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Flannelette: Jan 17, 2010

Pinecone Sample posted:

WIBTA If i asked my GF to wear make-up during sex?

There's only one YTA reply so far
He really gonna do it

Another porn related broke brain

# ? Aug 21, 2019 12:16

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# ? May 30, 2024 00:24

kru: Oct 5, 2003

/r/relationships: My girlfriend (32/F) wrote me (31/M) a 52-page breakup letter and I'm having a tough time handling it (long read)

# ? Aug 21, 2019 12:20

Barudak: May 7, 2007

I seriously thought he copied all 52 pages as I began scrolling faster and faster and it never ended

# ? Aug 21, 2019 12:34

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

Barudak posted:

I seriously thought he copied all 52 pages as I began scrolling faster and faster and it never ended

You're not alone.

E: Behold! The most obnoxious writing style I've seen in the last five minutes!

My (23f) Boyfriend (32M) Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks.

quote:

FIRST TIME POSTER!

A little back story on me and Bf before I Start We Have Been Together For 6 Years ( Friends With Benefits Before) And We Have Two Children A Girl (Age7) And A Boy ( Age3).

We Have Had Problems Through Out Our Relationship As ALL Couples Do. But Lately Maybe The Past 3/4 Times He Has Been Drinking He Starts To Bash Me And Tell Me How He Doesn�t Want To Be With Me... He�s Tired Of Our Relationship Etc Etc! And Honestly So Am I! I Love Him And I Want To Be With Him! But His Behavior Is Draining Me Physically And Emotionally l! He Never Seems To See How This Is Hurting Me Or Just Doesn�t Care!

I Really Need You Guys Advice To Help Me See Things Clearly! I Really Think He Isn�t Happy And Can Only Tell Me How He Feels When He Is Tispy/Drunk!

TL;DR! Bf Bashes And Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks!

LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 13:06 on Aug 21, 2019

# ? Aug 21, 2019 12:50

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

Panfilo posted:

She should sue the school for not acting sooner since her complaints about the guy were validated but only when they found out he thought Hitler was cool.

Yup, she could legit sue her school under Title IX concerns because they stonewalled her endlessly and dicked around until he was shown to be a Nazi. Pretty hosed up since she sent them evidence multiple times!

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:10

Frog Act: Feb 10, 2012

LadyPictureShow posted:

You're not alone.

E: Behold! The most obnoxious writing style I've seen in the last five minutes!

My (23f) Boyfriend (32M) Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks.

Reddit is full of exceptionally stupid people but usually they�re able to string together a basic, grammatically correct sentence, it�s just whatever thought they�re expressing in that sentence that�s usually dumb and awful. /r/relationships is like a microcosm of Facebook style non-internet person posting and it�s absolutely full of poo poo like this. Just incoherent, misspelled, bizarrely phrased posts that read like they were written by a lazy middle schooler but they�re from a 35 year old

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:14

Barudak: May 7, 2007

LadyPictureShow posted:

My (23f) Boyfriend (32M) Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks.

I broke the code hidden in the capital versus lowercase letters but it was just an ad for ovaltine

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:19

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

LadyPictureShow posted:

My (23f) Boyfriend (32M) Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks.

I thought this was written by a 15 year old dating another teenager at first, but nope, she's 23... :greenangel:

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:20

welcome to hell: Jun 9, 2006

Found out about my boyfriends kink... should I be concerned? by FutureArsonVictim

quote:

Hey guys I�m really looking for advice right now cause I (M) found out that my boyfriend is a possible pyromaniac. Long story short I found dozens of videos on his laptop of buildings burning down. Some indicators I missed but make sense now are that he enjoys sex in front of the fire place, loves the smell of smoke, and owns a flamethrower that i have never seen him use. I feel like this isn�t a conversation you just bring up with your partner so I�m looking for advice on how to proceed cause quite frankly I�m very stressed about this.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:25

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Oh hun, you have the perfect man. Two flame decals tattoed on your legs and hell never lose intetest

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:29

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

LadyPictureShow posted:

You're not alone.

