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FactsAreUseless
Feb 16, 2011

tactlessbastard posted:

What in sam hell does emotionally available mean
Being able to have and express feelings

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Lord Ludikrous
Jun 7, 2008

Enjoy your tea...

More news on bedbug girlfriend.

quote:

TL;DR: My girlfriend sabotaged my efforts to exterminate bedbugs in our home because she strictly believes it's wrong to kill them. I don't know how to make her stop or compromise.

Edit: we're hosed. She got home today and said she got fired. She works at a daycare and they found bedbugs there today, then she straight up ADMITTED they were from her. Because she was trying to convince the other staff that there's "natural" ways to get them to leave! What ways? I've asked a million times and everything she says is bullshit. Some of it I sourced to quackery sites riddled with fake health information and conspiracy theories, some she claims "someone told her", the rest I honestly think she just made up. Anyway they let her go after she tried to argue with them. I am just blown away by her idiocy about all of this. There's no other term for it. So now I've lost a LOT of respect and trust for her. It sucks. I always admired how humanitarian she was but jesus this has taught me that everything needs to have limits. And that even good impulses can be crazy and harmful in effect.

That's not the only thing. I went and talked to the other tenants last night after reading some of these comments. Welp they've all been finding bedbugs too. The entire house is infested. As if my girlfriend losing her job isn't enough, I just got off the phone with the landlord. She got the complaints from the other tenants and knows we're the source of the infestation because we were the first to report it. I'd informed her I was having it taken care of after I scheduled the appointment my girlfriend ended up cancelling. So now, I had to tell her why it never happened. She was really pissed off and said she would have covered that single-time extermination assuming we were going to cooperate but now that my girlfriend hosed it up and the whole house is crawling with them, it'll be probably THOUSANDS in expenses. She told me she's going to be looking into holding us liable for the cost. I'm so absolutely hosed. I don't have thousands of dollars lying around. Neither does my girlfriend who's fault it is, and as of today nor does she even have a loving job. I am so mad I don't even know how to deal with her. She's out right now and idk when she'll be back, she's avoiding me.

I don't know what to do. I just need to move and get the hell out of here asap. I do not think I will be inviting her along with me. In fact, I don't think I can even stand being in a relationship with her after this. Unless she shows some serious sincere understanding of the poo poo she caused. But I know her values and way of thinking, and she's very stubborn. It's not going to happen. Goddamn even ruining our lives probably won't make her change.

Anyway. Gonna go build a time machine so I can have never moved in with her, there's basically no other way to fix this.

Edit 2: I commented a reply to someone that got a bit long, copying it here. (TL;DR I broke it off with her)

Honestly, yes she used to be pretty hot. Last few months she's been gaining weight and got fat now. That's just extra incentive to leave I decided. Realistically I don't think I could possibly not have this whole clusterfuck be the first thing on my mind whenever I'm around her. I'm so pissed off. I'm getting a consultation with an attorney first thing tomorrow to see if/how I can legally protect myself against landlord's lawsuit for damages so that it's her responsibility. I already told her I don't want to see her. I don't care if she goes back to the apartment, she can have it. I've left everything there except my electronics and some personal items. They can burn it all, I don't care. As of tonight I'm temporarily staying with a very generous friend (after thoroughly showering at the gym, of course) who I'm unspeakably grateful to. It'll be a pain to replace my clothes, and furniture once I find a new place, but I know where to get cheap poo poo that will do for now. I have some emergency savings. Guess this is exactly the kind of thing that's for. And fortunately I still have my job which is more than she can say.

FactsAreUseless
Feb 16, 2011

Lord Ludikrous posted:

More news on bedbug girlfriend.
Incredible. He's completely in the right but still manages to out himself as a creep by editing in AND SHE GOT FAT TOO

Men: Still Doing Dandy 65,000 Years Running

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

MarcusSA posted:

Because they are loving morons.

She’s not wrong to have that boundary.
My befuddlement is in that it hurts both parties for the truth to be known. I'd understand standing up for one friend at the other's expense, but sharing that just hurts both of them.

Gone Fashing
Aug 4, 2004

KEEP POSTIN
I'M STILL LAFFIN

ad090 posted:

Almost Two Week Update: Fiancée [27/F] went “too far” at bachelorette party. I [28/M] am ready to call it off. People are telling me not to due to “extenuating circumstances” (Progress from Friday)

what the gently caress. truth is stranger than fiction

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

My befuddlement is in that it hurts both parties for the truth to be known. I'd understand standing up for one friend at the other's expense, but sharing that just hurts both of them.

