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Dazerbeams posted:My cousin casually posts macros about being into choking all the drat time on facebook. But she's always been a bit of an attention whore so who knows if she's really into it or not. god this post owns.
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goethe.cx posted:oh awesome there's half an hour left of monday, might as well squeeze in a gun derail alongside a pitbull derail and a sex-positivity derail, all that's missing is tipping and circumcision Pro-circumcision is anti-tipping.
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Chichevache posted:Pro-circumcision is anti-tipping. I don't know about that, at every circumcision I've ever heard of you always leave a tip
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Chichevache posted:Pro-circumcision is anti-tipping. 
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AITA for forcing my kids to share a room so I can rent out the extra room?quote:Throwaway because my oldest son has Reddit. I live with my ex husband, 3 kids and my sons girlfriend. Long story short ex husband and I are separating for reasons and he is moving out. He is still going to help with the kids a little but as for rent I’m going to need extra money. My son and is gf are paying almost standard for this area so I feel that it would be unfair to raise their rent so I said they have to move into the room with the other two kids so I can rent out the extra room. This shouldn’t be a problem IMO because my son and his gf and share one bed and my kids share a bunk bed. Son and GF complained that it’s not fair for me to basically strip away all privacy from everyone. son also pulled me aside and said gf has anxiety needs a ””””safe space”””” or whatever but I disagree on both statements. The bathroom can be used for changing cloths and can also be used as a “safe space” if you REALLY need it that badly (which I doubt). Their only other argument was basically how are we going to fit 4 people’s stuff in one tiny room and I just said you can either get rid of some stuff or rent a storage space. in the end I don’t have a choice but to either force them to move rooms or raise their rent which I they won’t be happy with either. AITA?
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JfishPirate posted:AITA for forcing my kids to share a room so I can rent out the extra room? Forcing young kids to share a room because of Circumstances is one thing but lol she said her oldest is already paying average rent to stay there It's your own lovely divorce so maybe move the youngest kids into your own room and leave the oldest to himself Tiny Timbs fucked around with this message at 05:28 on Jun 11, 2019 |
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WIBTA for forbidding my Father in law from seeing my kids until he stops his behavior? My father in law is the king of passive aggressive comments and passing judgement on other people's lives. He particularly disapproves of the fact that I work, send the kids to daycare, and expect my husband to contribute to the household equally in spite of the fact that he makes more than I do. If my father in law had it his way, I would be waiting on my husband and kids hand and foot at all times. His recent tactic of snarky comments has been to say that everything we own or pay for is done with my husband's money. If I buy my husband a gift, FIL says, "Is it really a gift if you're spending his money?" If I pay for my FIL's coffee, he says, "well, really your husband is paying for this." It's annoying and frustrating. I tried being snarky back, didn't work. I tried talking to him about it and he just pretended he didn't know what I was talking about. The final straw was that my kids have started saying it. I mentioned to my husband that I was going to get my hair cut and my son pipes up with, "so you're going to go waste dad's money on yourself?" and both kids start laughing. My husband told them that they were being rude and they defended themselves by saying that grandpa says it all the time! Apparently he's taken to telling the kids behind my back that I'm wasting my husband's money on myself every time that I buy anything for myself. One of my kids straight up called me greedy and selfish. I'm livid and I want to ban my father in law from seeing my kids until he admits to what he's been doing, apologizes, and actually stops doing it. My husband is onboard for the most part, but his mother and siblings are telling us that this is just how he is and it's not that bad and we can just teach our kids otherwise. Are we assholes if we kick him out of our kids lives until he stops being such a jerk and poisoning my kids against me?