E: Behold! The most obnoxious writing style I've seen in the last five minutes!

My (23f) Boyfriend (32M) Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks.

Should I be reading this in the spongebob voice?

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:30

Pinecone Sample: Oct 12, 2010; THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420

I (F22) often buy my long-time best friend (M22) condoms, my boyfriend (M30)of one year says this is a deal-breaker for him.

quote:

Me and my best friend have been friends since we were 11. There was never any romantic feelings between us, the most we have ever done is hugged and kissed on the cheek on occasions such as birthdays. He has always been there for me, even now that he’s also in a relationship, he’s always there to lend me a hand with things.

Me and my boyfriend have known each-other for a year and a half. It’s a long distance relationship, but we see each-other every month for two weeks at a time, sometimes more. We have talked about boundaries early on, so I thought we are both on the same page. He’s a great person, but I do believe that previous relationships have made it hard for him to trust people.

THE ISSUE: My best friend is extremely shy when it comes to buying stuff like condoms and lubricants (I know, it is immature). His relationship is quite new and I think he’s embarrassed to ask his guy friends to buy him condoms. So a while ago he came to me and I had no problem getting them for him. I bought them with his money.

While I don’t see anything wrong with this, my boyfriend believes this is a huge boundary that’s been crossed. He tells me it’s disrespectful and shocking that I don’t think so too and also immature of me and my best friend.

I’m asking for your perspective of this- what difference does it make if I buy a packet of chips for him vs. a packet of condoms? Is it really that inappropriate?

If he had a female best friend and had done the same, I would not have a problem with it.

TL;DR : I buy my best friend condoms as he is very shy to do so and is in a new relationship, my boyfriend says it’s inappropriate and a deal-breaker if I continue doing it.

If only there were a way to have consumer goods delivered to your home or a storage locker in the vicinity

The friend definitely gets off to this right?

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:30

Power Khan: Aug 20, 2011; by Fritz the Horse

Lol, totally getting off of it, and her bf caught wind of this weirdo.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:40

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I thought this was written by a 15 year old dating another teenager at first, but nope, she's 23...

Oh my God, her terrible writing style made me gloss over their and their kids' ages completely.

23 with a 7 year old. Jesus.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:50

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

Pinecone Sample posted:

I (F22) often buy my long-time best friend (M22) condoms, my boyfriend (M30)of one year says this is a deal-breaker for him.

Dang yo. You gotta be hilariously weird to get off on your lady friend buying condoms for you. :laugh:

Also her boyfriend is 8 years older than she is and they've been dating long distance for 1.5 years??? That's almost more worrying and weird.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:51

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

LadyPictureShow posted:

Oh my God, her terrible writing style made me gloss over their and their kids' ages completely.

23 with a 7 year old. Jesus.

Uh yeah, me too. I couldn't parse any of that at first... but now I realize they've been dating in some capacity (????) since she was 16 and he was 25 and have 2 kids. I want to die. :cripes:

# ? Aug 21, 2019 13:54

InediblePenguin: Sep 27, 2004; I'm strong. And a giant penguin. Please don't eat me. No, really. Don't try.

Antivehicular posted:

I kind of skimmed this until I hit the point where he called his girlfriend "disgusting and dirty" for having HPV-related cancerous cervical growths, and then I stopped reading. I really hope the 52-page breakup letter is just "YOU ARE A CRAPPY LITTLE BULLSHIT MAN" over and over with gradually increasing font size

I quit reading when he said his girlfriend was a cop. i guess they're both garbage

# ? Aug 21, 2019 14:07

MasBrillante: Dec 3, 2005; by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

InediblePenguin posted:

I quit reading when he said his girlfriend was a cop. i guess they're both garbage

I missed this detail but lol, love it.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 14:21

bus hustler: Mar 14, 2019; Ha Ha Ha... YES!

quote:

We Have Had Problems Through Out Our Relationship As ALL Couples Do.

