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Just responding to the question of, "Why even go to the internet for legal advice when you already got it from a literal lawyer?".
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- chitoryu12
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AITA for confronting my wife about who she masturbated to?
quote:Our group of friends (3 couples) is currently on a beach trip together. We're all staying in the same house. After we arrived on the first day, everybody changed into their swimmwear and went into the pool (there's a pool in the resort). My best friend is very fit and he was wearing a speedo. This is not the first time my wife has seen him like this, and I've never noticed anything innapropriate between them. But the moment he arrived she took a glance at him and them became quiet. She also went out of the pool, grabbed her sunglasses and went back in.
Later we started playing volleyball inside the pool and at one point he picked her up and threw her over his head, into the water (it wasn't out of nowhere, we were all playing kinda physically, but there were no sexual vibes). After a while she excused herself to go the bathroom in the house. A few moments later I went inside to grab my phone charger from our bedroom and found her masturbating in bed, still in her bikini. She played it off but I found it very odd. My other friend looks like poo poo and she's never shown any interest in women. I definitely felt she was masturbating to my best friend. I should add that what's bothering me is not the fact she was masturbating and not even very much the fact that she was thinking about my friend. What I found weird and inappropriate was that she had to do it immediately, abandoning a social event to go masturbate like a teenager would. Feels like a not okay level of arousal by interacting with my friend.
Some people on reddit told me to let it go, but it wasn't sitting right with me. So last night I confronted her about it. She didn't deny it, but now she's giving me the silent treatment, our friends have noticed and I think our trip is hosed. AITA?
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Aug 28, 2019 19:27
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- Leon Einstein
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It's really weird for anyone to quickly leave a social situation to masturbate. She may have issues.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:33
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- chitoryu12
- Apr 24, 2014
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Aita for giving all of my coworkers a different reason for why I have missing fingers?
quote:I have three fingers missing on my dominant hand. It's fine. I can type and everything and even manage to tie my shoelaces most days (and on the days I can't, that's the dyspraxia). However, I won't deny that it looks a bit odd to most people. I only have my fourth and fifth fingers so my hand looks a bit like a child's drawing of a rabbit, and not a good one.
I'm used to people asking about it, usually after staring for a good minute or two, but I still find it annoying. I really don't get why you'd think it would be an OK thing to ask someone about, but hey. I wasn't raised in a barn. Usually I nip the questioning in the bud by just explaining the truth from the get go and assuming that enough people will gossip about it that the message will spread by the end of the day (it always, always does).
Anyway, I started a new job about a month ago, and I honestly could not face going through that same cycle again. I felt like the time had come to not play into it any more and to make something out of it - and I decided to make myself laugh. When the first new coworker asked about it, I completely lied and told her that I chewed them off as a baby. I then decided to tell the next person who asked that I cut them off with a plastic knife at a picnic, and the next person that I was born with six fingers and they removed too many, and so on. All genuinely ridiculous reasons but I'm a good actor and they actually believed my stupid lies. I didn't expect them to (a plastic knife... through bone?!) but there you go. Maybe they just thought there's no way I'd lie about how I lost my fingers.
Within about 3 days, I learned that my coworkers had been arguing about the actual reason and it seems like a lot of them now actively dislike me for lying to them. I'm probably going to have to make some cupcakes over the weekend with my super cool 3D printed adaptive whisk to get back into their good books.
Anyway, I told this story to my brother today and he told me that I was an rear end in a top hat because I caused tension within the office on my first day and made people feel stupid for being gullible and believing my lies. My argument is that I'm not the rear end in a top hat because they were asking a rude, albeit common, question and because I didn't do it with the intention of deceiving them, I was just honestly fed up of the question and didn't think they'd think I actually severed three fingers with dental floss when I was 3. I'll accept my judgement, though.
Update: gonna check out here, I think - getting real tired of explaining why it's not cool to ask people why they lost limbs or digits just because you want to sate your morbid curiosity. A few reminders for people: I'm not a male (don't know why everyone assumed that!), don't ask people about something that could be traumatic, especially when you don't actually know them, and when making cupcakes, always cream the butter.
This woman has realized her coworkers are dumbasses and is living for it.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:34
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- Coredump
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It's really weird for anyone to quickly leave a social situation to masturbate. She may have issues.
