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My parents have been married for 30 years and my mom just started divorce...procedures? because she's loving tired of cleaning up after my father who has never vacuumed or done his own laundry once in his life. tbh I'm interested to see what the gently caress he's going to do. I'm predicting he'll move into the woods and just become an insane dirty gun nut.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not thanking a Veteran for his service?
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big dyke energy posted:My parents have been married for 30 years and my mom just started divorce...procedures? because she's loving tired of cleaning up after my father who has never vacuumed or done his own laundry once in his life. I've always wondered what my dad would do if my mom left. Not only does she do all the cleaning/cooking/bill-paying/scheduling/everything else, but before he retired she also did all the bookkeeping and administrative parts for his many failed businesses (that she didn't want him to start, but he did anyway), in addition to working full-time at other jobs so they'd actually have a steady income. She will never admit this is a problem, though. The closest she ever came was when we were alone and she'd had a couple glasses of wine and said with a kind of far-off look, "It's different for your generation." My mom is the nicest person you'll ever meet, but also an invertebrate. Now I've made myself sad 
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luxury handset posted:pizza training is usually about learning to make things in a very traditional way, from scratch, so you can market it back in wherever you came from, and also definitely there's a lot of "gosh it's just such a shame it takes me a month of hanging out in naples, eating loads of pizza, to learn how to do it right" This is a grift and I love it.
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artsy fartsy posted:"It's different for your generation." Offfff. That hurts. Sorry.
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As someone who struggles with very late caught ADHD, I can get depressed about my chronic slobness at times. But lol man this thread is like the cure for that, I'm still miles more functional and self-sufficient than so many of these apparently normal brained dudes.
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I absolutely love the man child posts, because I am one but not half way as bad as these guys (full time career, wipe rear end, do b laundry, etc) and it makes me feel good to read about people who are bigger losers than I am.
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Wait... Someone actually listened to good advice?! (UPDATE) My Brother(18) has been poisoning my girlfriend(24) for the past 3 years quote:u/iCutWaffles Huh. Good job, reddit! I'm glad the make peace thing was just a dumb knee jerk reaction
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I really wonder what happens when the rug is pulled out from under these lazy guys. A lot of them don't change for such a long time because they're in an environment where there's zero personal incentive for them to be more independent. If you had someone in your life catering to your every need and you were not ashamed of it, why would you want anything else? Which is why it's interesting when that support system actually goes away. Without a mom or wife to nock off of, how well do they fare? Probably the most infuriating are the ones that suddenly get a job and wipe their own rear end PERFECTLY FINE, indicating they were certainly capable of it all along but just let others do all the work. There was a type of sociopath like this in the book 'The sociopath next door'. Their gimmick was that they were very manipulative at doing as little work as possible in life. Like it wasn't even learned helplessness because they were perfectly functional in theory, they just had zero shame in getting everyone else to take care of them.
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Panfilo posted:Which is why it's interesting when that support system actually goes away. Without a mom or wife to nock off of, how well do they fare? MagusofStars fucked around with this message at 00:34 on Aug 24, 2019 |
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Voting Floater posted:A lot have the mentality that he'll change, grow up, start taking responsibility etc. It's such a shame that so many women don't hit the realisation that the man isn't going to change until they're already locked in with marriage and/or children and face a much uglier break-up than if they'd cut their losses years earlier. It really doesn't help that there's a lot of socialization of the idea that the filth-elemental stage is natural for young guys living alone, he'll grow out of it, etc., on top of the very heavy socialization for girls/women that you'll never find a perfect man, love takes work, and taking care of him is your job as his partner. (As mentioned above with the "different for your generation" story above, I think older women were really socialized to treat men being domestically useless as normal, with a kind of "what can you do, he's just a man" attitude.) This is starting to change a little -- even the expectation that a dude should grow up and help eventually is a modest improvement -- but I don't think it's going to get traction until we really start teaching little boys to clean up and do indoor chores like we teach little girls.
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Miserable Maid posted:Wait... Someone actually listened to good advice?! yeah but on the other hand they're moving to the USA so still no happy ending
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Fitzy Fitz posted:AITA for telling my GFs Son he has to go to college to live with me? https://youtu.be/o9wipZFDoHQ
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Myparents (50s) tried blackmailing my(f23) fiance (M38)quote:This is such a weird post but I need help.
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Pinecone Sample posted:Myparents (50s) tried blackmailing my(f23) fiance (M38) Oh gently caress, everybody sucks here. I hope all these people are locked in a dungeon together.
