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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for allowing two teenagers to be spit on by a llama? Definitely NTA.
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Sep 2, 2019 22:41
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My [30F] brother [36M] has organised an ill-advised surprise party for my father [70M]. Our Dad [70M] is a complete introvert. When we were younger, he never brought friends round to the house or went out very often. He likes his own space and has always (to my chagrin) used excessive alcohol to handle social engagements. Although he's not officially diagnosed (he's very oldschool and would never get psych help) my Dad shares a lot of common ground with people on the autism spectrum (I know because I am one). He likes things to be a certain way, and can get quite stressed if everything is not perfectly to his taste. He hates loud places/groups of people, and it takes him a couple of days to recover from social events. He's the kind of guy who refused to make a speech at my sister's wedding because the idea of standing up in front of a group was too mortifying, and missed her first dance because the second-hand embarrassment of seeing other people dance was too much. So imagine my reaction when one of my brothers, "James" [36M] reveals via text that he has organised a surprise birthday party of 70-80 people to greet my Dad at a booked-out restaurant in 2 weeks' time. Including the following extremely awkward confirmed attendees: His estranged sister (our aunt), a religious fanatic, and her husband (whom we all loathe and don't speak to) His ex wife (our Mom) who is hated by aforementioned estranged sister Some randoms he worked with before retirement and hasn't spoken to in 5 years Our neighbour and his family (whom he despises) As you're probably gathering from this post, my Dad is far from perfect and can be pretty difficult to deal with. That said, the last thing I want is for him to feel ambushed, stressed out, and humiliated on his own birthday. This event sounds like the exact opposite of something he would enjoy, and I have absolutely no idea what possessed James to go ahead with it. I personally feel that organising this is more about James' own ego than the enjoyment of our Dad, as James is highly extroverted and the kind of person who thinks everyone needs to be as outgoing as them. He is not a bad guy, but not exactly the most empathetic. It pains me to make him feel bad for trying to organise something nice, but I feel that I have to step in, either to stop the party from happening, covertly dis-invite a few people, or warn my Dad. Is it reasonable to ask James to call off the party? Is it reasonable to warn my Dad if the party goes ahead? Or do I just kick back with a glass of strong liquor and watch the drama unfold? tl;dr: Dad hates parties/people. My brother has organised a 70-person strong surprise party, which would be hell for my Dad and a bit awkward for the rest of us. My sister and I think this is a nightmare idea. What would you do? Thanks in advance!
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Sep 2, 2019 22:41
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AITA for not telling my dinner guests that I cooked our meal with my feet? To preface, I had meningitis as a kid and now have neither of my arms. My right arm was amputated at the shoulder and my left amputated just above my elbow. Therefore, I have absolutely no use of my arms. I do everything with my feet or someone else does it for me. I have an all day caregiver that I pay to help me with most things. I live with my fiancée and the above mentioned caregiver. My fiancée and caregiver used to do all of the cooking because I never dared to try cooking with my feet. That was until recently. I saw a video on Facebook a few months ago of a young woman cooking a meal successfully with her feet. This inspired me and I’ve gotten quite good at it. This is all 100% sanitary as I wash my feet thoroughly before and throughout the process. I invited a couple of friends over for dinner, both of them having had meals with us before. Previously, my caregiver had cooked for us (she’s an awesome cook and loves to cook) when my friends were over. This time, we served dinner and all was well. It was delicious and everyone seemed to enjoy it. My friends turned to my caregiver and said “wow, that was delicious thanks caregiver” and my caregiver replied that this meal was all my doing. The look on my friends faces was absolutely horrified as they realized the implications of what that meant. Both of my friends gave me a funny look and left in a hurry. I was shocked and upset by their reaction. This morning I woke up to a text telling me how uncool that was and that I shouldn’t have cooked with my feet because that’s dirty and gross. They say that they’re afraid of getting sick and feel violated. AITA? Edit: Thank you all! This comment thread has given me some much needed clarity surrounding this situation. I appreciate everyone’s comments. Side note: I almost want to say to them if they ever cook dinner for me “you cooked this with your HANDS how could you? You wipe your rear end with those hands, you know?”
