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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for admitting I find my wife’s twin attractive? this guy's post history is spectacular https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/btleey/california_incometax_board_froze_my_accounts/
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It's a few days old but I don't remember seeing it Detective wants to "just talk over coffee" after coming to my home with an armed group of cops Today, three unmarked squad cars rolled up my home today while I was at work. They asked my wife if I was home, then told her that they needed to talk to me about something "so we're on the same page". The detective who spoke with her left his number and left, saying that either I need to call him so we can set up a "casual" chat at a coffee shop or they'll come back to talk at our home soon. The ominous thing is that all these 5+ officers with him were decked out in bulletproof vests with their hands resting on their pistols. My wife said that the detective was very nice and sociable, but the atmosphere was that of extreme tenseness. I'm really concerned about how it would have gone if I was home. I called the detective after I got home and the conversation pretty much went along the lines of what he told my wife, except for a couple little details. First, he let slip that he contacted my old workplace and the HR person mentioned that I forgot to finalize a transfer of retirement shares to my portfolio ("just FYI, they've been trying to contact you, haha"). Secondly, he mentioned where I currently worked in a sidehand comment when saying "oh, that town is where we work too!" and tried to subtly worm out when my hours were. Lastly, he said that he'd love to get me a coffee in the next few days and talk about something he can't disclose bover the phone, and that I'm not in trouble yet. "Yet." What should I do? Should I meet him in a public place and say very little? Go there with an attorney? Ask instead to speak at their office with my attorney? I'm also going to record our conversation, do I have to notify him that I'm recording? I live in Washington state, if that helps. Thanks in advance, I look forward to getting some other opinions on the matter. My wife is getting hysterically fearful and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't extremely stressed and anxious as well. His replies in the comments are so weird it's probably a troll, but wow, sad how little people know about why they should get a lawyer and how they should never talk to cops.
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Jun 12, 2019 03:18
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People are so paranoid about the police these days thanks to the news. His wife said that the detective was very nice and sociable, what could possibly be the problem? I’m sure once he explains calmly and rationally they’ll all have a good laugh about it and go their own ways.
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Jun 12, 2019 03:22
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Dudes wife talked to the police, time to get a new wife this ones ruined
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Jun 12, 2019 03:26
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I do hope all the replies are “gently caress the police, say nothing and do nothing.”
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Jun 12, 2019 03:41
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AITA for asking my Lyft driver to change her radio station away from the Christian/religious rock it was on? I want to rate her drive 0 stars. Maybe 1 for the lovely beginning we had.. I got in the car and didn't really hear the music. Everything was good, totally nice lady having a full on conversation with me. We turned onto a busy road and that's when the talking ended and she kinda turned up her radio which was playing a song chanting "Our God is amazing" Fifty times later after the guy sang "Our God is amazing" again I just got too annoyed and asked her to change it or turn it off. She said "No, it's my car." In a snarky tone. I decided after about 2 songs later it was a good time to mention I was going to give her 0 stars for semi-forcing me to listen to Christian music. and she said "Really? You're going to rate me based off of my music taste?". The rest of the FIFTEEN minute ride was silent (Well, aside from the loving GOD IS GOOD SHOVE GOD DOWN YOUR THROAT OR GO TO HELL music playing in the background). I'm at home now and on the rating screen. Would I be an rear end in a top hat to give her a bad rating, because of this reason? I feel like I'm being a little entitled, but I also think it was (haha) like hell, sitting in a car listening to that music for 20 minutes and she should accommodate to her customers requests. (or just not listen to religious music in the first place while inquiring with other people.) EDIT: I didn't blackmail her. I didn't say "If you don't change the music you'll get a bad review." I said "Because you didn't change the music, I am giving you a bad review." Mind was already set.
