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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA because I have an issue with my boyfriend 'surprising' me before and after work? It’s like a horror movie where you are yelling at the screen “run girl runnnnnn” except she’s not she’s asking reddit  Sorry about your future restraining order. (Hopefully that’s all it is).
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HMS Beagle posted:AITA for laughing hysterically during the movie my gf decided we would watch? (A Time to Kill) Badly-timed giggles is really difficult to stop.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I (26f) found videos my husband (28m) took of my sister at a fourth of July family event. He broke down, begged for forgiveness after I brought it up... and I just feel confused. I don't get it, he took video of his SIL waiting in line???? I guess him being weird and apologizing like that means there was something more to it and it was actually rear end shots for jack off material or whatever....
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Aug 25, 2019 10:09
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empty sea posted:This is back in the thread, but friends don't let friends get a French bulldog or bulldogs or a pug or any other short to inverted nose breeds. oh so when you say don't breed obviously hosed up dogs that's moral and correct but when someone suggest not to breed obviously hosed up people that's  evil eugenics and they're a nazi. pfft
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Aug 25, 2019 10:10
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Xik posted:I don't get it, he took video of his SIL waiting in line???? I guess him being weird and apologizing like that means there was something more to it and it was actually rear end shots for jack off material or whatever.... Yeah this one is odd, I want an update to see if we get more clarification. If I am reading what she is putting out there correctly, I think she suspects what was revving up hubby to be kissy in that moment wasn't her (as she thought at the time), but the kid next to him? And he covered it up by smooching her and recording the kid, for later obsession/grossness.
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Aug 25, 2019 10:36
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ok so reading the reddit thread I think "younger sister" means younger sister, welp.
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Aug 25, 2019 10:42
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cumshitter posted:Yeah it was definitely a case of Parenting at the Last Minute. "I should put a brick on your head." That started around age 11 or 12. Which was when I started approaching my mother's 5 1/4" in height. In the 40 years since I haven't had a positive acknowledgement that I've so much as become an adult.
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Aug 25, 2019 10:50
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LadyPictureShow posted:No child of mine will grow up to have a regional dialect! If you have the option to raise them to speak proper English, why not? Accents are distracting and could hurt the kid's social and employment prospects down the line. He can gently caress right off with that grilling/barbecue thing though, and presumably the other pedantry that comes with that.
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Aug 25, 2019 11:50
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:If you have the option to raise them to speak proper English, why not? Accents are distracting and could hurt the kid's social and employment prospects down the line. What to you is “proper” English? What accents are “distracting”? Where are you from that you think that you don’t have an accent, that others around you don’t have an accent or that your child is even capable of not picking up an accent? Because that whole line of thinking is like trying to teach a rightie to be a leftie with a flair of reaaaaaal lovely view on others based on accents. There is no such thing as “proper” English. E: teach your child multiple languages instead, as that will help their social standing, employment prospects and genuine wellbeing.
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Aug 25, 2019 12:26
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If your normal accent or dialect is discriminated against, your kid will just learn to switch between their normal speech and an acquired “proper” form of the language as required by the situation and present company.
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Aug 25, 2019 12:41
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teen witch posted:What to you is “proper” English? What accents are “distracting”? If you want to be pedantic, "unaccented" American English is the Midlands accent with their regional nuances stripped out as well. The way newscasters are taught to speak. If there are two parents who use different regional pronunciations and the child isn't being raised somewhere with a strong regional pronunciation, it's simple enough to correct those things as they come up. I grew up in a bunch of places around the mid Atlantic area, and am living in a Southern state with a large transplant population. I don't claim for a moment to speak perfectly or anything, but it's certainly noticeable when someone has a significant drawl or drops in a word with a specific regional pronunciation (like a new england car or upper midwest roof). Why not be mindful of that stuff around a kid and train them? quote:E: teach your child multiple languages instead, as that will help their social standing, employment prospects and genuine wellbeing. This is true but not contradictory.
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Aug 25, 2019 12:41
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:
Because the regional accents are not wrong, just different from what you consider correct and proper. There is an argument to be made when it comes to employment prospects I guess, but the fact that accents and dialects are discriminated against is a bad thing, and not hammering in the distinction between "proper" and "improper" ways of speaking will help to get rid of those prejudices. whether the benefit to an individual of being taught particular ways of speaking outweighs the more nebulous and spread out benefits of fighting societal prejudice by refusing to participate is up to the parents I guess...
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Aug 25, 2019 12:48
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Man I thought the example of “improper” English was at least going to turn out to be Appalachian mountain talk or AAVE or something
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Aug 25, 2019 12:52
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You can teach a kid that there is cultural baggage on the way people speak, and that if they have an accent that deviates from the norm in a certain area, they may be subject to prejudices. Those are irrational, but they exist, and so it might be necessary to change register or code switch depending on who you are speaking to. But trying to "train" a kid to speak "properly" or "without an accent" is just going to perpetuate those prejudices further.
