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AITA for not freaking out over a sexist comment? My family recently got together to celebrate my cousin's marriage and we had a lot of extended family celebrating at my parent's house. Multiple generations under one roof kinda thing. At one point I guess (I wasn't there for it) one of my older uncles referred to my wife and daughter as "just a couple of gossiping women". Which, yeah, a little sexist and a lot disrespectful. But this guy is in his 80s. I doubt he thinks it's that bad. Wife and daughter on the other hand? Pissed. They came to me immediately and said since it's my family it's my responsibility to stand up for them and confront him. I refused, because he's in his 80s and it's not a big deal to him and why would I make a scene over one rude comment? I told them to just ignore him and have fun with my sisters and brothers and all the cousins that are my daughter's age (teenager). My wife accused me of caring more about keeping appearances than taking care of my family-which, if it had been a threat or something sexual or otherwise wildly inappropriate, I'd be on her side. It just seemed like something we don't need to make a big deal out of. I repeated that she needs to let it go rather than cause a scene and she threatened to leave. So, fine, let me know if you take the car so I can call a cab. I guess the fact I didn't try to stop her leaving made her even angrier, though she didn't leave. When we returned home she started slamming around cupboards and doors and now she's asked me to sleep on the couch tonight. My daughter similarly has sequestered herself in her room and won't talk to me. I feel like they're freaking out over a small issue. AITA for not causing a scene at the get together?
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Aug 17, 2019 00:40
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Smirking_Serpent posted:SO [26m] grossed out by my [26f] menstrual period. Trying for a baby soon. This is one where the OP has already called it and all her immediate gut reactions feel correct. Why gently caress up your body to give him kids when he will just expect you to do all the icky baby related stuff.
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Aug 17, 2019 00:50
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not freaking out over a sexist comment? There has to be more to this because it doesn’t seem like that one comment should make the both of them go nuclear like that. They were instantly angry. The old dude must have a history of it or something.
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Aug 17, 2019 00:53
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my significant other just has to understand that i am haunted by a glistening red demon that once a month becomes strong enough to shatter my psychic defenses and haul its twisting spurting way out of my innards, clawing, howling, ravenous for the flesh of any creature in its path
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Aug 17, 2019 00:54
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Smirking_Serpent posted:SO [26m] grossed out by my [26f] menstrual period. Trying for a baby soon. Nuke him. W45 atomic land mine, 10-kiloton intermediate yield. Plant it in his car
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Aug 17, 2019 00:55
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:All porn stars should wear Lucha Libre masks in porn films to retain their anonymity in the real world. unironically this. they should also incorporate lucha moves into loving so everyone knows its fake and to expect the real thing to be similar
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Aug 17, 2019 00:58
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not freaking out over a sexist comment? if you dont care about your daughter getting sexist remarks from your uncle you see once a year you probably dont care about the remarks she recieves every god drat day from tons of gently caress heads. your uncle should be able to stfu once a year so that your family can feel safe at a family gathering. i have a homophobic as gently caress grampa and no one in my family is to my knowledge gay and even he got the message stfu for when people are together or get cut off. noone is set in their ways its just a lovely excuse about not wanting to change. my 90yr grandma uses proper terminology
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Aug 17, 2019 01:17
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Google data is ruining my trust in my marriage.quote:u/isthismaplegit quote:Aunty_Fascist quote:isthismaplegit This woman is so dumb she is unable to solve the problem of installing a rideshare app, so I bet the super ‘pro honesty’ husband has crafted an entire fictional world around her with himself at the center.
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Aug 17, 2019 01:31
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A work manager (43M) asked me out to drink. I (29F) reported it.quote:u/7thxheavenxx drat girl, you got some garbage friends.
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Aug 17, 2019 01:35
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I [24 F] reached out to the guy [26 M] I used to date and told him my dad passedquote:u/Lifesabitchh “So disappointed in my ex because my attempt to use my personal tragedy to manipulate him into dating me again was unsuccessful, what is wrong with him???”