Yeah, that's a pretty extreme level of horned up to have to leave and masturbate right then. Its called the spank bank what a rookie.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:36
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- chitoryu12
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AITA for wanting the exact amount of money owed?
quote:My gf and I have been dating for two years. I happily pay for the majority of our expenses since I make more than her and she lives with me and is currently going to school. Over the years she has always done this thing where when she owes me money, she always rounds down the total amount. Sometimes cents, but sometimes dollars. Nothing too crazy, but it has happened often.
I recently ordered her printer ink and her class textbook on my prime account and she asks for the total which was only $82.65. She sends me $82 and I ask her about the $.65 since this has been going on for a long time and, at this point, I find it a little inconsiderate and annoying.
She's thought I was joking and after explaining that I wasn't, she says that I'm being ridiculous for asking for so little and that anyone else wouldn't care. I told her that it seems rude and inconsiderate to give less than what you owe unless the person owed offers first. No matter the amount.
AITA?
Destroying my relationship over 65 cents.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:38
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It's really weird for anyone to quickly leave a social situation to masturbate. She may have issues.
Yeah that is super weird.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:38
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- chitoryu12
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AITA for refusing to pay my brother back for "damage and lost income" when the kids I were baby sitting set off a can of bear repellent (mace) in his Airbnb? To me he left something very dangerous in the reach of kids.
quote:Last week I was in a town near the Oregon cost watching some neighbor kids. We were just there for the day so I asked my brother if we could stop by and use his Airbnb rental to make lunch, go to the bath room, etc...
He said that would be fine, just make sure everything is put back and dishes washed before I left. In fairness my brother said the place was not "rental ready" and he would be by later to pick up some stuff from his last hunting trip before he had renters arriving that night. I asked him if there were any guns or weapons and he said no.
Well I was making lunch when I heard a huge almost pop or small explosion coming from the living room. when I walked in the kids were choking but laughing and spraying what smelled like spicy pepper all over the room. I started choking so I got the kids out. I called and told my brother and he started screaming his head off that he couldn't deal with this right now because he had renters that were coming for 3 months that would pay his mortgage for a year. I told him what was that supposed to mean. He screamed at me that I might have just cost him thousands of dollars. I told him he told me there no weapons around and at least according to the state of Oregon bear spray is a weapon. He told me that I should have been watching the kids. I told him he should not have left a weapon around and whatever happens is his fault. He hung up on me.
Well I guess his home was uninhabitable for that night and the people cancelled their entire stay (I think he's being dramatic, if he really wanted to save the rental he could have got them a hotel until his house was clean). He's not only calling me an rear end in a top hat he wants me to pay for the cleaning and make up for the lost income, he's actually threatening to take his sister to court over the lost income. To me it's an open shut legal case since he left a weapon out and if he takes it too far, I'll probably encourage the kids parents to sue him for causing pain.
But that's not really my question, am I the rear end in a top hat for refusing to pay him back?
edit: I am sorry I am violating rule 1. I am still reading but in order to persevere the rules, I will no longer respond since I come across as so argumentative.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:40
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AITA if I file an HR complaint because I was humiliated at work for not being in the "dress code"?
Alright foremost I should say that I work temporarily in a university office where I do my work at a computer in the breakroom.
So today I get to work after volunteering for my school, which is put on party by my office (so everyone working there knows I was volunteering). I had to do landscaping work so i was wearing leggings and a tank top that dipped down a bit so my sports bra was partly exposed. I didn't have time to go home to change before work so sweaty clothes it was. I was working for a solid hour and then my boss comes and quietly tells me that this other worker complained that my attire wasn't appropriate. I was then forced to put on a baggy tshirt from the cardboard box in the corner. I was completely humiliated especially since there was another student in the room at the time.
No one ever gave me a dress code to follow yet this is the second time this situation has occured. My friend who works there even told me that girls are allowed to wear tank tops (which again I didnt know there was even a dress code). There is only one person in the entire office who has an issue and no one else cares. I can't even be seen by students coming in and out because of the location where I work.
I felt so sexualized, embarrased, and uncomfortable after that point that I left work early and called my mom crying. I am also sleep deprived so that might explain some of the crying ngl.
I seriously love my boss and he has told me he doesn't agree with this person yet he has to follow their will??? My mom and her coworker told me to contact HR and file a complaint but am I overreacting/ AITA???
