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goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

Sagebrush posted:

she says they've been together for two years. and the reason she gives is "this is the one time a year that all us girls can be together!!"

as opposed to the one time in the entire history of time that his mother will die and have a funeral

and that's not even getting into the whole "while i was dealing with a tragedy you were whooping it up on the beach after i begged you to support me" poo poo

what a piece of trash

selfish to the point of being sociopathic. i hope she got dragged in the comments

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:34

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# ? Jun 11, 2024 23:00

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Pinecone Sample posted:

We definitely had this from the daughter, right?

AITA for not going to my daughters graduation ceremony?

The mom really is just trash
I (17F) graduated highschool yesterday and my mom (39F) didn’t show up to my graduation even though she promised

quote:

My mom didn’t even bother to come to my ceremony. I graduated with a 3.7 gpa which I am quite happy with and I’ve done a lot to get good grades. She’s the only person besides my brother (who’s in college) that is my family since I don’t have any cousins or aunts and I haven’t heard from my dad (if he’s even worth being called that) for around 10 years so it would’ve been nice for her to come. I told her it was at 12:30Pm and reminded her a whole week before for when it was. She told me and promised me that she’d be there. Well I was waiting for her and she never showed up. Seeing everyone else’s family/parents show up for them hurt a lot since my mom couldn’t even take the time out of her day to come so I had no one. I just wanted someone to be there and I wasn’t asking for much right? When I came home I asked her why she didn’t come and she flat out said “I’m sorry I had a nail appointment that was for 12:00 but I ended up having to wait another hour because they accidentally booked me the same time as someone else” are you loving kidding? It’s like she didn’t care at all. She went to my brothers graduation but why not mine. It made me cry I just felt so unimportant sorry if I sound dramatic. That made me feel so angry. You couldn’t have just waited or done that another time? This was a lot more important to me at least than some stupid nail appointment. She’s always been inconsiderate and this was really important to me. Should I talk to her about it? Am I being dramatic about this? What should I say? Ive never been rude to her my whole life but I want to talk to her about how selfish she usually is but I don’t know if I should or not. Sorry if I come off as whiny Im just really upset about it.

TLDR; my mom never showed up to my graduation ceremony even though she promised she would. Should I tell her that it’s really upsetting me? Or should I leave it as it is? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Please tell me if I am.

Edit: thank you so much for all the comments, it really means a lot to me , i upvoted them all (just in case you may think I’m ignoring the comments

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# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:36

Xaris: Jul 25, 2006; Lucky there's a family guy
Lucky there's a man who positively can do
All the things that make us
Laugh and cry

Pinecone Sample posted:

My (24F) boyfriend (23M) wants me to quit camming because a viewer insulted his penis while we were putting on a show together

lmfao. is this the guys first experience with the Internet??? we�ve been telling other goons that they have small worthless dicks since 2000

I genuinely could not imagine being 23 guy and break down crying naked on a bathroom floor because some rando Internet weirdo who watches cam girls used a standard throwaway dick joke

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:37

Resting Lich Face: Feb 21, 2019; This case of an intraperitoneal zucchini is unusual, and does raise questions as to how hard one has to push a blunt vegetable to perforate the rectum.

goethe.cx posted:

jesus christ

e: i hope he wasn't sucking on the dildo after the pegging

I hope he was. He deserves severe GI illness.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:37

BoonyPC: Feb 19, 2007

Xaris posted:

lmfao. is this the guys first experience with the Internet??? we�ve been telling other goons that they have small worthless dicks since 2000

I genuinely could not imagine being 23 guy and break down crying naked on a bathroom floor because some rando Internet weirdo who watches cam girls used a standard throwaway dick joke

Yea I'm surprised he didn't expect that sort of stuff, jesus

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:41

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

BoonyPC posted:

Yea I'm surprised he didn't expect that sort of stuff, jesus

he is hilariously naive to have not expected the comments, but she probably could have chosen better phrasing when comforting him than "it's enough for me" lol

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:43

blugu64: Jul 17, 2006; Do you realize that fluoridation is the most monstrously conceived and dangerous communist plot we have ever had to face?

Wait are you guys telling me you literally have a little devil and angel sitting in each shoulder telling you to do good/evil all the time??!!

