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One would assume it would be pretty fuckin difficult to take the top off a mineral oil computer and dump poo poo in it
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hawowanlawow posted:One would assume it would be pretty fuckin difficult to take the top off a mineral oil computer and dump poo poo in it AITA for destroying my crafty, distressingly strong-handed 8-year-old nephew's computer?
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Jul 23, 2019 19:45
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Did the kid just pour water into the tank? He should have listened to 'don't touch this' but I'm not convinced he really grasped the significance of 'this is OIL not WATER'. Basically it sounds like the kid has a really poor understanding of boundaries and brushing that off as 'kids will be kids' isn't helpful, but there's a big difference in the maturity levels and understanding of consequences between an 8 year old and a 26 year old, you can't just retaliate in kind. Doesn't sound like the sister has enough money to go after her for repaying what her kid destroyed, unfortunately.
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Jul 23, 2019 19:46
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Power Khan posted:*Surveys the audience* “Liquid cool” the kid in mineral oil. Problem solved.
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Jul 23, 2019 19:51
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PetraCore posted:Did the kid just pour water into the tank? He should have listened to 'don't touch this' but I'm not convinced he really grasped the significance of 'this is OIL not WATER'. Yea but he destroyed this $4000 machine after already breaking an expensive tv and scratching the guys switch, I mean I would be pissed too if all my expensive stuff was getting destroyed like that, though I wouldn't have over reacted like that
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Jul 23, 2019 19:51
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8 year olds are definitely smart enough to know oil isn't water
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Jul 23, 2019 19:54
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I'm the drawer full of moist glistening replaced components in the OP.
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Jul 23, 2019 19:54
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Tythas posted:Yea but he destroyed this $4000 machine after already breaking an expensive tv and scratching the guys switch, I mean I would be pissed too if all my expensive stuff was getting destroyed like that, though I wouldn't have over reacted like that I'm also not discounting the possibility that OP specifically said 'never put water in this' after other stuff got broken and kid interpreted it as 'hey! i should put water in this!' because 8 year olds do NOT have a good grasp on that stuff and it sounds like he has behavioral issues to start with.
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Jul 23, 2019 19:56
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PetraCore posted:I'm also not discounting the possibility that OP specifically said 'never put water in this' after other stuff got broken and kid interpreted it as 'hey! i should put water in this!' because 8 year olds do NOT have a good grasp on that stuff and it sounds like he has behavioral issues to start with. no seriously, 8 year olds are not that stupid. either the story is embellished or the kid willfully destroyed it
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Jul 23, 2019 19:57
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dudeness posted:
"I love and admire that ____ never makes me do bullshit exercises like this." Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 20:18 on Jul 23, 2019 |
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Jul 23, 2019 20:05
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hawowanlawow posted:no seriously, 8 year olds are not that stupid. either the story is embellished or the kid willfully destroyed it I remember learning that oil and water don't mix back when i was six. He should have learned by then the two arent the same. Should being the key word here. Not that it excuses OP freaking out over the kid, nor does that excuse the sister's bad parenting.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:06
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Power Khan posted:AITA for telling my stepdaughter I want nothing to do with her after it emerged she has been telling her friends I’m abusive? INFO: Does the writer have NPD/BPD, or both she and the daughter have them?
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Jul 23, 2019 20:07
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dudeness posted:It also provides better lubrication so you can gently caress it. r/relationships: It also provides better lubrication so you can gently caress it.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:09
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dudeness posted:It also provides better lubrication so you can gently caress it. Come on, this is reddit we're talking about. You should probably say "so you can gently caress it more easily."