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I (26f) want to hire the girl (23f) my boyfriend cheated on me with, years ago. He (27m) has a problem with that My boyfriend and I have been together through college, and we had a rough patch when we'd both just graduated, were having trouble finding work, and were talking our frustrations out on each other, always arguing and stressing. It came to a head when I broke my phone, borrowed an old phone of my boyfriend's for a while that was still logged into his messaging app, and some new messages from a girl popped up. He was sexting her. I admit when I saw that, I went into the app and read through their whole conversation history. I saw nudes too, but tried to scroll by fast. It went back just over a month, it looked like they'd met at a local bar, they had sexted since then but never met in person again because she happened to be traveling since they met. But they kept texting about stuff they'd want to do together when she was back in town. It was obvious she thought he was single from the messages, and he did nothing to explain otherwise. I felt betrayed of course, and I confronted him over it, after backing up the messages on my own laptop so he couldn't explain them away. It was a hard decision for me but I decided to give him a second chance. We went about working stuff through, building up our relationship and he had some strict boundaries about his social life and phone privacy after that. I also asked him to come clean to the poor girl he was misleading, and he did. Afterwards, she tracked me down on Facebook and sent me a heartfelt apology, which I accepted but I didn't continue talking to her because it hurt a lot to have that reminder. Years passed since then, our relationship has become very strong and trusting, I know my boyfriend has a lot of regret for what he did and has learned from his bad decision. I've also landed an amazing job out of college and I have just been promoted to being the technical lead of a small engineering team. I'm partially in charge of hiring decisions, I'm part of a panel that interviews new candidates. Yesterday, we were having a woman come in for an interview, her name sounded vaguely familiar but i didn't give it a second thought, I was preoccupied with work. But when she came in, I recognized her right away as the girl my boyfriend had sexted. I could tell she recognized me too, from the way she looked at me. But I kept things professional, I gave her a smile and handshake and tried to make it obvious I wasn't about to hold the past against her. And she put it all aside admirably. She gave an amazing interview. She was obviously very competent, had experience that we could really use. She was both technically competent and confident and well spoken, which is a rare combination in our rather nerdy field. And one we could really use for the customer facing parts of the role. I also privately admired how she could walk into a very awkward situation and keep her cool. Our whole group was in agreement afterwards, we wanted to give her an offer. We'd think on it for a few days as usual but I could tell everyone was sold. I didn't hold any jealousy or ill will towards her, and even if I did, I think that would be a cruel reason to deny someone a job. I told my boyfriend about my day, and he told me right away that he didn't want me working with her. He felt a lot of shame and regret about that time in his life, and wanted to leave it, and her, in the past. He also wasnt confident I could separate her as a coworker, from her as the girl he cheated on me with, in my mind. He also felt like it would be weird because my team hangs out a lot outside of work, and he doesn't think that he'd ever be comfortable accompanying me to work outings with her there. I said he was being ridiculous, I was over it. Plus it would be horrible to deny someone a job because of something like this. And he stuck to his guns, he is not cool with me working with this girl. What should I do? I really want to offer her a job, my boyfriend doesn't. tl;dr - I want to hire the girl my boyfriend cheated on me with. I've put it in the past, and she seems like an amazing candidate to work with. My boyfriend wants me to tell the hiring panel not to hire her. He wants to put her in the past.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for forbidding my Father in law from seeing my kids until he stops his behavior? Honestly you wouldn't be the rear end in a top hat if you burned him alive
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for forbidding my Father in law from seeing my kids until he stops his behavior? I had an uncle like this. Eventually, he died, and all the family issues went away.
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JfishPirate posted:AITA for forcing my kids to share a room so I can rent out the extra room? Becoming a landlord is a disease that consumes your brain, and there is only one cure. "if your so-called anxiety disorder is real, go hide on the toilet for a while, that will work out in a household of five people" [edit: at least six people once a stranger moves in] 
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Why does your boyfriend who cheated on you still get to talk to you. Im confused
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Little bit of an unusual angle on a standard tune AITA for having hurt feelings after my wife masturbated instead of having sex with me? quote:THE SETUP: Last night my wife and I were finishing up celebrating an event. We had been out and done all the stuff and we were back home relaxing together. She started watching a show I have no interest in so I drifted off from her a bit and started playing video games. We do this a lot. Hanging out in the same room, talking back and forth, but doing different stuff. She decides to text me while I’m playing and she’s sitting right behind me on the couch.