This should probably be the actual thread title. It's the bad relationship version of, "I'm not racist, but..."

Like, one time when we were just dating I thought I wanted to move internationally and she wasn't ready to, so we sat down and talked about what was important to us and whether we wanted different things in life, but I suspect that's not what the OP means.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 14:24

MightyJoe36: Dec 29, 2013; Cat Army

La Brea Carpet posted:

I don't know if his brother is a Marine or not, but there's at least a 78% chance he's an E-3 with a financed to the hilt Dodge Charger in the garage.

I'm thinking Mustang with a loan at 28%.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 14:49

welcome to hell: Jun 9, 2006

I�m having trouble hanging out with my girlfriend�s friends, and I have suspicions it may be the age difference. I�m 38, she just turned 21.

quote:

Hey all, so I�ll get right to it. I met my current gf on Plenty of Fish, and we are very much in love. We�ve been going out for a few weeks and recently she suggested I �get to know her friends� because they are �really curious about me�.

I said sure thing, and we all met at a local coffee house for a few rounds of mochas. I could tell right off that her friends were weirded out by me. They kept giving me the �side eye� and making comments like �You look older than I thought�. I was trying my damndest to be the �charming fellow� by buying their mochas and talking about tv shows on Netflix, but you could tell they thought I was a weirdo.

After it was over, a few days later I asked my gf what her friends thought of me. She was hesitant to say, but finally she admitted that her friends thought I was a �creeper� and they couldn�t understand why she was with me. They kept referring to me as �Old man�.

Well that kinda hurt. I know there�s a heck of an age difference but I sort of expected people in this day and age to be more cool with it. We have plans to go to a concert this weekend with them, but I�m sort of not looking forward to it.

I want to be with my gf, she�s super hot and really cool, but her friends are really getting me down. How do I impress her friends, or at least get them to stop calling me a �creeper�?

Sick of being judged for dating a younger woman!

quote:

Wow, earlier today I posted on relationship advice about how to get my gf�s friends to like me. Basically the folks over there just judged my relationship and ignored my question. Yes, I�m 38 and she�s 21, but we�re both adults and we love each other.

I didn�t make the first move, she did. And I told her it wouldn�t work because of age. She said she didn�t care about age. I said our relationship probably couldn�t be serious long-term because of the problems posed by the age gap, she still insisted she wanted to date me. I told her, fine we can try but if it gets weird for you at any time feel free to bail. I told her I might very well bail too if I changed my mind. She said she completely understands.

And yet at every turn I�m called a Predator. I�ve often wondered what the reaction from society would be if I was a 38 year old woman dating a 21 year old dude. I would just be called a Cougar, not a loving Predator.

Society is so loving stupid about this poo poo. If celebrities or rich dudes date younger women - hey no loving problem! That�s cool! If a normal guy dates a younger woman you�re called Predator, weirdo, creeper.

You may not like the age difference, but you don�t know me or her. As far as society goes, we are both consenting adults.

Enough judging!

# ? Aug 21, 2019 14:54

UZR IS BULLSHIT: Jan 25, 2004

quote:

I would just be called a Cougar, not a loving Predator.

He's so close and yet so far to getting it, lol

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:04

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

QuarkJets posted:

What's the landlord going to do, start parasitically accepting rent payments while doing the bare minimum in maintenance to keep from getting sued? Oh wait lol

I think the notice was probably written by the coffee shop owners as a bluff to get the wifi name changed. Most landlords wouldn't be assed to do that kind of thing. OTOH, the kind who would are the same kind who would put bullshit like "tenant agrees to rename their wifi network at landlord's request" in a lease agreement

Most landlords are not that smart.

LadyPictureShow posted:

You're not alone.

E: Behold! The most obnoxious writing style I've seen in the last five minutes!

My (23f) Boyfriend (32M) Tells Me He Doesn�t Want Me Whenever He Drinks.

