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Anne Whateley posted:If you have a friend who really wants to see a band, go with the friend. If you have someone else who is into you and doesn't care what you do, do something else. he specifically wants to leverage the ticket to have a date with a woman. he handled it awkwardly but it's ok for him to want to date women and ask women on dates i have friends who i don't want to gently caress but i also don't set up one-on-one dinners at nice restaurants or vacations to the beach or other romantic activities with those people, i go with them in groups to bars and stuff - friend activities, not date activities honestly swallowing his rejection and going on the quasi-date while being upset and pining over the woman while he sleeps on the floor of their shared hotel room is creepier behavior than saying no thanks and asking someone else Mr. Fall Down Terror fucked around with this message at 17:07 on Jun 27, 2019 |
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Anne Whateley posted:If you have a friend who really wants to see a band, go with the friend. If you have someone else who is into you and doesn't care what you do, do something else.
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DrManiac posted:“I’m not racist, I just don’t want this women to be my therapist solely because she’s black!” It's reddit, so supportive, I'd imagine
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AITA for saving screenshots of my sister’s bigoted comments?quote:Okay, so long story short, my sister (Kay) has a daughter (Nicole) who I’m crazy about! I love both of them very very much. Kay and I were always really close growing up. We always said we would be close with the other’s child(ren).
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Anne Whateley posted:If you have a friend who really wants to see a band, go with the friend. If you have someone else who is into you and doesn't care what you do, do something else. If you have a friend who you turned down for a date and they found someone else to go out with, maybe be happy for that friend's possible new relationship instead of insisting that you deserve to go to the thing because you like it more e: Like this specifically is why people say you always side with the woman, basically: why is he the only one with the onus to "be a good friend" and take her on the date she rejected him for here, why can she not also just be a good friend to him and he happy for him Blade Runner fucked around with this message at 17:11 on Jun 27, 2019 |
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Anne Whateley posted:If you have a friend who really wants to see a band, go with the friend. If you have someone else who is into you and doesn't care what you do, do something else. i have a friend who really wants to go to Japan and i just went with my partner, who i go on normal dates with all the time, did i gently caress up by not taking my friend instead of my partner?
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for saving screenshots of my sister’s bigoted comments? i get her mindset and her desire to do vengeance against the bad bigot sister but it's creepy to keep a poo poo talking folder of old internet comments in the event that your niece comes to find you as an adult - which, if she does, she will very likely already know that her parents are regressive shitheads
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Anne Whateley posted:If you have a friend who really wants to see a band, go with the friend. If you have someone else who is into you and doesn't care what you do, do something else. Lol didn't you also think a guy was obligated to give his ex all the furniture he owned after they broke up because otherwise it would inconvenience her? You have a really weird standard for relationships
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i vomit kittens posted:AITA for not wanting to see a black therapist Yes you are being racist. Blade Runner posted:Let's be real, they banged I'd like to think OP didn't stick her cooch in crazy, but uh, she didn't have the best judgment by meeting her...
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quote:Someone said something to the effect of “oh Nicole, you’re looking so tan! We need to find you a cute Mexican boy”. y i k e s quote:Kay said “no Nicole, we will learn in Kindergarten to match colors!” Y I K E S
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DemoneeHo posted:WIBTA if I reported a coworker to HR after a (rejected) date leaves me feeling like I'm in the Twilight Zone? no. but you better get to hr first because shes gonna go in and cry that you were sexually harassing her by trying to date her and then when you try to make your complaint they are going to ignore everything and assume its a lovers spat or depending on how the culture of that poo poo hole is just blame you for being gay.
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Hey guess what, most of you guys ARE really misogynistic and the fact that it's a lot of you doesn't mean you're not all in the wrong on many scenarios presented.
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Pick posted:Hey guess what, most of you guys ARE really misogynistic and the fact that it's a lot of you doesn't mean you're not all in the wrong on many scenarios presented. like what
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for wanting my slashed tire paid for 11 years after it happened? christ, what an rear end in a top hat
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Pick posted:Hey guess what, most of you guys ARE really misogynistic and the fact that it's a lot of you doesn't mean you're not all in the wrong on many scenarios presented. Another cool opinion * throws it on the pile *
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Jun 27, 2019 17:24
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Maybe this thread needs a panel of judges, so we can really know who's the rear end in a top hat in each scenario.
