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chitoryu12 posted:AITA for throwing out all of the food in the communal fridge? nta but you should have made a fake lunch and put laxatives or pot in it to punish the thief.
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HIJK posted:nta but you should have made a fake lunch and put laxatives or pot in it to punish the thief. This is how you get arrested for Assault With Intent to Poison what you really do is give them sugar free gummy bears
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Jul 17, 2019 18:44
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chitoryu12 posted:AITA for throwing out all of the food in the communal fridge? I wonder if other lunches / items went missing besides OP's Could be this is the break room vigilante that place needs, not the one they deserve
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Jul 17, 2019 18:48
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Tythas posted:This is how you get arrested for Assault With Intent to Poison worth it imo, especially since the OP has a legitimate medical disorder that means they need specialized foodstuffs. And the thief is stealing the OP's property which is also pretty objectionable. Of course reddit isn't having it: quote:Rogojinen "Throwing out everyone's lunches to punish a food thief that's stealing your medically necessary food is literally the same thing as killing entire families with fire." Sheesh.
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Scathach posted:Those are so, so hard to get. At least here. I'm in WA and trying to protect a dementia patient is difficult as gently caress. Especially if they refuse it and get pissed and kick you out of the house, which legally they can still do. They're not as hard to get in my employer's footprint (which doesn't cover WA) and are typically more burdensome in documentation than a POA but like you said POA is an agent, not a guardian. It does however give the POA access to monitor accounts and (in my job) gives us a contact person if anything weird happens in the account such as the oldster showing up asking to send a wire. We refuse it and call the POA.
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Jul 17, 2019 18:49
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HIJK posted:worth it imo, especially since the OP has a legitimate medical disorder that means they need specialized foodstuffs. And the thief is stealing the OP's property which is also pretty objectionable. i'm pretty sure that saying is absolutely terrible advice in any context tbh
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Jul 17, 2019 18:50
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HIJK posted:worth it imo, I wonder if it's criminal if you just make the food taste really bad. Like, instead of laxatives or dumping a ton of ghost peppers, dump a carton of salt into the food instead. Or let me cook it 
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Jul 17, 2019 18:52
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Lifehack, steal peoples lunch and get free diarrhea candy. Win/Win.
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dudeness posted:Lifehack, steal peoples lunch and get free diarrhea candy. Win/Win.
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Jul 17, 2019 18:57
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chitoryu12 posted:AITA for throwing out all of the food in the communal fridge? This is similar to how Caesar pacified the Gauls, and it worked for him. Badass power move.
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Tythas posted:This is how you get arrested for Assault With Intent to Poison A hyperspace dose of capsaicin is ok
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chitoryu12 posted:The first gun control laws were established in part because the royals realized how threatening they were to their power. William of Orange was assassinated in 1584 by a concealed pistol (the wheellock had just been invented about 80 years ago and could be concealed ready to fire, unlike old matchlocks) and James Stewart was shot from a window in 1570 while riding through town. Turns out guns made it really easy for any random person to pop the king in the face. Balthazar Gérard, who killed William of Orange, had spent time in the army. (In order to kill William, because dedication.) He also shot at close range. He also also was trying for a 25,000-crown offered by Philip of Spain for whoever assassinated William. James Hamilton, who shot James Stewart, "used a carbine of 3 feet 5 inches (104 cm) length and a hexagonal bore barrel of 2 feet 5 inches (74 cm) length." Neither was "any random person", and neither of these weapons is comparable to a six-shooter in terms of ease of use. In any case, a catch-phrase generally doesn't come from historical research. e: Scathach posted:You can't just take a person over with power of attorney. A POA is picked by the person, and if they get pissed and take it away that's it. It's not some thing where you can just control someone's actions. I am dealing with a demented mother right now. She can in fact revoke the POA at any time. Her own lawyer is refusing to do this because he has the medical reports saying "yup, totally demented" and has ruled that she's not competent to make legal decisions. However, she could go to any other lawyer in town and revoke the POA, because she presents well. Her lawyer has reassured me that no lawyer is likely to take a case called in from the dementia ward without medical evidence to the contrary. To actually have complete, irrevocable control over her dwelling, we'd have to get a full guardianship, which involves going before a judge with copious supporting evidence. You're not going to be able to get one of these with "Fred is completely capable of making his own decisions, he just makes really stupid ones." Arsenic Lupin fucked around with this message at 19:16 on Jul 17, 2019 |
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Renegret posted:I wonder if it's criminal if you just make the food taste really bad. Like, instead of laxatives or dumping a ton of ghost peppers, dump a carton of salt into the food instead. Or let me cook it Now this would be a social experiment worth having, would a lunch thief continue to steal food if this was done?