Yeah there was 0 reason to do it besides being a bunch of dickheads.

Some people are just dumb I guess.

MasBrillante
Dec 3, 2005

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS
But also, what did he think was going to happen when he prioritized his batty girlfriend over getting rid of an infestation in a SHARED RENTAL PROPERTY. They are both idiots.

Peaceful Anarchy
Sep 18, 2005
sXe
I am the math man.

Lord Ludikrous posted:

More news on bedbug girlfriend.

Honestly, yes she used to be pretty hot. Last few months she's been gaining weight and got fat now. That's just extra incentive to leave I decided.
The gently caress is this? Would he have stayed with her if she hadn't gotten fat? Has she been eating the bedbugs? What does this line have to do with anything?

Also I assume he didn't have any real furniture because getting rid of the bedbugs from anything other than a mattress or sofa is not that hard. Same with the clothes.

goethe.cx
Apr 23, 2014


yeah, dude is probably not going to be able to avoid liability for that. his best bet is to hope that his landlord decides he's too poor to be worth going after

New Coke
Nov 28, 2009

WILL AMOUNT TO NOTHING IN LIFE.
He may not be responsible for the original infestation, and it's kind of lovely and short sighted of the landlord to assume that, since that thinking leads to people neglecting to report bedbug infestations. Letting it get to so far out of hand is completely their fault, though, and the landlord has a decent case on those grounds.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA when I refused a face tattoo of a mother's dead son on her cheek?

Earlier I had to refuse a tattoo to a mother. She wanted the last heartbeat of her son on her face. I tried to convince her to get it on her arm or another place. But she persisted. I ultimately declined because face tattoos can ruin your life. So AITA? I am still pondering if i should give her a call since she wrote down her phone number and said "call me if you change your mind"

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for refusing to unsubscribe to my brother’s girlfriend’s porn page?

My brother’s gf is on this app where she posts sexual videos and people pay small monthly fee to view her content. She’s not a professional porn star or anything like that. It’s mostly just amateur solo stuff.

For context, my brother, his current gf and I all went to high school together. But they weren’t dating then or even good friends, and I only knew her casually from my classes. Fast forward and I hear from some mutual acquaintances that this app is how she’s making her money now. I managed to find her page pretty easily and subscribed out of curiosity. I stuck around because it’s pretty good content for the price. I should note that she has like 3k subscribers and I don’t use my real name on there, obviously, so I don’t think she knows I was one of her subs.

Okay so fast forward some more. Somehow she and my brother reconnected on instagram or something and eventually they started dating. It’s been a few months now since they’ve been seeing each other but I didn’t realize it was serious at all.

Anyway last night I stupidly got a little drunk and decided to call my brother and come clean to my brother about the fact that I subscribe to the girl. He already knew what she does and doesn’t care. So my drunken self kind of thought he would laugh the whole thing off...but that did not happen. Apparently he is really committed to her and they’ve even talked about moving in together at some point.

He asked me to unsubscribe to her page. I was like “yeah ok”. But he didn’t believe I really would so he said he wanted to come to my apartment and literally watch me unsubscribe. That’s when I told him no and he flipped out.

I said he should just tell his girl to block me if it’s that serious. But he says he’s too embarrassed to even tell her that I’ve watched and asked me not to say anything either. Needless to say, we didn’t end the convo on a great note.

Knowing my brother he will get over this. But is it that wrong to subscribe to content that’s available to the public anyway? I wouldn’t have subscribed if they had been a couple at the time, but I was already a member before they even reconnected. I also already paid for this month so...pretty sure I will have access until at least July even if I unsub.

Edit: Not that it probably makes much difference...But I want to clarify that I don’t only subscribe to her.

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Oct 12, 2010

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Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to unsubscribe to my brother’s girlfriend’s porn page?

Edit: Not that it probably makes much difference...But I want to clarify that I don’t only subscribe to her.

NTA, every amateur porn subscriber should have a hometown favorite.

Piell
Sep 3, 2006

Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer


Young Orc

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to unsubscribe to my brother’s girlfriend’s porn page?

Tell her to wear those fishnets, that should go over well

Piell
Sep 3, 2006

Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer


Young Orc
AITA for getting upset that my boyfriend is sleeping in the same bed with a girl he’s traveling with?

quote:

Background: we are both gay men. We have been dating for a little over five months.

My boyfriend is in another country with one of his good friends/coworker. She is a woman. He is a gay man.

My boyfriend has dated multiple women in the past before coming out and has even described their sex as “good.” He is 100% gay (according to him) and he only had girlfriends because he was in the closet and felt it was what he needed to do to avoid suspicion.

