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Barudak posted:Excuse me, not all men are dissapointing, some are terrifying or murderous or all three like that guy who kidnapped a woman after murdering her fiance and ended the night by just dropping her off and saying have a great night. There's few things more disappointing than getting murdered
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Jul 12, 2019 03:50
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MasBrillante posted:I literally feel “trapped” in crowded rooms and I still suck it up and take a chill pill for friends and family. And I certainly wouldn’t make my partner choose between an engaging conversation with his boss and sharing a cab ride home. I also love the way he invalidates the conversation as gossip. I wonder what credentials he has for making that determination. This is one of those things where ideally a couple talks it out and knows enough about each other to find the balance. I'm similar about crowds, and when I'm done I'm done and just can't social anymore. When I'm with more social folks they know that and people don't mind when I duck out early, or if there with someone I either wait outside while they finish up or they find their own way home (not as some sudden ultimatum, we're on the same page for these things). Though the stuff I've gone to has all been actually social events, not corporate ladder-climbing masquerading as "fun" where my being out of step could cause judgement of folks associated with me. More that I just head home when the gathering moves from karaoke to the bar.
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Jul 12, 2019 03:56
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting tired of my daughter's complaining about her childhood?
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Jul 12, 2019 03:57
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ilovebeersooomuch posted:You deserve hugs  OP posted “Peace Out” which translates to “lurking this thread obsessively.” Choice quotes: quote:It's not just the boredom tho. Her co-workers are insufferable assholes, loud mouthed, opinionated, in your face Karen types, I'd fended off several rude/annoying/overly intrusive conversations already and I'd had enough. quote:I made sure to not rudely interrupt, I waited for a pause in their convo then quietly asked for a word. I made small talk with assholes all night, I've been before and I told her how much I hated it last time, how lovely her co-workers were and how taking to then was hell. She knows I'm not a fan of big social events and especially not with people who are basically strangers and try to get in my business. I was so done by the time it was time to leave and I know what her "20 more minutes" means it means 2 more hours if I don't do something. quote:I bust my rear end off working long hours in a job I hate so she can keep this job because she likes it even though it's low paying. I look after the kids all the time so she can have days out with her friends or a long quiet bath. I do all the yard work and a bunch of housework chores and most of all I never force her to do stuff she hates. But yeah I'm lazy in the marriage 👌
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Jul 12, 2019 03:58
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Bruceski posted:This is one of those things where ideally a couple talks it out and knows enough about each other to find the balance. I'm similar about crowds, and when I'm done I'm done and just can't social anymore. When I'm with more social folks they know that and people don't mind when I duck out early, or if there with someone I either wait outside while they finish up or they find their own way home (not as some sudden ultimatum, we're on the same page for these things). Oh for sure, everyone in my inner circle knows and respects my boundaries but I push them, because it matters to me. Part of dealing with anxiety is retraining yourself so I figure, what’s more worth it than the people you love? And because of that effort, my sympathy for people who just find these things “boring” is very low.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:00
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quote:it's low paying. You’re a dick quote:I look after the kids all the time so she can have days out with her friends or a long quiet bath. I do all the yard work and a bunch of housework chores Being a good partner =/= doing yardwork quote:most of all I never force her to do stuff she hates Highly suspect
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Jul 12, 2019 04:13
