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Should I [18M let my girlfriend [20F] know that I slept with her mother [44F] before we started dating?quote:My girlfriend and I have only been dating for a few months, but I’ve known her since I was around 7 years old. As kids we fought all the time and basically hated each other, but then we started to get along a lot and I started to have a crush on her. She moved away with her dad and she started dating someone else so my chance was ruined and I never dated girls just wating to see if she would ever give me a chance.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Should I [18M let my girlfriend [20F] know that I slept with her mother [44F] before we started dating? someone show this kid The Graduate
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Jul 13, 2019 19:36
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SilvergunSuperman posted:What about having respect for the guests that clearly preferred and had more fun swilling beer? I'm kind of curious about what the actual ratio of people who were into the wine party vs people who were there out of politeness and mostly relieved it became something different. It sort of sounds like most people prefered the less formal version but the nature of the two types of events means that if there's two competing parties going on the wild kegger will win every time
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Jul 13, 2019 20:26
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AITA for looking at myself in the mirror during sex?quote:I (24M) have a mirror on the other side of my room which I can look at sometimes during sex, mainly when I am in doggy style - I sometimes check myself out and like to see myself doing this.
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Jul 13, 2019 20:36
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AITA for not telling my girlfriend that I make porn for a living? I make 3D porn and I'm pretty good at it, I have been doing this for 4-5 years. I have a Patreon that gives me more than enough to live on and I also take commissions from time to time, now this info that I'm sharing with you guys is something that I never told anyone in my life about, not my family or closest friends. I also never told my girlfriend of 1 year this either and I don't plan on telling anyone this, but this last week she has been asking me nonstop what I do to make money and all I tell her is that I do 3D stuff. Apparently that isn't enough and she wants specifics but I'm not budging and continue to tell her it's just 3D stuff. Does that make me an rear end in a top hat? I just don't want to tell anyone that I do this because I don't want people looking me up, finding my Twitter/Patreon/Tumblr (even though it's now dead, thanks Tumblr) accounts. It would be nice hear what you guys have to say because I'm feeling kinda conflicted about not telling her. Overwatch
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Jul 13, 2019 20:49
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my girlfriend that I make porn for a living?
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Jul 13, 2019 20:53
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New Coke posted:I'm kind of curious about what the actual ratio of people who were into the wine party vs people who were there out of politeness and mostly relieved it became something different. It sort of sounds like most people prefered the less formal version but the nature of the two types of events means that if there's two competing parties going on the wild kegger will win every time It won't though, because I hate a kegger, and a lot of other people do too, but if you say that then people just brand you as not being fun
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Jul 13, 2019 20:56
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New Coke posted:I'm kind of curious about what the actual ratio of people who were into the wine party vs people who were there out of politeness and mostly relieved it became something different. It sort of sounds like most people prefered the less formal version but the nature of the two types of events means that if there's two competing parties going on the wild kegger will win every time i think the husband is a prick for (a) not realizing what his wife wanted out of the night and (b) bringing in the beer with a "OK BORING STUFF IS OVER TIME FOR FUN NOW!!" attitude, but personally i think the idea of a classy wine and cheese party that gradually evolves into a kegger as people get more wasted sounds just perfect, and better than either one on its own
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Jul 13, 2019 20:57
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Pick posted:It won't though, because I hate a kegger, and a lot of other people do too, but if you say that then people just brand you as not being fun I think the kegger "wins" by being so obnoxious that the people who want the more sedate activity leave. It wins by being louder and drowning it out, not necessarily by being any better or more desirable for the party. It you have both going on at once, the louder one is going to destroy the quieter one.