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Sep 2, 2019 22:46
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [30F] brother [36M] has organised an ill-advised surprise party for my father [70M]. I would just turn around and walk back out the door.
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Sep 2, 2019 22:59
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my dinner guests that I cooked our meal with my feet? yeah hands are way more germy than feet
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Sep 2, 2019 23:29
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cumshitter posted:Utilizing my superior mathematical knowledge learned from my financial career I have developed a way of accurately predicting the actions of large groups of people. I call it this new science psychohistory. I just wanted to say that I have enough of a Foundation to appreciate this joke.
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Sep 2, 2019 23:53
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My (25F) bf (37M) gets jealous of the attention I give my catquote:I currently live with my sister and we have a cat. My bf lives on the other side of town. There have been a few times when I am with him and I realize my sister is not available to feed our cat. I will tell him I really have to go home to make sure he gets fed. He will get annoyed and say “you care more about that cat than me” or “you don’t make sure I get fed.”
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Sep 2, 2019 23:57
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LadyPictureShow posted:My (25F) bf (37M) gets jealous of the attention I give my cat Feed him the cat
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Sep 2, 2019 23:59
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tactlessbastard posted:
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Sep 3, 2019 00:06
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LadyPictureShow posted:My (25F) bf (37M) gets jealous of the attention I give my cat Maybe she uses a Licki, in which case I would have some reservations too.
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Sep 3, 2019 00:07
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I don’t get that. I probably give my girlfriend’s cat almost as much attention as I give her
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Sep 3, 2019 00:11
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [30F] brother [36M] has organised an ill-advised surprise party for my father [70M].
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Sep 3, 2019 00:48
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Scathach posted:Captured llama? My dude, llamas were domesticated before horses and generally enjoy hanging out with people. Also lol at anyone making one of those spit, they're generally so even-tempered that you have to be a real dick to get the green goop. Glad the kids got spit on. Some years ago I worked at a zoo, and during those years the man Jack Hannah himself showed up for some anniversary or something. I remember being so excited to see him...but he barely spoke to any of the staff other than the owner himself, was rude the few times he did a Q&A with us, and when he did book signings for the staff, he barely looked at you, took the book, scribbled a well practiced signature (guess I should be happy it wasn't a stamp?) and almost hit you with it to get it gone. And then comes a live TV broadcast, and he was in the llama yard. Now these llamas were fairly old and set in their ways, and did not appreciate having to stand near this guy, who talked all happy and fake to the camera while he patted the llama on the side of the face. Llama took it for a few moments, then gave no warning; he swung his head around to try and smack Jack, and then as the man stumbled and rolled away, SPIT that green solid spit at the dude. Sadly he missed. Everyone on staff loved that llama in that instant. He had to finish the broadcast outside the exhibit.
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Sep 3, 2019 01:15
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spite house posted:I read this post to my psychotherapist partner, who was silent for a while and then said "I would bet Dad's relationship with well-meaning brother is more complicated than she realizes," grimly, which seems like a safe bet. At bare minimum, I'm betting the brother is hoping for a big happy-family reconciliation between Dad and the estranged aunt and has decided it's best to stage this in public so they have to play along. So gross.
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Sep 3, 2019 01:21
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Koalas March posted:Well I mean the number one cause of death in pregnant women is murder apparently Is it still murder or has heart disease become the leading cause now?
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Sep 3, 2019 01:38
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Llamas 🦙 are good and chill. My dad has some and they love to just hang out.
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Sep 3, 2019 01:45
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Update: My sister (F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven't forgiven her even tough our mother (F46) is pressuring me toquote:Thanks for the great advice. So a lot has happened after mom and sister left and we took the money that was menat for my sister's car down payment for the restoration.