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How do I get this smoke smell out of my clothes? Yes, my house is on fire but thats not up for discussion
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Men, are you attracted to your wife’s aging body?quote:I (22f) constantly see my boyfriend (21m) scroll through social media and like perfect Instagram girls and even normal people at our college that have hourglass “slim thicc” bodies and can’t help but compare my lumpy body. Love handles, cellulite, little overweight but not obese. However he constantly comments on how much he loves my body and always wants to have sex.
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LimburgLimbo posted:Men, are you attracted to your wife’s aging body? I suddenly am collapsing into dust and being blown apart in the wind
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Barudak posted:I suddenly am collapsing into dust and being blown apart in the wind You look good. Have you lost weight?
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for having hurt feelings after my wife masturbated instead of having sex with me?
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Pinecone Sample posted:Little bit of an unusual angle on a standard tune Lol lovers have masturbation radar, it’s like hhheeeyyy let’s hang out, nah busy etc.. Then as soon as you have masturbated they call up like you’re supposed to eat a turkey cheese and tomato and have a Gatorade and jump right back in the sack. It’s not a friggin soccer match jeez let’s watch at least 20 minutes of a crappy dvd movie before going at it again..
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Chichevache posted:Pro-circumcision is anti-tipping. Sweet Jesus
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Barudak posted:How do I get this smoke smell out of my clothes? Yes, my house is on fire but thats not up for discussion
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Bf (28M) of 4 years has history of infidelity. Recent incident has triggered alarm bells. Am I (30F) justified in my expectations? From the get go I lay down the law - I can handle anything but cheating. If he wanted an open relationship I would consider it and if he wanted to end it I would get over it, just don’t lie and cheat. This was always met with reassurance and empathy, as he had experienced his own heart break in past relationships. At the 3 year mark, I found out he was snapchatting a few women (past co-workers/friends) our entire relationship - begging for them, jacking off to them, calling them babe and exchanging nudes. Finding this out was a numbing out of body experience and the entire time I wasn’t able to process my own emotions as I was busy considering his - he became this anxious, sad, sleepless mess that was throwing up from guilt every day. I was hesitant to try again but feared regret as I had otherwise never been with anyone more loving, selfless and accommodating. I told him that if he ever so much as made me think anything similar was happening, I wouldn’t stick around. He reassured me. Friday night I came home from work at 1030PM and he was on his phone as if it had just woken him. I told him he should be sleeping - he has worked 12days in a row and had to wake up at 4AM to do it all over again. He shoo’d me away and I went to take my makeup off in our en-suite. His phone goes off and I ask jokingly who’s texting him so late (he has no circle of friends other then colleagues, who also would have been in bed). He doesn’t reply. I repeat my question and he says ‘I’m thirsty’. I walk out of the bathroom and this time ask him more sternly as my heart drops to my stomach... ‘It’s that girl...that used to text me for stuff...help with her computer’ It’s been 1.5years since - I can’t recall the names of the women involved in our previous drama. I ask to see the conversation... The entire history is her asking ‘do you know why my Spotify isn’t working’ and further elaboration. I ask if she’s one of the women I should worry about? ‘No’ I ask if they’ve ever exchanged nudes while we’ve been together. ‘Not while we’ve been together’ I ask if this is the first time she’s reached out all year. ‘Yes’ I ask why someone would reach out after 1.5years and not even open with a hello text before asking a favor. ‘I do it sometimes’ I disclose I’m worried he has been deleting their conversations. I ask if I requested his txt logs for the year, would I only see her number in there on this date. ‘I think so’ ... But you’re sure this is the first time she’s reached out? ‘Well, I think so. I have a bad memory.’ Ok what if I ask for your txt history for the last 7 days...would you show it to me? ‘No’ Why not? ‘Because I don’t know how to do that and you should trust me’ He acknowledges that I am justified to feel how I feel but will not show me the txt history. I’ve asked him to stay with his parents while I think this through. I feel like he could of said anything and it would of been better than refusing to disclose the texts. Hell - I even wish he made up that he was just lying to spare my feelings and reassured me it was innocent. Any words of reassurance, really. I don’t understand why someone who is adamant they have nothing to hide would not make this effort to reassure someone they love...have I played this wrong? TL;DR bf is hiding txts after 3year history of cheating. I suspect something sinister. Am I justified in requesting txt history for reassurance?