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:45

goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

also 5" is like average. he should know that because if he's that insecure about his dick he's 100% googled "average penis size"

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:46

EIDE Van Hagar: Dec 8, 2000; Beep Boop

Missed graduation to get nails did mom is horrible and i hate her.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:47

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

goethe.cx posted:

also 5" is like average. he should know that because if he's that insecure about his dick he's 100% googled "average penis size"

maybe hes really tall, comparative size is a bitch in a visual medium

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:47

Resting Lich Face: Feb 21, 2019; This case of an intraperitoneal zucchini is unusual, and does raise questions as to how hard one has to push a blunt vegetable to perforate the rectum.

blugu64 posted:

Wait are you guys telling me you literally have a little devil and angel sitting in each shoulder telling you to do good/evil all the time??!!

No of course not. It's a liquor bottle, and it only tells me to do evil.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:47

Xaris: Jul 25, 2006; Lucky there's a family guy
Lucky there's a man who positively can do
All the things that make us
Laugh and cry

goethe.cx posted:

also 5" is like average. he should know that because if he's that insecure about his dick he's 100% googled "average penis size"

elliot rogers quote.txt

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:48

Pinecone Sample: Oct 12, 2010; THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
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This line really did it for me

"But not one viewer stood up for him while he was getting made fun of."

Like she's sharing with us her disappointment in these gentlemen

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:48

dudeness: Mar 5, 2010; Cat Army; Fallen Rib

The man having sex is getting laughed at by the men who watch camshows and tip money and masturbate. The man having sex is crying. Man having sex, why do you cry?

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:49

DeadMansSuspenders: Jan 10, 2012; I wanna be your left hand man

blugu64 posted:

Wait are you guys telling me you literally have a little devil and angel sitting in each shoulder telling you to do good/evil all the time??!!

You guys don't have a little Inside Out control room running you?

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:49

FilthyImp: Sep 30, 2002; Anime Deviant

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

Missed graduation to get nails did mom is horrible and i hate her.

The big thing that gives it away (other than the fact she didn't get to graduate so why should it matter to anyone) is that she's more concerned with the kid sulking and not communicating than with the fact she just wounded her terribly.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:49

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

Missed graduation to get nails did mom is horrible and i hate her.

totally normal mentally healthy lady jealous of her own daughter for getting to graduate from high school

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:50

goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

maybe hes really tall, comparative size is a bitch in a visual medium

i remember reading that a lot of porn actors are short dudes so that their dicks look bigger

Pinecone Sample posted:

This line really did it for me

"But not one viewer stood up for him while he was getting made fun of."

Like she's sharing with us her disappointment in these gentlemen

im the guy who watches cam shows and stands up for the integrity of small-dicked men

e: whoops, monitor was off

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:50

Xaris: Jul 25, 2006; Lucky there's a family guy
Lucky there's a man who positively can do
All the things that make us
Laugh and cry

dudeness posted:

The man having sex is getting laughed at by the men who watch camshows and tip money and masturbate. The man having sex is crying. Man having sex, why do you cry?

I was thinking the same thing lol. That ain�t a normal reaction in that I�d question if they have a latent NPD or something

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:53

Barudak: May 7, 2007

How the gently caress is "cam boyfriend genital shamed until he leaves crying and cam girl has multiple orgasms as she fantasizes about her viewers assuredly bigger dicks" not a tapped out market? This is a loving goldmine concept

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:54

goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

cousin fucker guy posted a one-handed update:

quote:

edit 3: Well, first of all, Id like to address everyone calling BS on this. It seems highly unlikely, implausible, and all of that. I agree and would call BS reading this also. I can�t really defend it or prove it (or can I? if i can let me know how. also this a throwaway, not sure what i get out of this karma? let me know if you want my account or my gold lol, I could give a poo poo!)

� She doesn�t have a reddit account, she just goes to porn pages with the r/subshelikestovisit.

� She lives in NYC, it�s big. The buildings are big and the company she works for has multiple offices and does many things. It didn�t occur to me, I guess I was worked up.

� I come here often, it�s not that I didn�t call her, but sometimes when i�m here she�ll dm or comment on my insta story and say �hey come by and visit next time�

� In our scenario setup she told me she would tell reception she was expecting a package that she needed to sign for. There was no door man or anyone else I needed to get past. I don�t know if that is weird in an office building but that is what happened.

� We didn�t actually say �hey cousin� lol, i�m just censoring our names for the post.

� Yes guys post nudes to reddit, I would mostly post to ladybonersgw, penis, and massivecock. (purposely not linked, check them out at your own risk/interest)

� I�m 35, she�s 26.

