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QuarkJets posted:AITA for telling my friend that she’s getting weird looks because of her weight There was a brief period where I struggled with my weight due to some mental health issues that I have since resolved thanks to the loving support of my husband. We actually visited Japan during this time, and I experienced the same stares that this lady did. As you can imagine, those stares didn't do much to boost my self-esteem. During a particularly low point my husband kissed me at the Fujiyoshida Sengen Shrine near Mt. Fuji. He told me that he would always love me and my body, no matter how I looked, and reminded me how I was beautiful in his eyes. That kiss marked the beginning of my mental recovery and I was able to shrug off future stares. In fact, I grew to love my body so much that when I saw someone staring I would lumber toward them, arms outstretched, letting out Gojira shrieks that would send the rude, gawking locals fleeing.
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AITA to tell my wife not to come out to my son's soccer gamesquote:My son is 2 and today he had his second day at soccer. He is enjoying it especially the freezies and endless field to run on.
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Jun 8, 2019 19:33
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AITA for refusing to tell my girlfriend about my kink? I (25M) have been with my girlfriend (23F) for around 18 months. It’s by far the longest and best relationship either of us hav been in, and while neither of us are really thinking about marriage at this point in our lives, I definitely see a future together. Both of us are naturally very shy people, especially when it comes to sex. She says a lot that I’m very repressed, which is probably true. But we’ve been working on it, and we’ve both gotten better and being open and honest about our needs and over the course of our relationship, our sex life has gotten way better as a result. Here’s the issue: last night we were talking about if we have any “kinks” or “fetishes,” something that’s come up in passing before but never directly. I told her “yes,” which is true, but that I'd prefer not to tell her what they are. She was frustrated with me, saying our relationship and sex life are based on openness, and that she wouldn't judge me, etc. Here’s the thing: I have a pretty strong incest kink. I want to clarify that this has nothing to do with my actual family (gross) and everything to do with the taboo/forbidden nature of it and the idea of doing something “wrong” and risking getting caught being sexually exciting to me. (Maybe it's a result of me being repressed!) I don’t think this kink is necessarily terribly rare, given the type of porn that’s popular of late, but I also think my interest in it is unusually strong, seeing as it represents almost all of the erotica I view. I don’t think this makes me a monster, but I do think it’s pretty weird, and a lot of people would see it as such. I’m a pretty normal guy otherwise – decent job, kind of shy, fairly typical hobbies for a dude in his mid-20s, good relationship with my actual family. I wish like hell that I was into more normal stuff, but that's just not the way I'm wired. My opinion is that I should stay quiet about this. She's pretty vanilla and I doubt she shares my kink, and it would be perfectly reasonable for her to view it as creepy or perverse. I also don't want to put her in a position where she feels like she has to play along with it for the sake of exciting me. She's still frustrated that I won't open up to her, and thinks it's unreasonable and jerkish that I'm being so closed-off. I have no intent of telling her. AITA?
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Jun 8, 2019 19:38
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AITA This guy I was making out with at a bar totally ignored me after I said I was dating someone. Sooo I’m in an open relationship. I went to a gay bar tonight for the first time in a long time. I met this guy. We talked. A lot. We made out. A lot. I talked to his friends. We made merry. About two hours in I happened to mention I was dating someone. I didn’t even get a chance to say it was an open relationship. He walked away from me like he never met me. He literally blanked me after making out with me heavily for two hours. He left me sitting there at the bar. His friends were like “nice to have met you” and I walked out. This just Happened. Mind you he never asked me if I was seeing someone during the entire time we were making out. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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Jun 8, 2019 19:39
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ad090 posted:AITA to tell my wife not to come out to my son's soccer games NTA. Let the kid have fun ffs and the wife into therapy.