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Aug 25, 2019 12:56
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:If you want to be pedantic, "unaccented" American English is the Midlands accent with their regional nuances stripped out as well. The way newscasters are taught to speak. If there are two parents who use different regional pronunciations and the child isn't being raised somewhere with a strong regional pronunciation, it's simple enough to correct those things as they come up. If it’s a matter of teaching kids that potato is not pronounced “po-tay-teez” yeah that’s fine. But to teach them that certain accents are inherently lesser socially, that’s a kind of bigoted thing to impart into a child, who can then take it however they want. Is AAVE lesser? What about accented English from immigrants? Is Canadian English lesser, or does it really truly matter to see a persons worth by how they say “car”. I work in a field where my entire office has accented English from a thousand different places all over the world, I collaborate with people all over the word with next level thick as cake accents, my boyfriend sounds like Skwissgar, my father and his side of the family sounds like Mufasa, my grandparents siblings sound like a weird Minnesota meets Canadian nice (helllooooo western NY), I went to school in loving Prah-vid-enz and I myself can slip into thick Fran Drescher-ian tawk with enough gin in me/get angry enough. None of that is a hinderance whatsoever in my relationship to them, I do not see them as lesser, professionally or socially, by how they speak or what words they use, I find it a beautiful clue into who they are and where they came from. It’s a spice, not a mold spot to be cut off.
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Aug 25, 2019 12:58
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Fatkraken posted:Because the regional accents are not wrong, just different from what you consider correct and proper. There is an argument to be made when it comes to employment prospects I guess, but the fact that accents and dialects are discriminated against is a bad thing, and not hammering in the distinction between "proper" and "improper" ways of speaking will help to get rid of those prejudices. Fair enough, proper was the wrong word. When those regional variations are agrammatical though, that needs to go. And really this "problem" (insofar as it creates barriers to communication) is solving itself. Regional variations of American English have softened a lot as communication and transportation have become more available. With the internet now we're seeing more pidgining and loan words in foreign languages, I have to believe it's all inevitably going to lead to some bastardized global dialect. Probably one including emojis.
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Aug 25, 2019 12:59
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If this push to standardise American accents means getting rid of the midwestern accents the characters in Fargo have then I, for one, will rise up in armed rebellion, because those are one of the cutest American accents, and death to anyone who says otherwise. edit: I don't know if those are the same people who merge "pen" and "pin" but that is also a cute accent feature, how dare anyone try to smooth it out
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Aug 25, 2019 13:02
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Xik posted:I don't get it, he took video of his SIL waiting in line???? I guess him being weird and apologizing like that means there was something more to it and it was actually rear end shots for jack off material or whatever.... Oh god the little sister is probably a pre teen.
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Aug 25, 2019 13:20
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QuarkJets posted:AITA for not wanting to honor my mother’s dying wish to give the house that my husband and I bought for her to my sister? Jesus Christ the balls on that Mom. I guess I shouldn't be surprised that a Mom who would accept a house from her daughter would also expect her other daughter to be able to mooch off her sibling forever. Holy entitlement complex.
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Aug 25, 2019 13:29
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teen witch posted:my grandparents siblings sound like a weird Minnesota meets Canadian nice (helllooooo western NY) Heyyyyy! I've got the Buffalo accent (flat a's, dropped mid syllable on some words). Only time it was ever a problem was someone in Indiana once couldn't understand where I was from until I stressed 'Buff-a-Lo' as opposed to 'Buff-lo'. I only code switch for presentations or if I need to speak on the phone for business reasons.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Heyyyyy! I've got the Buffalo accent (flat a's, dropped mid syllable on some words). Only time it was ever a problem was someone in Indiana once couldn't understand where I was from until I stressed 'Buff-a-Lo' as opposed to 'Buff-lo'. I love it! It reminds me of my maternal family, and especially my late grandmother - she died when I was 9, but I can still hear her voice, especially the “Ah JEEEH-pers ED!”. My family has lived up there since the 16whatevers. I’m hardly keen on upstate NY itself being filthy Long Island scum but I adore the accents and it gives me a sense of feeling like home. teen witch fucked around with this message at 14:15 on Aug 25, 2019 |
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Aug 25, 2019 14:12
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:If you have the option to raise them to speak proper English, why not? I agree that you should raise your children to speak Received Pronunciation, OP. Make sure they learn to spell things with a U in them, too.
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32f w/boyfriend 32m. 2 year relationship. He's 3 years into having lost his license for 5 years. How long to put my life on hold?quote:He rents a studio apartment off his parents house for very cheap since his divorce roughly 3 years ago. Marriage was roughly 10 years if that's relevant. He has a 12 year old son who I very much care about. He does do a lot of work on their home. They're a very tight knit involved family. Almost excessively so? Estimated total cost of interlock device in NY state? quote:Have asked this before in many different subs. Sorry if I am yet again in the wrong place.
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Aug 25, 2019 15:07
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not thanking a Veteran for his service? This is from pages back (if I've missed a probe warning, sucks to be me) but how the hell is the response to that anything other than 'Oh, what kind of worming pills would you recommend for my cat?'???
