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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for outing my Alzheimers-diagnosed coworker to corporate, and making him lose his job? This poster: NTA. His boss? rear end in a top hat.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:11
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bell jar posted:This poster: NTA. His boss? rear end in a top hat.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:12
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for outing my Alzheimers-diagnosed coworker to corporate, and making him lose his job? I hope this man burns to death. Sure let's just throw this guy who's been employed here for years to the wolves.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:13
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I dunno, it's pretty lovely all around for the guy that now has a degenerative disease and no job. I'll be the contrarian to say that guy who blew the whistle is kind of an rear end in a top hat. It's possible the boss was doing a thing to keep him on so that he could jump at 60 and get a fraction of his benefits intact. Wonder if they could have transitioned him to a less customer facing job or something. Vvv goddamn man. FilthyImp fucked around with this message at 06:29 on Jul 1, 2019 |
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Jul 1, 2019 06:14
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It’s just as lovely to make all of your coworkers pick up your slack when you stubbornly refuse to admit you are no longer as capable as you once were. Getting old sucks but don’t spread the misery if you don’t have to.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:24
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Yeah, that's a lovely situation all around. The guy's clearly not able to do his current job properly anymore, but if he's been there that long and is (probably) riding out benefits/pension, his alleged "friend" the boss should have found a way to put him in a position he wouldn't have so much trouble with, or protected him in another way that wouldn't screw with the company or the other employees as much. OP isn't necessarily the rear end in a top hat for ratting out a guy that can't do his job and is causing tangible problems for everyone else, but now the guy has Alzheimer's, no job, possibly no insurance without COBRA, and is probably not hireable anywhere else given his condition.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:28
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Agreed. Manager should have transitioned the guy into a more insulated position. Although that would have hinged on the Alzheimer’s guy willingness to step away from his current role. Either way, OP was making sure his own job didn’t get any worse since no one else was going to do it.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:36
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Haifisch posted:OP was on a bus chatting with friends. A
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Jul 1, 2019 06:37
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Getting a guy with a crippling illness fired and goons say you're not an rear end in a top hat. Amazing.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:43
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Smirking_Serpent posted:[b]Soon afterwards, he ended up being terminated (I assume with benefits and a severance package, considering the situation). Why on earth would you assume that?
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Jul 1, 2019 06:47
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9/10 chance the dude was still working to keep his healthcare too.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:48
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WarEternal posted:Getting a guy with a crippling illness fired and goons say you're not an rear end in a top hat. Amazing. I understand the whole "my job sucks more and this guy sucks too" thing. But the dude is literally losing pieces of himself/his life and we don't have a humane healthcare system in the U.S. so it's an extremely lovely thing to put someone through.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:50
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I think he’s the rear end in a top hat. If nothing else, being willing to get someone fired because of some extra customer complaints is side-eye worthy. He seems really vague about what other impact this is having on his duties.
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Jul 1, 2019 06:56
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quote:A few years ago, I interviewed for a lower-level management position with an education-based nonprofit. The meeting took place in a crowded Panera. During the interview, my interviewers pretended to be rowdy children, and I was supposed to “manage” them. I do understand the value of these exercises as a demonstration of certain skill sets, but was pretty appalled at having to do them with an entire restaurant staring at me – the people who would be my supervisors were literally running indoors and throwing things at each other. I felt stupid and did pretty poorly, and ultimately didn’t get the position.
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Jul 1, 2019 07:20
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Okay but I’ve never understood companies that conduct interviews in Panera and Starbucks but I see it all the time. Do they not have offices?
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Jul 1, 2019 07:28
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Maybe they just want to leave the office for a while A short respite from the dread
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Jul 1, 2019 07:44
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MasBrillante posted:Okay but I’ve never understood companies that conduct interviews in Panera and Starbucks but I see it all the time. Do they not have offices? I think it idea behind it is trying to tone down the interview and make things more comfortable and less stuffy. I’ve conducted interviews in offices before and I can see the idea behind breaking that up a bit.
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Jul 1, 2019 07:44
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The idea is to get the person in a high stress.environment and see their reactions. The field trip to breadland aspect is just a plus.