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Aug 17, 2019 01:41
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gently caress Your Website posted:I [24 F] reached out to the guy [26 M] I used to date and told him my dad passed  Jesus that’s messed up in a lot of ways.
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Aug 17, 2019 01:42
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snergle posted:if you dont care about your daughter getting sexist remarks from your uncle you see once a year you probably dont care about the remarks she recieves every god drat day from tons of gently caress heads. your uncle should be able to stfu once a year so that your family can feel safe at a family gathering. i have a homophobic as gently caress grampa and no one in my family is to my knowledge gay and even he got the message stfu for when people are together or get cut off. noone is set in their ways its just a lovely excuse about not wanting to change. my 90yr grandma uses proper terminology I had to go back and make sure I read the same post as you because god drat is that a remarkably tame thing to say to provoke that kind of reaction.
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Aug 17, 2019 01:45
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gently caress Your Website posted:Google data is ruining my trust in my marriage. Not that this is what's happening to this lady, but sometimes you do get bizarre poo poo like this, like when geolocation company MaxMind decided that every IP address they couldn't identify actually belonged to Joyce Taylor, 82, of Potwin, Kansas, because she lived at the default location of 38.0000°N 97.0000°W.
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Aug 17, 2019 01:46
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Chairman Mao posted:I had to go back and make sure I read the same post as you because god drat is that a remarkably tame thing to say to provoke that kind of reaction. That’s kinda what I am thinking. Like I get it it’s an uncouth thing to say but for a guy in his 80s that was definitely he grew up saying as wrong as it may be. poo poo that trope probably didn’t even really die out till the late 80s. I still think there’s other stuff to the story though.
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Aug 17, 2019 01:48
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Boyfriend’s best friend’s wife steals my prescription meds, he won’t ban her from house Hi everyone. First time posting to this sub. Using a throwaway. On mobile. TL;DR at bottom. We have been together about 3-4 years. My (41F) boyfriend (48M) grew up in a religious cult (Gurdjieff.) The kind where they didn’t go to public school, they all stayed on a farm, men were in power and women were quiet and cooked and cleaned and never cut their hair and wore dresses, the whole bit. As a result, BF still is super tight close friends with the guys he grew up with; they’re like family, brothers. They take care of each other. One of these Besties is a huge sweet pushover of a guy, J. J marries the first woman who is sweet to him; he likes to be seen as a provider, rescuer. Well she, A, is a borderline personality disorder type. She has a history with drugs, stripping, rehab, theft, a few felonies, festivals, and a wild life. She has always been normal to me in public but has set off my “sociopath” detector big time. (I have a history of abusive relationships and she has that Not Quite Right quality, big time.) I say little once I move to the boyfriend’s area and join in with his social circle, and hope for not a lot of interaction. When we tried hanging out alone, she bragged to me over drinks that she could cheat on J and she knows he’s so weak he would take her back. BF acknowledges she is “not ideal” but is hugely loyal to Bestie as a result of their upbringing, and doesn’t want to speak ill of her or rock the boat. Bringing us to today. A and J were at the house a month ago or so. I noticed A spent a long time in the bathroom (the communal one for guests that also has our main medicine cabinet and all of my personal bathroom stuff) but shamed myself for my suspicions (she has stolen medication in the past, but I didn’t want to think ill of her.) I didn’t check to see if anything was missing from the cabinet until I had a migraine last week and went to get my prescription medication and ...?? It is missing. I instantly think of her but don’t want to blame her without proof, and maybe I misplaced it when I traveled last??? (But I’m pretty organized.) I order a refill and let it go, reluctantly. Maybe I just messed up. Then just this last weekend I got horribly nauseous (I have anxiety) and went to get my prescription Zofran and ,,,,,? It is also missing from the cabinet!!! Now I’m hugely suspicious she was in there and took them. They were easy to take, both were in sample box type things so they wouldn’t have rattled in her pockets. She’s stolen before. I say this to BF and he reluctantly agrees she’s likely to blame and it’s a shame. I want to put my foot down and say that A isn’t allowed in my house any more or my bathroom and can’t have the garage code (he gives it to J, and he’s so sweet on his wife his loyalty is to her, so she has it.) I’m done. I shouldn’t have to hide my own stuff in my own house. BF doesn’t want to do this at all; it’ll cause an enormous rift in his friendship circle, and technically I have no proof, just suspicion (he backs me up that it’s very likely, but she could deny it and make me look like a paranoid rear end. She’s VERY manipulative.) He wants me to just hide my stuff whenever she comes over and not say a word. I don’t know what to do. TL;DR: boyfriend’s best friend from childhood marries psycho woman who steals my prescription meds. He won’t ban her from house. Not sure what to do.