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Hella foresight to snap a pic of your 15 year old talking to an older dude. Like they should give their fortune teller a nice tip for that guess.
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ulex minor posted:yeah but on the other hand they're moving to the USA so still no happy ending Mind you they're coming from Italy.
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Pinecone Sample posted:Myparents (50s) tried blackmailing my(f23) fiance (M38) Joke's on them if they think most professors make good money.
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Grape posted:As someone who struggles with very late caught ADHD, I can get depressed about my chronic slobness at times. This discussion motivated me to clean my bathroom today. I find I get blind spots; "I'll take care of that later" stuff disappears from my mind until I realize I've been stepping around a pile of laundry for a week that takes a couple of minutes to do (in-unit washing machine, really no excuse except that it feels odd to not run a full load) or there's no counter space because of glass jars to recycle (one flight of stairs, "I'll grab them on my way out" never actually happens). And then there's general cleaning, where a bathroom counter that would just need to be wiped down once a week turns into a mass of dust and stray beard hairs and soap scum that's now an actual chore so onto the procrastination list it goes.
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AITA for throwing my boyfriend's belongings out the window after he snapped at me?quote:I’ve known my boyfriend for a pretty long time, and we finally started dating early this year. I really like being with him, and the feeling seems to be mutual. He’s very affectionate and makes me feel loved. We talk about our future plans a lot. He also has a daughter, who I met once & she apparently “loved me,” and we’ve met each other’s parents so I think things have been getting somewhat serious.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for throwing my boyfriend's belongings out the window after he snapped at me? Everyone sucks, him moreso because there is NEVER a good excuse to.go off on your partner to that degree, but she sounds absolutely exhausting to be around and it's clear that the relationship was on thin ice and this had been building a long time. Also, pretty sure he's your ex now honey... Fatkraken fucked around with this message at 02:00 on Aug 24, 2019 |
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My [19f] friends all joke boyfriend [19M] is dumb and that I'm only with him because of his hair. He found out and shaved it.quote:My friends are always making jokes about how dumb he is. I always defend him when they start clowning him. My dad and brother are ruthless when it comes to "E". They met once and he didn't know what 9/11 was and thought there were like 5 black presidents before Obama. They never let me forget about it. /r/malegrooming How long does it take men's hair to grow back? [Update] My (19m) boyfriend cheated on me (19f) while we were on a break waiting for his hair to grow back
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Oh gently caress, everybody sucks here. I hope all these people are locked in a dungeon together. It's creepy that a 33 year old is pursuing and interested in 18 year old college freshman, and given his capacity as a college professor that should be a red flag. That being said, if someone says they are going to tell everyone you are a pedophile if you don't pay them $40k you should report them to the police immediately. Either they were bluffing and it causes a bit of a ruckus then goes away, or they try to do it and you've already provided the police evidence of the blackmail attempt and are in a somewhat safer legal position.
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Pinecone Sample posted:My [19f] friends all joke boyfriend [19M] is dumb and that I'm only with him because of his hair. He found out and shaved it. lmao at all of this pentyne posted:It's creepy that a 33 year old is pursuing and interested in 18 year old college freshman, and given his capacity as a college professor that should be a red flag. they should talk to a lawyer first. it's not a good look to go to the police and say "hey this person is going to say i'm a pedophile but i'm just letting you know, i'm totally not a pedophile"
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Pinecone Sample posted:My [19f] friends all joke boyfriend [19M] is dumb and that I'm only with him because of his hair. He found out and shaved it. what's really funny is if she dumps him her friends will all clown on her with "lol we were right, you really were just dating him for his hair!!" owned
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Fatkraken posted:Everyone sucks, him moreso because there is NEVER a good excuse to.go off on your partner to that degree, but she sounds absolutely exhausting to be around and it's clear that the relationship was on thin ice and this had been building a long time. Yeah this is what I was thinking. There are no winners here but doing that is some next level bullshit.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for throwing my boyfriend's belongings out the window after he snapped at me? lmao light his rear end up. found the ages elsewhere Last night, I (26f) threw my boyfriend's (36m) belongings out the window after he snapped at me. he's 36 with a kid and he's hanging out around bars on a thursday night? cmon man
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Pinecone Sample posted:My [19f] friends all joke boyfriend [19M] is dumb and that I'm only with him because of his hair. He found out and shaved it. Are those updates real? Because lol
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The hygiene and cleanliness issues probably aren't helped with untreated anxiety, depression and/or overwork being the norm for young people now. The idiots thread in GiP is fun reading with the occasional story of some real dysfunctional filthy idiots who somehow managed to get enlisted. And not all of them are just obvious cases of mommy doing all the cleaning for them, though there are a few who genuinely don't understand how washing clothes works. There's also people from hoarder houses and other obvious mentally ill families who were never taught even basic hygiene.
