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Scathach posted:Uh wouldn't that go for every spouse then? Or do you believe only gay men cheat? Like dude you're coming across as being quite idiotic. The issue is that he thought it was okay to lie on medical forms because he and his spouse are totally monogamous. It's not a good idea to lie to medical professionals. I know it might be hard to understand but I hth.
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Sierra Nevadan posted:The issue is that he thought it was okay to lie on medical forms because he and his spouse are totally monogamous. You didn’t answer my question re immigration
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Sierra Nevadan posted:It's not a good idea to lie to medical professionals. I know it might be hard to understand but I hth. Actually, for a lot of people, in a lot of situations, it is! This includes if you're a woman seeking some types of sexual health care, or if you're queer in some form or another. There are too many instances where "medical knowledge" is not as based on science as it should be, and it's better to just lie.
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Sierra Nevadan posted:The issue is that he thought it was okay to lie on medical forms because he and his spouse are totally monogamous. AHAHAHAHAHA
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pentyne posted:How do you find these? Every time I try to look up one of the titles posted I can never find it in any of the reddit subforums.
If you know the user (sometimes they are posted itt) then search for that and get to the post via their profile page. Sometimes you get a hit for the user profile page instead of the actual thread in search engines, this happens often if mods delete it too I think? If you know the url to the thread but it's full of moderator deleted messages and you're curious, replace the url from reddit.com to ceddit.com which will take you to this reddit app mirror which preserves mod deleted content via the reddit api. It doesn't work if the user deleted it themselves since I believe that's against the api t&c?
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Another Bill posted:It's an intimacy thing.
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changing your last name for marriage can be a gigantic pain in the rear end. the social security office is not exactly fast moving or easy to interact with. like if the person opting to change their name really wants to do so then more power to them, but nobody should just assume someone else is going to be willing to do that
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tactlessbastard posted:It's a spirit vs letter issue. OP in this story is a tremendous horse's rear end. This made me curious and I went and did some looking into it. One of the scholarly articles I found was: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/ A comparison of sexual behavior patterns among men who have sex with men and heterosexual men and women posted:
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quote:Finally, we did not directly measure the incidence of HIV or other STI. Because of this, we were unable to specifically evaluate the behaviors of persons with STI, which are clearly key with respect to transmission risk. maybe read the thing lol
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Sierra Nevadan posted:"I donated blood, I'm such a good person. I just had to lie on the forms to do so. NBD" If this is your reasoning why is it okay that they don't ask married women? They're just as capable of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
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Araenna posted:She mocks him repeatedly and openly. She throws his poo poo around when mad at him. She threw a chair during a fight, and it scared him enough he left and sat in his car for hours. He's probably less "insecure" and more "being emotionally abused". Oh poo poo, read this on mobile and somehow missed the last half the story. Oh yeah he's being abused. Elderbean fucked around with this message at 03:12 on Aug 29, 2019 |
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Coredump posted:This made me curious and I went and did some looking into it. One of the scholarly articles I found was: First the dress code poo poo and now this. Will you please shut the gently caress up and post a ban me? what a loving moron
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I think you all need some HR mandatory training on dress codes in the workplace and personal medical information security.
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pentyne posted:I think you all need some HR mandatory training on dress codes in the workplace and personal medical information security. aw man, I thought I was getting mandatory HR training on breast implants and bra sizes
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Pinecone Sample posted:aw man, I thought I was getting mandatory HR training on breast implants and bra sizes Based on the module you just finished, answer the following to the best of your ability Jane Doe has come to work wearing a low cut blouse after her recent, quite noticeable breast augmentation surgery. Which of the following is acceptable to say? a) drat LOOK AT THEM TITTIES b) Cover up whore this is a workplace c) Hi Jane, I dropped my pen, could you bend down to pick it up? Slower d) Hello fellow employee. Today is a fine day and we are both adults who understand mutual respect and understanding and have no need to create issues and conflicts over minor issues of personal appearance.