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Aug 17, 2019 02:05
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echopapa posted:Boyfriend’s best friend’s wife steals my prescription meds, he won’t ban her from house Well you could get a camera and leave the meds where you always do and when you catch her on camera nuke her. Or you could hide your meds better. Or you could get away from your weirdo cult husband.
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Aug 17, 2019 02:09
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echopapa posted:Boyfriend’s best friend’s wife steals my prescription meds, he won’t ban her from house Is it considered poisoning if you happen to store medication in a different bottle than it came in?
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Aug 17, 2019 02:10
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Beachcomber posted:Is it considered poisoning if you happen to store medication in a different bottle than it came in? Only if you are a moron and fess up to knowingly doing it to poison the person. Thing is a pill head is gonna know what the pills look like so you'd have to be pretty elaborate with your pill of choice.
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Aug 17, 2019 02:14
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TBH, if that's the worst that comes from an abuse survivor marrying an ex-cult dude who's still tight with his cult "brother," she's getting off pretty easy
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Aug 17, 2019 02:17
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sexpig by night posted:hey, nothing says 'my dick is normal sized and not weird' like getting a rando fired from her crappy job of waxing balls. Dude had a botched circumcision that scarred his junk up. Don't take a job with the first rule of "don't laugh" if you can't not laugh at people with what is in all reality a birth defect. Not that it'd be any different at all laughing at someone for having a tiny wiener, scars or no, that's rule 1 of the job and also just lovely of you as a person.
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Aug 17, 2019 02:25
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AITA for inviting my semi famous friend to the bar to meet my bfs brother who’s a huge fan? This situation took place last weekend and my boyfriend is still pissed about it, I think I did nothing wrong. You decide. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and about a month ago met his whole family including his brother and wife. It came up in conversation that his brother is a huge fan of a certain small band that I just happen to know the guitarist from. This past weekend my bf told me that his brother and wife wanted to go for a night out with us, I thought this was a great idea! So they got a babysitter and we made plans to meet at a local bar for Saturday night. I thought this would be a perfect opportunity to show off a little bit and gain some brownie points with his family, so I called up my guitarist friend and asked him to meet us at the bar that night as a surprise. Well, the night came and we arrived at the bar, got a big booth table with his brother and wife and were off to a great start to the night. After about an hour my friend showed up and I invited him over to our table to meet everyone. He chatted with us for about 30 minutes before going to sit at the bar for the rest of the night. It seemed like bfs brother was impressed and I thought I did well by going above and beyond. I thought wrong. When we got home that night my bf immediately blew up at me asking why I had invited another guy along to an outing with his family. I explained what I was doing and who it was but he was having none of it. He kept saying how I was supposed to use this night to get to know his family and instead I spent the “entire time” talking to a different guy right in front of them. I do admit that I did stop to chat with my friend another few times, maybe for 10-15 minutes each at the most, but only when it was my turn to get a round of drinks. It’s not like he sat at our table all night or I was getting up just to go talk to him. I thought I had really impressed his brother with my “connections” so to speak, but my bf disagrees and thinks it was inappropriate. So, AITA?
