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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for having not inviting an autistic family friend to my "real" graduation party? Hard to go one way or the other but probably NTA if the person really does have these issues. Maybe invite the person and someone else who can be with him to make sure he’s ok? The OP shouldn’t have to watch over the person the whole time.
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MarcusSA posted:I’d also like to point out that the dude isn’t even Muslim which kinda makes his behavior worse because he’s never actually had to deal with the actual poo poo Muslims deal with on a daily basis. He had this one instance and decided to go all in with being a dumbass. He's from a majority muslim country and looks like it. I assure you he deals with plenty odd the bullshit you are thinking about when you think of bullshit that muslims have to put up with. I have some Persian relatives and the young men all either have to shave off their beards or deal with being detained and questioned for hours at the airport on a pretty regular basis.
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Xik posted:"I have had a bunch of odd requests, some have asked me to spit in the water, pee in it and requested the water to come off my body and drip into the bottle from.. certain areas," she adds. "Honestly with the kind of messages that I get daily these requests don’t weird me out anymore." I wonder which obese male relative's bathwater she's actually sending to those clowns.
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Fallom posted:Not related to any recent post here but from casual browsing the number of people recommending “have you considered opening your relationship?” on Reddit is seriously loving bizarre
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Jul 6, 2019 04:39
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Dixie Cretin Seaman posted:I wonder which obese male relative's bathwater she's actually sending to those clowns. “Fresh Pussy Water” *dips protesting cat in tub*
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Jul 6, 2019 04:42
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AITA for changing my "unique" name without telling my parents?quote:So about a year ago I made the decision to change my name. I ran this by pretty much no one and only my close friends, employers. And coworkers were even informed afterward. I decided to not tell my parents for multiple reasons.
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Haifisch posted:AITA for changing my "unique" name without telling my parents?
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Jul 6, 2019 04:49
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Haifisch posted:AITA for changing my "unique" name without telling my parents? Must feel great to find out your family considered you more of a fashion accessory than a kid.
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Jul 6, 2019 04:55
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revmoo posted:Everyone I disagree with is a racist Hopefully
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MarcusSA posted:Hard to go one way or the other but probably NTA if the person really does have these issues. Maybe invite the person and someone else who can be with him to make sure he’s ok? The OP shouldn’t have to watch over the person the whole time. Like from my perspective I'd appreciate a friend straight up going 'hey I didn't invite you to this thing because it'd be hellish for you, not because we're not friends', but we don't even know if OP's friend is upset.
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AITA For buying my son a smoothie maker.quote:My son (6) won an award in school for being really good at maths and I wanted to encourage him so I decided to give him £10. When I asked him what he was going to spend it on he said he wanted to save up and buy a smoothie maker. I decided that no 6yo should have to save up to buy a piece of kitchen equipment so I went out and bought him one anyway. Firstly it will encourage him to eat more fruit and secondly, it was only £40. My partner told my mother about this and she called me an idiot and I should be spending my money on paying off bank debts instead. She thinks I should have waited until his birthday and given it to him then (birthday is two months away). He was delighted with the smoothie maker at first but the novelty wore off very quickly so I’m glad it wasn’t a wasted birthday present. I will use the smoothie maker and he still got the reward he wanted for being a good boy. Is my mother right or am I actually the arsehole?
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Jul 6, 2019 05:17
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i love it when we get british ones because i mentally read them in a v cockney accent but no lady, your mom is an rear end in a top hat
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Haifisch posted:AITA For buying my son a smoothie maker. What? Like huh? Tell your mom to relax or something.