Edit 1: I do want to say that normally student workers just show up in tshirts and shorts so it is far from a business casual workplace. Also yall I wasn't that sweaty to the point where my clothes were dirty or smelled.
Edit 2: The first time it occured my boss actually complimented my outfit so I assumed that it was only the one person who complained that had issue... not a real dress code
Edit 3: I have decided that I should take some responsibility and dress more appropriately in the future. Thank you to everyone who gave suggestions on how to make arrangements for having proper clothing in the future. I will be asking for the official dress code tomorrow. Honestly I'm glad I learned this lesson before I get into the real world.
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- therobit
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"I pushed my partner into reconciling with his family and found out why he cut them off to begin with, what do I do?"
My favorite part of that post was "I don't want him to lose his relationship with her because of me."
Why not?
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- Peaceful Anarchy
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AITA for wanting the exact amount of money owed?
Destroying my relationship over 65 cents.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:43
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AITA if I file an HR complaint because I was humiliated at work for not being in the "dress code"?
Alright foremost I should say that I work temporarily in a university office where I do my work at a computer in the breakroom.
So today I get to work after volunteering for my school, which is put on party by my office (so everyone working there knows I was volunteering). I had to do landscaping work so i was wearing leggings and a tank top that dipped down a bit so my sports bra was partly exposed. I didn't have time to go home to change before work so sweaty clothes it was. I was working for a solid hour and then my boss comes and quietly tells me that this other worker complained that my attire wasn't appropriate. I was then forced to put on a baggy tshirt from the cardboard box in the corner. I was completely humiliated especially since there was another student in the room at the time.
No one ever gave me a dress code to follow yet this is the second time this situation has occured. My friend who works there even told me that girls are allowed to wear tank tops (which again I didnt know there was even a dress code). There is only one person in the entire office who has an issue and no one else cares. I can't even be seen by students coming in and out because of the location where I work.
I felt so sexualized, embarrased, and uncomfortable after that point that I left work early and called my mom crying. I am also sleep deprived so that might explain some of the crying ngl.
I seriously love my boss and he has told me he doesn't agree with this person yet he has to follow their will??? My mom and her coworker told me to contact HR and file a complaint but am I overreacting/ AITA???
Edit 1: I do want to say that normally student workers just show up in tshirts and shorts so it is far from a business casual workplace. Also yall I wasn't that sweaty to the point where my clothes were dirty or smelled.
Edit 2: The first time it occured my boss actually complimented my outfit so I assumed that it was only the one person who complained that had issue... not a real dress code
Edit 3: I have decided that I should take some responsibility and dress more appropriately in the future. Thank you to everyone who gave suggestions on how to make arrangements for having proper clothing in the future. I will be asking for the official dress code tomorrow. Honestly I'm glad I learned this lesson before I get into the real world.
congratulations on making it this far without encountering a spiteful old bitch, it must have been good while it lasted
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- Chairman Mao
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AITA for wanting the exact amount of money owed?
Destroying my relationship over 65 cents.
I don’t think you get it, this person has been shorting their so repeatedly over a period of time, it’s not 65 cents it’s several dollars. SEVERAL. You could buy a coffee for that much money, you really don’t think that’s a good enough reason to destroy a relationship? Come on.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:57
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- Coredump
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Even in a pretty causal office environment a tank top is pushing it.
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Aug 28, 2019 19:58
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- chitoryu12
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Even in a pretty causal office environment a tank top is pushing it.
I have an office that doesn't see customers, so I don't really give a poo poo as long as people are coming in normal clothes (so no pajamas or underwear). The owners are traditional old Republicans, but they work elsewhere and very rarely come over anyway. If you can't handle your coworker wearing a tank top near you, you're the problem.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:03
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- hawowanlawow
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Why? Unless they are going into the office fully nude, how is coming to work clothed and able pushing it?
IT'S NOT FAIR!!!
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Aug 28, 2019 20:03
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- chitoryu12
- Apr 24, 2014
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AITA for not letting my mom show affection by pinching, smacking, patting my butt?
quote:This is a 100% real situation that continues to be an issue.
My mom is nearly 50 years old and continues to pat, smack, pinch, etc. My butt as a form of "affection". I am 22, nearly 23, and have asked her repeatedly over the years to respect me/my body and not do this. It feels degrading and I overall dislike/hate it. (It's not directed entirely at her, I just don't like anyone to touch my butt.) She does it because she thinks it's funny/embarrassing. Her words just now: "you're just so cute and I can't help it."