� I deleted my account after freaking out, but I�m sure I�ll post again and I�ll let you know lol.

oooookay, so now onto drinks.

I decided to just come right out and tell her because i felt bad ghosting and also couldn�t loving focus on anything else. And as many of you guessed, she knew. She didn�t buy the �i just popped in�. She figured it was me, asked the receptionist to confirm, and even worse, thought that I knew it was her all along and felt kind of gross. I assured her I didn�t, it was really weird. We slowly got past it and had our drink, and another, and got a little more comfortable and started to actually talk about all of the things we said and showed each other. We complimented each other on our, assets lol, and realized freakiness must run in the family and shared stories we had heard about relatives over the years. We talked about if we actually did anything, it�s a slippery slope, because we do see each other fairly often. And then we had another drink. And then I licked her pussy and rear end in the bathroom of the bar. I stroked myself while I did it, and after I made her cum she helped me out. We promised we would never do this again, but I think we�ll get drinks one more time before i leave.

judge away, people.

roll tide!

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:56

Anne Whateley: Feb 11, 2007; i like nice words

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

You guys don't have a little Inside Out control room running you?

some days mine is more like the Chernobyl control room

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:56

Gone Fashing: Aug 4, 2004; KEEP POSTIN
I'M STILL LAFFIN

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for going to a pre-planned vacation with my family rather than my boyfriend's mom's funeral?

I'm a teacher so I get about 2 months off every summer but my mom, sister, aunt, and cousin all work regular 9-5 jobs with 2-3 weeks off a year, so it's really difficult to organize time for trips where we can all go. We managed to schedule a girls trip to Cabo from June 1st to 9th. Made payments (almost $3K a person) several weeks prior to the trip and were all very excited to go to Mexico and bond -- I'm best friends with my sister & cousin, and my mom and aunt are identical twins so we're all a very close group.

My boyfriend & I have been together for 2 years. His family lives across the country so I only see them twice a year and it's usually pretty quick. No real one-on-one bonding with anyone in his family but we're all definitely friendly with one another. We like each other's posts on FB/IG, send happy birthday wishes, stuff like that.

A few days before we left, my boyfriend's mom passed away unexpectedly. I spent days attached to his hip, supporting him, wrote the email to his work explaining what happened, cleaning the apartment, making sure he ate, called his dad & siblings and expressed my condolences, booked his flight, helped him pack, etc. He asked me to go to the funeral with him. I felt so, so, so bad telling him no. I hardly knew his mom and feel like I already committed myself to the trip with my family. He was heartbroken and begged me to go with him for support but I told him that his whole family is there and if anything it's a special time for them all to recount memories of their mother/wife/sister/daughter.

He asked if he gave me $1500 "could you go on the trip sometime later? you have two more months off. I know you won't get some deposits back, so I'll give you this money" and I honestly felt so bad but the thing isn't the money (although obviously as a teacher, I'm not swimming in money) but it's about how this is the one time a year that the women I'm closest to can go together.

My mom & aunt told me "we want you to come with us, but it's ultimately up to you" whereas my cousin & sister were like "you should definitely come with us, it'll ruin the trip for us if you're not there, just come, etc."

My boyfriend was upset and left mad at me, I called/texted a bunch but he didn't respond until days later, anyways I went to Mexico and came back on the 9th and things have been weird with us. Sometimes he's really close with me like usual other times I can tell he's mad I didn't go with him. He said he's not furious at me but just disappointed and sad that I chose to go party instead of be there with him. Says he would've dropped anything for me, keeps emphasizing that I have 2 months of vacation, but he doesn't get that no one else in the group has that kind of vacation time, I really couldn't reschedule.

TL;DR: I feel really bad because I didn't go with my boyfriend to his mom's funeral because I already had a trip planned with my family. Did I gently caress up?

what the gently caress

i seriously cant believe someone could be that selfish and have to ask the internet whether or not it was hosed up. holy poo poo.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:57

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Brb buying the rights to the domains of cybercuck, cuckbycommittee, and 1vCuckhundred and starting my niche porn empire so embarassing people who review animal themed dildos can look down on me from their high horse dildo

# ? Jun 25, 2019 05:58

Xaris: Jul 25, 2006; Lucky there's a family guy
Lucky there's a man who positively can do
All the things that make us
Laugh and cry

goethe.cx posted:

cousin fucker guy posted a one-handed update:

roll tide!

lmfao ok yeah. i was even partially willing to go along with that in 'ok just maybe in this hosed up world maybe that did happen by mistake' and then that went right out the window with

quote:

And then I licked her pussy and rear end in the bathroom of the bar. I stroked myself while I did it, and after I made her cum she helped me out. We promised we would never do this again, but I think we�ll get drinks one more time before i leave.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:00

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

This is why TIFU stories are always terrible, it�s just a bad erotica forum in thinly veiled disguise.

