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AITA for saying I think a guest at the party might be "too interested in kids", causing him to be sent downstairs (and maybe more consequences in the future) One of my family members had an engagement party so me and my dad went there to it, and to stay the night. In the house lives family member, his fiancee, two lodgers downstairs The two lodgers joined. One of them (Matt) was very friendly, said he was 41 and a lecturer. He said he moved around a lot and that he'd lived all over the world. I said how come you've ended up here, he said he "likes to live in interesting places". He came across as a very stereotypical "lad", talking about how many birds he's been with, and saying stuff like he's slept with every nationality Later on a couple and their kids arrived. He started playing around with the kids (about 5 years old), making up a flower that didn't exist and sending them on a hunt to find it. After they went back to sit with their parents, he was joking around with the daughter (15 y/o) of one of the guests. He started saying "I have a mission for you, you have to go inside and get a beer for me and David(me)" and getting her to be a servant and making jokes. At this point a guest who had arrived about an hour earlier whispered to me "his interest in children is slightly worrying" A few hours later the party had moved inside For some reason my Dad says to me "watch out for Matt, he's not a very nice person" When Matt was in the toilet I said to the guest who came with his daughter, "do you get any kind of bad feeling from Matt? I think a few people are suspicious of how he's acting around kids". He said he also felt that, and that as a parent he's learnt to develop a radar for this kind of thing, and that Matt wasn't just being overly-friendly, he thinks it's a lot worse than that" I told my uncle about all I'd heard and seen, and asked him how often he talks to Matt seeing as they sort of live together. Uncle says he's only been lodging there for a week and hadn't properly spoken to him before today. He tells his fiancee all this, and then Matt comes back, she says to him "If you don't mind, we're just going to have it close family now, if you wouldn't mind going downstairs. When he's gone she's talking about how she's going to have to think about what to do, the next day, when she has a clear head I feel like it's going to go badly for him, possibly being kicked out and losing his job (if he really has one), who knows what else. Without any concrete actions that are proof he is dodgy. And I helped that happen by circulating the information and saying I had suspicions too after what I'd heard. After I'd heard other people's opinions, i started to think back on earlier parts of the day and things started to seem more sinister. I don't know if I was applying bias to things that were perfectly innocent or not. The constant moving around areas/countries, the attempts at being a manly man who loves the women, the almost chameleon vibe from him, how much time he spent interacting with the kids. None of those things are WRONG but added together with everything else gave me a bad vibe AITA?
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Jul 22, 2019 03:55
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Maybe just maybe dude really likes his job and wants to stay on top of things because he enjoys what he does? Not everyone in the world works in a job they despise. Also if he ran his own business it wouldn’t be any different (probably worse actually).
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Jul 22, 2019 03:57
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MarcusSA posted:Lol I like that’s the take away. Like there is a time and a place to wear things and having your titties all out at the grocery store really isn’t the right place for that. wrong, tiddies belong everywhere.
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Jul 22, 2019 03:59
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:wrong, tiddies belong everywhere. Well...uh...poo poo. Ok I have no argument for that statement. I relent.
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Jul 22, 2019 04:04
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Megillah Gorilla posted:I can only imagine the suffering that would have been spared if there was even a single genre of media which did this. James and the Giant Peach features a kid living his horrible family though I guess they did literally try to kill him...
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Jul 22, 2019 04:08
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for being upset at my boyfriend for bringing me on vacation then doing between 10 minutes and an hours worth of every day to "get ahead?" I dunno lady, this was a dick move but capitalism's a bitch and so many bosses are absolute shits about what should be basic respect and rights it's not uncommon for a vaction to get bogged down by work. Maybe give him a chance to see things your wa- quote:I told him my feelings were really hurt that he took me on vacation that I wasn't totally comfortable with him paying for then feeling like he was ignoring me. He told me to "cool your jets Mel, this job is paying for YOUR vacation." nevermind, kill him in his sleep
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Jul 22, 2019 04:11
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Oh yeah he’s a total dick for that line.
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Jul 22, 2019 04:13
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying I think a guest at the party might be "too interested in kids", causing him to be sent downstairs (and maybe more consequences in the future) I don't know how we're supposed to evaluate that, it's very much a gut feeling thing, and is even in his account of the events from others.
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Jul 22, 2019 04:28
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MarcusSA posted:Lol I like that’s the take away. Like there is a time and a place to wear things and having your titties all out at the grocery store really isn’t the right place for that. I live in Rhode Island and seeing people at the supermarket in swimsuits is pretty common here. Even if I weren't used to it, I don't see how it's much different than going out in a low-cut tank top and those are everywhere.