This has been done to me in public and in private and I am at my wit's end. I have tried many tactics over the years to get her to stop and she won't. I've told her there are other, better, less frustrating ways for her to show affection towards me and she refused to see my point on this. The excuses I've heard over the years as to why she won't stop: "I'm your mom and I made it so what's the big deal?" "Why are you overreacting just lighten up." "I just can't help myself and you're being overdramatic."
I'm pissed off and ready to cut ties with her over it since she did it again today. (I know it seems dramatic, but there's some other reasons behind it too.) So now I'm asking now who's the rear end in a top hat here?
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Aug 28, 2019 20:04
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- chitoryu12
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WIBTA if I told my SO to cut back on complaining about being bald? (31F, 31M)
quote:Together 2 yrs. He went bald in his teens, completely bald by age 19 or 20. No medical condition, just very early onset male pattern baldness. I am hugely sympathetic – your hair is a big part of how you look, and I can’t imagine how hard that’d be as a teen. Not diminishing the importance or what a big deal that is to guys, especially so young. I get it.
He is going to interview for medical residency soon and all he can talk about is how no one is going to hire him because he’s bald. He’s 6’2”, slim and athletic (swimmer/runner body), Caucasian, very handsome and symmetrical face, perfect teeth. Some people don’t like the bald look, but everything else is conventionally perfect. And he’s very sociable, intelligent, great with kids (looking for pediatric-related residency, so that’s relevant), has good grades, etc.
He goes on and on about how being bald is going to hold him back, nobody’s going to hire him, he should’ve gone to school for a job where you don’t interact with the public so employers might still hire him and just keep him in the background where nobody has to see him. In short, he’s being ridiculous, but he actually says this stuff very seriously, every single day.
I, on the other hand, am a very petite (4’11”, 95 lb), very young-looking (I was carded for an R-rated movie last year), dark-skinned black woman, also a doctor. I started a little younger than he did, so I’m almost done with my surgery-related residency. It’s a constant struggle for me to be taken seriously as a surgeon. I am ALWAYS confused for a secretary or medical assistant (at best, a nurse) even when I’m in my surgical scrubs. This includes patients, staff, and other doctors. Patients don’t trust my advice, staff don’t take my instructions as seriously, colleagues aren’t always welcoming. That’s its own story, suffices to say I have a hard time and probably always will.
I just deal with it (what choice do I have?) but it’s really bothering me lately how much my SO whines about being bald when he otherwise has THE most stereotypical “doctor look” ever. I honestly want to tell him that I’m not the right person to complain to about that, considering how much harder I objectively have it, and that he needs to grow up. It just makes me roll my eyes being a dark-skinned black woman who looks like a third-grader, comforting this tall, thin, athletic, handsome white man about how he’s such a poor victim of genetics and will never be accepted into medicine because he has no hair, and reassuring him that he isn’t too “weird looking” to get a residency. Get a grip.
WIBTA if I told him how tone-deaf he’s being and to stop complaining to me about it? Again, I know going bald is a big deal. I just don’t feel as sorry for him as he does for himself because I feel like I have it way harder and I persevere every day without complaining about it.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:06
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- DemoneeHo
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Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca
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My [62M] wife [23F] wants to take our kids [4M, 4M] back home to the Philippines. I know she plans to stay there and not come back. Please give me advice
quote:This is my second marriage and I have been living an incredibly happy, satisfying, and fulfilling life with my family for the pst 5 years. I had been single for 14 years prior to meeting my wife and I thought that everything was fine until my wife started asking me to bring our family to the Philippines since last month to visit her family. That part is fine with me, but the fact that she has always asks me where we want to raise our family after I retire has been concerning. She thinks that us moving to the Philippines and having her family around will give her a better place to look after the kids and at some future point help me should I need it (I have a bad back from a workplace injury nearly 20 years ago, but nothing severely limiting for the time being). My eldest daughter [37F] is the only family member from my previous marriage that keeps in touch with me and she has made it clear that she will cut all contact with me if I leave for the Philippines. I might not have been the best father and husband previously, but my kids are everything to me. At the same time, my wifes happiness is my priority now. If I go on “vacation” to the Philippines I fear that she will refuse to come back and having family there I cant fight to take back my wife or the kids. I want to keep her happy but I do not see myself going back to her country any time soon. What should I tell her to nullify, or at least temporarily forget, this persisting issue?