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lol at a guy with a kid losing his poo poo that he couldn't keep yakking with people past 11:30 on a work night. Her reaction eventually was bad too, but there's nothing exhausting about wanting to go home and hit the hay asap when you got poo poo to do bright and early.
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derra posted:Are those updates real? Because lol No I made it up sorry
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Frog Act posted:My [20] fiance's [27m] behavior while online gaming is destroying our relationship A rare story where the partner is a gamer and it's the least lovely thing about him.... A real catch.
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Xik posted:A rare story where the partner is a gamer and it's the least lovely thing about him.... A real catch. Theological questions to ponder: Tired: Can God create a stone so heavy that even He cannot lift it? Wired: Can God create an adult male whose most redeeming feature is being a gamer?
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Dude who shaved his head is cool, that’s a power move, I can respect that.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I'm picturing Brock Samson for some reason. Samson’s a good name to check here, yeah.
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Here's a guy with a lot to say, since he reposted this story 26 times, with varying titles I [33M] want my ex [22F] back after ending it with her quote:My girlfriend and I were together for 3 years. We have an age gap relationship. She’s 22 im 33. Out of all three years this one has had to be the most stressful. For the last 6 months I’ve been unable to make ends meet. If it’s not one thing it’s another. 'He's been going through some financial trouble what with the medical bills and all. I've been helping him out.' 'HOW DARE YOU loving BETRAY ME!'
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I'm sure he's a douche, but that does sound like airing dirty laundry which you wouldn't expect from a partner, I wouldn't be impressed either.
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AITA for expecting a guy who invites me to his house for a movie date at dinner time to offer drinks or food? The setup: I’ve known this guy for a couple years and we’ve worked together occasionally. We’ve had a couple dates before. We split the bill without any discussion or issue. He Snapchats me one day to come over to his place that night and watch a movie he has. I say sure. I forget the rest of the snapchats, but at some point I replied “pizza and a movie” and he replied “yeah see you soon!” It was just an innocent phrase but I didn’t eat that day and assumed we’d get food together. I show up and he has the movie. I say “so are we getting food?” He says “I already ate. But I’m sure you have apps on your phone if you want something.” Then he leaves to go to the bathroom. I sit there awkwardly. This guy previously talked about being a men’s rights guy. A normal one, not an incel dickhead. He also mentioned he’s low on cash. But isn’t it just good manners to offer guests in your house food or some poo poo? If he was too broke I’d obviously be happy to get him something, but that wasn’t the vibe I got since he bragged about a new game he bought. He returns and turns on the TV and turns off all the lights. Then he goes into the kitchen, which I assume is to get alcohol. I call out casually “what do you got to drink?” He calls back “Do you like tap water?” This is not some red pill bullshit. I know this guy, he’s serious. There’s nothing in his fridge but muscle milk, water, and kale. I call out, “Yeah, sure.” He brings me back a glass of tap water. He winks at me. I’m starving. I haven’t eaten since 8am. I say “Hey, I don’t wanna be weird, but I thought we were getting pizza.” He says in a sympathetic tone, “Oh. I see. You must have been confused. YOU mentioned the food, not me. I should have cleared that up, I ate earlier. Sorry if that wasn’t clear. We can still get a pizza if you want. Just pick anywhere nearby and order it.” This is still kind of lovely to me, but I ignore it and order one large pizza. The pizza shows up. I eat two slices of it. The rest of it sits there the entire movie. He doesn’t offer to contribute the $6 it would cost to split it. He tries to make out with me during the movie. I stop him and feel too weird to be into it. After the movie, I decide it would be better just to talk about it rather than feel bad. I tell him my feelings and how he’s weird with money and I’m uncomfortable. He feels bad and gives me $6 right away and thanks me for speaking up. There was no bad intention at all. No red pill, no plan, nothing. Just a dude who didn’t think my pizza was his responsibility. Then he asks me to have sex with him. I decline. Knowing we still have to work together, I manage to tiptoe out the door. I don’t expect or need people to buy me things, but I think offering houseguests food when you invite them over at dinner time is a sign of good manners. (And then they can offer to split the tab) AITA?
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