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AITA for calling my friend a human being at work? I’m a bisexual female, my friend is a queer trans who commonly refers to himself as a “tranny human being”. We call each other “fag” and “human being” all the time. I wasn’t openly bisexual at work before this situation because it’s not something I like to broadcast to people I don’t know very well. In the lunch room I sat across my friend and says “What’s up, human being?” and some of my coworkers seated at the adjacent table to us let out a gasp and looked at me like I just killed a hamster. One of them is gay. I assured them that I’m bisexual so all is good, but that response wasn’t enough to satisfy them. I started getting hounded because I used an offensive term in the workplace and my friend tried to defend me by saying we’re both apart of the LGBT community. Eventually the argument subsided and everyone resumed with whatever they were doing. I didn’t think the issue would be taken any further but next thing I knew, at the end of the shift I’m being called into my manager’s office. I explained the situation and she said being bisexual doesn’t entitle me to the word “human being” because it’s a derogatory term that was directed exclusively at gays. I pointed out that she’s invalidating my sexual orientation and I’ve been in same-sex relationships before. I asked her if she would be okay with [openly gay coworker] saying human being and she said yes. So I asked why it’s not okay for me, a member of the LGBT community, to say human being, and she said it’s because I’m not gay, and bisexual girls have it easier because they don’t face the same discrimination as gays do. Then she wrote me up. AITA? Edit: I forgot to add one detail that may or may not be important. Everyone in the group was straight, except for the gay one, who had actually approached me and told me it wasn’t a big deal and he calls his friends fag all the time. And we jokingly called each other “human being” after.
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Jun 12, 2019 03:46
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MasBrillante posted:are you black or just using a bunch of super cazzz AAVE to be cool. I want to know this also while I’m still laughing. lmao fukkin what?
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My (24F) boyfriend (26M) is way too touchy-feely and it’s making me uncomfortable. I don't know if it's just me or if he is going too far, feel free to comment if you think I am over-reacting. I just want to know where we stand and if I need to have another chat with him or not. We've only been dating for a few months but have known eachother for about 17 months. He wanted a relationship with me since the beginning- but when we first met he was on a rebound and looking for someone to hook up with, and that is not who I am, but against all odds we ended up becoming very good friends and eventually, I agreed to give a relationship a go when it was clear he still very much liked me, and I had come to really like him back. However, very quickly he became obsessed with kissing. We had kissed before officially becoming a couple, and he said it was the best kiss he'd ever had. I've come to regret kissing like that now because he wants to do it all the time. Not a normal kiss either, but the toungy invasive kind, and the pleasure has gone from kissing for me now because he wants to do it all the time. Not so much in public though, which I am grateful for, because I am not a PDA kind of person and I don't think he is either. Nowadays it's more of him putting his hand in between my legs or down my top and into my bra, then squeezing and making ridiculous noises as I just lay there awkwardly because of the amount of pleasure he gets from these things. He always wants to be alone nowadays and I can tell the reason is so he can grope me. It's gotten so tiring that I try to find things we consists of the least amount of affection needed, like going to the movies or out for a meal. He seems to be constantly sexually-charged, trying to look down my top, comment on the things I wear (or don't wear- he wants me to wear more 'revealing' and 'sexy' things). If I sit up and my top comes up a bit and flesh shows- he get's over excited and makes comments, sometimes even 'growls', which he thinks is sexy. He also feels the need to touch any bit of flesh that shows, and when we lay in bed together it's worse. I have to actively find clothes that are long and loose- I don't dare wear leggings anymore because he'll never stop rubbing me, and I often tuck my top into my jeans so he won't keep putting his hands up my top. The other night I stayed at his and had a top tucked in, slept in JEANS, and had a PJ top over my other top- the only loose item of clothing I had on me. He tried to tug on my top to pull it up, when that failed he instead put his legs over me and held me. That I actually didn't mind. It's sweet, and cuddles are nice, and sexual contact is nice as long as I am also comfortable with it. But I was so hot the other night from having all those layers on and I moved away from him a bit to the edge of the bed where I felt cooler, but every time he found his way to me to put his arms around me or legs over me. Eventually I had to loosen the PJ shirt and undo the buttons and I untucked the top underneath because it was too hot. As predicted, he soon realised I'd untucked it and put his hands all over me. By this point it had been three hours since I first put my head on my pillow to try and sleep and it all got too much and I began to cry. All I wanted was to sleep, not pleasure my boyfriend or worry about the next thing he'll do. Again, it could be mostly me, it is my first proper relationship after all, maybe that's how it goes and I am being over-sensitive. I've had words with him before when I had concerns about the difference in our libido, and he said he understood that I have reservations and am not the most comfortable with contact. But it seems ever since that conversation he's been even more committed to touching me, as though it will make me more comfortable the more he does it. Any advice?? TL;DR - My boyfriend likes to touch me/kiss me all the time to the point where it's making me feel uncomfortable and resent him. Is this my issue, or his? Can it be resolved or are we too different?