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:If you want to be pedantic, "unaccented" American English is the Midlands accent with their regional nuances stripped out as well. There is no such thing. Everybody has an accent.
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AITA for getting pissed off at my GF because she was masturbating while she kept me waiting downstairs? Pretty much what the title says. So I called my girlfriend to ask her if she wanted to go get some breakfast and she said yes. I told her I'd pick her up at her place and told her to get ready. I reach her apartment and call her to let her know I'm in the car waiting for her. She then tells me that she needs to brush her teeth and that she'll be down in a couple of minutes. I ended up waiting there for about twenty minutes and I was pretty frustrated. Not only because I was starving, but she had kept me waiting for so long. She finally shows up and gets in the car. She explains how she had to pack her stuff and she also had to return a charger to her neighbour, and that was the reason for her being late. I'm pretty annoyed at this point not only because she kept me waiting for that long after I had called her to let her know that I'd be there, but also because she told me she'd be downstairs in a few minutes. I lighten up after breakfast and we spend the day together. She even apologized for keeping me waiting and I pretty much told her not to worry about it since I chalked it up to me overreacting because I was hangry. Fast forward to the end of the day, we're in my house, lying in bed. She gets a text from her sister, who lives with her, and they start talking. I catch a quick glance at a text from her sister saying how she still had to return the charger (I was not spying or anything, we were literally in bed together and she was holding the phone right in front of the both of us). At this point I ask her what her sister was talking about, since she'd said she kept me waiting in the morning because of the whole charger thing. She then looks up at me kind of sheepishly and said that she kept me waiting because she was masturbating. I got really pissed off at her once I realized this was the reason that she'd kept me waiting. I felt insulted and disrespected. She knew I was waiting for her downstairs, and she still decided to take twenty or more minutes to masturbate because that was more important to her. It would've been different had she been in the middle of flicking her bean and I called her out of the blue to tell her that I'm waiting downstairs. But this wasn't that, she knew I was coming, I called her once I reached, and still she decided to start masturbating after that, regardless of the fact that I was waiting for her. Not only that, she lied to me on top of it with the whole "packing" and "charger" bs. She started crying and apologizing immediately after she told me this. I just got really cold and told her that I'd like for her to leave. She was crying and saying sorry in the car all the way to her apartment, where I dropped her off. At that point I felt like I was overreacting a little and maybe I was being an rear end in a top hat to her. I still feel insulted that she'd do that to me. I haven't talked to her or anyone else about this yet and I'd like an unbiased opinion. So, AITA?
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LadyPictureShow posted:Estimated total cost of interlock device in NY state? Have you considered that possibly everyone telling you that your boyfriend is a piece of poo poo, not like "he is embarrassing" but like "is actively human garbage" piece of poo poo, could theoretically share these opinions for some reason other than that they are pod people and that, frankly, youd be better off it they abducted some combination of you and your boyfriend and replaced you with mindless duplicates?
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LadyPictureShow posted:32f w/boyfriend 32m. 2 year relationship. He's 3 years into having lost his license for 5 years. How long to put my life on hold? You're not a girlfriend, you're a life support system. Pull the plug.
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Power Khan posted:AITA for getting pissed off at my GF because she was masturbating while she kept me waiting downstairs?  :audience cheers:
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She should drive him around town to all the places he needs to go which conveniently are the top of a canyon and the bottom of a gorge
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My(20F) twin flame (20M) broke up with me today and my soul feels shatteredquote:I'm not exactly sure what I'm trying to accomplish, I guess mostly reassurance/input, but I am in insurmountable pain. As a preface, twin flames are supposed to help each other become the best, most mature versions of ourselves but often twin flame relationships have periods of turmoil along with the joy and deep love for one another.
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And that vibrators nickname? Chad
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welcome to hell posted:My(20F) twin flame (20M) broke up with me today and my soul feels shattered A kind person would try to explain that calling each other twin flames puts an impossible pressure on any relationship. A wise person would tell to never stop fighting for love, because holy gently caress these people should not be inflicted upon anybody else
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welcome to hell posted:My(20F) twin flame (20M) broke up with me today and my soul feels shattered Lmao, 20 year olds
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The hell is a "twin flame"? Is that from some bad YA book or anime?
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Not everything that makes you weirdly mad comes from a ya novel or anime
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CharlestheHammer posted:Not everything that makes you weirdly mad comes from a ya novel or anime One of the two seems like an awfully strong bet though.
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CharlestheHammer posted:Not everything that makes you weirdly mad comes from a ya novel or anime You just know that anyone who uses that term has consumed a large amount of anime, though.
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Randler posted:The hell is a "twin flame"? Is that from some bad YA book or anime? Ok, imagine you wanted a way to look down on people who call each other "soul mates" and then get crazier.
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Beachcomber posted:You just know that anyone who uses that term has consumed a large amount of anime, though. It's part of the backstory of "Ten no ai no tatakai", in which the main leads are genderswapped reincarnations of legendary hero who learn they share a soul that was made from one of the 12 Heavenly Lords, actually.
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