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Jun 8, 2019 19:48
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"yes I have a kink but I won't tell you what it is" is about the dumbest way to handle that. Either say no and move on, or tell the whole truth and maybe she's into it and you can go do weird gross stuff together.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:06
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Beachcomber posted:You don't think he might have pushed her a bit further than she really wanted to go? Maybe convinced her to keep going when she first wanted to stop? I mean, I don't rule out the possibility. But lmao if your memories of your first wholly consensual sexual encounter aren't filled with shame and regret and utter despair. Two virgins trying to get it on is emotionally fraught. And the girl deciding afterwards that what happened was unsatisfying and premature and a mistake and wanting to move on and try to forget the whole thing is at least as congruent with the story as the assumption of pressure/coercion.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA This guy I was making out with at a bar totally ignored me after I said I was dating someone. You gotta love a surprise open relationship story.
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NTA because "oh yeah it's an open thing totally cool" tends to be "WHO THE gently caress ARE YOU" really quickly in these stories when the 'cool' partner didn't actually agree it was an open relationship. VvV Yeah, those kids leagues are just an excuse to get them out and exploring coordinated activities (or to tire themselves out). Every now and then you'll get some kids that can actually follow directions but no one is really invested in the sport of it unless they're huge weirdos. FilthyImp fucked around with this message at 20:31 on Jun 8, 2019 |
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Jun 8, 2019 20:27
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ad090 posted:AITA to tell my wife not to come out to my son's soccer games Getting a two year old to do anything is hard enough. I'm surprised they can have anything resembling an actual game of soccer.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:29
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA This guy I was making out with at a bar totally ignored me after I said I was dating someone. What's the collective noun for a group of Petes?
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Jun 8, 2019 20:36
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In 15 years mom of soccer playing two year old is going to write on r/relationships she's sad he son hugs teachers but not her.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:37
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My (24M) GF (23F) pf 2 years has decided to put me in an 'internship' period regarding our sexlivesquote:Been dating for 2 years. Living together for 6 months.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:37
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I get that the “internship” use is kind of weird but I thought we were going to stop posting just straight abuse stories.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:40
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gosh, wonder why you're losing your attraction to her!
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Jun 8, 2019 20:40
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying I don't care that my sister's gay? This is the kind of loser who gets mad that pride parades exist instead of just letting people have fun for a day.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:43
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Pinecone Sample posted:My (24M) GF (23F) pf 2 years has decided to put me in an 'internship' period regarding our sexlives  and tell the gf to 
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Jun 8, 2019 20:49
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Love to use my student ID and my loud, flaming homosexual presence, which burns brightly like the pillar that led Moses through the desert, for a combined 20% discount at the movies.
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Jun 8, 2019 20:52
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AITA for not allowing my wife to babysit the neighborhood kids for free during the summer. We recently bought a old house in a new area of town that is considered economically depressed in a brand new state. The house is nearly 100 years old and gorgeous even before we fixed it up. We spent a year fixing it up, adding a pool and an awesome backyard with a stilt play house and stuff to do for her son. My wife and her son are extra extroverts so they made quick work of making nice with the neighbors. I was all aboard for the introduction grill where she invited our immediate neighbors over for a get together and I admittedly had a great time. I am an introvert though and I like alone time and space. My wife and I both work full time but she is taking some PTO during the summer since her son is off school. He will have some time at a day summer camp every couple of weeks for music and science. During the weeks she’s home, she works part time from home and has been spending the rest of the time getting to know our new neighborhood and babysitting for free. My wife loves kids. She always wanted more but can’t have more. Before we met and after her divorce, she struggled financially and she said she likes helping out because she knows what summer care can cost. She got a promotion about a year after we met and now with that and both our incomes we do really well. It allows her son to have friends and kids to interact with most days when he is not at camp. She will take them to the library and local events. She lets them play in the pool with him and her. They play in the backyard and I have even come home to find her feeding them an early dinner because one of the parents got caught up at work. The neighborhood loves her. Mostly because she is giving her time and energy and our money out for free. I know a lot of people in our neighborhood struggle but I think it is too much. Eventually it will end in August when he goes back to school but I am not sure I can survive this all summer. We do get breaks on weeks his summer camps are in and she goes to the office. I asked her to limit it to the two weekends a month or something more reasonable but she doesn’t want to. In our old neighborhood, we rarely talked to anyone and had no close friends. I put my foot down and told her to stop it. I reminded her my new job paid for this nice house and may say should matter a little more and now I feel like a jerk. I know I am an rear end in a top hat for bringing up the money thing. I have only recently begun making more. But I really don’t think I am an rear end in a top hat for wanting the peace and not wanting strange kids in the house. The liability is high. I don’t like kids that much. We are opening our house to people we barely know. Would I be the rear end in a top hat for apologizing for the money comment but refusing to for all the kids?