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Dazerbeams posted:Maybe this thread needs a panel of judges, so we can really know who's the rear end in a top hat in each scenario. Shotgun on Kavanaugh so I get to be ripped all the time
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Got another tasty one for you. Any australians here? AITA for telling my University teacher she was being arrogant and presumptuous for being offended students addressed her by her first name? Potentially Important Context: I am from Australia, so American social norms don't apply here. In Australia, adults generally address each other by first name regardless of position. It is rare for adults to call each other "Mr/Mrs/Ms X" in any setting, and acting superior because you hold a higher position is perceived as arrogance here & is one of the quickest ways to get yourself mocked for being "an up your own rear end c*nt". I can't think of a single adult under the age of 60 that I know who has grown up in Australia and doesn't hate being called "Mr/s X" – and this includes professors. It is not our culture. I am a master’s student and one of my tutes this semester was being taken by a second year PHD student in the area. She is originally from Germany. Being masters students, we are all at least 22 years old. She would be 28-30, based on her year of graduation from high school on linked in. After two weeks, she blasted us at the beginning of the tute because we have been using her first name in Emails and class instead of "Professor X" even though as a PHD student, she is not a professor. She said "you all need to remember that as your professor, I am above you and should be treated accordingly". She never expressly said to call her "Professor X", she just assumed we would. I must have did the thing where I made a face out loud, because she called on me all: Teacher: Do you have a problem......(looks at my name paper on my desk) purple___tulips? Me: I just think you sounded really arrogant and presumptuous calling us rude. there. Teacher: Excuse me? Me: Firstly, you assumed the worst of us when it’s a cultural difference. Maybe Germany is different, but in Australia, it is not rude to use someone's first name. But you called us rude. And secondly, you said you are "above" us which is really arrogant IMO. We are all adults here. Before she could say anything, one of my classmates said: You're not even a loving professor haha, just a PHD student". Another jumped in with something like: "If you want your rear end kissed by grad students, go back to Germany and get called Frau or Professor [Last Name]. But we don't do that here. We don't like arrogant bitches who think they they are better than other people". A third classmate: "Even the loving Prime Minister answers to their first name in this country, it's how it is. If you don't like it, gently caress off back to Germany". I didn't disagree with them, which pissed her off. She then complained about us to the faculty, but thankfully the faculty threw it out with an informal warning to the other 2 for swearing, but they didn't seem annoyed giving the warning. It was a "we have to tell you this, but yeah, this lady is batshit, sorry" tone of apology. Now my grade are finalised and I don't have to fear her seeing this and getting retribution against me, I'm curious reddit: was I the rear end in a top hat for telling her she was being arrogant and presumptuous? And because I'm curious, my classmates? Assholes?
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Dibs on being Blake Shelton so I can provide nothing of value but keep cashing checks.
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People are entitled to request the use of titles they've earned. I refuse to believe this person actually said "I am above you."
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Power Khan posted:Got another tasty one for you. Any australians here? drat you, I was just about to post that one. The teacher could be super arrogant as all gently caress, but her students are still the assholes for their reactions. OP might be the least assholish of his peers, but he still made a face at her and he didn't speak up when his classmates were being super rude as hell.
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zakharov posted:People are entitled to request the use of titles they've earned. I refuse to believe this person actually said "I am above you."
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Leon Einstein posted:But she isn't a professor according to the story. Could it be a language issue? I don't know how titles work in German universities.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for saving screenshots of my sister’s bigoted comments? How on earth does this happen, how do you get one chilled out average sibling and then the other sibling is a ginormous prick
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I don't know anyone who referred to their lecturers by their titles at uni, either as an undergrad or during post. Maybe first years, but they're like little babies.
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Titles are quite the thing here in germanic countries. People would DEMAND that you adress them by their title when you got them on the phone. The more asinine the title, the worse the person.
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Megillah Gorilla posted:I don't know anyone who referred to their lecturers by their titles at uni, either as an undergrad or during post. It varies by person. I have seen female lecturers/professors in particular say that insisting on their title helps them be taken seriously in our sexist world.
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can confirm, I work for an Austrian company. occasionally you get some normal well adjusted folks and then there are the ones that expect you to stand up when they enter a room like some nobility
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I don't know how it is in other places, but once you get into the end of your master, you're on a first name basis, or generally, they'll adress you as "colleague" for most of your studies.
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Pick posted:Hey guess what, most of you guys ARE really misogynistic and the fact that it's a lot of you doesn't mean you're not all in the wrong on many scenarios presented. I'm confused on what you mean
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Power Khan posted:Got another tasty one for you. Any australians here? Don’t mock the people in charge of your grades and don’t snivel because you’re upset that an immigrant has different cultural values then you.