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Jul 22, 2019 04:33
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I'm the guy who will immediately abandon every adult to build with blocks or play princess tea party. Should I worry?
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Jul 22, 2019 04:35
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Sagebrush posted:you should be doing zero emails from 5pm on the day before you leave for vacation to 9am on the day you get back. american white straight cis men deserve it though
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Jul 22, 2019 04:42
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying I think a guest at the party might be "too interested in kids", causing him to be sent downstairs (and maybe more consequences in the future) Honestly, i'm not getting any pedo vibes from this guy. Like, he sounds obnoxious at worst, but to me it seems like he's being friendly to kids and teens. But i'm not a parent nor was I at this party to witness anything, so maybe all of the guests picked up something that you had to be there in person to see. Or they could all be nosy gossips.
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Jul 22, 2019 04:50
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Sagebrush posted:in france it is literally illegal for your employer to contact you outside of working hours, including via email. hth Barudak posted:I work for a french owned business in Japan, so I can confirm if such a law is enforced it sure as poo poo doesnt apply to people outside the country which was my point in the first place, ownership or nationality of the business is irrelevant if the company and country allows you to be hounded. It's legal to send e-mail to an employee, and vice versa, it's just not legal to be told that they need to be checking e-mail outside of working hours. This is a good rule but I doubt most employees who check e-mail on vacation or weekends are being told to do that. For instance the OP's boyfriend felt like they were obligated to in order to stay ahead of some imaginary curve, their boss didn't tell them to do it just lol if you think that France doesn't have its share of workaholics
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Jul 22, 2019 04:59
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Beachcomber posted:I'm the guy who will immediately abandon every adult to build with blocks or play princess tea party. Should I worry? You are on a list now. Sorry.
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Jul 22, 2019 05:07
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sexpig by night posted:I dunno lady, this was a dick move but capitalism's a bitch and so many bosses are absolute shits about what should be basic respect and rights it's not uncommon for a vaction to get bogged down by work. Maybe give him a chance to see things your wa- I just don't think 'not wanting to be buried in emails right after vacation' is the problem here.
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Jul 22, 2019 05:16
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MarcusSA posted:Lol I like that’s the take away. Like there is a time and a place to wear things and having your titties all out at the grocery store really isn’t the right place for that. I guess if you're in the middle of some land locked state or something it's weird. In summer where I live, it wouldn't be unusual to see someone in a supermarket or diary in a bikini. Although for guys, there are some clear rules. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-Lx2ihpGbc
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Jul 22, 2019 05:28
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying I think a guest at the party might be "too interested in kids", causing him to be sent downstairs (and maybe more consequences in the future) sounds like a Peter File to me
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Jul 22, 2019 05:31
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Maybe this is a hot take but let the dude do whatever he wants on a vacation he’s paying for The “vacation I’m paying like” 100 percent makes him an rear end in a top hat but he’s not wrong
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Jul 22, 2019 05:47
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Beachcomber posted:I'm the guy who will immediately abandon every adult to build with blocks or play princess tea party. Should I worry? we're sending you downstairs (and maybe more consequences in the future)
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Jul 22, 2019 05:54
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Guillotine the essential oils mom who permanently damaged her kid's hearing
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Jul 22, 2019 05:55
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Propaniac posted:My (28F) boyfriend (29M) grabbed a stranger's ice cream. Can't believe this actually happened. I once had a stranger (an old man with his wife) chat me up and tell me my ice cream looked good and then without warning he put his finger in the ice cream and licked it clean. I was so dumbfounded I didn't say a word and just left and threw the rest away.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:03
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Both disagree m(25) f(24)quote:We have had this conversation many times, he says looking at Reddit subs with NSFW girls is the same as porn, I say it breaks down a wall making it personal and I do not like that. Ever since he will lie and deny on occasionally going on, yet again I have caught him but did not say anything. He says I can not post nudes of myself because that is like cheating. But then I say well you are looking at other naked girls why can’t other guys look at me. In my opinion he is breaking a wall so I feel I have the freedom to break a wall and it even gives me confidence. So what’s the harm? Are either of us wrong, both or neither? What’s your opinion. I wouldn’t say it’s a HUGE issue, but if he’s going to continue to do this I will continue to do what I feel is right and fair to me too.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:06
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Marchofthepenguins posted:Both disagree m(25) f(24) How honey we have lots of them just you wait and see. I love how dysfunctional this is lol.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:20