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Jul 23, 2019 20:11
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hawowanlawow posted:no seriously, 8 year olds are not that stupid. either the story is embellished or the kid willfully destroyed it It's totally fair if he gets his laptop taken away for destroying something like that, the rear end in a top hat thing is just how OP did it. That's all.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:11
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PetraCore posted:It's totally fair if he gets his laptop taken away for destroying something like that, the rear end in a top hat thing is just how OP did it. That's all. should have gone and sold it for more oily computer chips
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Jul 23, 2019 20:15
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Sagebrush posted:i mean sort of, yeah, but 14 year old girls have been playing impossibly cruel psychological games with each other for all of time, and the whole "if you want to be my friend you have to intentionally wreck your relationship with X person i don't like" is like page 1 in the playbook. As someone who was once a teenage girl: what the daughter did is really abnormal even for a teenager. It's one thing for that weird psychological bullying to happen among peers, another entirely to create false abuse stories about a parent. A 14 year old can understand the implications of people thinking you're being abused (and she did understand it, she just wanted to use it for sympathy from her friends). The daughter was even telling this lie at school, so the stepmom is lucky it didn't gently caress with her life in worse ways. Daughter's a horrible person.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:17
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Lying about abuse daughter is a bad person you should cut ties with. 8 year old disaster child deserves to watch as his laptop gets a 1” diameter hole drilled through it and it gets thrown in the trash.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:19
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I can almost see how the 18 year old with the "abusive stepmother" got to where she ended up. The OP mentioned this had apparently been going on for years, and that there would have been parents and teachers who "knew" about the "abuse" during meetings and things. How old were all of you when you discovered being sick got you extra attention and sympathy from people around you? And how many of you made the connection that you could fake being sick to get all kinds of extra attention and rewards, like staying home from school? I can totally see some young teenager girl (or pre-teen) who knew her mom was really a stepmom, and who was just exposed to the "evil stepmother" trope from a movie that all her friends knew too making up a story one day, or even telling a true one about her mean stepmom who disciplined her recently. Imagine all the sympathy you'd get from your friends for having a real-life evil stepmother! And then the lie just keeps getting bigger and more out of control and it feels good to tell it because everyone in your life treats you extra nice with each new story. So I can see that being an explanation, but it's certainly no excuse when you're 18 and still lying about it.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:25
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Eh, it's not really OP's job to parent his nephew but my point is destroying the laptop in front of him sends the message that it's okay to destroy people's belongings if you're really mad about it, which is not exactly an effective way to punish him for destroying people's belongings. The message you want to send is when you destroy people's stuff there are clearly laid out consequences.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:25
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I used to coach youth sports when I was in college. By the time I was done with it, and with some perspective now that I'm a bit older, it's pretty clear that most of kids behaving poorly has to do with their parenting. lovely kids are befuddling until you see them interact (or lack thereof) with their parents. 8 year old stuff destroyer sounds a lot like a kid who didn't get the attention they needed when they were young and is now just acting out a lot. Given how the family sounds, not super surprising. Teen-girl mom destroyer is something else. Dudes get really stupid around 13, but girls just start being incredibly mean and lovely to each other and everyone around them starting at like 10-11.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:26
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Maybe there was some kind of recent traumatic event that caused him to act out more than normal. Not that this excuses him.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:31
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DandyLion posted:Liquid cooled by submerging the entire computer (chipset/videocards/everything) in mineral oil which is both non-conductive (so as not to interfere with normal operation) and also an excellent thermal conductor. And if your computer runs hot you can make french fries while you game.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:35
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PetraCore posted:Eh, it's not really OP's job to parent his nephew but my point is destroying the laptop in front of him sends the message that it's okay to destroy people's belongings if you're really mad about it, which is not exactly an effective way to punish him for destroying people's belongings. The message you want to send is when you destroy people's stuff there are clearly laid out consequences. yea this is actually the core issue, the kid does sound like a dick but the main message a kid will take from this is 'oh so breaking someone's poo poo is ok when they DESERVE it then' and hey surprise surprise an 8 year old probably doesn't know how to actually decide if someone 'deserves' it other than 'they made me angry'.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:37
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Yeah, the destructive 8-year-old really needs proper boundaries and discipline, not to have the grown-ups in his life respond to his misbehavior with their own temper tantrums. I also feel like he definitely needs to learn there are consequences for his actions, but the consequences need to be deliberate, calculated, yet caring response, not just an angry, impulsive "gently caress you I'mma destroy YOUR toys, you stupid 8-year-old." Not gonna help with his temper issues. Of course, this is all very difficult parenting decision making type stuff and the OP is not a parent but a guy who states that his life has been destroyed due to losing toys. AITA for teasing my wife about finally catching her making GBS threads? quote:Ok so this is kind of a weird situation. My wife is one of those super prim and proper chicks. Like shes the walking definition of an 80s housewife. You don't ever catch her doing anything "impolite", whether its burping or farting or making GBS threads or any basic body function. Even weirder, when asked about it she completely denies she does any of these things. I've never managed to catch her, up until she had our daughter. The ones with poop in them are always special, to me at least.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:43
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Marchofthepenguins posted:
If she literally denies that she ever poops, something is seriously wrong. Regarding the guy whose stuff was all broken, we dont know what his job is, or how long it took him to save up to buy the very specific devices he mentions. That computer might have taken months and lots of ramen meals to put together.
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Jul 23, 2019 20:52
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Beachcomber posted:If she literally denies that she ever poops, something is seriously wrong. poop guy in comments posted:I've been trying to get her to go to therapy for it for a while tbh. Apparently the reason shes like this is because her ex used to watch her use the restroom and harass her about it, but she doesn't want to talk to anyone about it plus it was years ago so I'm sure shes mostly over it. "I'm sure."
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Jul 23, 2019 20:57
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Yea being all 'I make sure my door is closed and he can't hear me in the bathroom' whatever that's her thing no one 'has' to be open about taking a dump in their own house or whatever, but actively denying doing it at all and that background points to an actual anxiety issue, so congrats to the dude for probably genuinely triggering her a bit by 'catching' her making GBS threads just to say he did.