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AITA for needling my Dad and his racist wife by pretending my son's girlfriend might be a minority? A little background: my father had always been middle of the road, and he was never racist, at least as far as we ever saw growing up. However, 6 years ago or so he married this woman who has to be one of the most racist people I have ever met. My sister has a mixed-race daughter, and that has always bothered her. My other sister's stepdaughter is dating an African-American, and she doesnt acknowledge him at family gatherings. If we watch MMA, she invariably roots for the white guy and mumbles slurs. She has choice names for the NBA. When we visit, we invariably have to tell our children after we leave that she is ignorant and that isn't how a person should act. I would understand people saying we should confront her about it, but it's been done. A few years ago, there was a commercial in the Super Bowl where they sang 'America The Beautiful' in a lot of different languages, and she freaked out. Absolutely freaked out. It was the final straw for me, and I blasted her about what I thought of her as a person, her intelligence, her propensity to post inspirational memes, how she acted as my father's wife, all of it. It nearly destroyed my father's and my relationship. He's 65, he comes from a family with heart problems and things that bring about a reduced life expectancy, so I dont want to not speak to him for years and then miss that time. He's my Dad, I love him, and he knows she pisses all of us off. Fast-forward to now: my 17 year old son has started talking to a girl he works with, and they're going on a date. She has a name that sounds ethnic, and possibly Latino. We wouldn't care what her background is, because my son always has good taste, and as long as she is a good person, we dont care. She is white, though, which is important to the story. Yesterday, at a family gathering, my Dad asked her name, and when my son told him, his wife immediately asked what her last name was. I knew what she was getting at, and I dont like her motives, so I said 'Rodriguez, I think. Or Fernandez.' My whole intention, mature or not, was to irritate her, because i cant stand bigotry. My wife shot me a look, and immediately stopped me from going any further. Later, she asked again what her last name was, and I said "It might be Hernandez or something." Okay, so AITA for taking pot shots and not letting sleeping dogs lie? My kids thought it was hilarious, but my wife said I was looking for trouble.
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nta for setting up a cartoony 'cheese in propped up box' trap where the cheese is racism to humiliate obvious racists
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Your dad is 100% going to end up arrested spraying swastikas on a synagogue so causing him to die due to heart condition will only leave you with fond memories of him and make you never have to deal with his new wife.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I (26f) want to hire the girl (23f) my boyfriend cheated on me with, years ago. He (27m) has a problem with that Dump the boyfriend, why does he think that he has any say in it, why does he have any say in anything that you do, why haven't you severed his head from his body and moved on already you're 26, gently caress
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Pinecone Sample posted:Little bit of an unusual angle on a standard tune
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for having hurt feelings after my wife masturbated instead of having sex with me? Why is my wife distant and resentful of me after we opened our relationship? Hard to say. I'm an idiot clown.
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Yeah, it's like "here are entire paragraphs about some pretty big problems with our sex life" and then "Edit2: PS btw. as a side note, just in case somebody asked (I have no idea why you would though) we're in a recently open relationship that I hate".