Edit: See below for clarification on the marriage details.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:13
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- chitoryu12
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AITA for calling a dude out for telling me his sob story?
quote:So I work at a baseball stadium, usually they’ll have me at the beer stands, selling beer and what not.
A couple of weeks ago they had me at a beer and margaritas stand and this man, let’s call him Steve, came over and started asking me about the margaritas, I answered Steve’s questions then he began to tell me a story on how he hadn’t drunk in 20 years and that his wife left him and he lost his job because of his drinking problem, etc... He started asking me if he should buy a drink, that he was seriously considering buying one. At the time I believed his story so I was telling him not to that it wasn’t worth it and overall just trying to help the guy, he left but he returned maybe 3 more times to tell me more about his “depressing” life. The 3rd time Steve came around, my supervisor(Dave) showed up behind me and Steve left. Dave then started telling me how Steve was going to all the beer stands and telling all the girls his “sob story.” Dave then told me if Steve showed up again to let him know so they could call security. Steve didn’t show up again.
A couple of days later I was at a different stand and Steve showed up, he started thanking me for not letting him drink and then he began with his story once again, I just kinda shyly laughed and tried to hurry him along since there was a line behind him.
Here’s the thing though. I’ve seen him walking by drinking a Margarita (we don’t make virgin margaritas so he couldn’t have gotten it virgin) so by this point I knew his entire story was probably just BS and he was just using it to make girls at beer stands feel bad for him or whatever.
A couple of days ago I was put at a Clamatos stand by myself (for anyone that doesn’t know, Clamatos are kinda like bloody Marys but with beer instead.) I was in the middle of a rush so I was pretty stressed, I was just trying to die my line down. As I was taking someone’s order Steve shows up cutting the line and asks me what’s in the Clamatos. I answer his question and then he began his story again. I cut him off and flat out ask “How many times are you gonna tell me this story?” I realize now I did say it kinda harshly but I just didn’t have time for it. He left and now I feel bad about it.
AITA for calling him out?
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Aug 28, 2019 20:14
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- Leon Einstein
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It's a chelada, not clamato. Clamato is tomato juice and clam juice.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:20
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I have an office that doesn't see customers, so I don't really give a poo poo as long as people are coming in normal clothes (so no pajamas or underwear). The owners are traditional old Republicans, but they work elsewhere and very rarely come over anyway. If you can't handle your coworker wearing a tank top near you, you're the problem.
I've worked in a pretty casual office environment, but we did receive customers. I also had input on the dress code. Basically if you wore a crew neck t-shirt and jeans or pants with no holes you were fine. I don't think that is very restrictive or too much to ask of a person to come into work in.
She's a student worker on a university campus full of thousands of other girls in tank tops and leggings
Yes but those students aren't at work.
Coredump fucked around with this message at 20:26 on Aug 28, 2019
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Aug 28, 2019 20:23
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whoops.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:25
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- chitoryu12
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Two posts from one person, in chronological order:
AITA for telling a friend that to put on more clothing?
quote:So my friend and I live together and split bills, including heating, and personally I don't like putting the heating on when I don't think it's necessary since it's quite wasteful.
I come back after work tonight, and despite the mild weather she has the heating on because she's apparently cold and needs it on. She's walking around in a crop top and short shorts, so I tell her that of course she was cold given what she was wearing and that she should have put on more layers instead of putting on the heating because that's a waste of energy.
She got mad and said I have no right to tell her what to wear.
I think that because we share bills it's not unreasonable to think she should wrap up first when cold, and if that's not enough then it's reasonable to turn on the heating.
Am I the rear end in a top hat?
WIBTA if I "took" money I believe my flatmate owes me?
quote:My flatmate does not respect my stuff and she has a hard time admitting fault for anything.
Currently this is a problem when it comes to non stick cookware owned in part or by fully me, depending on the item, however I've noticed this behaviour on other occasions like a time she tried to throw out one of my appliances because it "wasn't working" (n.b. the fuse had gone, when I replaced it and asked her why she didn't check that she got defensive and said that she obviously knew how to replace a fuse it just wasn't worth it).