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Jul 1, 2019 07:51
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MasBrillante posted:Okay but I’ve never understood companies that conduct interviews in Panera and Starbucks but I see it all the time. Do they not have offices? They could be like my first gig where interviews were done offsite so nobody knew how dysfunctional and poo poo the working environment was
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Jul 1, 2019 07:55
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AITA for telling my parents that I (M, 31, married) won't be responding to their daily "good morning"/"good night" texts anymore? My wife and I are in couples therapy to address boundaries with my parents considering that their behavior is often intrusive and clingy. They have made a habit of texting good morning and good night in our family group chat every day ever since I left the house at 24. I'm now 31, and at the suggestion of our therapist and my wife, I've started responding fewer and fewer "good nights/mornings." Needless to say, they haven't been taking it well and are upset that I'm communicating less with them over text. They say they worry about me, and just want to know that I'm ok since we live pretty far from each other. AITA for telling them firmly that I will not be sending them good morning/good night every day anymore? I'll want to text with them every now and then, maybe a few times a week, or whenever something important happens. Just stopping the regular, twice a day check-ins.
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Jul 1, 2019 07:56
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AITA for wanting to leave my girlfriend at the ER to go to my nieces birthday party for a few minutes? We went into the ER this morning for some pain shes been having. So 3 hours and some tests later we find out its an infection and they want to start her on some IV antibiotics. Well its not that huge of a deal in my eyes. My sister and her kids are here from out of state and my nieces birthday party is going on right now 5 minutes down the road. I wanted to go just for presents and cake cutting while she gets her antibiotics and waits for her discharge over the next hour or so and come back. Theyre only here for a couple weeks and I see them twice a year at most. She will not let me leave or shes going to "pull the IV out and walk out", she doesnt want to or cant be alone she says. AITA or no? Edit: She got discharged in time for us to make it to the birthday party (it was at our house) so it all worked out. The IV antibiotics took under 5 minutes and we were on our way. Thanks for the input all. It's hard for me to gauge situations like that. I was getting pressure from both sides and I wasn't sure what to do. All is good now though
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Jul 1, 2019 07:56
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when i have a cold i expect my boyfriend to wait at my bedside for the duration of the illness, weeping and dressed all in black in case i don't make it
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Jul 1, 2019 07:59
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nankeen posted:when i have a cold i expect my boyfriend to wait at my bedside for the duration of the illness, weeping and dressed all in black in case i don't make it That’s totally the same thing as leaving someone at the ER. Yes he’s the rear end in a top hat. JFC it’s not that hard to stay with someone while they are in the hospital.
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Jul 1, 2019 08:08
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MarcusSA posted:That’s totally the same thing as leaving someone at the ER. It’s for a child’s birthday and she is being manipulatively melodramatic. She should be sleeping anyway and he wants to go up the street for a few minutes to celebrate a child. It doesn’t sound like a life threatening or even particularly miserable situation. Just a normal case of the human body being a little fragile.
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Jul 1, 2019 08:12
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MarcusSA posted:That’s totally the same thing as leaving someone at the ER.
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Jul 1, 2019 08:15
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AITA for not wanting to pay for a vacation where I spent almost all of my time helping my friend recover from her butt enhancement surgery? Since this is a very specific situation, I’m using a throwaway for privacy reasons. Note - My friend has now said that although she is “extremely disappointed” in my actions, she’s going to drop the money issue. So it’s not like I’m being sued or anything. I’m just posting to see if I am in the wrong with how I handled things. My friend recently got this butt procedure done in Mexico for cosmetic reasons. I personally thought it was a little unnecessary but I try to be a good friend and support her regardless. She ended up inviting me to come stay at a hotel with her for a week while she recovered. Then we would fly home together. I am a teacher and have summers off so I agreed to do it. There was no mention of money. (Because my husband happens for an airline, I hardly ever pay for flights, so the plane tickets were covered). I get there and the hotel suite my friend rented is beautiful. I have my own room and everything. But my friend was in no position to do much of anything. I had to basically play nurse as she couldn’t even use the restroom on her own. Whenever I got a chance, I would try to eat out and go swimming or explore, but since my friend needed me, my time was limited. I managed to squeeze in one hike and that’s it. Obviously, it was not exactly a traditional vacation for the reasons I’ve outlined. On our last day there, my friend asked me when I thought I could “pay her back” for half the cost of the suite. I’m like uhhhh excuse me?? Why would I pay you to play mommy/nurse for seven days?? She was pissed and we got into a big argument which obviously ruined the end of the trip. My husband thinks it’s insane that she would ask me to pay her anything. However, a mutual friend of ours is on the side of the friend who had surgery. So I’m starting to doubt myself. Am I somehow wrong to expect that she’d cover the cost of the hotel under these circumstances? I mean, would you ask a friend to pay who spent time taking care of you?
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Jul 1, 2019 08:17
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:I think leaving someone at the ER is fine if it's not a life or death emergency, but only if they're comfortable. For some people waiting around for an IV of antibiotics is not a big deal, so there was nothing wrong with asking, but if he had left after she made it clear it was a big deal to her he would have been the rear end in a top hat. Telling someone you’re going to refuse treatment unless they stay with you is hosed up.