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MasBrillante posted:Oh for sure, everyone in my inner circle knows and respects my boundaries but I push them, because it matters to me. Part of dealing with anxiety is retraining yourself so I figure, what’s more worth it than the people you love? And because of that effort, my sympathy for people who just find these things “boring” is very low. Good for you. It's nice to hear someone say "I have this issue and here is how I deal with it." I deal with mine through alcohol abuse. I should probably develop better coping mechanisms.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:13
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ilovebeersooomuch posted:You’re a dick I look after the kids so she can take long baths is just...and he is going really hard in the comments defending himself from replies to the comments themselves.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:16
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MasBrillante posted:Oh for sure, everyone in my inner circle knows and respects my boundaries but I push them, because it matters to me. Part of dealing with anxiety is retraining yourself so I figure, what’s more worth it than the people you love? And because of that effort, my sympathy for people who just find these things “boring” is very low. I think what gets me about it is his putting everything beneath him. When you, I, and others in this thread talk about our similar reactions it's from a perspective of being out of sync; our troubles and limits navigating these things include both us and them in the interaction. He talks in absolutes; the party is boring and he shouldn't have to stay longer, the people there are assholes, wife is gossiping about trivial stuff and so there's no reason to consider her needs. Someone in a very similar situation could have a much more sympathetic reception depending on how their word choice shaped the story.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:19
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Bruceski posted:I think what gets me about it is his putting everything beneath him. When you, I, and others in this thread talk about our similar reactions it's from a perspective of being out of sync; our troubles and limits navigating these things include both us and them in the interaction. He talks in absolutes; the party is boring and he shouldn't have to stay longer, the people there are assholes, wife is gossiping about trivial stuff and so there's no reason to consider her needs. Someone in a very similar situation could have a much more sympathetic reception depending on how their word choice shaped the story. Yes. Another way of putting this is that he is unknowingly pulsating rear end in a top hat waves that make even a sympathetic situation sound like an adult tantrum. Of COURSE no one wants to be dragged to an event where they have to perform among strangers, especially not ones you clash with. But it kind of doesn’t feel like this guy EVER really thought he was the rear end in a top hat.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:23
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Bruceski posted:I think what gets me about it is his putting everything beneath him. When you, I, and others in this thread talk about our similar reactions it's from a perspective of being out of sync; our troubles and limits navigating these things include both us and them in the interaction. He talks in absolutes; the party is boring and he shouldn't have to stay longer, the people there are assholes, wife is gossiping about trivial stuff and so there's no reason to consider her needs. Someone in a very similar situation could have a much more sympathetic reception depending on how their word choice shaped the story. That is an interesting and insightful point.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:24
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Motherfucker posted:I'm sitting here tryna mouth 'bazonkas' and make sense of what my mouth is doing and its just not fuckin' happening. from pages and pages back but all I could think of was: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSVkprXlc6k
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Jul 12, 2019 04:40
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:There's few things more disappointing than getting murdered When his family makes you hold conversations with a toy mouse named Timothy.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:51
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This one is blowing up on ResetEra right nowquote:Just a disclaimer: I still very much love my wife. I'm not starting this thread to trash on her or complain about her, just to analyze my situation and sort my feelings out. She's always treated me very well, even if our relationship has never been what I wanted it to be. She is continuing to treat me very well now that we've broken up. also, quote:I'm currently a stay at home dad. I don't have a job or a college degree. I'm living comfortably right now. I want to stay for me as much as for the kids. I legitimately cannot imagine leaving this for a better situation.
