Best Bi Geek Squid posted:

i dated a girl for a while who had blonde hair and a particular haircut. we also had a very good sex life and liked (very tame) bdsm stuff. I had never really given that a shot but found it hot that she was into me being dominant etc.

after we broke up, i would not-infrequently see women with similar hair cuts in public. I would be attracted to them, but then realize that they were all older women. then, one day, the following thoughts hit me in rapid succession:

1. oh, it's an older lady haircut
2. my mom has that haircut
3. my mom had blonde hair too
4. well I couldn't have been attracted to that girl just because she looked like my mom. In fact, a big part of our sexual attraction came because i enjoyed domina...

5. oh no

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Example, his top name picks include Ranger, Ryder, Flash, Sixx, Baratheon, Ender, Trapper...yeah. YEAH. TELL ME I'M THE CRAZY ONE. And as if those are frightening enough, he wants to loving pair them up. Imagine my poor son living his life named Sixx Baratheon [surname].

Play posted:

This is pretty drat old-fashioned. Any school, doctor visit, and field trip is going to have a record of who the parents are or won't really care so long as the child goes willingly. That's a very bad reason for a woman to always have to take a man's name. Source: my nuclear family has 5 last names

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for renting my Airbnb house just days before my sister planned to stay there? It was part of our agreement but she says because of the timing, I'm a major rear end in a top hat.

I guess where to start. This is a throwaway because I'm very active on the Airbnb sub and I don't want people to misconstrue that this is somehow a backdoor advertisement for my place.

I'm 23, about 5 years ago I got a really nice inheritance from grandmother after years and years of probate. I am madly in love with this little ski town in Northern New Mexico so I went and bought a condo there. I use it whenever I can but to make it feasible I also put it on Airbnb. It doesn't really make me any money but I figure I'm allowing other people to pay my equity and plus I have an awesome place I can use whenever I want.

I try to be generous with my family regarding the condo, but after years of it being on the Airbnb market I finally had to tell people that I can't accept long term "free" reservations. It just happened too many times where all my friends and family would reserve big holidays or whatever months in advance and then not only would I miss out on the income from those big events, a few times they didn't even show or arrived late or left early. (To illustrate how big a deal this is, I make 80% of my yearly income payment over about 25 days of holidays...it's a huge deal to miss out on that income).

My sister and I are sisters for sure but we don't really get along that well. It's even more exacerbated because she blew through all of her inheritance in about two years and really doesn't have much to show for it. So my house is a major thorn in her side. In April she asked me if she could "reserve" my condo for 4th of July week. I told her I couldn't block it out on my Airbnb calendar but as long as no one rented it, she could use it. I even looked through my texts and I even told her when we were talking about this "please understand that if someone rents it last minute, I have to be able to get the income." She agreed to that.

I thought it would be a non-issue because the place always rents well in advance for 4th of July but this year it didn't. She was supposed to drive up Saturday the 29th. On Friday the 28th I got a rental request for not only 4th of July week (at the premium price) they wanted to stay on through middle of September. This is thousands of dollars which will help me install a new hot water heater.

I told my sister that I was sorry but the place rented last minute so I had to let it go to the paying customer. Well all hell broke loose. She screamed her head off at me saying that she had made non refundable rafting reservations, made special arrangements with her ex to get the kids that week and soured her relationship with her boss for extra vacation time.

I told her I was really sorry but that had been part of our agreement. She said I was a stupid bitch and our agreement meant that last minute meant like week prior, not the day prior. I hung up on her because I don't need to be called names. But then I got many calls from my other siblings and mom saying that I was really screwing my sister over.

Was I the rear end in a top hat?

cumshitter posted:

Naturally with great power comes great responsibility. One time, I was envisioning the penii of our interns when I realized one of them was developing the beginnings of testicular cancer. Obviously I couldn't reveal my powers to him. So I led the office in a male health seminar, stressing the importance of regular self-examination.

I monitored it and the cancer continued to grow. So my husband and I pulled some strings and had an elaborate corporate party complete with a band. We encouraged the afflicted intern to body surf the crowd, which gave us both a socially acceptable way to gently fondle his balls and later reveal his diagnosis to him in private.