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Jun 8, 2019 21:11
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“Her son,” the child that lives with me full time. Yuck.
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Jun 8, 2019 21:17
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MasBrillante posted:“Her son,” the child that lives with me full time. Yuck. "I don’t like kids that much." gently caress this guy fr
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DreamingofRoses posted:Does anyone have a link to that post in TBB where they went into a deep dive of elven reproductive anatomy? Do you mean elise the great's carefully-sourced-from-Tolkien's-published-works post for Dildomancer's thread? https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3785918&pagenumber=4&perpage=40#post463511251
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That's a lot of words to not tell me basic facts like how long they've been together, how old the son is, how many other kids there are, if all the kids are the son's friends or just rando neighbors, if this is going on in the evenings when he's home and actually bothering him or just the idea is bothering him, etc. I could make up a scenario where he's not the rear end in a top hat but I'm pretty sure he is the rear end in a top hat when he frames it purely in financial terms including when he "put his foot down" about paying for the house.
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AITA for having a confrontation with two 15-year-olds to defend girlfriend's honor? Hello, curious what Reddit's take is on this incident that happened a few months ago - I live in NYC (I'm from here too), and I'd been dating a girl who's from upstate, but living in the city now as well (relevant to the story, I think) - I'll call her Gina. We were on the train between the York and Jay street Metrotech stops when a couple of kids, maybe 14 or 15, began bothering riders for money for their "basketball team." Tired old hustle and I've seen it a million times. When they asked me, I shook my head, or said no, and turned back to face Gina. The kids were sitting, and I was straphanging over them but to their left. They began muttering some taunts I don't remember exactly, and then began doing the same to Gina. When I heard them begin talking about her, I lost it and told them to shut the gently caress up. I don't remember everything that was spoken, and while it was testy, there were only a few words exchanged before I put my hand on Gina's back and suggested we move down the car (to avoid further confrontation with these kids). It was at this moment the doors began to open to the Jay street stop. Instead of walking down the car, Gina, in her panic, left the train entirely, even though we had several more stops to go. Of course, I followed her out, and had only just stepped out of the car when I noticed the two kids were right behind me, trying to get in my face. I turned to face them, but aware in the moment that I was 26 and much bigger than either of these children, and also in a very public place, I invited them to come with me to find a policeman so we could settle our dispute. They suggested instead that I follow them to their cousins, so that they all might jump me. After doing that back and forth for a little bit, they realized I wasn't going to follow them, and they weren't going to hit me by themselves, so they scattered and ran away. By that time, Gina was nowhere to be found, so I got on the next train and exited at my home-station stop. When I finally linked up with Gina outside the subway station, I was furious at her for ditching me out of flustered embarrassment and behaving as though I was the rear end in a top hat, and not just a guy trying to do right by her by not allowing two ghetto punk kids to mouth off within earshot. Her view of the debacle was that I had behaved like an emotionally immature child for engaging with them. That incident ended the relationship for a time, but we've since reconciled. However, thinking back on it, I'm not so sure I was wrong. What does reddit think? Am I the rear end in a top hat? NOTE: IN YOUR RESPONSES PLEASE INDICATE WHETHER YOU ARE MALE OR FEMALE
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not allowing my wife to babysit the neighborhood kids for free during the summer. Every single time he says "her son" it reminded me of my old friend's brother, who would say to my friend "my dad". Not to me, not to other people out of their family, just his brother. Like that poo poo bothered the hell out of my friend (and me too really because he was a little poo poo anyway), especially since his parents were assholes and treated that little brother like royalty so it really did feel like he wasn't part of the family. Maybe the mom doesn't feel comfortable with him calling him his son, maybe the son doesn't like it, but holy gently caress with everything else, it's probably the OP who is a raging rear end in a top hat. Heaven forbid less fortunate people have help. EDIT:^^^^ Lol, Please indicate if you are male of female, as clearly the men will think I was right to mouth off to literal children and escalate the situation. ScentOfAnOtaku fucked around with this message at 21:47 on Jun 8, 2019 |