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Marchofthepenguins posted:Both disagree m(25) f(24) If I've had to tell my husband once, I've had to tell him a thousand times: he pledged his gape to me when we got married. I don't look at other men's gaping assholes and he shouldn't be sharing pictures of his with strangers. I won't even be alone in a room with another man without a chaperone because it is indecent and unbecoming of a godly man such as myself and also I am a convicted sex offender.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:26
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cumshitter posted:If I've had to tell my husband once, I've had to tell him a thousand times: he pledged his gape to me when we got married. I don't look at other men's gaping assholes and he shouldn't be sharing pictures of his with strangers. I won't even be alone in a room with another man without a chaperone because it is indecent and unbecoming of a godly man such as myself and also I am a convicted sex offender. https://twitter.com/mattvbrady/status/653004607963074560?s=20
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Jul 22, 2019 06:27
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cumshitter posted:If I've had to tell my husband once, I've had to tell him a thousand times: he pledged his gape to me when we got married. I don't look at other men's gaping assholes and he shouldn't be sharing pictures of his with strangers. I won't even be alone in a room with another man without a chaperone because it is indecent and unbecoming of a godly man such as myself and also I am a convicted sex offender. are non-gaping assholes still on the table? if not do not check your pms
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Jul 22, 2019 06:46
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Jul 22, 2019 06:49
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [46M] older son [17M] is an atheist libertarian. My younger son [16M] is a Christian social democrat. Their political differences are tearing their relationship apart, how can I fix it? younger son is a contrarian rear end in a top hat and older son is an edgelord and the real problem is you have irish twins. maybe wait a few more years so your kids dont have the same social circles and dont hate each other for a ton of tiny slights with in said circles. yes i have my own irish twin why do you ask.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:50
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MagusofStars posted:Or, y'know, just ask for separate checks at the start of the meal. Even if the restaurant normally prefers to just do a single check for the table, very few (if any) restaurants will actually be willing to refuse if you ask directly, particularly if you do so at the very start so the server can just put it in as separate orders at the start. This is not at all how ordering for tables in restaurants works and just loving Venmo or buy a goddamn drink for your friends you loving weirdo
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Jul 22, 2019 06:53
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AITA for kicking a girl out who didn’t want to have sex?quote:Ok so I was at a bar and I met this girl who came on to me really strongly. After like half an hour of flirting she whispers in my ear that she wants to go back to my place. We get to my place and I assume that she wants to fool around but she doesn’t. Fair enough. But I ask her why she wanted to go home with me if she didn’t want to hook up. She says that she lives a little out of town and didn’t want to take the bus home so she figured she could just sleep at my place. At that point I get pissed so I tell her to leave my apartment.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:55
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Nothing that the pedo poster guy described is out of line, but if the father thought something was up I'd defer to that. Also why is being well traveled the sign of a pedo? Like the guy is some kind of pedo mastermind always one step ahead of the authorities? Like yeah if the guy was bragging about hitting up all the pedo hotspots in SE Asia that's one thing. But the OP just comes off as a Brexiteer douche who thinks blonde haired and blue eyed Poles are ruining the UK. Unless Rockapella is following you around singing, "Where in the world is Pedo Sandiego" I don't see how being well traveled factors in. i vomit kittens posted:are non-gaping assholes still on the table? if not do not check your pms Thank you for the nice picture.
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Jul 22, 2019 06:59
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goethe.cx posted:AITA for kicking a girl out who didn’t want to have sex? No, it's fine to kick a complete stranger out of your home
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Jul 22, 2019 07:01
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i vomit kittens posted:are non-gaping assholes still on the table? if not do not check your pms maybe it is but it's completely uninteresting, why even bother you may as well be sending a picture of your thumb
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Jul 22, 2019 07:02
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I have run your butthole picture through a 3D printer. Just like vinyl lovers can read a record by tracing their fingers along the grooves, I can tell the song your butthole sings by running my fingers along the sphincteral folds. Yours is "Two Time" by Jack Stauber.
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Jul 22, 2019 07:05
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Xik posted:Although for guys, there are some clear rules. "budgie smuggler" wonderful.
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Jul 22, 2019 07:14
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Me, running my fingers along a twink's butthole: Ah, "The Merry Go Round Broke Down." A classic.
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Jul 22, 2019 07:15
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Its like true names for buttholes. You hum a few bars of Great Speckled Bird and it joins you in brown note harmony
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Jul 22, 2019 07:17
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Mine is "The Ring of Fire."
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Jul 22, 2019 07:29
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DemoneeHo posted:Scary Cock Ring 
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Jul 22, 2019 07:29
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*Plays a bunch of buttholes like crystal glasses while dressed as a Blue Man*
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Jul 22, 2019 07:37
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