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AITA for not allowing my son to come back to my house after he called his mom to come get him?quote:My ex-wife and I divorced almost two years ago and don't co-parent great-mostly just try to ignore one another unless necessary for us to interact (not mature, I know, but my attempts to change that were not met kindly). We have three children together and the youngest, Evan (8), has been struggling the most with the divorce. The past few months he’s been having meltdowns when he doesn't get his way- if we go to a restaurant he likes but that one of his brothers picked, or if he is made to clean his room instead of playing video games. He will yell that we're all mean, he doesn't like us and call his mom to come get him. She does, and then an hour or so later he gets dropped back off. I've asked her to not come get him, that it’s my parenting time and he has to learn that he can't run away whenever he doesn't get his way, but she basically told me to f- off.
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chitoryu12 posted:Am I [23F] Just Going Through a Down-Phase? I Don't Think I Love My Husband [26M] Anymore. Jesus Christ run away. This dude just lazied himself out of a med discharge and permanent disability funding when his back gets worse. Worse than that, he probably just hosed away his GI bill too. 
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:AITA for not allowing my son to come back to my house after he called his mom to come get him? This actually seems kind of reasonable
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for having hurt feelings after my wife masturbated instead of having sex with me? So this one is a disaster all the way through, but, like... if your wife said she wanted to be alone to masturbate and didn't want sex right now, what kind of an oblivious rear end in a top hat do you have to be to decide 5 minutes later "nah, she was lying, she wants the dick?" This dude sounds like a real winner re: listening skills and boundaries. I'm shocked the open relationship isn't going well!
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Many men believe that their penises are superior to all other things, at all times, which is why they get offended when the women that they're with happen to masturbate or even just possess a sex toy. They're so stupid and fragile that they see an inanimate object as a threat, and start behaving with the same intelligence level as a dog barking at the vacuum cleaner.
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bell jar posted:What do you do, as a parent, when you realise your child is a literal psychopath Get social services involved, STAT, before they kill someone. https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/when-your-child-is-a-psychopath/524502/
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Pinecone Sample posted:We are in a newly opened relationship, at least sexually and it has placed strain on our emotional relationship but has boosted the physical aspects of it. I’m not here to talk about the open relationship. Lol that he thinks the physical aspect is improving. What is more likely: she simultaneously developed a hentai habit he had never noticed before at the same time as opening the relationship, or she was ending their romantic date night by sneaking off to masturbate while sexting someone else before allowing him to get his while she dozes off.
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That's not how you make tea My husband put his dick in my cup of water, and didn’t tell me. Okay, this is not a shitpost. I wish it was. I’m deeply disturbed. The other night after sex, as my husband and I were getting up and dressed, I asked if he could grab me a glass of ice water. He was on his way out of the room, and said sure. He wasn’t mad about it, and sex was fine. We weren’t fighting and had been having a pretty good week. As I walk into the kitchen he hands me the glass of water. I don’t know what came over me, but I got this sixth sense, I don’t know how else to describe it. Maybe it was his shiteating grin, but I flat out asked him, did you put your dick in this? He looked shocked and taken aback by my question and for a split second I thought maybe I was being an idiot. He then says, how did you know?!?! I was furious but it was such a strange situation so I just dumped it out and brushed it off. I didn’t know what else to do. The next day I asked him about it, and I asked why he did it. He said, I don’t know. I told him that it kind of made me upset, like I can’t trust him to get me a glass of water. It hurt my feelings. He immediately got defensive. We got into a fight about trust and he didn’t understand what the big deal was. I said, so what? Do you put my toothbrush in the toilet when we fight?? He said no of course not, but he had that same shiteating grin. I don’t know if he’d ever do that, and maybe it was just the way I phrased it or that the fight was about him putting his dick in my glass of water. But, like wtf? I don’t know what to think. Am I overreacting?
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:AITA for not allowing my son to come back to my house after he called his mom to come get him? Dad good. Somewhere, Pete is smiling.
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