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Overall this is just a slightly escalated sibling spat. They will get over it.
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Xenocides posted:Not all 16 year olds have a credit card or cash for an Uber on them at all times. No, but most 24 year olds have a card, and you can send Uber to pick someone else up. If I couldn't pick them up myself, I'd do that.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:51
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MasBrillante posted:Overall this is just a slightly escalated sibling spat. They will get over it. This.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:52
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Sjs00 posted:I suppose. The problem (as with all unreliable narrators) is that if taken at face value the next update would be The brother sounds perfectly fine as a person if you don't just disbelieve everything he says in the post, and even if you think he's exaggerating to an extreme degree, he still helped her out when she needed it because she's his sister It was basically just him calling her out for treating him like garbage and pointing out that he's helped her out in the past, and she can't expect him to keep doing that if she's going to do nothing but be lovely to him e: Though yeah, it's just a sibling fight. She's 16 and this is how she(and a lot of teenagers)are at this age oh well, and unless he just made up the entire first part of the post I severely doubt he'd actually follow through on his threat not to help her out next time she's in trouble
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Jun 10, 2019 18:53
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Blade Runner posted:It's not unreasonable, but neither is "No, sorry, I have other stuff I need to do." an unreasonable response to someone asking you to leave 5 hours earlier than you'd planned to, and "gently caress you" followed by cutting off communications with you for a week is a very unreasonable response to that Agreed about the issue of youth but we have all potentially had someone much older act just as terribly. In this day and age we should be more forgiving of the youth, not less. Make her make an instagram post about how he drove her 5 hours and tag his account or whatever. Engage with her instead of just knee-jerk reaction refusing. Again I am glad I don't have a kid sibling that's this demanding because I would probably handle it differently
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Jun 10, 2019 18:55
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Hellblazer187 posted:No, but most 24 year olds have a card, and you can send Uber to pick someone else up. If I couldn't pick them up myself, I'd do that. I feel like sending a stranger to pick up your drunk and vulnerable 16 year old sister is probably not the right call.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:57
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Sjs00 posted:Agreed about the issue of youth but we have all potentially had someone much older act just as terribly. In this day and age we should be more forgiving of the youth, not less. Some people have a low tolerance for being manipulated and used and that's okay.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:57
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Plan B Brother NTA. 16 is old enough to behave like kind of an adult and at least apologize when you act like an rear end. You're not fully formed at 16, but you're not such a child that you can't be expected to behave a little bit.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:57
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Dazerbeams posted:Some people have the ability to refuse being manipulated and used and that's okay. Fixed that for you
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Jun 10, 2019 18:59
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Listen I would totally have picked her up if she’d called for a drunk pickup at reasonable time, like 7:30PM. It’s just bad luck all the drunk pickup calls come late at night, no idea why that is? At least now she knows she can’t trust her brother with anything actually important, like future baby names or taking care of her trees
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Jun 10, 2019 18:59
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Sjs00 posted:Agreed about the issue of youth but we have all potentially had someone much older act just as terribly. In this day and age we should be more forgiving of the youth, not less. Well, again, it's something she asked him to do for her own convenience for something she didn't actually require, she just wanted, and he doesn't seem able to do. If he has other stuff he has to do before he leaves for Summer break, just leaving five hours early might not be feasible. I don't think you need to provide any excuse in a situation like that, other than "Sorry, I have other things I need to do first" If she was 30 she'd just be an irredeemably garbage person, whereas now she's just a standard immature person that can grow out of it; functionally, it's much, much more forgivable for people at that age to act like that, and I wouldn't hold it against them, but it's still pretty much as annoying to deal with that sort of demanding nature in the moment. And yeah, Dazer kinda got it; there's a difference between helping your sister out when they really need it and letting someone use you at significant inconvenience to yourself and treat you like trash because they're family, even if they're just a kid.