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I was all on Bright Eyes boyfriend's side but uh the commentsquote:I don't remember what every argument we've had in the past was about but the one before this was because I basically said it wasn't abnormal for grown men to find teenage girls attractive and she thought I was defending pedophilia or something even though I was referring to post-pubescent young women. I would totally rip up this dude's Connor Obert poster.
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God drat it bright eyes guy now I'm seen as being on the side of a pedo
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Sierra Nevadan posted:Giving blood isn't compulsory. I just don't understand why on earth a gay man would want to donate blood by having to fake into it when they don't agree with the law or the protocols. giving blood is fun duh, why do people do drugs
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Yeah I was thinking dude is being abused but maybe she's trying to beat the pedo out of him. As an abuse survivor I'm really torn here guys
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utamaru posted:maybe read the thing lol I'm reading through it more closely now, however this study is looking in to direct comparisons of sexual behavior patterns between MSM, women and heterosexual men. It seems that previous research dove into HIV and STI rates among those different populations and found there to be a substantial difference. epsilon posted:First the dress code poo poo and now this. Will you please shut the gently caress up and post a ban me? what a loving moron What's moronic about this? I thought that "And to be frank it's pretty bullshit that the gay guys are the one that get beat over the head with it." was a pretty valid point so I went to look into it and this is what I've found. quote:We used data from several large population-based surveys to estimate the dynamics of sexual partnership formation, concurrency, and age mixing among MSM and heterosexuals. MSM initiated sexual activity at slightly younger ages than heterosexuals, reported larger numbers of recent partners, continued to form new partnerships later into adulthood, and displayed more age-disassortative mixing and sex partner concurrency. Along with biological factors, these sexual behavior patterns likely help explain the high HIV/STI rates among MSM. However, compared with heterosexuals, MSM used condoms more frequently and a larger proportion of MSM may become sexually abstinent in their 30s. This is pretty eye-opening to me. Coredump fucked around with this message at 03:33 on Aug 29, 2019 |
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bell jar posted:giving blood is fun duh, why do people do drugs getting a disqual from blood donation is like those purity tests that make the rounds for college freshmen. half the fun is racking up the highest score you can
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I wonder if Bright Eyes kid's girlfriend got mad about those polaroids in the drawer.
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Yeah the whole gay guys can’t donate is based around the HIV and aids crisis of the late 80s/early 90s that was never changed once people figured out those diseases aren’t actually restricted to those groups. Because our laws tend to favor reactionary thought but never walking it back
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a whole lot of people's first impression of someone with HIV was Ryan White who did get it from an unscreened blood transfusion but yeah instead of the reasonable response of "we should actually test blood before we pump it into someone" society at large just went "ewww, gays" and made blanket donation bans
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6BC was posted earlier but this tweet was not highlighted, and I think it deserves a second chance: https://twitter.com/SixBrownChicks/status/1166757419726319622
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Gluten Freeman posted:6BC was posted earlier but this tweet was not highlighted, and I think it deserves a second chance: Those two tweets being next to each other is some magic. Also, I feel like "man turns house into shrine for dead wife, continues seeing woman he was cheating on wife with, but refuses to commit to her because he's more devoted to his wife now that she's dead" is a perfect pitch for a Gothic novel, if it doesn't already exist.
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Coredump posted:I'm reading through it more closely now, however this study is looking in to direct comparisons of sexual behavior patterns between MSM, women and heterosexual men. It seems that previous research dove into HIV and STI rates among those different populations and found there to be a substantial difference. It’s almost like it’s the number of different partners that affects the likelihood of having a STI. That’s literally what that’s saying. It’s not that the guys are gay, it’s that the gay guys have had a larger number of partners and that’s something they can screen for without being homophobic.
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CharlestheHammer posted:Yeah the whole gay guys can’t donate is based around the HIV and aids crisis of the late 80s/early 90s that was never changed once people figured out those diseases aren’t actually restricted to those groups. Because our laws tend to favor reactionary thought but never walking it back Got any cited sources? Not trying it be a dick genuinely curious if this is the case, or if it is a statistics thing.