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Jul 6, 2019 05:24
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WIBTA if I didn't apologize to my employee for snapping at her? My team is me (M mid 50s), my assistant (F mid 40s), and 3 others (25F, 26M and 29M). We've worked together for 4 years. Let me say that I'm a good boss. A non-exhaustive list: The kids have an amount of work to do by a deadline. They can come in/leave when they want. We all chipped in for some couches and video games in the main room. If anyone were to have a baby they would get 4 months of paid leave. We have the highest productivity and highest employee satisfaction in the company Most days nobody leaves before 5. The employees hang out when they're done with work or wait for me/my assistant and we'll for drinks with our spouses (my assistant and I are married, to different people) I host a weekly barbecue with my 16 yo daughter and my assistant's 13 and 12 yo kids as well. The employees have jokingly referred to us as Mom and Dad. It's an exceedingly well functioning work environment. They come to me for advice and we joke around. I care about my employees on an individual level and would help them out any way that I could. I'm overall an excellent boss. That brings us to this past week. I'm already in a bad mood because my daughter has been going through a MAJOR rebellious phase after we told her she was adopted and has been a disrespectful nightmare. We're giving her a long leash and going to therapy but it's stressful and I would like work to be not so. On Tuesday, one of the employees (let's call her Anna, 25F) wanted me to sign over some documents. I told her I'd do it when I had time as I was feeling on edge with my wife texting me after dealing with my teenager throwing a fit over something small when she was home from school. Anna said "Oh, come on Bob, don't be an rear end in a top hat. As if you have better things to do." That is completely unacceptable, I'm already dealing with my kid being disrespectful and I don't need it from my employees. I told her to watch herself, that I'm not her friend or her father that she can speak to me like that, I'm her boss. I said if she speaks to me like that again she's fired. It's worth noting that I said this calmly and did not yell. She apologized and looked upset which made me feel bad. She also had red eyes later in the day. The other two were giving me looks all day and my assistant said there was no need to be mean. Anna and the others have been subdued all week. My wife says that I unnecessarily took my anger out on Anna. I say that I didn't respond in any way that would be unreasonable from any other boss being called an rear end in a top hat by his employee, and why should I be treated any less respectfully? I do feel bad but don't want to demean myself. So, Reddit, WIBTA if I let this situation fizzle out without apologizing for appropriately reprimanding my employee? TL;DR: snapped at my employee. My wife wants me to apologize. Update: Alright guys, I get it, I'm the rear end in a top hat and shouldn't have said anything about firing anyone. You're also all right in that we have a friendly, joking atmosphere and I flipped my lid for no reason because I was feeling trod on at home and at work. I didn't want to admit I was wrong because apologizing takes a hit out of my ego- it's a character flaw that I need to work on.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I didn't apologize to my employee for snapping at her? Well this one solved itself.
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It is good for Anna to learn that her employers aren’t her friends or fake parents even if they enjoy playing the role when it’s fun. Edit: OP is an rear end in a top hat.
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Haifisch posted:AITA for changing my "unique" name without telling my parents? NTA. He should also look into a getting a new last name for a proper 
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MarcusSA posted:I’d also like to point out that the dude isn’t even Muslim which kinda makes his behavior worse because he’s never actually had to deal with the actual poo poo Muslims deal with on a daily basis. He had this one instance and decided to go all in with being a dumbass. hi there stable genius MarcusSA, the story was instigated by someone watching the OP intently for having the appearance of a traditional practicing muslim and it's fine to want to flip the script in that kind of situation take any of the sikh men who have been gunned down by anti-muslim white nationalists, does the fact that they weren't muslim make any difference at all to how they've been treated? obviously not. the white person is a racist either way
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QuarkJets posted:the white person is a racist either way That was never in question. It’s still not ok to reenforce negative stereotypes which is what the OP did and what makes him wrong.
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quote:I'm already in a bad mood because my daughter has been going through a MAJOR rebellious phase after we told her she was adopted and has been a disrespectful nightmare. What the hell did these idiots expect? Why would you hide something like this and then drop it on your child at one of the most volatile times possible? I'm of the opinion that adopted children should know the truth from the beginning anyway, but lying for years and then dumping it on them in the middle of adolescence is an extra special kind of selfish and stupid.
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Am I wrong for not wanting to indulge me BF’s kink? My boyfriend (24) and I (24) have been dating for about 5 years, since our freshman year of college. We have never lived together and since we’ve graduated I’ve moved back in with my parents and he moved into an apartment with a roommate a few towns over. Our relationship has always been very strong physically, we share many kinks and I would say up until now we’ve never had a conflict in that department. Financially, we’ve always split dates and vacations 70/30, this is due to me fudging numbers so I end up paying more than him. I know i come from a position of having more of a safety net than him and work quite a bit more through undergrad so I really didn’t/don’t mind. But he has no idea I’ve been doing this for the past few years. I just want us both to be able to enjoy some nice things together without him feeling guilty about me paying a bit more for it, he really deserves it and i’m happy to pay for him to enjoy these things with me. Since graduating he’s moved out to an apartment with a friend-along with rent, groceries, and utilities he also is responsible for paying a significant amount in student loans back each month. I have moved back in with my parents and have already covered the cost of my education. Recently, he’s asked if I could indulge his findom kink. For those of you who don’t know, findom is a sexual desire to be exploited financially. Ideally this would entail me demeaning him and demanding money for luxuries and personal needs on his dime. Though that type of behavior is nowhere in my personality I do partake in some kinks that aren’t typical of my normal behavior so I guess it’s sorta the same thing? He isn’t living paycheck to paycheck but I am uncomfortable with the idea of him spending the little extra spending money he has on me in this capacity. Would it be patronizing to tell him as much? I spoke to a friend about it and she said I am pitying him and he can spend that money as he wishes but i don’t know, i don’t pity him, i just feel this kink is not one we should explore until he’s in a more stable position. tl;dr Boyfriend is tight on funds and wants me to indulge his findom kink. I am uncomfortable with that. How do I proceed?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Am I wrong for not wanting to indulge me BF’s kink? Can't ya'll just use monopoly money? People that wanna gently caress/be foxes don't use actual fur for their buttplug tails. Just do a pretend.