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Aug 17, 2019 02:49
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AITA for walking out of a dinner party with my boyfriend's family, because of something his Uncle said to me? I went to a dinner party with my boyfriend's extended family last weekend. I've met a lot of the family already last year at Thanksgiving. At the dinner, I was talking to my boyfriend's Aunt and Uncle about what I do (systems engineering for nuclear power plants) and then his Uncle said something pretty gross about how the guys there must like having a pretty young lady to look at. Now I admit that hit a sore spot for me. I have had some crappy experiences with coworkers not respecting me because I'm a young woman. I firmly said to my boyfriend's Uncle "I don't care for how you just spoke to me; I better not hear anything like that again". I was trying to be firm but respectful; speaking to him in the same way I'd speak to someone at work who said something I didn't appreciate. And he got kind of stubborn, saying he was just paying me a compliment. By this point, everyone was staring. I was feeling pretty mad and I realized it would be a better call to walk away rather than escalate. So I said "excuse me, I'm going to take a walk before I say something I'll regret." And I went and grabbed my shoes and purse and went for a walk. I'd already been having a really bad week before this, my best friend moved out of town and I missed her a lot, my apartment had been partially flooded by a plumbing issue, I was exhausted from the long drive the night before. And this thing, that should have been a little annoyance, was like the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I started crying when I walked. I texted my best friend to tell her I missed her. She called me right away and could tell I was upset, and we talked for a while as I wandered. Talking to her made me feel a lot better, and after catching up for about 20 minutes, I noticed my phone was dying, and I ought to have been getting back, so I said bye. My phone died right after we hung up, and I started making my way back to my boyfriend's house. But I must have taken a wrong turn as I tried to backtrack my steps; I was lost in suburban sprawl. I saw the church steeple in the distance, and I realized that if I went to the church, the train station was close by. And I knew my way to my boyfriend's family's house from the station. So I took that roundabout way back. By the time I got back, I'd been out for about two hours. I got back and my boyfriend was upset with me for being gone for so long, not answering calls, and generally for walking out rather than doing something less dramatic. I told him about my phone dying, about getting lost, and he was still upset with me. I'd made things very uncomfortable at the party when I was gone. I apologized and said I'd tried to walk off to deescalate things, and it wasn't my intention to end up doing the exact opposite. But he was still upset with me for being a drama queen, which I don't think is fair. AITA for what I did at the party?
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Aug 17, 2019 02:49
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I do admit that I did stop to chat with my friend another few times, maybe for 10-15 minutes each at the most, but only when it was my turn to get a round of drinks. It’s not like he sat at our table all night or I was getting up just to go talk to him.
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Aug 17, 2019 02:57
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:LOL, it actually would have been less awkward if he had sat at their table all night. "I invited a friend's friend to my meeting with my boyfriend"s family then spent significant amounts of time with him. What did I do wrong?" It's not like this was a close friend or anything. She's either very, very naive or actually more interested in the musician dude. There's no in between.
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Aug 17, 2019 03:08
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quote:Yes, a snorting laugh with nasal flaring and mouth covering.
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Aug 17, 2019 03:09
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for inviting my semi famous friend to the bar to meet my bfs brother who’s a huge fan? Unreliable narrator
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Aug 17, 2019 03:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for walking out of a dinner party with my boyfriend's family, because of something his Uncle said to me? This person was not as calm and collected as they think they were, and good for them. gently caress that uncle, and gently caress every jackass who thinks like he does. Oh the misogynistic prick feels awkward? And that's her problem why? Also, dump the boyfriend, life's short.
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Aug 17, 2019 03:34
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snergle posted:anal is a loop hole obviously. did you not date mormon or catholic chicks? I have never dated a girl who identified as a strong Catholic or Mormon. Not even close.