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Jul 12, 2019 04:56
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Barudak posted:Turns out his wife was "bye"
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Barudak posted:Turns out his wife was "bye" 
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Barudak posted:Turns out his wife was "bye" 
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Jul 12, 2019 05:15
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AITA for not wanting to go to my sons wedding? My son has been dating 'Vanessa' for nearly 3 years now, last weekend they annouced they were enagaged. I have never been fond of Vanessa, mainly because she has never gelled with the family due to her general aloof attitude and lack of effort to engage socially. She will often refuse to join in conversations or activities. My son insists it's because shes shy but I think its very clear that she believes herself 'above us'. I also strongly susspect she is using my son for his money, she has almost no income, she works as a nanny 2 days a week and spends the rest of the time selling hand made crafts on etsy or at markets. My son is in a well paid tech job and I think she is taking adavantage of the fact he's well off. She jumped at the opportunity to move into his nice aparetment very early in their relationship because she had been living in a unplesant house share. There have been other similar instances. My son was at my house a few days after the annoucment and the conversation turned to the wedding. We were discussing venues and I mentioned our local church, he told me that Vanessa didn't like the idea of having it at church as she wasn't religious, she wanted an outside wedding. I told him that was just impractical, he has several older family members who would not only find the idea of a non religous, outdoor wedding distasteful but would struggle with the limitations that come with it, poor seating, lack of proper toilet facilities, bad weather etc. He said they would figure it out and it was their wedding so it shouldn't matter what the rest of the family thought. This is very unlike my son as I've always taught him to be considerate of others opinions and the value of family. At this point I was upset and hurt and told him that I didn't agree with the ideas they had come up with and I didn't want to put any money towards the wedding like this. My son got angry and told me that they didn't need any financial help, they had savings and Vanessa was planning to cut costs by making decorations. I said he was going to end up blowing all HIS savings and there was no way she'd be able to make all the decorsations with all the other things she'll be focusing on during planning so he'll end up paying for those too and they'll start married life with a huge dent in his savings which is just a terrible idea. He then accused me of never supporting his relationship and told me if I wouldn't support his wedding then I might as well not come. I told him I might take him up on that as I don't support his attitude and maybe his own mother not wanting to come to his wedding will help him realise how ridiclous he's being about it. My sons has told the family about it, several people are on my side, my parents and sisters also think he's being impractical and overdramatic, my husband is refusing to get involved at all but my other son and daughter are angry at me and are telling me I'm acting like an rear end in a top hat.
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Jul 12, 2019 05:17
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AITA for not lowering the price of the car I’m selling to my daughter? I had plans on selling my car (2012 Prius, milage about 85,000, has a hole is the back from when I accidentally backed into a truck) for $9,000 to my daughter when she goes off to college. I told her that it was a great deal because she already knows how to drive that car and it costs much less than buying a used one from somewhere else. Well, I got in an accident with that car two weeks ago, and while it wasn’t totaled and is still drivable we had to get the light fixed. I agreed to pay for the cost of the repairs since I was the one who was driving when the accident happened. However, my daughter insists that I lower the price on the car when I sell it to her since a car that’s been in an accident is worth less than one that has been in one and that this is the third time I’ve had an accident in that car. I think that it’s ridiculous that I would have to lower the price, especially since a car that’s been in three accidents isn’t that different from a car that’s been in two. And I told her exactly that. She’s still bugging me that I should lower the price, even telling me that her friend’s mom bought her daughter a car because she had good grades and the least I could do was lower the price to $8,000 or even $7,000. I keep telling her that that’s not how it works in my household, but now even my husband is telling me that I should just give in an drop the price. So Reddit, AITA for not lowering the price on a wrecked car that’s already been wrecked before?
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Jul 12, 2019 05:18
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Im a trash goblin, and my son has told me he thinks Im a trash goblin, where does he get the nerve to treat me like Im some trash goblin???
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Jul 12, 2019 05:19
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AITA for making a baby cry to save $100?quote:Okay hear me out. The username is getoutofjailfreebaby
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"I blatantly loving hate my son's girlfriend and he dares to say I never supported their relationship!"
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not lowering the price of the car I’m selling to my daughter? 
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The daughter should agree to buy the car for $9,000 on the condition the mom never drives again. Edit: for the record a 2012 prius without accidents goes for about 9-10k so shes loving gouging this kid who should absolutely just buy a different persons nice prius.
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Jul 12, 2019 05:23
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not lowering the price of the car I’m selling to my daughter? She accidentally gives away her real reasons in the comments: she doesn't want her daughter to have much money because she might DO DRUGS or BE IRRESPONSIBLE.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:She jumped at the opportunity to move into his nice aparetment very early in their relationship because she had been living in a unplesant house share. There have been other similar instances. Aha! How suspicious to be happy to move to a better location than the bad one currently lived in! Oho! Hmm!