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Telemaze posted:What the hell did these idiots expect? Why would you hide something like this and then drop it on your child at one of the most volatile times possible? Yeah, that's the special buried lede of that garbage-dick story. The middle-aged boss who tries to be the Cool Dad to his younger employees also being a literal dad who didn't tell his daughter she was adopted until adolescence and seems confused and frustrated that she's acting out? goddamn, reddit, too good
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MarcusSA posted:That was never in question. After he noticed that he was catching stares, he began: - Checking his watch - Reading from a book - Silently praying Which of these things reinforced a negative stereotype?
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QuarkJets posted:After he noticed that he was catching stares, he began: 🙄 he knew exactly what he was doing and even says as much in the story. quote:I felt like having a little fun, so I decided, since nothing bad is going to happen like he thinks, I'll mess with him. I opened up a small book through my backpack and acted like I'm praying in Arabic and poo poo. I took deep breaths sometimes, like I'm readying myself up for some kamikaze mission. I looked at my watch many times like I'm waiting for something. None of this is ok and it’s quite frankly offensive to Muslims. But it’s ok because the white person was racist. It’s cool though let’s keep setting back cultural acceptance.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Am I wrong for not wanting to indulge me BF’s kink?
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therobit posted:Yes you creep, you would be the rear end in a top hat for reporting innocent child pictures as CP. Id thou look away pool pictures of a kid and think there is or could be anything sexual about it then you are a creep. ....Did you read their edit at the end? It seemed like they were a child victim themselves and that's why they were so upset
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Fallom posted:Not related to any recent post here but from casual browsing the number of people recommending “have you considered opening your relationship?” on Reddit is seriously loving bizarre a man falls through the earth and into parisian catacombs. taking a torch from the wall he spies row upon row of skeletons. grasping the nearest by the shoulders, he shakes it madly, yelling "my nigga have u tried opening your relationship"
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Miserable Maid posted:....Did you read their edit at the end? It seemed like they were a child victim themselves and that's why they were so upset Doesn't matter even a little bit. They are reinforcing the sexualization of children with their gross interpretation of innocent photographs.
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MarcusSA posted:That was never in question. It bbn would be reinforcing negative stereotypes if he blew up the plane. Since he didn't blow up the plane he was dispelling negative stereotypes. HTH.
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MarcusSA posted:That was never in question. The negative stereotypes of uh.. *checks notes* praying. None of what he did was any of anyone's business, Muslim, racist or others. If I'm muttering poo poo to myself you don't get a say about the content, and if that frightens you that's on your dumb rear end. e: I'll deffo agree that there are smarter ways to risk being detained. Nastyman fucked around with this message at 08:55 on Jul 6, 2019 |
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Rust Martialis posted:a man falls through the earth and into parisian catacombs. taking a torch from the wall he spies row upon row of skeletons. grasping the nearest by the shoulders, he shakes it madly, yelling "my nigga have u tried opening your relationship" Leave it to the French.
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therobit posted:Doesn't matter even a little bit. They are reinforcing the sexualization of children with their gross interpretation of innocent photographs. It’s not that OP is sexualizing children, it’s that they are aware creeps exist that do. I would never put naked pictures of my kid on the internet. I’m not ok with her being in some trove of spank material for pedophiles, regardless of whether she’s ever actually victimised because of it. You can keep those pictures in a family photo album without posting them to Facebook.
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Switchback posted:It’s not that OP is sexualizing children, it’s that they are aware creeps exist that do. I would never put naked pictures of my kid on the internet. I’m not ok with her being in some trove of spank material for pedophiles, regardless of whether she’s ever actually victimised because of it. The post is totally focused on the child's age and attire. For a 5 year old. It's creepy.
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i vomit kittens posted:deep whats the deal with the 911 shirt. i thought big dog was a christian organization
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christmas boots posted:whats the deal with the 911 shirt. i thought big dog was a christian organization It's a bootleg, https://twitter.com/bigdogclub/status/1039694981559070720?lang=en
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:Ironically, indulging him would be preventing him from spending his money as he wishes. His precarious financial position is why it would be wrong not to indulge. You can take the money and spend it back on him responsibly, otherwise he'll spend it on findom internet women and be even worse off. I’m on a fixed income and I hope I can find a findom who will force me to properly budget. What’s Pick been up to? I’m sure she knows her way around finances and her weird spider fingers have to be good for filling out spreadsheets.
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A lot about weddings makes sense considering that basically the Western idea of a wedding was invented by a specific English royal wedding and every one since then has been an attempt to live up to that ideal, avoiding as many deviations as possible regardless of the requirements. That said apparently China has something similar where it's trendy for the bride and bridesmaids to spend days crying before the wedding because one queen did before being married to the Emperor one time or something, so.
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What about crying after the wedding? Asking for a friend.
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