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The issue seems to be in our society getting from point A to point B and personally after the 2nd time I was just dumped on the side of the road by the 'reasonable adult' I bought a long board, memorized Google maps for a 15 mile radius, and always packed food and water for a few days whenever I went out just in case my 'demand' to get picked up was 'unreasonable'. And if I had any younger sibling I would teach them not to rely on others and their cars just the same way. I really hate cars and haven't asked for a ride in years. I own a car but make a point to skate upwards of 10 miles every few days to 'stay sharp'. Being stranded is the worst thing ever especially if you asked for help and got refused and that's where I'm getting triggered from these past two AITAs. Sjs00 fucked around with this message at 19:10 on Jun 10, 2019 |
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Jun 10, 2019 19:06
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for erasing my boyfriend's ex girlfriend's names from his wall? Check out this dude dating motherfucking Stalin. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not picking up my drunk little sister from a house party? Man siblings not having each other's back is just the saddest thing to see. This idiot even says himself he peaced out of his crazy christian parents' home as soon as he could and he still has the nerve to ask if his snitching rear end is in the wrong.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:07
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AITA for making my SIL cry at her baby shower by suggesting we should stop exchanging gifts in the future?quote:I come from a fairly well off family, and my husband and I do well (although we both work high demand jobs for it). We’ve always been very generous to his side of the family. Gifts are very much both my husband and my “love language” and in my culture (Chinese), elaborate gifts to inlaws are very socially acceptable as a way to show they are held in high esteem. It also helps with some of our guilt for being super busy and not always around. Imagine being gladly showered in expensive gifts and money and taking this as an insult.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:08
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Sjs00 posted:The issue seems to be in our society getting from point A to point B and personally after the 2nd time I was just dumped on the side of the road by the 'reasonable adult' I bought a long board, memorized Google maps for a 15 mile radius, and always packed food and water for a few days whenever I went out just in case my 'demand' to get picked up was 'unreasonable'. Jesus Christ. I’m sorry; that’s hosed up.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:10
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AITA for “Using” My Father for Money?quote:Ok so for reference I’m a young adult. Basically, I have a very strenuous relationship with my Dad. A few years ago, my older brother found out that my Dad had been cheating on my Mom for a long time with many different people. My Mom tried to make it work and give him a chance to earn forgiveness, but he continued his actions. Now in 2008, my Dad lost his job after the economy tanked. Prior to that he had been the primary provider, but after that my Mom became the main income source for our family because she had assets from her family. Long story short my parents get divorced, and my Dad gets half of my Mom’s money. For context, I love my Mom more than anything, and she is an amazing woman, so obviously the way my Dad hurt her impacted me a lot too. I don’t wanna go into full detail here, but he’s done a lot of really crappy poo poo.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:13
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WIBTA if I refused to let my mother hold my newborn until she quits smoking?quote:My mother [60F] has been a smoker for the majority of my life. I recall one time when she had quit, but it clearly didn't last. I've been begging her to quit for years - offering to pay for nicotine patches, helping find a support, even hiding or destroying her cigarettes. She keeps saying she'd like to, and keeps making no effort for it. I've tried to reason with her about it, saying things like I want her to quit so she'll be around to be with her grandchildren. Asked her to do it to save money. Asked for it as a birthday or Christmas gift.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:19
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Picnic Princess posted:My coworker was a cast member on a cruise. There was this one guy who decided he really wanted to see Mickey Mouse. The person who was assigned Mickey wasn't on shift at the time and characters aren't available on call. They didn't think it was a big deal to say "Mickey's not available right now" or to just have someone else play Mickey to make the guy happy. The guy absolutely flipped his poo poo and went on a rampage, screaming and yelling and breaking poo poo. They locked him in his room for some time until the guy agreed that he had calmed down and wouldn't cause any more problems. In my teenage years working fast food jobs I saw this happen fairly regularly. For instance, someone who presents as a normal functional person orders a cheeseburger without pickles, but it comes out with pickles. They go to complain to the manager and somehow in the course of the conversation work themselves up into such psychotic anger that everyone has to lock themselves in the office and the police have to be called in to drag them away still screaming obscenities and trying to destroy all the equipment. Once this happened with me delivering a pizza to a car dealership. I delivered to the owner, but had the wrong pizza. I tell him he can keep that one and I'll bring the correct one out (no extra charge), but it will have to be another 15 minutes or so as I have to get to the store and back. Dude is furious, starting with "how could you gently caress this up, how could you possibly bring the wrong loving pizza" and then rapidly escalating into a screaming, table flipping tantrum, not even able to form words, just red-faced veins bulging and screaming with pure rage. His own employees have to hold him down as I try to back out of there. The receptionist is crying and telling me that he is actually a nice man and she has never seen him do anything like this. It's like the Joker's "one little push" speech, but apparently for a lot of people the little push is not getting perfect fast food service.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:20