Fuck Your Website fucked around with this message at 06:05 on Jun 25, 2019

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:03

Resting Lich Face: Feb 21, 2019; This case of an intraperitoneal zucchini is unusual, and does raise questions as to how hard one has to push a blunt vegetable to perforate the rectum.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

Missed graduation to get nails did mom is horrible and i hate her.

Kid needs to get in touch with her dad. He prob left that awful, self-absorbed harpy for a good reason.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:03

goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

the proliferation of incest porn has made people write fake brag stories about loving their relatives

e: i also love the defensive bullet points. "it's totally real, you guys!" yes, i'm sure a NYC office building housing a major company just let you waltz right in

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:03

Nuebot: Feb 18, 2013; The developer of Brigador is a secret chud, don't give him money

Pinecone Sample posted:

This line really did it for me

"But not one viewer stood up for him while he was getting made fun of."

Like she's sharing with us her disappointment in these gentlemen

Well, you see, they were tipping her so she couldn't possibly ban or mute them.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:04

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

Dear Amy:

Five years ago, I entered a relationship with a woman I had dated in junior high school, way back in 1980.

We met as friends, the relationship blossomed, and we were married about 20 months later.

At the time we reconnected, my wife's daughter, "Tamryn," was 14. She is now 20. Tamryn and I had the usual battles, but got along pretty well until this past winter when Tamryn, for reasons escaping us, didn't think we'd notice that her then 17-year-old boyfriend, "Brian," was basically living with us.

Brian turned 18 early this spring and is graduating from high school, but Brian being a minor was only part of the issue we had with him living with us.

He was eating with us, she was doing his wash and he was taking showers, etc., but contributing nothing to the household.

Tamryn's mother and I confronted her and presented her with an ultimatum -- we said he could stay over on Friday and Saturday nights, but that's all.

Tamryn chose instead to move out. She moved in with Brian and his grandparents.

This was not the outcome we were hoping for, but we were not going to allow them to "play house" at our home, either.

My wife misses Tamryn dearly, and I feel some guilt about her leaving.

Any advice on this situation?

-- Caught in the Middle

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:06

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

poo poo, I guess I know why I basically can't draw anything except what I see and only while I am looking at it. My visualizer's broken.

Dazerbeams posted:

Well if we�re going to ask stuff, do people actually have a separate voice inside their head that tries to encourage or dissuade you? I�ve always heard people talking about a semi separate entity that guides them and that sounds so bizarre to me.

Sometimes it's just how people process inner voices. Everybody's got one of those (except maybe the deaf from birth?). The positive, encouraging variety is probably that.

But for the negative ones... all people have intrusive thoughts to some level. Have you ever thought of something weird, like suddenly imagined laughing at a funeral or jumping out of a moving car, and then been like "what the hell, brain?" That's normal.

Problem: Increase the intensity and you have a symptom of multiple mental illnesses. Anxiety, depression, PTSD, OCD, ADHD, psychosis, probably others. It's a wide list, and something as simple as "anxiety" can set them off. Intrusive thoughts in these situations can very much feel like there's an rear end in a top hat in your head telling you terrible poo poo. The thoughts don't feel like they're coming from your brain or like you can control them at all, so it's easy to just attribute them to a Different Voice.

Also people who write may end up... basically having that character's "voice" in their head? Not like "there's a guy talking in my head", but they've worked so hard on putting themselves in the shoes and voice of the character that they're writing that some of their intrusive thoughts turn into dialog from them. That's just the ol' creative brain not realizing that it's not quite the time and place.

anyway, I've had all of those, it's quite the party. I'm glad the pills killed the rear end in a top hat who kept suggesting ways to kill myself though, he was a real creep.

Pinecone Sample posted:

The mom really is just trash
I (17F) graduated highschool yesterday and my mom (39F) didn’t show up to my graduation even though she promised

)

quote:

In a way I feel bitterness towards her as I never got to graduated when I was a teenager.

JESUS. That's hosed up, lovely mom!