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FAUXTON posted:They're not as hard to get in my employer's footprint (which doesn't cover WA) and are typically more burdensome in documentation than a POA but like you said POA is an agent, not a guardian. It does however give the POA access to monitor accounts and (in my job) gives us a contact person if anything weird happens in the account such as the oldster showing up asking to send a wire. We refuse it and call the POA. That's hella loving cool. I mean I do understand why it's so hard to get someone into protection but I wish a dementia diagnosis made it easy. It's a constant fight making sure this lady isn't endangering herself.
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Scathach posted:That's hella loving cool. I mean I do understand why it's so hard to get someone into protection but I wish a dementia diagnosis made it easy. It's a constant fight making sure this lady isn't endangering herself.
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AITA for avoiding to bring my girlfriend around the judgemental relatives in my family?quote:So the last time I brought her around was Easter. We had dinner together with my family, but just a few days later when I was sitting at lunch with my dad he was telling me about how my stepmom and her parents (my grandparents on her side) were telling me all these things that annoyed them. The way she ate, the way she sat, her body language as we all socialized, etc. I knew it was because she was nervous and I couldn’t control that. However they’re not the type to give people second chances, so it feels like they’ve already written off our relationship.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Because a lot of children/lovers/heirs are total assholes, basically. See the Sumner Redstone case for one. Oh, yeah, I know that. We've been doing court a year with an abusive previous caregiver/family member crying crocodile tears because my client kicked her out of the house for stealing huge amounts of cash. It's just ducked we can't protect the elder and their cash easier.
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AITA for telling my coworker about the reality of a 478 MCAT score? The MCAT is basically the entrance exam for medical schools in the US. Applicants are graded from 472 to 528 based on a percentile. A 478 is literally the bottom 2% of test takers. The median/average score that can maybe get you into a med school is a 500. You must score at least a 508 to be in the top 20% of applicants, in a field where only about 20% of applicants each year accepted into all the med schools in the country. Results for the June 15 exam came out yesterday. This coworker was happily telling people how she passed and got a 478. I myself aspire to be a doctor but postponed taking the MCAT because I have been unable to hit a 505 consistently in full length practice tests. I have an trying to coach her, telling her that she must hit at least a 500 to be even considered as a serious applicant. Throughout this process, I have noticed that she didn’t have a solid prep plan, or a good idea of how to be a pre-med student (she is non traditional like me). So when she was happily telling our other coworkers (and the doctors we work for!) that she got a 478, I took her aside and tried to explain to her the reality of the situation as nicely as possible. Threw in some encouraging words about the virtues of retaking, implored her to hit the Kaplan books and really research the kinds of students the schools she wants to apply to (she just wants to get in anywhere). I asked her to reconsider postponing her applications until next year. She had already sent out some primaries but haven’t gotten any secondary applications back. She was in near tears. It feels like I just crushed someone’s dreams. She couldn’t look me in the eye the rest of the day. AITA???????
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Renegret posted:I wonder if it's criminal if you just make the food taste really bad. Like, instead of laxatives or dumping a ton of ghost peppers, dump a carton of salt into the food instead. Or let me cook it As long as you would eat it, it's fine. You can booby-trap your lunch with hot sauce if you "like spicy food" and can pretend to have intended to eat it.