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Jul 23, 2019 21:02
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That guy sounds so loving stupid he may have legitimately believed she didn't poo poo, but had his suspicions, and his "Ah ha I caught you!" is sincere self congratulation on his part, believing he really cracked the case.
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Jul 23, 2019 21:04
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as a matter of fact I'm much smarter than all these boyfriends in all these stories
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Jul 23, 2019 21:06
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Like I know we're just supposed to ignore the fakeposts and pretend like nothing is happening but women don't poop so this whole conversation is weird and obviously fake.
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Marchofthepenguins posted:
gently caress this guy. Why does it matter *why* she doesn't like discussing or being observed using the bathroom? Why? All you have to do to make your wife happy is, literally, not bring up her taking a dump after you had to carry her to the bathroom after giving birth to your child. Like it's easier to make her happy and you have to expend effort to upset and humiliate her, so just shut the gently caress up! And how much more clearly could she express that she doesn't find the "joke" funny and wants it to stop? Ugh, bullied by her own husband. What a dick.
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hi liter posted:I used to coach youth sports when I was in college. By the time I was done with it, and with some perspective now that I'm a bit older, it's pretty clear that most of kids behaving poorly has to do with their parenting. lovely kids are befuddling until you see them interact (or lack thereof) with their parents. Most likely, although ADHD runs in my family and there's a noticeable difference in impulse control and hyperactivity between the siblings who have it and those that don't. Although if the kid has already broken a bunch of stuff in a house where they are guests, the sister should at the very least be keeping better track of him. Beachcomber posted:Maybe there was some kind of recent traumatic event that caused him to act out more than normal. Yes! They're staying with the OP for some unspecified "trouble in paradise" and her parents won't take her. That sounds like some major family issues. Kids act out when they're dealing with stressful chaotic environments. Marchofthepenguins posted:My wife is one of those super prim and proper chicks. Like shes the walking definition of an 80s housewife.  
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maybe he had no other way to organically introduce his bathroom fetish into the marriage.
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My neighbour (F52) made a blowjob gesture at me (M24) she is married and friends with my mum. Help.quote:Okay so my neighbour has kinda flirted with me a lot over the last few years. Like making sex eyes at me and stuff... I thought I was crazy and just imagining it but then last week I was as a party at her house with my family and she mimicked giving a blow job while looking right at me.
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Marchofthepenguins posted:AITA for teasing my wife about finally catching her making GBS threads? "I made fun of my wife for something that obviously makes her very uncomfortable, not long after she'd given birth by C-section, while she was vulnerable and in pain and dependent on me for care. Why is she still upset?!"
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PetraCore posted:Eh, it's not really OP's job to parent his nephew but my point is destroying the laptop in front of him sends the message that it's okay to destroy people's belongings if you're really mad about it, which is not exactly an effective way to punish him for destroying people's belongings. The message you want to send is when you destroy people's stuff there are clearly laid out consequences. yeah see it doesn't matter how much the 8yo could understands, all that really matters is the fully grown adult man in this situation decided the proper course of action was to act like a child in return 'you broke my thing so i broke yours' is loving schoolyard logic, not how an adult should react. it's not going to teach the child anything except that when you feel bad, it's ok to lash out. that sort of teaching is exactly how this jackass got to this adulthood thinking 'an eye for an eye = all things equal' EDIT: also yes it sounds like lacking stability in his life is causing behavioral issues, surprise surprise. I mean if it's really as OP described, it sounds to me like the kid did it precisely because it was specifically forbidden. Like, defying authority and getting attention seems like it was The Point. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 21:24 on Jul 23, 2019 |
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Marchofthepenguins posted:Yeah, the destructive 8-year-old really needs proper boundaries and discipline, not to have the grown-ups in his life respond to his misbehavior with their own temper tantrums. I also feel like he definitely needs to learn there are consequences for his actions, but the consequences need to be deliberate, calculated, yet caring response, not just an angry, impulsive "gently caress you I'mma destroy YOUR toys, you stupid 8-year-old." Not gonna help with his temper issues. Of course, this is all very difficult parenting decision making type stuff and the OP is not a parent but a guy who states that his life has been destroyed due to losing toys. Bonus points if he recorded her making GBS threads sounds and made this his custom ringtone when she calls
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Straight White Shark posted:My neighbour (F52) made a blowjob gesture at me (M24) she is married and friends with my mum. Help. Hahaha this poor lady getting a sext from her friends son thinking she wants him, when it's 100% inside his own imagination
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AlBorlantern Corps posted:Hahaha this poor lady getting a sext from her friends son thinking she wants him, when it's 100% inside his own imagination how u explain the blowjob gesture then? Thanks for reading.
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