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I (27F) was unknowingly the other woman for the first seven months of my 'relationship' (w/27m). We are thinking about getting married.quote: E: I (26M) want to go to a music festival and my girlfriend (unknown age) doesnt want to, but she doesnt want me going either. quote:So bass canyon is coming up and I've been anticipating it since before we were dating. At first we were going to go together if we got box seats. In the end I didnt want to pay a $1000 for it while managing our other finances so I pushed for GA or VIP. She decided she'll wait till last minute if she wants to go but I told her I still want to go and I'd really like it if she came. Fast forward to today, she decides shes not going. I still have my wristband and friends told me I could camp with them. We just got off the phone and said if I go, she'll "fail the test and get me back" and "I'm going to learn the hard way". I can understand if I flat out made plans and completely dis included her but I've pushed for to her go and I would cover her GA wristband. Right now I dont know if I should sell it or go with my friends for the weekend. How do you not know how old your girlfriend is?! LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 04:04 on Aug 17, 2019 |
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Aug 17, 2019 03:58
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ScentOfAnOtaku posted:Oh the misogynistic prick feels awkward? And that's her problem why? Because she committed the worst crime possible for a woman - she made a man feel bad about their lovely actions. Not that we'd see anything like that in this thread. No, sirree.
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Aug 17, 2019 04:04
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LadyPictureShow posted:girlfriend (unknown age) I'm sorry, what e: is this code for "she is underage, I just don't know for sure because I haven't asked wink, wink, nudge, nudge"
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Aug 17, 2019 04:09
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LadyPictureShow posted:How do you not know how old your girlfriend is?! ]Skullkidmusic [S] [score hidden] 8 hours ago She is definitely not underage. She has certain things you cant get underage permalink embedsave parentreportgive awardreply [–]NightOwlEye [score hidden] 8 hours ago Lol like a 26 yr old boyfriend? permalink embedsave parentreportgive awardreply [–]Skullkidmusic [S] [score hidden] 8 hours ago G wagon Skullkidmusic [S] [score hidden] 8 hours ago So I just ran a background check, its telling me shes 32. I'm out.
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Aug 17, 2019 04:34
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classic midget bait and switch, I think that's how they caught Epstein
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Aug 17, 2019 04:43
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Oh no, a woman six years older than me and just entering her sexual prime. I must flee.
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Aug 17, 2019 04:54
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What if he's disappointed she's not older rather than that she's not younger? Edit: quote:We've been dating almost a year. We live together currently, wasnt planned but her other living situation wasnt a good place to be so I let her come to my place. We were planning on moving south together but after things keep popping up I'm sending her out. I say our finances but I meant my finances until her business gets up and running next month Peaceful Anarchy fucked around with this message at 05:01 on Aug 17, 2019 |
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Aug 17, 2019 04:56
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:What if he's disappointed she's not older rather than that she's not younger? LMAO, I just saw that comment and came to post it. Lemony Snicket's A Series Of loving Terrible Decisions
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Van Kraken posted:Not that this is what's happening to this lady, but sometimes you do get bizarre poo poo like this, like when geolocation company MaxMind decided that every IP address they couldn't identify actually belonged to Joyce Taylor, 82, of Potwin, Kansas, because she lived at the default location of 38.0000°N 97.0000°W. Boarding passes for flights and the receipt from the gift could settle this real quick. Antivehicular posted:TBH, if that's the worst that comes from an abuse survivor marrying an ex-cult dude who's still tight with his cult "brother," she's getting off pretty easy So far.
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Aug 17, 2019 05:11
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Lol at the dude peacing out because the woman is thirty-two. I can’t remember a time in my entire adulthood where thirty-two seemed too old for me, and now I’m starting to think things like, “She looks good for sixty.”
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Aug 17, 2019 05:33
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cumshitter posted:It's like the inverse of the lady who got terrible advice from her radical feminist friends. Telling a wife to ration sex and just be a emotionally manipulative assshole is about as feminist as the “half of all concentration camp guards should be women.”
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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:Telling a wife to ration sex and just be a emotionally manipulative assshole is about as feminist as the “half of all concentration camp guards should be women.” Wealthy white women frequently can't imagine any progress other than being allowed to get away with as much bullshit as wealthy white men.
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