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My (25/M) girlfriend (30/F) wants me to drop a friend (27/F) that I've known since high school for reasons that she can't seem to explain. I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year. She didn't seem controlling or anything at the start but for a couple of months now I've noticed that side of her starting to come out. It started when she tried to tell me what to wear and how to act. Don't wear those jeans anymore. The ones I picked out for you look better. Always pull my chair out for me when we're out on dates. Your hair looks better when you push it to the side. I like you better without facial hair. I know we take turns paying for dates but can you hand the server my card when he comes back so he thinks it's yours? Weird poo poo. None of my girlfriends have ever talked to me like that before. And for the record the jeans she picked out aren't even my size. About two or three weeks into this weird change in her personality, I brought my concerns to her attention and she said she didn't realize that it was a problem. She's used to picking out clothes for boyfriends even if they happen to have their own distinct style. I know she wants me to dress like I'm in a Banana Republic shop window but that's ... just not going to happen. That's not me. She knew that when she met me. If she wanted a boyband member, she shouldn't have agreed to go out with the tattoo artist that asked her out at a dive bar a little over a year ago. Anyway I have a friend that I've known since high school. We're not close in the sense that we talk everyday or even every week or month, but we know just about everything there is to know about each other. She has a boyfriend at the moment and she loves him a lot. My girlfriend has met her multiple times. At first she seemed to like my friend and got along with her pretty well. Same with my other friends. But slowly she has started to get really quiet around her and stare her down and give her one word answers when my friend tries to make conversation. I figured my girlfriend was just tired. But she later admitted that she feels I'm too close to this friend and that our friendship makes her uncomfortable ... even though we don't talk outside of group gatherings. And when we do talk, we always include our SO's and other friends. It's never just the two of us locked in. I will say that this friend is pretty. Maybe that has something to do with my girlfriend's discomfort. My girlfriend is also pretty. Beautiful in fact. But maybe some small part of her feels weird that I've had this pretty female friend for so long. A friend that was around for every life moment that I had growing up. When I asked my girlfriend about it, she didn't give me a clear answer. She just said, "It's inappropriate and weird how close you are." Again I had no idea what she was on about. I don't speak to this friend or hang out with her privately at all. Ever. And she has a boyfriend. When I asked what part of the friendship is inappropriate and weird, my girlfriend had no words. She just turned it into a situation where I should support her because I'm her boyfriend and that I'm gaslighting her if I say she's wrong about her interpretation. Had she given me a real answer to even just one of the questions that I had asked, I would at least try to understand. I'm still trying even though she was unclear. If she wants me to drop this friend just because she happens to be pretty, then I'm sorry but that's complete bullshit. I would never ask her to drop any of her friends. Not for any reason. That's one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. To me anyway. We had this conversation over the weekend and then again last night. She was still unclear. I truly just want to get where she's coming from. I would rather she open up and tell me if she feels insecure or something. But she insists that I'm in the wrong for not immediately doing whatever I can to make her comfortable again. I can only do so much when I don't understand the problem. I don't think that's unreasonable. Now we're in this weird place where neither of us knows what to say or do around the other. She's sleeping next to me in bed right now. I want to figure this out. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like she's just being controlling again and I guess I came here for outside opinions. Thoughts? tl;dr I hardly speak to this friend. We only see each other at group gatherings. And she has a long-term boyfriend. When I asked my girlfriend why this friend makes her uncomfortable, she was very unclear and basically just said that I should support her no matter what as a boyfriend. Not sure what to do about this. I'm not dropping a friend over something that I don't understand and that my girlfriend doesn't care to explain.
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Can I use a remixed a Beatles lyric for the title of my movie?quote:Would it be fair use if the lyric was altered in a funny/shocking way?
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AITA for breaking crayons that were being donated to children with autism? quote:I know the title sounds really bad, but hear me out for a second. I was at a restaurant with my family, and my younger sister was drawing with crayons provided with her kids menu. When she had finished drawing with them and made it clear that she had no intention of using them again, I decided to break them. Why did I do this? I’m a very restless person who likes to fidget. I like the sound that crayons make when they break, and I find it very relaxing. I know that’s weird, but it’s like how popping bubble wrap is to some people for me. I broke two out of the four crayons. The waiter was not pleased, and he naturally thought that my sister had broken the crayons. He informed us of the fact that they donate their crayons to autistic children. My sister didn’t seem upset, and even thought the situation was funny, laughing at it hours after it occurred. I had no clue that they would be donated to autistic kids. I NEVER would have broken them if I knew. My uncle has autism, and I’ve worked with autistic kids at my school for years to honor him. Also, every restaurant I’ve ever been to that I can think of has a poo poo ton of crayons that they throw away after children are done playing with them. I had never heard of a restaurant donating used crayons. Sorry if it’s actually a really common thing and I’m just an idiot, but the concept was foreign to me. So, Reddit, be honest with me. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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AITA for letting someone attend our dad's funeral against my sisters' wishes? I (35M) have three sisters (31-42) and our father passed away recently. It has fallen on me to plan the service since our parents divorced a while ago and my sisters "don't know what to do" (their words, and yes they're grown women..). Our dad was a sperm donor and it has always been a touchy topic in our family. He donated solely because there was (is?) a shortage of donors in our country and he fathered 7 kids to 5 families which is the maximum number of families permitted by law. Our dad had a relationship with two of his "donor kids" that had reached out as adults. One of them has reached out and obviously offered their support, but cannot attend the service. The other had become very close to our father to the point where our dad literally referred to her as his daughter etc. She didn't have a dad of her own (lesbian parents) and so bonded quite quickly when she reached out. Anyway, cutting to the chase, his donor daughter wants to attend his funeral service and is just as broken up as we are. My sisters are all against the idea and think it would be "creepy", "weird", etc. They all expect me to tell her no because she isn't "real family". But I'd feel like absolute poo poo saying no. She literally said she wont say a word to anyone and will just attend the service in silence. She just wants to honor dad, I don't get why my sisters are so vehemently opposed to her presence. Our dad left her some money from his estate so he obviously considered her family. Anyway, since my sisters left it on me to plan, I told her to come and intend on making her feel welcome. I don't think a funeral is a time to exclude and alienate someone that is hurting. As you can imagine I am now being called countless names by my sisters and also my mother. I think I might have accidently been an rear end in a top hat here? Idk. AITA?