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Jul 1, 2019 08:20
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TBH I've found it helpful to never, ever trust men to correctly evaluate the seriousness of women's health issues, so I'm incredibly leery of his 'it was just an infection (that caused some undefined amount of pain for some undefined amount of time), and I decided that it was no big deal (based on next to no medical information), why is she acting so irrational and crazy about this?' Like even assuming the doctors literally said 'this is no big deal, we'll just pump some antibiotics in you and you'll be fine', his girlfriend still has a totally valid reason to be stressed and anxious and to want some emotional support, because plenty of doctors are absolute garbage at treating women (especially if pain is the major symptom) and women are generally very acutely aware of this.
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Jul 1, 2019 08:39
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MasBrillante posted:Telling someone you’re going to refuse treatment unless they stay with you is hosed up.
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Jul 1, 2019 09:03
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Leaving your partner in the ER / Hospital by them selves is kinda hosed up no matter how serious you might think it is. Like people don’t just go to the ER for shits and giggles (well most people anyway) so if something brought you there just be a good partner and hang out with them for Christs sakes. Also lol it was a child’s birthday (not his child’s). Sorry but even if it “wasn’t serious” staying is always the right choice. I know this exact same thing has come up before in the thread and there are always people who say that its NBD to just ditch your partner and go gently caress off and do whatever else. Being in the hospital sucks and being there alone sucks worse.
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Jul 1, 2019 09:06
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therobit posted:9/10 chance the dude was still working to keep his healthcare too. I feel like that's 10/10, I know shitloads of old people who already have resignation letters typed up for the day they're eligible for medicare
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Jul 1, 2019 09:06
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HazCat posted:TBH I've found it helpful to never, ever trust men to correctly evaluate the seriousness of women's health issues, so I'm incredibly leery of his 'it was just an infection (that caused some undefined amount of pain for some undefined amount of time), and I decided that it was no big deal (based on next to no medical information), why is she acting so irrational and crazy about this?' Well, a lot of men end up dying by never going to the doctor and getting problems checked out. Men are statistically poo poo at evaluating the seriousness of their own health issues, let alone those of others. Just suck it up, Nancy-boy!
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Jul 1, 2019 10:12
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Pvt.Scott posted:Well, a lot of men end up dying by never going to the doctor and getting problems checked out. Men are statistically poo poo at evaluating the seriousness of their own health issues, let alone those of others. Just suck it up, Nancy-boy! I use this fact to justify my hypochondria.
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Jul 1, 2019 10:15
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Yeah it’s lovely to leave someone in the hospital but also it’s lovely to demand someone wait with you while you get your IV antibiotics for your kidney infection or whatever when they have family obligations. Like I know this thread hates men and families but I’ve been in this situation and did not make my boyfriend stay with me for my multi-hour hospital endeavour. Bring your phone and play candy crush or read somethingawful and be a little bit self reliant, gently caress this helpless damsel “I’ll kill myself if you leave!” routine.
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Jul 1, 2019 10:34
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Switchback posted:Yeah it’s lovely to leave someone in the hospital but also it’s lovely to demand someone wait with you while you get your IV antibiotics for your kidney infection or whatever when they have family obligations. If your family would prefer you leave someone alone at the ER to attend a party, your family are the assholes. Any decent person would understand you skipping the birthday party when you say the phrase “sorry but my girlfriend is in the ER right now; we’ll come if/when this gets sorted out”. Hell, if I showed up at the party and told them that I left my SO at the ER alone to be there at the party, I’m 100% sure my family members would be a horrified “why the gently caress are you here? get the hell back to the ER now, dumbass”.
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Jul 1, 2019 11:38
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Can we talk about the butt enhancement surgery post instead? I'm impressed by the unmitigated gall of flying someone down to Mexico to play nurse for you for a week, then demanding they reimburse you for the "vacation."
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Jul 1, 2019 11:49
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UPDATE to I (24 F) just found out my husband (34 M) is paying for an apartment that I know nothing about.quote:I thought it was about time I wrote an update. Thank you to every one who has reached out to me.
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Jul 1, 2019 12:29
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Jul 1, 2019 12:32
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A cop exploiting a sex worker, beating his wife, and making everything worse getting fired sounds like jealousy from underperforming coworkers
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My boyfriend talks in his sleep about other women, and calls me by other names when he’s awakequote:I could really use some advice about something that’s going on in my relationship. I have been together with my boyfriend for 1,5 years now, we live together and we are both very happy in our relationship. I [22M] Often talk in my sleep about loving my ex and wanting to cheat on my gf, though i really really don't want to.. quote:Some background: Both posted 14 hours ago lol
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