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Jul 13, 2019 20:59
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yeah i could see how she has built up some really cool tv-esque high society Jane Austin party in her head and was excited to it and feel like he ruined this perfect party. She was probably being somewhat an rear end in a top hat in her own right as she clearly wanted to throw the party for herself and everyone was a tea-cup accessory to it, because ultimately parties are for everyone else, not yourself. But he still should have at least respected that it was something important to her and just went along with it
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Jul 13, 2019 21:01
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Having a lot of people over at your house drinking excessively loving sucks
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Jul 13, 2019 21:03
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my girlfriend that I make porn for a living? Xaris posted:yeah i could see how she has built up some really cool tv-esque high society Jane Austin party in her head and was excited to it and feel like he ruined this perfect party. She was probably being somewhat an rear end in a top hat in her own right as she clearly wanted to throw the party for herself and everyone was a tea-cup accessory to it, because ultimately parties are for everyone else, not yourself. But he still should have at least respected that it was something important to her and just went along with it AITA for being Frasier Crane, but my husband is Martin Crane.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:04
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AITA if I refill vodka and tequila bottles with water because I don't want to confront my nanny about alcohol use? We have a new hire and she's excellent in all aspects. Our child loves her, and we love her. She fits in with our family seamlessly. She's kind, pleasant, and active. However, I have noticed that the wine and tequila are abnormally low. My spouse is out of town a lot. So, he is not the culprit. And this also means that he hasn't noticed the odd bottle being empty / close to empty much quicker. This might also apply to his vodka. FWIW, we told her to make the house her home. Her nanny contract says that she is welcome to all non-alcoholic beverages and food that is in the house. I'm not concerned about the drinking, in general (even though we excluded our booze in the contract). We have a generous supply. But I am concerned that the drinking could be occurring during work hours. My best alternative is to simply refill the bottles with water instead of confronting her about it. AITA?
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Jul 13, 2019 21:11
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Pick posted:Having a lot of people over at your house drinking excessively loving sucks ok
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Jul 13, 2019 21:12
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AITA for refusing to interact with my 13yr old step son? I've been in my (soon to be) step sons life for 3 years now. Hes turning 14 soon, and after a recent string of events I've decided I'm done trying to form a relationship with this kid. He clearly doesnt want one. Over the last 3 years he has: Cut up a bracelet his dad gave me. Put dog food in his dads eggs. Lied to me about his dad talking to other women Stolen my mortal kombat x video game Played sound clips of someone yelling "begone thot" repeatedly when I entered the room. Referred to me in stories he told family as the evil witch. Peed in a cup because he thought I was in the bathroom and didnt want to risk interacting with me by knocking. Threatened to punch my 5yr old in the face if he "didnt stop pestering him" Refused to apologize to me and even interact with me in very mild ways (ex: his dad asking him to let me know they were leaving. He would say ok, than not do it.) He wont even sit in a car with me while his dad runs in the store, even if it's a super quick in and out stop. Kid will refuse to stay with me Refuses to talk to me, and will end conversations with anyone if I'm brought into the conversation. And lastly, most recently. He told my MIL (his grandma) he feels uncomfortable around me and that he heard me say I didnt like him (lie) and who knows what else because now her and fiance are fighting because she doesnt feel I should be alone with the kid if he feels that way. Obviously this caused an even bigger rift. That was last week. This morning fiance asked me to play a board game with him and step son. I refused. Cited everything I posted here and said the kid clearly doesnt want me around and it makes me uncomfortable and when hes rude to me fiance doesnt correct him so no. Fiance exploded. Said step son is a kid. I'm an adult. I should act like that. Accused me of calling his son an rear end in a top hat (I didnt say directly. Just what I've said here) and than said my 6yr old is an rear end in a top hat too. I have refused to pick up his calls since this happened a couple hours ago. Am I being the rear end in a top hat? Should I just play the game. Even tho I'm sure kid will refuse anyways. Edit: We have both tried talking to the kid, every time he has claimed to like me and said he doesnt have any problems with me or our living situation. As for bio mom, she is also in a relationship and has full legal custody of the kid. However, his home life wasnt the best (from what kid told us) and than bio mom brought him to us due to kid hanging with a bad crowd in her area and we had him full time for the last 8 months and have also tried gaining legal custody, however now it looks like we are settling on split 50/50 custody.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:13
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Sagebrush posted:i think the husband is a prick for (a) not realizing what his wife wanted out of the night and (b) bringing in the beer with a "OK BORING STUFF IS OVER TIME FOR FUN NOW!!" attitude, I think you could do that, but lol at imagining the flip situation, of you suggesting to your wife that you have a kegger and she's like "sounds great!! I know how much you like a wild kegger!!" and then when people come over she's like "but first we must have quiet cheeses for 3 hours" you'd be like really annoyed lol
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Jul 13, 2019 21:18
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Sunswipe posted:
As someone in the middle of a rewatch, lmao E: this was literally the plot for a Christmas episode I think
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Jul 13, 2019 21:19
