to make their question clear yet illuminates none of the assumptions that make it seem like reasonable question to them because they're completely unaware of those assumptions. Peaceful Anarchy fucked around with this message at 09:05 on May 29, 2019 |
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life is a joke posted:r/MGTOW: STUPID STACEY tried to use her P*SSY PASS to get on the gravy train, but DOCTOR LOGIC set her up for an EPIC FAIL and she's revealed her SJW SLUT nature I'm the SJW slut
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My boyfriend was mad that I still had my old wedding ring and wanted to destroy it.quote:We're both 25, been together 1.5 years. I was married for a short while a few years ago. Sort of dumb, but I kept the ring as sort of a reminder of my crazy life. I didn't look at it and reminisce ever. My ex sucked, and I never miss him, but I saw the ring as just one of the shiny things I've picked up throughout my life. Never to be worn again, of course. Good headline / boring story from same author: Can I sue my dad for the horrible impact he's had on my life?
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:It’s SUPER hosed up and wildly illegal to block handicapped parking for anything, let alone a loving delivery truck. Yeah, I feel like the post was attempting to make a point that this person posting was somehow 'crazy', but they are a disabled person living in a world where abled folks can't even just move the loving delivery truck over. They're not crazy, they're in the right and we're a bunch of loving assholes for thinking someone doing basic advocacy for themselves is demanding too much. Disabled spaces aren't just 'free' spaces open for abled folks everyday use 'except when needed' by the disabled. They are spaces we leave open -all the time- specifically to accommodate those who may need them at any time, because we are making space in society for them. We can get up and walk the extra drat few feet. It's crazy how many people seem to think 'well it's not being used now so it's ok, I'm not hurting anyone' when you are literally stealing space from the disabled. It is designed to make society more accommodating, to make space for others, it's not your space, leave it be!!!
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My (26/M) girlfriend (23/F) aborted our baby against my wishes. Now she is telling me I have to take care of her.quote:My girlfriend Tina and I have been dating for 3 years, 2 of it being LDR. We were planning to get married soon.
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Boyfriend (21M) stopped sex bc I missed a few spots when waxingquote:We were getting busy last night and I give myself a full wax down there (Brazilian?) so it’s completely bare and I like it because it’s “clean” and convenient, I can usually go 6 weeks until my next wax. My boyfriend also really likes it, which is a plus. Well I did a pretty sloppy job last time, I didn’t get all the hairs but I was tired and I didn’t feel like going to microwave the wax again. So I just left it, not a big deal. It looked hairless straight on, just some hairs if you look close or move things around.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (26/M) girlfriend (23/F) aborted our baby against my wishes. Now she is telling me I have to take care of her. If you don't want to feel heartless you could start by not illeagally evicting your ex girlfriend. I get that he's pissed, but not rendering her immediately homeless would be good.
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (26/M) girlfriend (23/F) aborted our baby against my wishes. Now she is telling me I have to take care of her. If you want to break up with your GF because she had an abortion then whatever I guess, you don't need to find justifiable reasons to break up with someone. But gently caress, by your own admission she has literally no one else. A multi year relationship with someone you assuming cared deeply for and you'd just dump them onto the street with literally nothing in a foreign country. One of the bigger pieces of poo poo to grace the thread in a while, like there are frequently idiots but this dude is just a stone cold, heartless rear end in a top hat.
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welcome to hell posted:Boyfriend (21M) stopped sex bc I missed a few spots when waxing These men are weak and do not deserve a pubic inch of pussy.
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Gosh, I wonder why a woman from a country in crisis, with no support structure but a boyfriend who only knows her country's "currently going to war or something" and doesn't seem to give a poo poo about any of it, would decide she didn't want to raise a child right now?
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My (26/M) girlfriend (23/F) aborted our baby against my wishes. Now she is telling me I have to take care of her. Anyway, I'm about to make a person homeless. She is in a foreign country, doesn't speak the language and can't go back to her own country because her family disowned her and it's also going to war or something. So why can't I just behave like nothing is happening? 
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Antivehicular posted:Please do not date any character from All Hail West Texas, or really any Mountain Goats album You can't stop me from dating Chavo Guerrero without killing me, I'm sorry
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