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DreamingofRoses posted:It’s almost like it’s the number of different partners that affects the likelihood of having a STI. That’s literally what that’s saying. DreamingofRoses posted:It’s not that the guys are gay quote:These differences reflect the fact that an individual MSM can engage in both insertive and receptive sexual roles (i.e., versatility), while exclusively heterosexual men and women each engage in only one of these roles. Goodreau et al. demonstrated that an MSM population with a very high level of versatility would have a higher HIV prevalence than one with less versatility. Furthermore, the transmission probability of HIV associated with anal sex is higher than that associated with vaginal sex. These factors alone would result in significant disparities in HIV rates between MSM and heterosexuals even if both populations had similar numbers of sex partners, frequency of sex, and condom use levels. Willfrey posted:Got any cited sources? quote:MSM comprise approximately 2% of the U.S. population, but accounted for 59% of new HIV infections. Coredump fucked around with this message at 04:51 on Aug 29, 2019 |
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Willfrey posted:Got any cited sources? it's not actually a law, but rather a "policy guideline" enacted by the FDA in 1983. at that time there was no surefire test for the presence of HIV. the FDA rescinded the "lifetime deferral" policy in 2015 but still holds a "one year deferral" policy, meaning if you are a man who has had sex with another man in the prior 12 months you are barred from donating. whether or not an arbitrary blood mobile asks about 1-year vs lifetime is probably still a dice roll. opponents of any policy ban vs. actual sample testing point out facts like hetero males can donate with things like chlamydia or herpes so it isn't purely a STI thing. it's very much an AIDS thing i'm only half kidding about the purity test score. i've got like 6-7 different disqualifying factors/behaviors and several of them are from actions or infectious disease exposures in the 80s and 90s.
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i don't know how things are in the rest of the world but here in australia if you spent more than 6 months in the uk between 1980 and 1996 you're banned from donating blood for life
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Coredump posted:Higher number of sexual partners, new partnerships later into adulthood, sexual partner concurrency and age-disassortative mixing were the differences between the populations. Not purely number of partners. So.... they have a larger number of different partners? “Higher number of sexual partners” means exactly what it says, the rest are describing how, whether it’s playing the field longer, having more than one partner at once, etc... The only thing that study is saying is that gay men have a larger number of different sexual partners than straight men or women. The study is about sexual behavior, and one of the big factors of STI transference is the number of different partners a person has. Which, once again, places that collect blood can screen for without being homophobic.
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bell jar posted:i don't know how things are in the rest of the world but here in australia if you spent more than 6 months in the uk between 1980 and 1996 you're banned from donating blood for life That's the case in the US, as well, though I believe here it's having spent three months or more. It's due to risk of Mad Cow Disease.
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You realize your can ask about those specific behaviors, instead of just "are you a dude who hosed a dude", right? A woman could go have unprotected anal sex with a different guy every night for two weeks and give blood. If a gay man in 20 year monogamous relationship had sex with his husband in the past year, he can't.
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Straight people don't deserve to have my delicious gay blood in their veins so I am fine with it.
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Rubellavator posted:You guys should make another thread for the gay aids blood test thing and talk about it there. Yeah you're right this guy is almost definitely trolling and this is dumb. My boyfriend (28) has some behaviours that concern me(24) My current boyfriend (he is 28 and I am 24) that I have been with for about a month and a half has so behaviours that I question. 1) always asks whom I am with and what we do it detail 2) wont keep dating me if I go out with friends to a bar or any where that’s has alcohol male or female 3) always needs me to affirm my affection for him all the time 4) gets upset over small things( I forgot to kiss him before I left the car)(I don’t text every hour ) 5) doesn’t like me hanging out with my friends more than him 6) made me get rid of my vibrators and sex toys 7) I am no longer allowed to hangout with my males friends 8) wants me to move to a South American country in fall 2020 These things kinda give me an odd feeling about our relationship I’m just wondering if any of this is acceptable to be concerned about. TL;DR : new relationship wanting to know what behaviours are acceptable or not
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Araenna posted:My boyfriend (28) has some behaviours that concern me(24) nah girl you're good
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