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New Coke posted:I'm kind of curious about what the actual ratio of people who were into the wine party vs people who were there out of politeness and mostly relieved it became something different. It sort of sounds like most people prefered the less formal version but the nature of the two types of events means that if there's two competing parties going on the wild kegger will win every time It's ok, you can stop performatively mirroring the cool kids you remember in college. No one who isn't also doing the same thing or is over 25 is going to judge you for it.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:26
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AITA for asking my husband to change his pants? I want to start this off by saying that I don’t consider myself to be a shallow person. I don’t wear makeup, I got a haircut this week for the first time in two years, I get my clothes mainly from thrift stores. My mom is very image-conscious so I definitely grew up with that tension. (EDIT: I’m getting some very fair pushback about this. The wording here came directly from my husband accusing me of being “obsessed with every little thing about appearances” when we were arguing. I do not think that people who put effort into their appearance are automatically shallow—makeup is an art that I just don’t have enough interest in learning. I apologize for this poor attitude.) My husband could really not care less about appearances, and for the most part I appreciate that. But like, he doesn’t care to the point that I have to go through his socks and T-shirts and jeans to throw away ones with holes in them because he’ll still wear them. The only time this really bothers me is in professional environments. This brings me to today. I work weekends sometimes at my job. My husband will sometimes come in and hang out with me at work on the weekends. I work in an office environment where there aren’t a ton of people in on the weekends, but the ones that are in are often higher-ups. People dress casually on the weekends—jeans, nice T-shirts, etc., which is fine. When we went to leave the house this morning, I noticed that my husband was wearing a pair of jeans that was ripped from the hem to about halfway up his calf on one leg. The two sides of the rip would flap every time he took a step with that leg. I asked him to change. I’ll admit I was a bit snippy about it. I should also mention that he’s having a gout flare-up in one ankle, so he’s in some pain. He argued that he feels like I’m always picking on him about his appearance (this week he had a big job interview and I was asking him a few times about what he was going to wear because I’ve seen him go to work in unironed dress pants with a hole in them before) and that clothes don’t matter. My argument is that clothes don’t matter to ME, but we’re going into my workplace where I’m hoping to advance in my career at some point and it makes me uncomfortable to have him wearing torn clothing. I feel bad about it now because I’m afraid I’m shallow and too harsh on him. AITA? Edit: I do just want to emphasize that there aren’t many people in the office on the weekends and that there is no explicit dress code—people definitely dress casually. Just trying to be as fair as possible. EDIT 2: as I responded to a comment below, my husband hangs out at my office doing work on his laptop sometimes on weekends. There aren’t a ton of people here, as I’ve said. I can’t drive (visual impairment) and I have a lengthy commute, so it’s just easier for him to stick around here. Other workers in the office do this with their spouses/kids sometimes, especially on weekends and holidays because we’re in an industry where people work 7 days a week. My boss was actually the one who suggested this to me. It wasn’t something I came up with on my own. That said, I’ll probably make my husband leave in the future as now I’m very self-conscious about it.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:28
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Jul 13, 2019 21:30
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well if she's blind how can she tell when her fat gout-ridden husband is wearing tattered rags? checkmate
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Jul 13, 2019 21:32
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Pick posted:gout?! That's an old man's disease!
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Jul 13, 2019 21:36
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Pick posted:yeah he sucked, I dont know why that story gets built up except really obvious misogyny and disdain for woman things like parties were no one passes out Wine and cheese parties aren't woman things; they're bougie things. Husband is a hero of the beer drinking proletariat and is thus worthy of our praise, comrade
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Jul 13, 2019 21:38
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the only solution is a split party where half of the room is decorated like a college dorm room & the rest is a faithful recreation of a winery. dress code will be a suit jacket & chubbies
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Jul 13, 2019 21:42
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for refusing to interact with my 13yr old step son? I love this so much if only because this story involves the dad apparently getting into a fight with his mom to defend her only to have her go "NO I WON'T PLAY A BOARD GAME WITH YOU BECAUSE HE STOLE MY MORTAL KOMBAT GAME". Owned, dude.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:44
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AITA for getting upset with my boyfriend after i found out he bought gamer girl bath water? You guys might've seen the news about Bell Delphine selling her bath water. My dumbass boyfriend bought 5 containers of that poo poo. They cost 30 dollars each so 150 dollars wasted on loving bathwater. I came over and i saw package on his doorstep and i told him there was a package. He runs and takes it from my hand and hides in his room. I follow him and i see the water he tried to hide. He first says it was nothing and tells me he just bought it as a joke. Im honestly ashamed he would do that. I left his place and haven't returned. I think its loving pathetic he's subscribing to E-thots, people like Bell Delphine are a cancer upon our society. Ive been pretty upset and haven't talked to him since. IM thinking of ending the relationship over it. Everyone is saying I'm overreacting but i think its beyond pathetic.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:44
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QuarkJets posted:Wine and cheese parties aren't woman things; they're bougie things. Husband is a hero of the beer drinking proletariat and is thus worthy of our praise, comrade women tend to prefer parties they're less likely to get raped at
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Jul 13, 2019 21:45
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting upset with my boyfriend after i found out he bought gamer girl bath water? I mean, she's being judgmental as gently caress calling 'lady who shows her titties online' a 'cancer upon our society' but lol @ the dude yanking the box and running off like gollum and then playing it off as a joke.