I just found out that he and this girl he is traveling with are sharing a small bed. I trust my boyfriend, but this rubbed me the wrong way a bit. He has said things in the past towards this girl that were inappropriate in my eyes (how she was very good looking and a few suggestive jokes when we have all hung out together) but he has assured me that there is and never was anything between them. She is in a relationship with another straight man.

He also likes to sleep naked and he is a cuddler as it is, but in this bed personal contact is unavoidable (the bed is tiny). He told me he is sleeping with shorts on but I didn’t ask about cuddling because I didn’t want to come off as controlling/paranoid/untrusting,

I got upset when he mentioned they were sharing a bed and showed me how small it was (he didn’t tell me upfront - I assumed they were in separate rooms) and he is telling me I’m overreacting and that I’m not putting enough trust in him. AITA for questioning him here or am I justified?

nankeen
Mar 20, 2019

by Cyrano4747

ad090 posted:

Almost Two Week Update: Fiancée [27/F] went “too far” at bachelorette party. I [28/M] am ready to call it off. People are telling me not to due to “extenuating circumstances” (Progress from Friday)
i get a nice (non-capitalised) vibe from this op, i hope they work things out

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

ad090 posted:

AITA for not wanting to date someone who has killed people?

My bff and her boyfriend are really upset because of the circumstances which he killed people under, because it isn't the same as being a murderer

:wrong:

and of course because the woman isn't interested she's now being held responsible for the man becoming sad and depressed

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for cursing at a manager and an old lady?

I was in line at the grocery store with my toddler. We made our purchases and then I remembered I needed ice and went right back in line. It's late for him (almost 9pm) so I let him have some kombucha to keep him happy and well because he loves it. If you're not familiar kombucha tea is filled with probiotics and an acquired taste to say the least. I love it and so does my son, but I know a lot of people don't like the taste. Anyways while we're in line the store manager (or a manager, not THE manager) tells the cashier how nasty he thinks kombucha is. He says, "OMG that kid is chugging kombucha and it's so nasty!" Literally right in front of us while I'm drinking it too. So I tell him, "You probably eat a lot of nasty poo poo and I'm not telling you about it to your face. Don't insult my kid's drink while he's in front of you drinking it." To his credit he apologized and instantly a little old lady on her way out says, "You need to watch your mouth!" My reply? "You should go gently caress yourself." I finish my transaction, thank the cashier and leave. I'm an rear end in a top hat huh? Edit *bad grammar, typos

Just going to give this lightly alcoholic + caffeinated drink to my toddler at 9pm lol

This person is a lovely parent but that's not surprising because people who habitually drink kombucha tend to be pretty stupid. Good odds on this person being an antivaxxer, too

Dazerbeams
Jul 8, 2009

Drinking kombucha automatically her an rear end in a top hat. But I liked the part where she told grandma off.

Khazar-khum
Oct 22, 2008

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
2nd Battalion

Piell posted:

AITA for getting upset that my boyfriend is sleeping in the same bed with a girl he’s traveling with?

From such trials, new Petes are born.

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum

ad090 posted:

Almost Two Week Update: Fiancée [27/F] went “too far” at bachelorette party. I [28/M] am ready to call it off. People are telling me not to due to “extenuating circumstances” (Progress from Friday)

:holymoley:

I thought it was sexual assault and fiancee was the victim in all this. Guess egg is on my face.

This is hosed up, just :sever: and get on with you life.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Dazerbeams posted:

Drinking kombucha automatically her an rear end in a top hat. But I liked the part where she told grandma off.

I normally appreciate when someone tells off a snotty old person who's overly concerned with naughty words

but otoh she probably only said it because they were yelling this poo poo right in front of a toddler

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !
Kombucha isn't alcoholic idiot

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

Sjs00 posted:

Kombucha isn't alcoholic idiot

It’s fermented and slightly alcoholic.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Sjs00 posted:

Kombucha isn't alcoholic idiot

it's not made of idiots but it is lightly alcoholic, it's fermented tea

go ahead and google it if you want

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Sjs00 posted:

Kombucha isn't alcoholic idiot

DescriptionKombucha is a fermented, slightly alcoholic, lightly effervescent, sweetened black or green tea drink commonly intended as a functional beverage for its supposed health benefits. Sometimes the beverage is called kombucha tea to distinguish it from the culture of bacteria and yeast. Wikipedia
Alcohol by volume: 0.5%

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Oct 12, 2010

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I missed that it was a literal toddler LMAO that's a pretty terrible parent.