Holy poo poo :murder:

how does this person function

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:10

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

UZR IS BULLSHIT posted:

He's so close and yet so far to getting it, lol

lol that's fuckin gold

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:10

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

StrangersInTheNight posted:

No, this is not enabling, because deciding to host your traumatized teenage sister after she was the only survivor of a car accident in which her other family members died and deciding to make this contingent on her doing childcare work when she literally has no other options at that moment is loving coercive as hell, AND ALSO a terrible lapse in judgement as a parent

That is not 'a deal', she only agreed bc what else could she loving do? Her coping mechanism to agree and neglect was absolutely terrible, but she's a traumatized 17yo, it should NEVER HAVE BEEN HANDED TO HER

'Hm, how can I help my grieving sister with no other options? I know, thrust her into adult responsibilities! Surely that won't amplify her grief by making her aware of the sudden and abrupt end to her youth/childhood symbolized by this one traumatic incident. This is a good, fair deal that makes sense, and all parties are clearly agreeing on equal footing as adults! Therapy, what's that?

Wait, what, my carefully crafted system fell apart? It couldn't function like slotting a cig into a machine? YOU KNEW THE DEAL' <- is not a fair response. Leaving a toddler alone in the way she did was awful, but this situation should never have been created in the first place.

Sister is 21 not 17. Kid is 2. At the absolute earliest she was 19 and already in school at this point. But let's keep spinning the narrative your way.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:11

welcome to hell: Jun 9, 2006

I broke up with S/O because she (23F) pooped on my (22M) head!

quote:

Before we start - yes! hardy har har "This must be a shitpost" But as much as I wish it was, it's sadly not. I originally posted this to AITA but apparently they don't allow relationship posts.

YES! you're reading that right, I broke up with my S/O because she pooped on my head! It happened two weeks ago. It started like a normal day, both very bored & after we exchanged some looks - we got down to business. We were in our favorite numbered position & I was going to town - I was eating like a man who hadn't eaten in weeks.

She was enjoying it very much & afterwards - She began to relax & there is no maybe about this, SHE RELAXED TOO MUCH! because I heard her gasp & say "ohno". She was lying still & then VERY quickly jumped off of me - BUT not before I felt something wet & warm hit my upper forehead, I could feel it trickle down my hairline & then into my hair!

I could see her running to the bathroom holding herself, WHAT THE gently caress was on my head? I thought. Brushing my hand through my hair revealed that diarrhea was soaking my head. I also ran to the bathroom but I jumped into the shower to wash my poopy head & vomit - I did that all while she was on the toilet a foot away from me making GBS threads her brains out.

HOW!?!?! you might be asking, trust me I've been asking myself that over & over again these last two weeks. WHY?!?! is another one, if she didn't feel well - why did she want to have sex? If I have the shits the last thing on my mind is sex! I broke up with her because of this obviously, I don't think I could look at her the same way anymore. After our split - all our friends were asking nonstop why we broke up, mostly my friends & to save her from embarrassment I've been telling people we just didn't work out, but here I am telling the internet.

I feel bad, I really do feel bad about everything that has gone on. I've been stressing myself out all week over this, I feel guilty & I don't want to discuss this with my friends. It's best I keep this anonymous - I need to know if I did wrong by breaking up with her, what else could I have done? I don't if staying with her was an option because like I said, I don't if I could look at her the same anymore. Should I have broken up with her or should I've tried to make it work?

TL;DR: S/O pooped on my head & I need to know if breaking up with her was the right thing to do.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:15

McSpanky: Jan 16, 2005

welcome to hell posted:

I broke up with S/O because she (23F) pooped on my (22M) head!

Yikes, what a shithead

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:20

bus hustler: Mar 14, 2019; Ha Ha Ha... YES!

Pinecone Sample posted:

I (F22) often buy my long-time best friend (M22) condoms, my boyfriend (M30)of one year says this is a deal-breaker for him.

If only there were a way to have consumer goods delivered to your home or a storage locker in the vicinity

The friend definitely gets off to this right?