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:09

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

AITA for getting upset that my husband helped pay for a prostitute in the Netherlands for our 17 year old son?
u/DreamingDown

quote:

I honestly can't believe I'm typing this out, but I feel like I need some perspective from people we don't know in real life.

My son just finished his junior year of high school in late May, and the Monday afterward he took a 10 day trip to the Netherlands and Belgium with my husband. My husband is Indonesian, so he has many business partners, family and friends who chose to move to the Netherlands. As far as I was told, they had a great time.

Last night, I got a WhatsApp text from one of our cousins that stays in regular contact with both my son and I. My cousin said "what did she look like? Have pictures?" I read it, then it got deleted by our cousin (you can delete messages on WhatsApp, you'll see a message was sent and deleted but you won't see what was written). Our cousin apologized and I pretended not to have read anything. I figured it had something to do with my son though.

My son recently began his day camp counseling job so I figured he met a girl he works with and they hit it off or something. So I asked my son if he met anyone at his new job, and if he told our cousin about some "pictures". That was when his expression changed and he looked directly at my husband, who looked startled. My son blurted out that there are no pictures and my husband assured my son that things will be okay. That was when I realized something weird was going on, not just a summer fling

My son and my husband explained that they had been in Amsterdam and they had passed the Red Light District. They didn't walk through that street, but my son half-sarcastically asked my husband's former college housemate (who was showing them around the city) how old you have to be to get a hooker there and he said you have to be 16. That was when my husband himself made a joke about how my son can have some "better company" if he'd like. They laughed it off but on the second to last night there, my son asked if he could go see a girl in the red light district. My husband's friend warned him that the brothels can be seedy and dirty, so he offered to find an escort service that would be willing to go to their hotel. And so the next night on their last night in Amsterdam, a prostitute visited my son for an hour in the hotel while my husband and his friend went to dinner down the street. I didn't ask for the details, but my son assured me that he used a condom.

I just sat there not believing what I had just heard. I'm not opposed to sex work, but I didn't realize how uncomfortable I was with the idea of my son buying a woman until I heard it from him. And to hear how my husband hid it from me was even worse. My husband defended our son and said it wasn't that bad because our son used his savings from his previous job to pay half the fees and tip. I understand if my son and my husband want to do things without the interference of mom, but I felt that this was really pushing it.

Lotta this kinda thing in the thread for some weird reason:

quote:

Lovesosa4011
Just a question. Why do you think it's not okay to judge sex workers but it is okay to judge men who buy them? Why would you not date a man who bought them?

�Just a random question, asking for a friend�

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:16

Power Khan: Aug 20, 2011; by Fritz the Horse

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

Oooh, yes. This is good.
I (20f) just got my blackbelt in BJJ. My BF (24m) of 6 months took it had it stitched with pink Japanese characters that he doesn't even know what they mean. He wont apologize as he was "thinking of me."

Make a knot into your boyfriend

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:22

Power Khan: Aug 20, 2011; by Fritz the Horse

Danaru posted:

"His attitude was starting to get to me since I was trying to find a way to fix things and he wasn't helping."

Also lmao at "I can only get off if I'm being physically dominated, also I dedicated my life since I was 18 to martial arts and strength training"

Now there's some pretty effective selfsabotage

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:25

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

Sagebrush posted:

yes, you colossal moron

times your boyfriend will go to his mom's funeral: 1
times you can go to cabo with the girls: doesn't loving matter, will never be as important as boyfriend's mom's funeral

look at it this way: you can tell someone they don't matter to you until you're blue in the face & they might not get it. If you really want them to understand at a visceral level that you don't care even the slighest amount then you gotta grab an opportunity like skipping their mother's funeral when it comes up

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:26

WarEternal: Dec 26, 2010; Goodness no, now that wouldn't do at all!

Midnight Voyager posted:

poo poo, I guess I know why I basically can't draw anything except what I see and only while I am looking at it. My visualizer's broken.

I don't think drawing is that related to how well you can visualize something with no external reference whatsoever. I always thought it was just a skill that develops over time if you're good at it. Like, put a cat right in front of me and it would still look like a 10 year old drew the cat in the end.

I think the visualization thing is just a large miscommunication about what people mean by "visualize".

For example, have some artist draw a picture of Keanu Reeves from memory without them having looked at a picture of him in the last few days or weeks, whatever. I would bet that no matter how good they are, the majority of people would have no idea it was supposed to be Keanu with no prompting.