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Jun 8, 2019 21:43
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Sunswipe posted:What's the collective noun for a group of Petes? A dignity of Petes
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ScentOfAnOtaku posted:Every single time he says "her son" it reminded me of my old friend's brother, who would say to my friend "my dad". Not to me, not to other people out of their family, just his brother. Like that poo poo bothered the hell out of my friend (and me too really because he was a little poo poo anyway), especially since his parents were assholes and treated that little brother like royalty so it really did feel like he wasn't part of the family. I wouldn’t tell anyone if I got punked like that by two junior high schoolers, let alone the entire internet. But hey, I grew up on SA so maybe we just do things differently around here.
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MasBrillante posted:“Her son,” the child that lives with me full time. Yuck. That immediately jumped out at me too
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I like the guys that think they can start lording over their partners the second their income rises above their's. That's normal.
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MasBrillante posted:“Her son,” the child that lives with me full time. Yuck. I think even if it was his biological son it might not help much. The rear end in a top hat vibes coming from this guy are intense. The constant preoccupation with money is gross enough even without any of the other red flags.
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MasBrillante posted:I wouldn’t tell anyone if I got punked like that by two junior high schoolers, let alone the entire internet. But hey, I grew up on SA so maybe we just do things differently around here. Didn't almost this exact thing happen to Abe on twitter and get him run out of GBS.
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If it makes you guys feel better that guy seems to (at least say) understand he was wrong.quote:I agree that she is an adult and I can’t tell her what to do. quote:I agree that she is a wonderful person. She is amazingly nice. Maybe too nice. I definitely don’t want to take away her ability to spread the extra love she has. I suppose this is a matter of different personality types and needs but I am going to apologize to her for approaching it the way I did and making her feel like she doesn’t contribute. My comment was so lovely. quote:I will admit that she doesn’t spend much money on the kids. She makes lunches and dinners every once in a while but we aren’t hurting for money. We have two large incomes and we do well. This isn’t about the money really. More just me being uncomfortable with strangers in our space. To someone who says he was right and that the wife was committing time theft quote:You can’t really compare her to an employee. I'm not sure he really actually understands, but at least maybe he's open to understanding.
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He still hasn’t addressed the actual child. Still a dick, IMO.
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:If it makes you guys feel better that guy seems to (at least say) understand he was wrong. How the gently caress is a guy this dense 'making a large income'
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tactlessbastard posted:How the gently caress is a guy this dense 'making a large income' Large is completely subjective.
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Leon Einstein posted:Large is completely subjective. Enough about your penis, you
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Sunswipe posted:What's the collective noun for a group of Petes? Its obviously an ultimatum of Petes.
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Pvt.Scott posted:Its obviously an ultimatum of Petes. No, no, ultimatums are a tool of abusers. A decisiveness of Petes.
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Pvt.Scott posted:Its obviously an ultimatum of Petes. but it's not an ultimatum it's a goodbye of petes
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tactlessbastard posted:How the gently caress is a guy this dense 'making a large income' Seriously? You think things like "intelligence" or "usefulness" or "skill at your job" had anything to do with salary?
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