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:this guy's post history is spectacular https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/btleey/california_incometax_board_froze_my_accounts/ That thread is going to make for compelling evidence in their imminent divorce proceedings.
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MasBrillante posted:My (24F) boyfriend (26M) is way too touchy-feely and it’s making me uncomfortable. I wish to god I could find these poor self-doubting women and tell them that it is okay to have boundaries and it is okay to be uncomfortable and most importantly, trust your instincts when they are screaming at you. I feel like people get away with so much poo poo because the affected party doesn't want to cause a fuss and it depresses the hell out of me. *Oprah voice* And YOU get a copy of the Gift of Fear!
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HOT BREAD! posted:I wish to god I could find these poor self-doubting women and tell them that it is okay to have boundaries and it is okay to be uncomfortable and most importantly, trust your instincts when they are screaming at you. I feel like people get away with so much poo poo because the affected party doesn't want to cause a fuss and it depresses the hell out of me.
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Are my parents [45M][43F] wrongly punishing my brother [16M] for being gay?quote:My parents [45M][43F] found some gay porn on his computer, they used it without his permission while he was at school, and asked him if her was gay, and he confessed that he used to have a boyfriend. And the update: My parents [45M][43F] wrongly punished my brother [16M] for being gay. quote:My brother decided to fake a relationship with a girl in his class, in order to avoid his punishments, and came home today with Emily from his German class, and told our parents she was his girlfriend. Our parents were a little shocked, but they seemed genuinely happy he was not gay. They told me I couldn't date anybody or bring any boys home, when I was younger.
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MasBrillante posted:My (24F) boyfriend (26M) is way too touchy-feely and it’s making me uncomfortable. I don't know about all of you, but this is not what I mean when I say touchy-feely.
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Jun 12, 2019 04:15
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Xenocides posted:Are my parents [45M][43F] wrongly punishing my brother [16M] for being gay? Brother, milk them for all they're worth until you finish college. Once you're independent, be independent.
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More importantly, make sure your rear end isn’t hauled away to one of those conversion camps before you’re a legal adult.
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Jun 12, 2019 04:24
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Xenocides posted:Are my parents [45M][43F] wrongly punishing my brother [16M] for being gay? What a horrible thing to do to a kid. He was brave enough to tell his parents the truth and this is how they repay his honesty. Goddamn, I loving hate people.
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Jun 12, 2019 04:27
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Giant_Pupils posted:What a horrible thing to do to a kid. He was brave enough to tell his parents the truth and this is how they repay his honesty. The difference between bravery and stupidity is a very fine line. He should have had a lie ready like "I was just making sure I wasn't gay." He knew what his parents were like.
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Jun 12, 2019 04:30
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for calling my friend a human being at work? Ignoring all of the other bullshit in the post YTA simply for the fact you did it at work.
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Jun 12, 2019 04:33
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Demon Of The Fall posted:I do hope all the replies are “gently caress the police, say nothing to anyone but your lawyer and do nothing but call your lawyer and keep their number written on your arm in sharpie.” Fixed that for you.