So I did some digging and the OP lives in or near Qatar, which... makes the entire thing make a lot more sense, but also more confusing because of the genders. No idea why she did not think to mention this.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:24

ZombieLenin: Sep 6, 2009; "Democracy for the insignificant minority, democracy for the rich--that is the democracy of capitalist society." VI Lenin

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HOT BREAD! posted:

One of my (34F) best friends (32F) dropped a bomb shell on me.

This is so creepy. Ew.

Is it? Or is her friend just being honest about her feelings? Not there was anything inappropriate about the OPs response to her friend just coming out and saying, �I am attracted to you.�

It�s a perfectly fair reaction for anyone whether it�s two straight friends of opposite genders, a straight friend and a gay/bi friend, or two gay same gender friends, for the other person to say, �no this grosses me out/makes me feel uncomfortable because to me we have only been just friends.

It�s just I don�t necessarily think it�s creepy for someone to be honest with their friend if they have feelings for/are attracted to them.

The problem for me would be if that friend was unwilling to accept as a possible reaction �I don�t share those feelings� and maybe even �we cannot be friends anymore.�

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:29

Grape: Nov 16, 2017; Happily shilling for China!

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Yup, she could legit sue her school under Title IX concerns because they stonewalled her endlessly and dicked around until he was shown to be a Nazi. Pretty hosed up since she sent them evidence multiple times!

It sounds like they're in a European country though, so laws will vary wildly depending.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:34

bus hustler: Mar 14, 2019; Ha Ha Ha... YES!

ZombieLenin posted:

Is it? Or is her friend just being honest about her feelings? Not there was anything inappropriate about the OPs response to her friend just coming out and saying, �I am attracted to you.�

cool she said "your body is sexy" and "i think about you" which would be 100% creepy if a dude said it, without a shadow of a doubt

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:37

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

I (43M) am watching the love of my life (35F) get married soon. Neither she nor my wife of 15+ years (40F) know how I feel about her.

quote:

Throwaway account, obv.

The woman getting married is someone I work with and have been friends with for years who I've � without realizing it was happening at the time � caught feelings for in an intense, incredible way. She is without hyperbole the most perfect woman for me I've ever encountered and I have fallen helplessly in love with her. It wasn't until she began seeing someone after a long period of being single that I began to realize I'd shifted from viewing her as a "friend" to "wife material" � like as soon as the theoretical possibility of us ever being together began to close I started to freak out a bit. Honestly I have no idea if she's ever thought of me in a romantic way at all � our friendship all along has been more like a brother and sister, there's never once been anything spoken of or implied at our friendship moving beyond that. Also worth pointing out that my wife (see below) and her know each other quite well and are pretty good friends too.

I've also been married for nearly 20 years to someone that I also love deeply and honestly can say I wouldn't have survived this long in my life without. I'm also not in any way planning on ending my marriage, trying to leave my wife for this other woman, or attempting to disrupt or subvert her relationship with her fianc�e. Years ago a friend of mine cheated on his wife (their marriage survived) and he remarked to me that he still loved his wife while having an affair. I never understood how someone could live that dichotomy until now.

My friend is getting married to a guy who I don't know that well, seems like a decent enough person, and who I'm insanewith jealousy over. On one hand I'm truly happy for her because she's had a tough last couple of years (deaths in the family, workplace stress) and that's the feeling I'm trying to lean hard into right now � if I'm truly her friend then her happiness is important to me and I should celebrate that with her. On the other hand I can't stop wishing it was me that was the one making her happy.

Yeah, there's a lot of conflicted emotions here that don't necessarily make sense (because when do emotions ever make sense) and I'm also acutely aware that I'm an rear end in a top hat for allowing my emotions for someone other than my wife get this strong.

I'm in hell right now. I cannot stop thinking about her and the feelings of grief, loss, and depression are starting to take a toll on me physically and mentally. I wake up in the middle of the night and all I can think about is her being with someone else. I'm doing every mental exercise and thought-control program I can think of just to steer my mind away to any other topic and I'm honestly a bit scared to be alone with my thoughts right now. I've not reached the point of "drinking to forget." Yet. We still work together and I see her at the office every day so the idea of quitting the relationship cold-turkey isn't an option short of quitting my job too (and I like my job).