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for breaking crayons that were being donated to children with autism? one wax crayon costs literally less than two cents to manufacture the real assholes here are the restaurant owners acting like donating used crayons to autistic kids is any sort of real charity
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my coworker about the reality of a 478 MCAT score? What the hell kind of range is 478-528 It's like they started arbitrarily high but then still compressed it into a tight window
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FilthyImp posted:That's a tough one but the family is being dicks Why would it be tough? Dad had a relationship with this girl, it's not weird to want to pay respects to somebody you have a relationship with. poo poo, I've been to services for people I didn't even know. She has more of a right than I did in those cases.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for breaking crayons that were being donated to children with autism? This is weird. I'm imagining the staff of a school or center for autistic kids having to find somewhere to put this week's box of Outback Steakhouse crayons. You're not an rear end in a top hat for fidgeting with crayons you had every reason to believe were yours. Do Autistic kids lack crayons? Do they want crayons? This is so weirdly specific.
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Hey! Those napkins are for Parkinsons patients!
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Bad news little timmy, we can't cure your autism because some of the crayons are broken.
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Renegret posted:Why would it be tough? Dad had a relationship with this girl, it's not weird to want to pay respects to somebody you have a relationship with. So it's natural for them to bristle a bit, and the grieving process is going to break them, but yeah the girl had what seems to be a pretty healthy and stable relationship so she *should* be there.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:The Sweet n' Low inside, fine - that's all yours. But once you've opened the packet don't! rip it up!
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AITA for correcting one of church leader for making a joke out of my son's answer? This just happened an hour ago. We are attending a bible camp at this church, not the church I go but other one. There are kids from Prek to 6th graders, like 150 kids, and my son is 8yr. So the video of "this bird" playing and building a nest was shown. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoopoe So at the end of the video, MC asked, "Wasn't that a pretty bird? I've never seen one. Does anyone know what this bird is called?" Someone raised his hand, (I didn't look), MC walked over and gave the mike. The boy said "Hoopoe". I noticed it was my son's voice. Then the MC said "What?? a Hippo? it looked nothing like a hippo." Then everyone laughed. As MC walked away, I could hear him saying, "No I said Hoop...". I thought the lady probably didn't even know what that bird was. My son would never ever make that kind of silly joke. So I googled "a bird name Hoopo"(I've never even seen or heard of this bird called Hoopoe so I typed Hoopo". Then, there it is, Hoopoe... I personally thought joke wasn't funny at all. Kids do get offended when their knowledges are mocked or joked. When everything was over, the pastor asked all the leaders to remain and debrief for 10mins. Pastor said "What a great night! any thoughts?" I raised my hand and told both my kids to come to the front. On my phone, I had that wikipedia pic prepared. I said "Could you not ask a question when you don't even know the answer? *looking at the MC who asked question and showing my phone. So this is what my son meant, Hoopoe, not hippo. If you knew the answer, you wouldn't have made the joke and made him feel embarrassed." The MC said "oh...sorry, I knew what it was and just made a joke out of it." (I'm a dad by the way) I said. "you knew??"...*brief pause*..."Well, it wasn't funny...You are in children's ministry and you should know that." I told my wife about this as soon as I got home and she, (didn't tell me that I"m an rear end**), but definitely was an over-react, and didn't have to make that "public" and embarrassing the MC. On my way home, I asked my son if the joke was funny and he said, "uh...no. dumb." I teach my kids that when someone does a prank, and the person who got pranked doesn't find it anything funny but anger, it's bullying. When someone makes a joke on a person, and that person doesn't find it funny, it's harassment.
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TheScott2K posted:Do Autistic kids lack crayons? Do they want crayons? This is so weirdly specific. it's another one of those zero-effort pretend-you're-helping charities like sticking yellow ribbons on your car or buying paul newman's salad dressing. if they genuinely wanted to help disadvantaged children they could donate nice full packs of new crayons, instead of sending them restaurant waste and converting the crayons' cost (an expense they were already covering anyway) into a tax write-off Sagebrush fucked around with this message at 19:58 on Jul 17, 2019 |
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