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Sep 3, 2019 02:18
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Pinecone Sample posted:Update: My sister (F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven't forgiven her even tough our mother (F46) is pressuring me to well that's something. i don't get what the gently caress's wrong with the sister, i've met 8-year-olds more mature than her
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Sep 3, 2019 02:24
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She literally thinks it's a juvenile hobby and has no respect for it and in typical dumb teen fashion thinks everyone agrees / has no empathy for it I enjoy that she ranted to her friends bout it and it turned into the "Baby Ruth/THE GREAT BAMBINO?!" scene from the Sandlot
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Sep 3, 2019 02:26
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goethe.cx posted:well that's something. i don't get what the gently caress's wrong with the sister, i've met 8-year-olds more mature than her The mum explains right there what's wrong with the sister. The mum has found it easier to make the OP suck it up and be 'cool headed' every time the sister is a brat, and in doing so has taught the sister that being a brat is a totally consequence-free way to act. Mum has trained her daughter to be a huge rear end in a top hat because that was easier than actually parenting her.
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Sep 3, 2019 03:24
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She's 22 years old, she's a full adult.
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Sep 3, 2019 03:25
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FilthyImp posted:She literally thinks it's a juvenile hobby and has no respect for it and in typical dumb teen fashion thinks everyone agrees / has no empathy for it It's safe to say 95% of the world knows who Stan Lee is and his role in creating some of the most famous superheros of all time thanks to 12 years of blockbuster movies alongside his countless cameos in said movies. My parents know who he is despite never having read comic books in their lives but going to see the big movies. This girl going to her social group expecting to be applauded for her actions is hilarious because anyone remotely normal would see what she did as horrifically hosed up and just light her up for it. Even after all that, still blaming the younger sister...that is some ice cold NPD that can't ever be overlooked.
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Sep 3, 2019 03:33
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Patrick Spens posted:She's 22 years old, she's a full adult. Adults are built on the foundations that were laid when they were children, and there's zero chance that this is the first time OP has been expected to just take her sister's abuse so that their mum can avoid parenting.
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Sep 3, 2019 03:34
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Patrick Spens posted:She's 22 years old, she's a full adult. A womanchild
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Sep 3, 2019 03:38
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Patrick Spens posted:She's 22 years old, she's a full adult. Only in the most technical sense
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Sep 3, 2019 04:07
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HazCat posted:The mum explains right there what's wrong with the sister. The mum has found it easier to make the OP suck it up and be 'cool headed' every time the sister is a brat, and in doing so has taught the sister that being a brat is a totally consequence-free way to act. That story really hit home for my wife, this was her relationship with her sister growing up. (Apparently she had a very similar incident happen, except without the signature of a dead famous guy she idolized. It was one of the few times her sister actually got in trouble for wrecking her poo poo though because their mom is an artist and took destruction of art seriously.)
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Sep 3, 2019 04:13
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Communist Walrus posted:Only in the most technical sense Perfect. It's like the hundreds of manchild posts we see in this thread. It's more like a brute force approach to growing up, like technically yes she spent time as that consciousness to meet what society considers adulthood, but practically is a child by any reasonable emotional standard.
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Sep 3, 2019 04:15
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My (29F) husband (32M) and his health (7yr relationship)quote:So my (29F) husband (32M) are at an impasse with his health. Hes constantly complaining about how he feels like something is "wrong" with him but every single time I've gotten him to go to the doctor he refuses the follow up appts for blood draws etc, because (direct quote) "it's not all at one doctors office and I dont want to go to multiple places". Sucks that you married the reincarnation of Stonewall Jackson.