E: at least that's my expectation, maybe there's people out there who can perfectly remember what someone looks like in detail but I doubt it's very common, even among artists.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:27

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

AITA for making my husband be the bad guy?
u/thegreengobshite

quote:

My husband John and I have two kids: Sarah and James, twins, age 3 (all fake names).

Sarah recently got into having her nails painted. John wasn't totally comfortable with it because he thinks make-up is weird and adult-looking on a toddler. I argued that she just likes the colour and it's fairly normal for a toddler to have painted nails. He asked what I would do if James wanted his nails painted. I said it would do it if asked but I wouldn't push it on him. James did ask to have his nails painted, but after one nail was done he decided he didn't like it and we took off the polish.

A week or so later, Sarah was getting her nails painted and James asked to get his done too so I painted them. He really liked it this time.

John freaked out and demanded that the polish was taken off. We argued a few points and his main arguments were:

1. It's a slippery slope from nail polish to a full face with foundation, lipstick and eyeliner

2. Women only wear nail polish to make themselves more attractive to men, therefore I am trying to make our kid attractive

3. The other kids in the creche would make fun of him

I argued back that the slippery slope argument is bullshit, women paint their nails for many reasons and we should not teach our son to care what other people think about his appearance.

He accused me of not understanding where he's coming from. I do, I just don't agree with him. I think there are other issues behind his discomfort but that's another conversation.

In the end, I told John that he could remove the nail polish and in the future he could tell our son no when he asks for his nails to be painted.

John said that I was forcing him to be the bad guy and he wasn't going to do that, so our son has pink fingernails and my husband is not happy.

AITA for making my husband the (potential) bad guy?

quote:

We've had blazing rows in the past because he's made misogynistic comments.

quote:

Edit - thanks for all the responses, plenty to think about here. I've always been aware that I'm more liberal than my husband but our differences are deeper than I thought so we have a lot of talking to do.

Regarding the nail polish, we are taking it off tomorrow. Our family will visit my FIL in the hospice and he will definitely make homophobic comments about it. He's got dementia and will never change. My husband adores his dad and doesn't want to fight with him.

My husband has a hosed up understanding of sexuality, passed down from his abused, oppressed and repressive parents. They had him late in life so they are closer in age to the grandparents of my generation than the parents. We are not going to change them but we can and will work on ourselves.

Once again: the kid is 3

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:28

Barudak: May 7, 2007

I think your husband is doing a pretty good job making himself out to be the bad guy all by himself

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:31

goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

Vim Fuego posted:

look at it this way: you can tell someone they don't matter to you until you're blue in the face & they might not get it. If you really want them to understand at a visceral level that you don't care even the slighest amount then you gotta grab an opportunity like skipping their mother's funeral when it comes up

OP is doubling down in the comments too. She was like "I apologized and made him his favorite breakfast and he doesn't seem mad at me so we're good. You guys are being mean." If it's not a troll it's a fairly shocking display of narcissism

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:33

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Peaceful Anarchy posted:

To this point I think it's the difference between memory and visualization. Even if a person could perfectly visualize to the level of a polaroid (I have no idea if they can) they'd have to also be able to remember those things well enough to picture them. So where to you the Polaroid is impressive not for what it allows you to recollect but for the visual detail and vividness, for others it might be the reverse.

I agree that language is a part of the barrier and I don't think the way we visualize is as rare as the 2% of people with aphantasia, based on how many people respond to aphantasia posts with "duh of course you see black," but every time this comes up I am curious about where on the spectrum this kind of non visual visualization is.

Yeah, like my visualization is quite strong but my memory is actually pretty lovely. I can picture my wife or close friends/family in vivid detail but a random actor or an acquaintance I see once a year is :shrug:

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

i guess i'm way over on the other end of the spectrum, if i'm in a dark room with my eyes closed and there's not much external input i see images float in the dark on my eyelids, they are pretty clear and distinct but i can't "hold" them in my head on purpose, they sort of morph and change into new images based on my thought patterns and my own reactions and thoughts about what i'm "seeing." the changing could just be due to how fractured and tangential my thoughts are though; its like the random thoughts that i would think when seeing any real object or scene or person get to control the images and feed off of each other in a cycle. its really interesting to hear about everyone's internal experiences and how extremely different they are, even down to how sensations and thoughts are experienced!

That's pretty wild! I think my visualization is pretty good but that's some next level poo poo. Even if I start to doze and enter theta the dreams I "see" are distinct from what my eyes see.

# ? Jun 25, 2019 06:35

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