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What you can do is keep your motherfucking mouth shut for another 66 months + however long it takes you to finish college then never ever ever talk to your parents again
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Everyone in the group was straight, except for the gay one, so what
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aita for not clapping or standing for a military reunion? At an award ceremony for my middle schoolers for things like grades, perfect attendance, orchestra, sports. This school is in a city just outside a large Army base. The school is made up of probably 50/50 civilian/military kids. This is a huge Army base. In addition to Army, we have a very small number Navy and Air Force here as well. I myself am military (19 years Army). The awards ceremony was going well, kids were being called up, pictures taken, people clapping. There was commotion backstage, curtains moving, and some confusion on the stage itself. The ceremony paused and then another kids name was called. This particular kid was called onstage, and instead of the principal handing him his award, an Air Force Captain handed him his award. The kid and this captain hugged and it was announced that, his dad had returned from a 6 month deployment a few weeks early, so that he could surprise his kid at this ceremony. This dad then grabbed his sons hand, held it up like a prize fighter and ref in a boxing match win. Lots of cheering from the crowd, standing ovation. After a pause, the other kids just got their name called and kept the line moving, lots of kids, little time. Not me though, I didn't stand or clap. After the ceremony, this particular Captain stood with his son by the auditorium exit doors talking to his family. He stood close enough to the doors that he would be noticed and congratulated and thanked by just about everyone passing by, but far enough away from the door that he didn't look like he was waiting for it. My wife congratulated him, thanked him for his service and scorned at me when I declined to do the same. In the I was asked why I didn't shake his hand and congratulate him and his son. My answer was: We have been deployed multiple times since 2001, it's not a big deal anymore. I can't watch CNN or Fox news or any other news source without seeing some dad or mom jumping out of a box at their kids school or throwing a baseball out at their sons little league game or some ridiculous "look at me stunt" trying to get attention and I am sick and tired of it. It was a 6 month deployment, AND it ended early for them. There were over 100 kids at this event, each with their own story, why feel the need to steal their thunder. These reunions aren't about the kid, it the service member making it about themselves. There is no draft, it's a job, he volunteered, got paid, knew what he was getting into, it was less than 6 months, and came home uninjured. No different than any other job out there. My wife has deemed me an rear end in a top hat, she won't argue with any of my points in particular, but has deemed me an rear end in a top hat in general over this. She says her friends and coworkers agree with her, but I think she is just saying that, doubt she asked them. I returned with "I guarantee everyone at my work would agree with me" So, AITA?
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Beachcomber posted:The difference between bravery and stupidity is a very fine line. He should have had a lie ready like "I was just making sure I wasn't gay." He knew what his parents were like.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:aita for not clapping or standing for a military reunion? This is what I think but will never say. I also think that being in the army does not automatically make you a hero.
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Tythas posted:AITA for eating my husbands donut? i live by now discredited actual cuckold maddox's 20 year old philosophy "for every animal you don't eat, i eat three" and i could literally ineffectually shout for hours against vegetarianism or veganism but also yes i equate feeding meat to someone who thinks they are making some grandiose moral choice or saving the world by abstaining to a horrible serious offense of bodily autonomy and would never do that to someone. it probably has to do with my complicated views on religion, please pm me for more info because im very smart e: this edit doesnt help but im not being ironic The Cockler fucked around with this message at 05:08 on Jun 12, 2019 |
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Vim Fuego posted:If someone offered you $750 to have a long term fight with your wife, would you take it? I think I was reading more of my own life experience into that story there, she’d agree with me; you’re right though, no I wouldn’t.
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AITA for making my pizza really spicy so my gf would stop eating it? I bring a pizza home after work some days. I always ask my gf if she wants some, she says no because ‘she is trying to be healthy’ and then ends up eating 3-4 slices. It’s annoying, and I have told her to stop many times but she hasn’t. One day I got off early and I saw an opportunity to teach her a lesson. I order a very very spicy pizza, get home and lace it with more extremely spicy sauce I have. I then move all the drinks into the garage fridge and all the cups out of her reach, i keep one water bottle if things go wrong. She gets home and does the same thing “oh I’m just gonna be naughty and have a piece hahaha’. Anyway she has the pizza and it is way too spicy for her that she has trouble breathing and her nose bleeds a bit. This went wrong so I got more drinks and some tissues to fix her up. I was like, sorry I tried to teach you a lesson but it went south. She is very mad and just stopped talking to me. AITa in this situation?