Anyways, I'm not necessarily asking for solutions here, mostly using the collective Reddit hive-mind as a therapist, because in all reality my solution is to suck it up and leave everything be. Feel free to advise, scold, judge, and mock me at your leisure.

TLDR: I've fallen in love with a friend even though I'm married. She's getting married to someone else and has no idea how I feel about her. My wife (who I still love) doesn't know either and I'm a conflicted emotional mess.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:39

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I thought this was written by a 15 year old dating another teenager at first, but nope, she's 23...

You're close she was 15 when the 24 year old knocked her up... So probably some Arrested Development going on from the molestation.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:39

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

quote:

AITA for taking my shoes off on airplanes?
u/thescooobygang
I take my shoes off on airplanes because I like the feeling of wearing just socks.

I always have clean feet & socks, and I spray down my shoes every morning so they don't smell. I put my shoes back on if I get up to stretch/go to the bathroom. I don't put my feet on the armrests, or the seat in front of me, or the tray table (I will cross my legs or tuck my feet under me, though). If a flight attendant asks me to put my shoes back on, I do so.

I know people have strong opinions about being barefoot in public (personally, I agree that you shouldn't be barefoot anywhere other than the beach/pool & your house), so now I'm starting to wonder if I'm being an rear end in a top hat when I do this?

EDIT: I want to make it very clear that my feet don't smell. I always sit next to my boyfriend, who has the nose of a bloodhound, and he's always the first to notice if my breath smells or if I need another layer of deodorant. He's never had an issue with my feet smelling

When I was coming back from Mexico in Jan, some lady that looked dead on like Parker Posey in Best In Show was dousing herself with essential oils in midair two seats from me. About a minute in, after it circulated a good few rows in the cabin with people sniffling and coughing, she keeps at it. A member of the cabin crew rushes over amid the coughs and spots the lady giving herself a good in-flight anointing, and reams her out with this exceptionally restrained fury that I�ll never manage to achieve personally.

Yeah, try to be normal on planes please.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:40

gvibes: Jan 18, 2010; Leading us to the promised land (i.e., one tournament win in five years)

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA for refusing to be interviewed as part of my wife's job application?

Prologue: I love my wife. And she's impressive as hell. She's led discussions between Israelis and Palestinians. She's raised $25,000 for well-digging projects in Africa. She's the best person I've ever met, and she refuses to admit that about herself. I'm utterly amazed by everything she does... but we do differ in religion. She's of the Christian faith, and I'm an agnostic/atheist. This very seldom is an issue between the two of us, and we both see the merits of each others' stances. She's going to join the ministry, and I see all of the amazing works that she does there. At the same time, she and I are both on the same page that I'm not interested in joining or associating with a church. She's completely accepting of that, and she's asked very little of me in that regard.

The story: My wife is wrapping up her Master in Divinity, and she's beginning the job interview process to become a church pastor. I couldn't be more proud of her. She's got an interview at what seems like a perfect church. They're welcoming and accepting of everyone, they don't judge anyone for their lifestyle choices, they're looking more and more towards women for leadership, and so on and so forth. It's a perfect match for her. Her interview went great, and she's moving on to the next round of interviews.

The church emails her telling her that the next round involves an interview with her spouse. They want to ask me questions about how I affect her faith and how I support her ministry. She and I were both very taken aback at the request. I'm definitely not the type of spouse they're expecting.

So there's an email from this church sitting in my inbox awaiting my reply for this interview. She was very gracious about it, and even went as far as to offer to withdraw from candidacy, but I'm not ready for her to make that sacrifice on my account. We're two different people with two different beliefs, and I'm livid that they expect my wife to stand in scrutiny over my beliefs and how they differ from her own.