Xaris posted:

i'm pretty sure airbnb does let you block out dates, and asking back in april seems like a reasonable heads-up. so yta, she could have done that back then.

but her sister is definitely also an entitled rear end in a top hat cheapskate that could have rented it and come to an agreement to pay half or something. its genuinely amazing how family/partner money makes everyone so god drat stupid.

nankeen posted:

this kid's going to end up marrying fiasco

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My boyfriend is an extremely successful professional. He’s kind and humble, definitely has a nice body, etc. He’s well adjusted in literally everything else bar diet.

We’ve been together 3 years and in that time all I’ve noticed this guy will eat is goddamn pizza. Most days he’ll go to one of those cheap halal places and buy a small pizza, cut it up and toss it into a salad.

Family gatherings, he’ll go straight for the pizza. Dinner time, pizza. We go to 5 guys, he’ll get a freaking grilled cheese with a side of pickles. Date night. Fancy pizza places. He will not stray.

I’ve spoke to him about it and he just shrugs and says its what he prefers. I’ve told him how upsetting it is for my boyfriend and I to want to experience interesting cuisine together but I can’t do that because all he’ll eat when we are out is pizza. I’ve asked him if it’s a comfort thing or if he thinks he has an eating disorder, but he just swears up and down he actually just likes and prefers pizza. I’ve asked him to be more adventurous and he says he will but never actually does.

His birthday was last week and I was just so at my wits end and sick of goddamn pizza that I organized dinner at a Japanese place which my parents love and his parents love. We went and he was genuinely so upset that there was no pizza he just drank cocktails all night and didn’t eat at all. He was a good sport and engaging to everybody but I felt awful that he didn’t eat.

When we were on our way home he thanked me but said he was really sad that he didn’t get to eat his favorite food.

I’m in 2 minds about whether or not I’m the rear end in a top hat here, because I feel bad he didn’t get to eat at his own birthday dinner but at the same time, I’ve never seen him eat anything else other than pizza and that’s god’s honest truth.

EDIT: I’ve apologized to my lovely boyfriend and he’s readily and happily accepted it. He acknowledged why I did it and told me he understands its frustrating.

Haifisch posted:

AITA for hosting my bf’s birthday meal somewhere that didn’t serve pizza because that’s ALL he eats?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA For charging 3,000$ for her to get her dog back?

So here's the situation: I love dogs. So much so that my entire career at this point is dog related. Part time at a pet store with dog grooming, part time at an abused/unadoptable pet sanctuary, volunteering at animal shelters on my days off and squeezing in dog sitting jobs in the tiniest bit of free time I have left over. Make no mistake, I love me a good puppo- despite not having one of my own because I'm still living with my parents.

So recently my mom's friend (We'll call her Lauren) asked me to look after her little chihuahua, Bonnie for the weekend, and I agreed. Thing is, that was five months ago. After the weekend was up I couldn't get ahold of Lauren. In fact, no one could. I tracked down the Lauren's daughter who explained to me that her mom had Munchausen Syndrome and had been hopping hospitals trying to get a doctor to agree with her. What's worse, is that Bonnie wasn't Lauren's only dog. Lauren had left Bonnie's blind and deaf big brother Wilson in the yard of condemned house where he died of neglect and exposure three months ago, after the person Lauren asked to keep an eye on him stopped being able to come by to feed him.

Last week Lauren finally called me to say she was coming to pick Bonnie up on the 26th. Thing is, my family and I have fallen in love with this goofy little dog, and I don't want to give her up without knowing she's going to a good place. After some thought, I told Lauren that I'd be happy to give her dog back if she could:

-Prove to me that she has a secured place of residence (that isn't her condemned house)

-Prove to me that she has an income and

-Pay me back for all the days of dog sitting, vet fees, and costs of the supplies I needed to take care of Bonnie.

That last bit is where this goes from 'I'm obviously not the rear end in a top hat' to 'maybe I am?'

See, I charge on the lower end for dog sitting. About 15$ for a half an hour visit and 20$ for overnight. As of last week Bonnie has been with me for 111 days at overnight charges. That's a starting cost of 2,220$, a 500$ vet bill from when I had to get some of Bonnie's teeth pulled, and another 250$ of just general pet supplies like food, treats, poop bags ect. All together it'll be over 3,000$ by the 26th when she claims she'll come and get her dog.

When I told Lauren this she burst out in tears. Explaining to me that she needed Bonnie now that Wilson was gone. That the dog was her life, but she couldn't afford my fees. I don't doubt that Lauren loves this dog, and she's obviously not mentally well and could use a companion to keep her grounded. But at the same time I don't know how much I can trust a woman who just dumped her dogs on two unsuspecting people without a word for months on end, and had one of them die of neglect because of it.