If my tolerance is down to zero and I'm on an empty stomach, I can feel the alcohol in kombucha. I wouldn't even call it a buzz, but it's like when you're starting to sip on a beer.

chitoryu12
Apr 24, 2014

Pinecone Sample posted:

I missed that it was a literal toddler LMAO that's a pretty terrible parent.

If my tolerance is down to zero and I'm on an empty stomach, I can feel the alcohol in kombucha. I wouldn't even call it a buzz, but it's like when you're starting to sip on a beer.

You must be an incredible lightweight because even when I first started drinking 5% ABV did extremely little to me with one drink. 0.5% is so low it’s legally considered non-alcoholic.

Like it’s less alcohol consumed than when grandma gives you a hot toddy of whiskey and honey when you have an upset stomach.

Miserable Maid
Apr 22, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Everyone is different, and it also has a lot to do with bmi and stuff. When you're thin and dehydrated, a single beer can give you a bit of good feeling

datajugend
Jan 15, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
That baby need some menthols to hide that alcohol breath, come on!

Pinecone Sample
Oct 12, 2010

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AITA Did I go overboard by installing nanny cams in the bathrooms to punish my husband for his porn habit?

quote:

My husband is getting punished for bad behavior, this part is not negotiable. I am just curious if people think installing nanny cams in all the bathrooms is a bit much.

What happened: My husband has a porn habit and I know he sometimes masturbates to porn in the bathroom either streaming on his laptop or his phone. What really bothered me was he was so indiscreet as to let our younger son walk in on him masturbating to asian shemale porn. I don’t want to get into details, but suffice it say my son saw enough that he started asking questions about transgendered people, and of course every Asian woman is now transgendered in his mind. It was one of the most uncomfortable conversations and we had to tell him his teacher (she’s Asian American) is in fact not transgendered. He’s at the age where he extrapolates everything. I’m SO relieved school’s already ended because I cannot fathom him yakking about this, and especially about his teacher, with his classmates.

My husband’s punishment: If you have ever been a parent, you’d know how pissed I was. As punishment, I told him he was not to use any room in the house as a private space for porn or masturbation so long as the children are around. To make sure that happens, I installed nanny cams in every room where there’s a lockable door, including the bathrooms.

He feels this is unjust and going overboard. I’m not so sure. Did I go overboard with nanny cams in the bathrooms here?

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA Did I go overboard by installing nanny cams in the bathrooms to punish my husband for his porn habit?

Holy poo poo......

:allbuttons:

datajugend
Jan 15, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
That guy needs some menthols to smoke up that camera. Come on!

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA Did I go overboard by installing nanny cams in the bathrooms to punish my husband for his porn habit?

I do not like the turn this took. Just murder the rear end in a top hat.

Hellblazer187
Oct 12, 2003

Just murder both husband and wife. Give the kid to kombucha dad, he seems pretty cool.

VanSandman
Feb 16, 2011
SWAP.AVI EXCHANGER

MarcusSA posted:

Holy poo poo......

:allbuttons:

I wonder, is he attracted to transgender people or is it one of those 'fell down the porn hole' situations where more vanilla stuff doesn't do it anymore?
Not really relevant I suppose.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA Did I go overboard by installing nanny cams in the bathrooms to punish my husband for his porn habit?

Just give the kid a few whiskey sours

ishikabibble
Jan 21, 2012

MarcusSA posted:

DescriptionKombucha is a fermented, slightly alcoholic, lightly effervescent, sweetened black or green tea drink commonly intended as a functional beverage for its supposed health benefits. Sometimes the beverage is called kombucha tea to distinguish it from the culture of bacteria and yeast. Wikipedia
Alcohol by volume: 0.5%

Kombucha varies in alcohol content. Several brands are above the legal minimum for it to be sold to minors.

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

VanSandman posted:

I wonder, is he attracted to transgender people or is it one of those 'fell down the porn hole' situations where more vanilla stuff doesn't do it anymore?
Not really relevant I suppose.

Yeah I’m vaguely curious how their sex life was.

Either way they are both fuckin insane.

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Yeah, OP is kind of unreliable. She is an rear end in a top hat argues with everyone in the comments about why she shouldn't have to explain x y or z to them.

Also "transgendered" is not preferable style, though many well-intentioned/sloppy speakers will use it. So we don't really know what lesson the kid took from seeing a woman with a penis or how developed his brain is. She has a thread about a 9 yo son but it may not be him.

Like imagining her son getting in a fight with the kid who says "Asian women have sideways vaginas" is kind of catastrophizing, probably.

Basically I wonder which came first, husband acting like a 13 yo or her treating him like a 13 yo. They were probably both destined to live this way.

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