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AITA for Destroying a few things in my place of work becuase they let a girl go home early? Title doesn't do justice, here goes the full story; I work part time at a small local restaurant. Family owned, nice enough people, and co workers are tolerable. Birthday was coming and I gave 3 weeks advanced notice if I could work the morning rather than the evening/night shift I normally work so I could hang out with family and friends for dinner and such. Manager said sure. Sweet. Day comes around and I'm working from 6 til around 1:30. It's about 1:15 and we are super busy slammed, but I'm looking forward to going home. Manager comes around to the kitchen and informs me that we are way too busy and needs me to stay later than planned. When asked how long, I got a measly "We'll see." Time goes by and orders get pushed through. Another 2 hours goes by. All of sudden we all hear a glass break out in the dining room. No biggie, things happen. Well apparently, a little bit of glass found its way into the foot of one of the young female waitresses. Now when I say little I mean, the thing was like a paper cut. Regardless, she completely overreacted and was going on about how she couldn't walk on her foot and she needed stitches and etc. Etc. Manager decides, well that's fine, you can go home and I'll just keep one of the cooks here later to balance it out. That cook ended up being me and I was asked to stay until our closing time of 10pm. Don't get me wrong, any other day I probably would have been a little upset but hey, its whatever. However, the fact that in 3 weeks advanced I asked for the shift switch, and to get off at 1:30pm only to be told I am staying the entire 6am-10pm shift, on my birthday when I had already made reservation plans with family and friends? I was livid. I exchanged a few heated words back and forward about how shes even able to go home due to a little paper cut. Things got more elevated and in a stupid fit of rage I knocked over a few things like a microwave and a toaster (both of them breaking) as well as boxes of bowls and lids in frustration. In the moment I didn't care, but 2 days later after things have settled I feel like a huge jerk for breaking that stuff. This morning I was told I had to pay to replace the things I broke, which I'm understanding about. So, tell me Reddit, am I the rear end in a top hat in that situation, did I overreact, or was my frustration at how things were handles justifiable? TL;DR Asked to go home early on my birthday 3 weeks in advance, was told yes, then the day came and then was told no. Other co worker due to very small injury was able to leave early and was told to balance it I had to stay even far later. Out of anger I knocked over a few things and broke them. AITA?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making my pizza really spicy so my gf would stop eating it? You both sound you need to stop bringing pizzas home and exercise more
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making my pizza really spicy so my gf would stop eating it? I've only heard about such people, but anyone who regularly says they don't want any, but then they end up stealing a noticeable fraction of whatever it is, deserves whatever they get.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for Destroying a few things in my place of work becuase they let a girl go home early? YTA but! How in the ever loving gently caress does this girl get cut on her foot?? Do you not wear shoes at this establishment??
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making my pizza really spicy so my gf would stop eating it? I see what the problem is here, simple spelling mistake, but I don' t know why you'd make your pizza spiky. EDIT: ^^^ The whole "it's a papercut, etc" crap makes this person the rear end in a top hat in the first place. If you've told them that you can't work, and you've given them plenty of notice, either stand up for yourself or suck it up and shut up. Don't get pissy at someone for possibly having a piece of glass in their foot. Jesus. ScentOfAnOtaku fucked around with this message at 05:40 on Jun 12, 2019 |
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Women's shoes are made out of spiderwebs and monofilament silk and the gossamer whispers of fairies talking dirty to the morning dew yeah you coalesce in the middle of that clover leaf filthy fuckin water droplet you're so wet
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It took him two days to come to the conclusion that he MIGHT have overreacted. And then he consulted Reddit.
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Yeah that sounds like working in a kitchen alright. Working in food service is the punishment your parents thought working as a garbage collector is.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for Destroying a few things in my place of work becuase they let a girl go home early? He way overreacted, but I think he should just quit and refuse to pay. His manager is an even bigger rear end in a top hat.
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OK son, just to show you that your mother and I aren't total monsters, you can still play with your PS2 and this game... Metal Gear Solid: Sons of Liberty? Sounds straight enough. Heck, it's downright patriotic. Now don't you dare think about any young, twinky men with perfectly sculpted butts. You hear me?
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