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Jul 12, 2019 05:24
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not lowering the price of the car I’m selling to my daughter? Midnight Voyager posted:She accidentally gives away her real reasons in the comments: she doesn't want her daughter to have much money because she might DO DRUGS or BE IRRESPONSIBLE. It sounds like the daughter is a lot more responsible than the mom. She even knows how to be a good steward of her money and to look for a deal when shopping for cars instead of buying the first wreck she sees that is available.
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Jul 12, 2019 05:30
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for making a baby cry to save $100? this owns, and if my parents did this to me when i was a baby i would be so proud right now
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Midnight Voyager posted:She accidentally gives away her real reasons in the comments: she doesn't want her daughter to have much money because she might DO DRUGS or BE IRRESPONSIBLE. drat, if that lady's teenage daughter already has more than nine-grand saved up, then she's already way ahead of the responsibility curve. Let her do some fuckin' drugs to celebrate!
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Jul 12, 2019 05:36
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Smirking_Serpent posted:this owns, and if my parents did this to me when i was a baby i would be so proud right now I was imagining a pinch or something, but they're still an rear end in a top hat for making an illegal turn.
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Jul 12, 2019 05:39
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AITA for not telling my sister that I hid drugs in her home before I got clean? I was addicted from when I was 20-24. I’m now 26 and my sister is just now welcoming me back into her home. Early into my addiction, back when I was somewhat still hiding it, I would still go over to my older sister’s house every now and again. Back then, I would hide drugs in her house as a “safe place” for me to keep them. I hid some in the garage. I did most of this when I was high, which explains the somewhat lovely hiding spots. I went over to her house the for the first time in a while this past weekend for my nephew’s birthday. When I pulled in I didn’t even think, I just went over and grabbed the syringe and dope I had stashed behind one of the tables. Except right at that moment my sister walked into the garage and saw me grab the stuff from behind the table. She accused me of using again and started crying and screaming about how dare I hide that poo poo in her house and what if Sam, my nephew, had found it. I tried to explain to her that it was old and I didn’t want to worry her by telling her that it was still in the house and I promised that I was going to get rid of it. She just screamed at me to get out of her house. I really was planning on just getting rid of it. I didn’t want to upset her and I thought it would’ve been pointless to tell her about it. I know have my family texting me telling me how disappointed they are in me and I’m pretty sure I can expect an intervention soon. I don’t think I was entirely out of line. My sister wouldn’t even listen to me and if she hadn’t walked out none of this would’ve happened. AITA?
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Jul 12, 2019 05:58
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chitoryu12 posted:Fight Man finally got got. Whoever is writing these is escalating it pretty quickly lmao. The best way for them to end this is him posting a thread about getting killed lol
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Jul 12, 2019 06:05
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If his sister hadn't walked in he'd have continued not thinking that heroin all the way into his arm.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my sister that I hid drugs in her home before I got clean? I'm pretty sure that any kind of addiction turns you into an rear end in a top hat.
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I, a junkie, acted like a junkie. Why is my sister treating me like a junkie?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting to go to my sons wedding? I thought that it would be one of the whiplash ones but nope. “My DIL is a stuck up bitch who won’t talk to me. No, I won’t talk to her about it, she thinks she’s too good for me.” “Have my dream wedding or I’ll refuse to give you money. Oh you’re telling me to gently caress off? Let me tell you how to spend your money, so you won’t be in debt, you know, since I’m not helping with the wedding.” Father in law of the year.
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Jul 12, 2019 06:12
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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:I thought that it would be one of the whiplash ones but nope. Mother in law, actually. The dad is just "staying out of it."
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Tetramin posted:Whoever is writing these is escalating it pretty quickly lmao. The best way for them to end this is him posting a thread about getting killed lol "Hi, I'm a friend of fight-man and just wanted to update everyone that he unfortunately passed away last week in the county jail. He got into a fight with another prisoner and the coroner reported that the cause of death was "extreme shivving."
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