The way I see it, there are 3 options:

1: Lie about my beliefs and my willingness to attend church in the interest of advancing her forward.

2: Tell them the truth about my faith and put her advancement in jeopardy.

3: Refuse the interview out of principal and see if that causes her to be removed from consideration.

My wife has said that this choice is my own, and she'll love me no matter what I choose to do. She's going to do amazing things in this world, and I couldn't live with being the reason that she isn't able to do them. A brief lie on my part could bring about a fulfilling career for the woman I love. At the same time, if I lie then I may be setting her up for an even greater fall later on. At this point I can't tell if I'm lying to myself about my motivations for potentially refusing the interview. Maybe I'm just a selfish rear end who needs to get over his beliefs for the sake of this amazing woman. So WIBTA for refusing this interview altogether?

From what I know about pastoral hiring, his wife's employment prospects may be doomed in all but the most liberal congregations. A lot of traditional churches seem to view pastoral hiring as a two for one deal, where you get the spouse for free. A seemingly well qualified acquaintance of mine who happened to be single just couldn't get hired anywhere.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:44

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

I've been on a few long haul international flights where they had a little toiletry bag on the seats that gave you toothbrush, toothpaste, a flimsy eye mask and a thin pair of house slippers (one time it was slipper socks like you're given in a hospital).

Dude should pack some cheap slippers in his carry on at least.

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:46

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

imo it's fine to take your shoes off on the plane (as long as they don't stink and you keep your feet on the floor) but if you take off your socks you should be dumped out the emergency exit

# ? Aug 21, 2019 15:53

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

AITA for feeding my sons vegan friend meat?

quote:

Hey guys, short time lurker first time poster, I'm not one to really do this but I'm genuinely wondering if I'm in the wrong.

So my son had a friend over for dinner the other night. For context, they're both 13, and the friends parents are vegan.

I don't know anything about vegan food and don't have many vegetables I normally cook - pretty much all I ever make for vegetable sides is buttered corn, brocolli and cheese, brown sugar carrots, or mixed veggies.

Well, normally his friend isn't over for dinner, but this night his parents weren't able to pick him up until late so asked if he could eat dinner with us. We said of course, and they reminded us that they are vegan so he'd need a vegan friendly dish. We told them we don't really have anything we could make vegan, but we could find some small things to give him until they picked him up and they said to just make whatever we were going to make ourselves and leave out the animal products.

Well, that night was meatloaf night. With homemade mashed potatoes (lots of butter) and buttered corn. I offered to make him some roasted carrots and potato wedges, but he said he'd actually like to eat what we were eating and that it looked good, and that he usually eats meat at school anyways. So, we just made him the same plate as ours.

Well when his parents asked him what he had for dinner and he told them, they were PISSED. They said we're a bad influence and turning him against veganism?? Even though it was HIS choice to eat our dinner rather than me making him some small sides. Apparently now he's also no longer allowed to hang out with our son. Our son is heartbroken, me and my husband are pretty upset that they're trying to end our kids friendship over this, and our friends are kind of split. Some people say that their son is old enough to make his own decision on if he's vegan or not, some think I should of done as the parents asked and made him something vegan. I also think that at his age, it's his choice to eat animal products or not, and if he asks me for some I'm not going to say no. So what's reddit's judgement, who's in the wrong here?

13 years is old enough for a kid to make dietary choices, so OP aint an rear end in a top hat for that.

But for the love of god, learn to cook vegetables for your own family's sake

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Baronjutter: Dec 31, 2007; "Tiny Trains"

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Porn stars before/after makeup. Yes, porn has broken people's brains.

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spacetoaster: Feb 10, 2014

Bruceski posted:

I think when my mother's congregation just interviewed for a new rabbi they considered the spouse as well, I'll email her to check.

Yeah, that's pretty standard. Being a rabbi/minister is a full time job with crazy hours and demands.

If the spouse isn't really on board it's going to burn the rabbi/minister out pretty quickly and possibly ruin the marriage.

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