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MasBrillante posted:Jesus Christ. I’m sorry; that’s hosed up. Thanks. Here's a a few pictures of my current gear. It's become my life now and the abuse has stopped. It's a great form of experience too!  That's car keys, bandages, flashlight, 24/7 gym membership  That's $ ID more bandages, food phone charger and notebook And of course that's one skate board of like 3. These stories of "I refused to pick up my kid sibling to teach them a lesson" are all just a little unsettling to me.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:22
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Sjs00 posted:Thanks. Here's a a few pictures of my current gear. It's become my life now and the abuse has stopped. It's a great form of experience too! I can understand how that would be triggering. I did presume a healthy family dynamic where sending the parents isn’t tantamount to sending your sibling to the gallows, and where the primary motivation was actually just being exhausted instead of making a point. That seems to be a theme in the relationships posted on Reddit, though, generally. People are primarily concerned with being right and winning as opposed to having functional relationships.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:26
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Moon Atari posted:In my teenage years working fast food jobs I saw this happen fairly regularly. For instance, someone who presents as a normal functional person orders a cheeseburger without pickles, but it comes out with pickles. They go to complain to the manager and somehow in the course of the conversation work themselves up into such psychotic anger that everyone has to lock themselves in the office and the police have to be called in to drag them away still screaming obscenities and trying to destroy all the equipment. One of my brothers was working at Pizza Hut as a teenager and he wasn't supposed to be at the counter but was the only one around when this guy brings his pizza back up to the counter and says "I gotta question! This pizza is supposed to have sausage on it!" and then waits for a response. After a few seconds, the guy says, "Well?" My brother responds, "I thought you said you had a question." The guy turns purple and says "Don't you know who I am?" and brother says "Nope" and guy says "I'M ON THE CITY COUNCIL! (This was a town of 3500 people)" and brother says "What are you going to do, rezone my house?" and the guy lunged across the counter at him and had to get dragged back out of the kitchen by his wife and sons, and then they fled without paying before the cops showed up.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:27
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Remember being 15? Help quote:BTW, I am a 15M. He admits in the comments that he's not actually her friend and basically doesn't talk to her.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:28
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People flip a poo poo when their service work punching bag has a retort.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:29
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Moon Atari posted:In my teenage years working fast food jobs I saw this happen fairly regularly. For instance, someone who presents as a normal functional person orders a cheeseburger without pickles, but it comes out with pickles. They go to complain to the manager and somehow in the course of the conversation work themselves up into such psychotic anger that everyone has to lock themselves in the office and the police have to be called in to drag them away still screaming obscenities and trying to destroy all the equipment. I can guarantee that for that guy it was not one little push. He's probably someone with serious anger problems who normally keeps his temper in check at work so nobody else knew about them. For all we know he goes apeshit at his wife at home. He was probably already on the verge of a tantrum when you got there.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:30
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WIBTA if I send the RSVP to my cousin's wedding all crumbled and dirty (on purpose)?quote:I (F42) was very excited to get my cousin's wedding invitation. Him and his girlfriend (both ~28y.o) are really cool people and we get along well. When I got the invite, I don't know why I thought it would be a good idea to send it back all dirty and a bit burned and crumbled. I was thinking about making a 2-part joke with a follow up gift that would kind of give them a hilarious closure.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:32
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MasBrillante posted:I can understand how that would be triggering. I did presume a healthy family dynamic where sending the parents isn’t tantamount to sending your sibling to the gallows, and where the primary motivation was actually just being exhausted instead of making a point. Have you seen Assassination Nation? The main characters family is heavily Conservative/Christian and when it's revealed that their (teenage) daughter was having relations with a married man they literally throw her into the street. The only reason they find out though is due to Reddit style doxxing of her private information. It's a great movie with a very Modern perspective
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AITA for not working for my mother?quote:Me(18f) and my mom have a bit of a strained relationship. I stopped living with her at 16 due to the issues we had and things have been slowly getting better between us with that added distance. This seems like it's going to cause a rift between us.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:32
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Tythas posted:AITA for “Using” My Father for Money? Taking him for everything you can get out of him seems like a good idea and I'm fine with it as a concept, but this kid is pretty quickly gonna realize that no amount of cash is worth engaging with that shitpile of a person Sjs00 posted:Thanks. Here's a a few pictures of my current gear. It's become my life now and the abuse has stopped. It's a great form of experience too! I'm sorry that this happened to you, but I don't think either was really trying to "teach them a lesson"; the first one was the story of a dumb rear end in a top hat who hosed over his little sister, but he just had to be at work in the morning and couldn't be bothered to help her with something. A dick move, sure, but more stupid than malicious. The second one was just...the guy not being able to pick someone up and take them somewhere they didn't actually need to go because he had other things he needed to do. She wasn't stranded and he didn't refuse to pick her up out of malice, he just wasn't able to go five hours out of his way to accommodate her, and that's not really unfair. I can understand why you'd be annoyed if it brings up bad past memories, though.