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Sep 3, 2019 04:26
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Straight White Shark posted:That story really hit home for my wife, this was her relationship with her sister growing up. Have there ever been any examples of someone pulling the "you cant abandon your family no matter what" for anything other then horrific abuse, mistreatment, really gross behavior, serious criminal acts etc? Because every time I see it mentioned its "Just because your mother stole your identity and racked up $40k in CC debt in your name there's no reason to ignore her on mothers day"
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Sep 3, 2019 04:33
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My husband [31M] very much wants to be a sperm donor and it makes me [28F] uncomfortablequote:The title's pretty straightforward. We've been married for a while, with no kids. They were totally on the table as a 'soon' thing up until life got in the way. Now I'm on long-term birth control so it's safe to say kids aren't on the menu for at least another two or three years.
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Sep 3, 2019 04:47
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Your husband wants kids really badly and you dont and hes trying to avoid hating you which has resulted in him attempting to roleplay a salmon right down to a drop in intelligence.
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Sep 3, 2019 05:03
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Am I crazy for getting mad over my husband trying to take a stripper home? Relationships submitted 6 hours ago by psychoPRN quote:Husband [28] went to a bachelor party over the weekend out of state, went to a strip club, general bachelor party stuff. Backstory: I’m[29F] not uptight or conservative in any way and I really don’t care that he goes to a strip club or watched porn or even grabs some titties at the strip club (with permission from the woman of course). The next day, I was searching for my dad on hubby’s Facebook as I don’t have my own and my dad said he posted some pictures of my two year old, up comes a females name. I check it out and he had friend requested her. I called and asked why he was trying to make friends with a girl that happens to live in the same area he’s partying in, he denies it.
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Sep 3, 2019 05:15
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My [41 M] girlfriend [36F] may not be working when we are married? How do I deal with this? [quote] Does anyone have any advice for relationships where one partner does not work? My gf [36F] has a master's degree but has very little motivation to work. She completed her undergraduate degree late in life and recently finished an MBA. She has not worked in six years because of undergrad and then grad school and I have struggled for the full length of our relationship [9 months] to get her to be more serious about finding a job. My fear is that she will not be working during our marriage and this will put an additional burden on me to support us financially. She already seems to treat me like an ATM and while everything else in our relationship is great, the financial side does not look good since I may be the only breadwinner. This is something that would probably create a lot of resentment and many friends and even family members advised me not to marry her in part because they know that I would be very resentful if I had to support someone who could work but is lackadaisical about finding a job. When I bring it up with her, she says that her ex-boyfriends always paid for everything. I love her more than anyone I have ever dated in my life but never thought that I might be married to someone who may not be employed. Everyone I dated before this were not good matches and some of them had some serious problems so I feel lucky to be with my girlfriend because we have the same ideas on family relationships, having kids, raising kids, where to live, politics, general lifestyle issues- just not work/finances. She is great except that she is lazy and has a sense of entitlement that I have not encountered before and I do not think that it is something I could ever accept. tldr; My girlfriend does not want to work and we are talking about getting married. Is there a way to avoid resentment? [/b] This woman is perfect! This relationship is great! (Please don't tell me otherwise  )
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Sep 3, 2019 05:24
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for allowing two teenagers to be spit on by a llama? "LLea'me,llamalone"
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Sep 3, 2019 05:36
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You are 41, at this point whats holding out for one more relationship after this one?
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Sep 3, 2019 05:40
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My (45M) ex-wife (45F)'s (almost ex) husband (65M) is desperately trying to get in touch with mequote:Thank you for reading, I am using a throwaway. 
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Sep 3, 2019 05:41
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I want to get a Masters in Not Doing Business now. That sounds pretty sweet.
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Sep 3, 2019 05:45
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DemoneeHo posted:My (45M) ex-wife (45F)'s (almost ex) husband (65M) is desperately trying to get in touch with me Well based on how this thread usually escalates please dont try to get back at him by banging his first wife
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Sep 3, 2019 05:48
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DemoneeHo posted:My (45M) ex-wife (45F)'s (almost ex) husband (65M) is desperately trying to get in touch with me
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Xik posted:What he want to do? start an ex husband club like some stupid romcom or some poo poo? Divine Secrets of the TaTa Brotherhood
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