The current problem, which I have talked to her about multiple times, is that she uses metal utensils with the non stick pans, despite us having silicone/wooden ones available. She says it isn't an issue because she "knows what she's doing" and that whenever she uses a metal one she's consciously being careful since obviously she knows it's non stick. I believe this is bullshit because:
If you're genuinely conscious of the fact it's a non stick pan then why go through the trouble of using a metal utensil very delicately, when silicone or wooden options are clean and available to use.
The pans are scratched to gently caress, and I know that I haven't caused that damage through sponge cleaning.
The solution in my opinion is that, since there is no apparent way to make her treat my property with care, to have her "buy" the pans from me and then I no longer have to care how badly she treats them.
Since she's incapable of admitting fault, if I were to do this I would need to subtly take the value of the pans from her, but under ordinary circumstances this would be unethical.
Do the circumstances change the ethics of the situation? WIBTA if I took this compensation from her?
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Aug 28, 2019 20:26
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- Leon Einstein
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I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
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Let those mom find a husband in the Philippines that won't drop dead before the kids hit high school.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:28
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AITA for calling a dude out for telling me his sob story?
Steve isn't offended, he just had to excuse himself to go masturbate.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:28
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- hawowanlawow
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I've worked in a pretty casual office environment, but we did receive customers. I also had input on the dress code. Basically if you wore a crew neck t-shirt and jeans or pants with no holes you were fine. I don't think that is very restrictive or too much to ask of a person to come into work in.
Yes but those students aren't at work.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:30
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like school in july
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My (24M) girlfriend (25F) said something that made me pretty uncomfortable last night
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I’ve been dating my current GF for about 4 months now, but we had previously worked together for a little over a year (I left that company 7-8 months ago) so we’ve known each other for a while. Up until last night, everything has been perfect. She’s gorgeous, she’s kind and caring, she has a great career ahead of her, and we click perfectly. We spend a pretty good amount of time together and it’s never been anything but amazing.
She’s been interviewing for what would effectively be a promotion for her but at other companies recently, and she’s been stressed beyond belief about the process. Last night, her current company had a work event that she went to and it was about 45 minutes away from my current apartment, and well over an hour and a half away from her apartment, so I suggested that I go and pick her up and she could sleep at my place because I knew she’d have been drinking. When I finally got there to get her in the car, she was pretty drunk. Can’t say I was pumped up about how much she had drank, but God knows I’ve been that drunk on a Tuesday before so I’m not about to get mad about it.
We’re about halfway through the car ride and she’s transitioning between drunkenly attempting to engage a makeout session while I’m on the highway and repelling back to curl up against the door in exaggerated bewilderment that I’m not going for it. Somewhere between this she starts telling me about her night, how much fun it was, and who the particularly drunk people were. She then mentions one gentleman in particular, let’s call him Corporate Executive. Corporate Executive works for the parent company of the company that my GF works for, and that Parent Company is one that GF is applying to work for. Corporate Executive has a very good relationship the head of GFs office, so he joined them for their night out. Long story short, GF let’s me know, very casually, that she “let Corporate Executive squeeze her rear end so many times tonight” in hopes of aiding her pursuit of a job at his company.
At first I thought she was kidding she said it so casually. When it became clear she wasn’t kidding I asked her why, and her responses were essentially “what does it matter?”. I’ll save you all the rest of the conversation, but safe to say I cooled off before I went to bed and decided I would talk about it in the morning when she was sober. She woke up this morning, definitely hung over, but also very apologetic. I accepted her apology and forgave her on the spot, chalking it up a bad night and a lot of booze, but I have to be honest, I’m starting to reconsider everything. It wasn’t necessarily the fact that it happened, but the way she so casually brought it up. Obviously, I don’t want a relationship where my girlfriend is being groped by other men, and to be honest, her attitude about it last night made it pretty clear to me that she doesn’t really think it’s a big deal. Is this enough of a disagreement to justify ending it here before we get more serious than we already are?
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Aug 28, 2019 20:31
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- chitoryu12
- Apr 24, 2014
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Yes but those students aren't at work.
Oh no! As soon as she crosses the metaphysical boundary, her skin suddenly becomes inappropriate!
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Aug 28, 2019 20:31
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Jun 5, 2024 15:45
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- Leon Einstein
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I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
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Is grope the right word if you're allowing it and encouraging it to get a promotion? Usually grope connotes grabbing against someone's will.
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Aug 28, 2019 20:34
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Aug 28, 2019 19:26
Tater Love 