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Jul 13, 2019 21:47
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting upset with my boyfriend after i found out he bought gamer girl bath water? lmao. Think of it this way: is it a good idea to date someone who falls for internet scams?
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Jul 13, 2019 21:54
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sexpig by night posted:I mean, she's being judgmental as gently caress calling 'lady who shows her titties online' a 'cancer upon our society' but lol @ the dude yanking the box and running off like gollum and then playing it off as a joke. yeah she sucks but also  for dating a loving stupid idiot who buys scam tapwater lmao
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Jul 13, 2019 21:57
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WIBTA if I launch an attack on ComicCon (self.AmItheAsshole) submitted 7 minutes ago by Lamagamasama quote:Long story short. I a huge fan of The Walking Dead. Scott Gimple ruined the franchise to the ground. Now he ruining the spinoff with two poo poo writters from OUAT. There supposed to be appear on Friday July 19th. For the last 2 season of FTWD, ever since I love that show, I've been forced to endure an existence of bad writing, lovely characters and uglys gray filter all because of AMC. I 18 years old and still pissed that my favorite show was ruined.I have two Nerf Super Soaker loaded with orange juice, toilet water, and sewer water, green irritant stuff, and a sticky substance. I currently in San Diego, I got a very well thought plan. I just want to send a message to these three dweeb not to ruin MY FAV SHOW. WIBTA? oh no big deal, just casually posting about my plan to wander into a crowded convention with a squirt gun full of bodily fluids and Obtain Vengeance because the zombie show isn't fun anymore
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Jul 13, 2019 21:58
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Pick posted:women tend to prefer parties they're less likely to get raped at Crass capitalist propaganda. OP wasn't upset over her party becoming more enjoyable for her guests, she wept over the realization that she was caught in the consumerist illusion of happiness perpetrated by the wealthy elite as a means of maintaining their power. But such illusions are powerful and self-reinforcing, so she now assumes her misery is due to her husband and not the capitalist rat race in which she is trapped. Notice how her depiction of events has literally everyone else preferring the latter part of the evening, after the classist facade has been torn down and replaced with a celebration of the community's common struggles and comradery.
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Jul 13, 2019 22:02
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just a bottle of 'green irritant stuff' and 'sewer water' I plan to throw in a crowded place. no big I'm normal.
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Jul 13, 2019 22:03
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my girlfriend that I make porn for a living? 80% of the people who make enough off art commissions to pay rent do it via porn, and that's a conservative estimate. Half of the rest do it via things they can pretend the commissioner isn't masturbating to but are wrong. NTA for doing it, maybe TA for being cagey about it.
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Jul 13, 2019 22:07
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting upset with my boyfriend after i found out he bought gamer girl bath water? K there's just no way this one isn't made up not because people are dumb or anything but What woman calls anyone an E-thot
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Jul 13, 2019 22:10
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The Iron Rose posted:K there's just no way this one isn't made up not because people are dumb or anything but I've known a few who do.
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Jul 13, 2019 22:16
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If you want to turn a wine and cheese party into a kegger, step one is getting the host on your side. Know their weakness. They might be pissed at first, but whip out a bottle of baja rosa or whatever and they'll be playing beer pong in no time
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Jul 13, 2019 22:18
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Pick posted:women tend to prefer parties they're less likely to get raped at
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Jul 13, 2019 22:33
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InediblePenguin posted:gently caress you, douchebag, what the gently caress Once again “teachable moments” where the moment is “violating someone vulnerable” suck a gently caress.
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Only sinners and gays drink The Hooch. Any party serving anything stronger than tomato juice is an affront to God
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