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zakharov posted:Could it be a language issue? I don't know how titles work in German universities. Exactly the same. You're not a Professor or a Doktor without having earned it, it's just Herr or Frau XYZ
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Not pissing off people that want to help you in the first place is generally a very good idea AITA for Watching My Co-Worker's Career Burn When I Could've Stopped It? I (30M) work using the end-products from my co-worker, let's call her Sammy. When she's unable to do her work, or gets it wrong, I end up being unable to do my work or at least unable to finish it completely because it's missing things from her. Now, I have the skills to just fill in the missing parts, for example, if she forgets to add an order for our client, I can just do it for her. However, she's relatively new to the job so I figure it's better to tell her she forgot something, and show her how to do it so she won't repeat the mistake later on. BIG MISTAKE The interaction is brief, like 5 seconds. This is the first time I've ever corrected her for anything. Me: Hey Sammy, when we get this request from our client, you have to add this order in. Sammy: Oh, right... I hand her the request, she fixes it, and gives it back to me later. No big deal. Later on, at lunch, my buddy tells me she's been talking poo poo behind my back. I figure that sucks, screw her then. Afterwards, she seems to be learning her job well and doesn't make many more errors. The PROBLEM IS she's still talking crap about me behind my back. I have different people telling me to: Leave her alone OR 2) People telling me she's talking crap behind my back. I go to her and ask if there's anything she wants to say to me. She says no, I ask if she's sure, she says yes, I say alright then. The poo poo-talking only intensifies, and apparently I'm harassing her at work now. Drama ensues, only a few people are sticking by me, which kinda makes me sad but at least now I know who I can depend on. Now comes the day when I see she makes a small mistake but could lead to a large inconvenience for our client. Nothing that would destroy lives but would delay our client's schedule and would make them very unhappy. This mistake went past her, her co-workers, her supervisor, and apparently nobody noticed the problem before it got to me. So... I send an e-mail to her supervisor about the issue, which is standard protocol but the supervisor is gone for the day and they should (but don't) bother reading their e-mails after they leave. The next day the client personally shows up and asks about this issue because he arrived in the morning and his people can't get to work because they were missing critical components for their operation. Our boss smooths things over, gives them a discount on the order, and promises to take care of it himself. The client is satisfied, and leaves with no fuss. Boss finds out Sammy was the one who made the initial error and fires her, everyone else gets warnings except the supervisor, who said she read my e-mail and was trying to fix the issue. Boss leaves, supervisor thanks me for catching the problem (she probably doesn't realize I could've fixed it myself since it's not actually my job to, and everyone else was too scared to say anything). AITA for Watching My Co-Worker's Career Burn When I Could've Stopped It?
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Power Khan posted:Not pissing off people that want to help you in the first place is generally a very good idea Never Giving assholes enough rope to hang themselves is corporate politics 101.
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HIJK posted:How on earth does this happen, how do you get one chilled out average sibling and then the other sibling is a ginormous prick It's more common then you would think, it actually happened with both my parents (they're the respective black sheep of their families for things like "not being racist" and "choosing not to commit crimes"). Your parents and siblings aren't the only ones raising you. A good hearted teacher, friends in school, Coworkers, all sorts of people in your life can end up raising you more then family in the end. Unfortunately it's just a matter of luck if you end up with good people....
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luxury handset posted:he specifically wants to leverage the ticket to have a date with a woman. quote:it's ok for him to want to date women and ask women on dates quote:i have friends who i don't want to gently caress but i also don't set up one-on-one dinners at nice restaurants or vacations to the beach or other romantic activities with those people, i go with them in groups to bars and stuff - friend activities, not date activities quote:honestly swallowing his rejection and going on the quasi-date while being upset and pining over the woman while he sleeps on the floor of their shared hotel room is creepier behavior than saying no thanks and asking someone else CountryMatters posted:Lol didn't you also think a guy was obligated to give his ex all the furniture he owned after they broke up because otherwise it would inconvenience her? You have a really weird standard for relationships Anne Whateley posted:I think the moving out is obviously normal and fine, but you do have to give a heads-up "hey movers are coming X day" "hey you won't have a bed to sleep in or a chair to sit on that night." I would be pissed if it was a big surprise. It also fucks her for the rent, there's a reason you have to give notice, and he'll still be liable for it, but she'll get evicted.
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Anne Whateley posted:Yes that very specific part, the vibe of "I want to get the most action I can for this ticket" is what I think is assholish It's not assholish to say "Well I kinda wanted to take a date to the concert instead of a friend" Concerts being a "friend" activity is massively ???
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Dude wanting to use tickets to score is not an rear end in a top hat move. He was up front that it would be a date and she said she just wanted to be friends. That's as honest an interaction that one can hope for these days. Dude trying to set up a scenario where lady is pressured into sleeping with him is an rear end in a top hat move. Can't really tell if he was ignorant or manipulative there though.
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Pick posted:Hey guess what, most of you guys ARE really misogynistic and the fact that it's a lot of you doesn't mean you're not all in the wrong on many scenarios presented.
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Blade Runner posted:Concerts being a "friend" activity is massively ??? if the sims has taught me anything, it's that you can maintain more friendships in group activities but if you want to build a romantic relationship then it's best to go one-on-one. also stay up the night before and sleep until one hour before your date so you can shower and dash out the door, for maximum energy
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