So let me have it reddit, aita for not giving this woman's dog back until she pays me the 3 grand? Let me know if I'm being unreasonable here.

Haifisch posted:

AITA for hosting my bf’s birthday meal somewhere that didn’t serve pizza because that’s ALL he eats?

Dazerbeams posted:

Don't date

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My mother (52/F) found and read the eulogy I (19/M) wrote for her.

quote:

I certainly can't lie and say it was for some short story or something ; it mentions personal details about her and her death.

JonathonSpectre posted:

This sort of poo poo drives me crazy. Both that the guy is such a child and the girl was such an rear end in a top hat that she deliberately went to someplace she knew he wouldn't like the food. Maybe your encounter therapy could have waited to a non-birthday day.

Antivehicular posted:

I'm trying to figure out "buy a pizza, chop it up, and sprinkle it on salad." Why not just... eat a slice of pizza and a side salad?

Haifisch posted:

AITA for hosting my bf’s birthday meal somewhere that didn’t serve pizza because that’s ALL he eats?

"Smirking_Serpent" posted:

I feel like the key to success in our country is moderation 🤷🏼‍♀️

Leon Einstein posted:

What is the moderate view regarding putting kids in cages?

Dewgy posted:

It's not weird when someone who isn't a prick deals with it, he just sounds like a prick.

Haifisch posted:

AITA for hosting my bf’s birthday meal somewhere that didn’t serve pizza because that’s ALL he eats?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Politically different views in a relationship, can it work?

My SO (35M) and I (29F) have differing political views. I am moderate but he is essentially on a “far” side. We have been together for almost 3 years. It seems like we can’t have a political discussion without me getting upset because I feel he railroads over any argument I make and that he won’t concede any points whatsoever. Even though I agree with him on some things, anything I feel strongly about he disagrees with. We have worked on fighting more fair throughout our relationship but it seems like politics is the one place that we can’t,

We are long distance so we haven’t spent much time with each other’s friend groups, but at this point I’m concerned/anxious about any political discussion that comes up. I also hate talking about politics with him because of how I feel. He says all the time that I can’t convince him of anything and he won’t change his mind which is why I get upset, which may be true because I feel like the key to success in our country is moderation 🤷🏼‍♀️

We have talked about couples counseling in general, and are working on trying to set something up.

TL;DR Has anyone made a politically different relationship work or have seen it work? We are talking marriage and this is the biggest concern for me about our relationship. He’s not concerned about our differing political views and doesn’t think it’s a reason to end our relationship

PetraCore posted:

The dad's idea of 'fun' is 'named after media i, the dad, think is fun'. Like drat dude your kid probably isn't going to give a poo poo about GoT.

MagusofStars posted:

Definitely not. By the time the kid is old enough to be interested in sitting down and watching a TV show with hour-long episodes that revolves around political intrigue, GoT will have been off the air for well over a decade.

Besides, setting your kid up for catching poo poo about his name for years on end pretty much guarantees the kid will grow to hate hate hate GoT. Why couldn't dad have named me a normal name rather than his stupid old person show?

cumshitter posted:

Naturally with great power comes great responsibility. One time, I was envisioning the penii of our interns when I realized one of them was developing the beginnings of testicular cancer. Obviously I couldn't reveal my powers to him. So I led the office in a male health seminar, stressing the importance of regular self-examination.

I monitored it and the cancer continued to grow. So my husband and I pulled some strings and had an elaborate corporate party complete with a band. We encouraged the afflicted intern to body surf the crowd, which gave us both a socially acceptable way to gently fondle his balls and later reveal his diagnosis to him in private.

Vim Fuego posted:

Leon Einstein posted:

What is the moderate view regarding putting kids in cages?

MasBrillante posted:

Selfish, rude, loud and gross.

Vim Fuego posted:

DONT. SIGN. YOUR. POSTS

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Is it possible to move on from their past? My fiancé is struggling with mine and want to know if it’s ever possible it’ll improve. X

commenter posted:

How many people are we talking here? Big difference between 15 and over 100.

OP posted:

Well 2. But one was out of relationship context.

commenter posted:

2 people? That's not even relevant. How old are you two?

OP posted:

27 & 31