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tactlessbastard posted:One of my brothers was working at Pizza Hut as a teenager and he wasn't supposed to be at the counter but was the only one around when this guy brings his pizza back up to the counter and says "I gotta question! This pizza is supposed to have sausage on it!" and then waits for a response. After a few seconds, the guy says, "Well?" My brother responds, "I thought you said you had a question." The guy turns purple and says "Don't you know who I am?" and brother says "Nope" and guy says "I'M ON THE CITY COUNCIL! (This was a town of 3500 people)" and brother says "What are you going to do, rezone my house?" and the guy lunged across the counter at him and had to get dragged back out of the kitchen by his wife and sons, and then they fled without paying before the cops showed up.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:37
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Sjs00 posted:Have you seen Assassination Nation? I’m from the south so I’m definitely aware of this type of abusive behavior coming out of a Christian culture. I just didn’t see signs of that in those stories. But there have been several stories recently where people deliberately subjected their siblings to the wrath of their hateful religious parents. That kind of knowing sabotage is absolutely abusive. And if that’s the context here, that would change my reading a lot.
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Jun 10, 2019 19:38
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I [22M] feel it’s wrong that my girlfriend [19F] started a NSFW nude account behind my back. She’s furious at me for finding it. eh, this isn't really cheating, her response is irrational but it sounds like she might be doing it for money. If it's sex work because she can't pay the bills, I wouldn't judge. If she likes the attention then there is something interesting going on.
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Heliogabalos posted:eh, this isn't really cheating, her response is irrational but it sounds like she might be doing it for money. If it's sex work because she can't pay the bills, I wouldn't judge. If she likes the attention then there is something interesting going on. It’s super cheating if your SO doesn’t want you to be posting nude images of yourself to flirt with other people (for money or otherwise)
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Blade Runner posted:Taking him for everything you can get out of him seems like a good idea and I'm fine with it as a concept, but this kid is pretty quickly gonna realize that no amount of cash is worth engaging with that shitpile of a person Oh I am certainly projecting here today. It is heartbreaking to me though that these OPs are in the mindsets to even need to ask for validation of their decisions in regards to their specifically younger sisters. It really makes you wonder about the state of the world when they have the time to make a reddit post and be as 'online' as that implies over bettering their relations with their family. The basic concept of AITA and reddit itself has just seriously fragmented the future parents of the world. Soon they're all going to be looking to the Internet on how to raise their children from the very beginning of the child's life, if it's not already happening. People are just so ready and encouraged to second guess themselves to oblivion.
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Heliogabalos posted:eh, this isn't really cheating, her response is irrational but it sounds like she might be doing it for money. If it's sex work because she can't pay the bills, I wouldn't judge. If she likes the attention then there is something interesting going on. it’s oppressive and sex-negative to get mad at your partner for doing sex work if it’s strictly transactional. sex workers face enough problems as it is. getting mad at your partner for this is basically the same as enacting SESTA/FOSTA
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Yawgmoth posted:Main > General Bullshit > /r/relationships: What are you going to do, rezone my house? [US] I waited for a question about a pizza and my house was rezoned as a forest preserve. My neighbor is allergic to trees and wants to sue me
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TIFU by implying one of the people interviewing me is an alcoholic.quote:This happened less than an hour ago, and I'm still trying to work out how much of an impact my "joke" is likely to have on my success at getting the job. I'm not a particularly funny person, so I've got no idea why I decided this was the perfect opportunity to crack a joke.
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If you're doing something for work that is public (honestly even if it's not public you should be able to tell your SO basic facts about your life) then you should give your SO a heads up whether that thing is posting nudes on the internet, working at target or running for city council. Not necessarily for approval but just as a courtesy so neither of you is caught by surprise when your SO finds out in some way.
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areyoucontagious posted:It’s super cheating if your SO doesn’t want you to be posting nude images of yourself to flirt with other people (for money or otherwise) Why tf does a partner get to decide and control this? It's her decision, period. If you think a relationship requires acceding control of your actions to another person's decisions you have a really hosed up notion of what love is. e: agree with being up front about it though
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