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ravenkult posted:lmao now the dude is a rapist somehow? all men are rapists remember
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It's is only one side of the story after all. There's really no context for exactly those 15 minutes went down. From "cops cant do anything why bother" to "no dont loving call the cops put the loving phone down" there's a lot of possibilities for how extreme it was or wasn't. Given the relationship dynamic its a lot different from having a family member or long term partner show up like that. Someone you've meet casually barely 10+ times showing up and doing that is probably a lot scarier and confusing them a cousin or something who's regularly in your life.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:11
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carry on then posted:it’s almost like we as a society need to take a hard look at why we allow dangerous, violent animals to walk around freely instead of keeping them locked up at all times (or better, just loving out then down already because nothing of value will be lost) 
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Sep 12, 2019 18:12
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DemoneeHo posted:My (24 f) boyfriend (24 m) is a pedophile sympathizer and has many other extreme views I am curious if the boyfriend is at University and why he is studying, because his arguments really sound like some of the boundaries being pushed by queer theory—formally trained critical theorist here. This is really the postmodern turn in social theory taken to the extreme; however, and this is what bothers me about postmodernism in general... Even if his arguments are correct, which as an historical materialist I would deny, just because the ‘trauma’ inflicted on children by this disgusting poo poo is ‘culturally constructed,’ it does not make that trauma any less real. So go die in a fire with your postmodern with your child rape apologism.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:12
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ZombieLenin posted:I am curious if the boyfriend is at University and why he is studying, because his arguments really sound like some of the boundaries being pushed by queer theory—formally trained critical theorist here. he is not reading foucault at a high level, because he is a schizophrenic nazi pedophile, per the thread
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Sep 12, 2019 18:18
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ZombieLenin posted:I am curious if the boyfriend is at University and why he is studying, because his arguments really sound like some of the boundaries being pushed by queer theory—formally trained critical theorist here.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:19
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We'll never know the truth about that exchange, but it sounds like the guy was completely closed off in a suspicious way and I'm going to put my faith in the OP's instincts for making the right call in trying to protect herself.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:20
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Okay I'm really torn on the red hair being either from a woman he's cheating with (that has the exact same hair) or a wig boyfriend is hiding. Hairs don't just show up on TP when you're out of the room without a decent explanation. That story is really weird.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:31
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Every time I see the title of this thread I think of a man too fat to wipe his own rear end sobbing on the toilet while Madonna's "Borderline" plays from another room.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:39
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ZombieLenin posted:I am curious if the boyfriend is at University and why he is studying, because his arguments really sound like some of the boundaries being pushed by queer theory—formally trained critical theorist here. you don't understand postmodernism why don't you blame zoe quinn next
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Scathach posted:Okay I'm really torn on the red hair being either from a woman he's cheating with (that has the exact same hair) or a wig boyfriend is hiding. Hairs don't just show up on TP when you're out of the room without a decent explanation. That story is really weird.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:41
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DemoneeHo posted:Girlfriend (23f) imposing Catholic rules, i(23m)dk whether or not to comply reluctantly. We've been together for almost three years. What kind of people actually wait until marriage for sex in 2019? The vast majority of Catholics and Protestants who go to church every week have premarital sex and use birth control these days. I assume they're Liberty University students or part of a Duggar-style cult.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:45
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^ If she's still a practicing Catholic after all of the child abuse scandals and is insisting he convert before they marry I'd hazard a guess she's pretty far down the fundie rabbit hole.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:53
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AmiYumi posted:Disagree; the arguments sound like those of a pedophile who has done a lot of research into other pedophiles justifying being pedophiles. I am going to give some of my fellow academic critical theorists the benefit of the doubt and say they are actually convinced that these conclusions follow just naturally from the production of knowledge and aren’t actually into child rape; however, there is a good chance you are right and the guy himself is just a well read pedophile.
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Sep 12, 2019 18:59
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hawowanlawow posted:so we think it's a good idea to talk to the cops now lol And it has the added benefit of getting him stuck with an ambulance bill for his trouble Call 911, indeed
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Sep 12, 2019 19:02
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ZombieLenin posted:I am going to give some of my fellow academic critical theorists the benefit of the doubt and say they are actually convinced that these conclusions follow just naturally from the production of knowledge and aren’t actually into child rape; however, there is a good chance you are right and the guy himself is just a well read pedophile. there's enough predatory people in the academic world that i am personally fine with assuming that people who defend pedophilia theoretically are pedophiles actually tbh
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Sep 12, 2019 19:13
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:They have a red haired squatter living in their house. I'm going with this absolutely terrifying, fall-appropriate explanation. WTF man.
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Sep 12, 2019 19:13
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It seems pretty straightforward to say that a woman is not obligated to let someone into her home if she is afraid of that person. It is true that this may make the boyfriend upset and harm (or even end) their relationship, but that is the choice she made because she is not obligated to let someone into her home if she is afraid of that person. To say otherwise is to say that the boyfriend’s feelings and/or the relationship are more important than her security. She is not an EMT, and saying ‘tell me about the mysterious frightening incident that happened a week ago or I‘ll lose my trust in you’ is not an unreasonable ultimatum.
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I'm (24F) seeing a man (43M) with a concerning past. Can people really change? [new] submitted 25 minutes ago by chasingshoesales quote:I've (24F) been seeing an older guy (43M) for 3 months now. We have so much fun and he's been very sweet. It took me a couple weeks to come to terms with our age difference, but eventually I opened up and said screw it. But he has a lot of baggage. He has an ex-wife, who seems nuts, but I guess that just comes with ex-spouses half the time. And he has a son, but I absolutely adore him.
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Sep 12, 2019 19:18
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It's the written version of a child in their parent's clothing saying that they're all grown up. It's really adorable in an "aw, sweetie" kind of way.
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Sep 12, 2019 19:24
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Same old story. Likes older guy because guys her age are too immature and then dates 40 year old manchild with tons of baggage. Good move.
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Sep 12, 2019 19:31
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Leon Einstein posted:Same old story. Likes older guy because guys her age are too immature and then dates 40 year old manchild with tons of baggage. Good move. It's ok she's very mature for her age (such a burden).
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Sep 12, 2019 19:32
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Mature people don't date fuckups that are 20 years their senior. I'm sure if you pointed that out, Reddit would censor you.
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Sep 12, 2019 19:37
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carry on then posted:it’s almost like we as a society need to take a hard look at why we allow dangerous, violent animals to walk around freely instead of keeping them locked up at all times (or better, just loving out then down already because nothing of value will be lost) I feel the same way about these forums and lovely posters.
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Sep 12, 2019 19:42
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Leon Einstein posted:Mature people don't date fuckups that are 20 years their senior. I'm sure if you pointed that out, Reddit would censor you. Mature people also don't feel the need to tell everyone how mature they are. "People my age are so immature" ie people my age wont hang out with me because I constantly look down on them for casual life activities and behavior.
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Sep 12, 2019 20:13
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I'm so proud of myself for causing a multi-page derail.
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If you think about it, it's actually pretty misogynistic for him to show up at her doorstep and demand her emotional labor.
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christmas boots posted:If you think about it, it's actually pretty misogynistic for him to show up at her doorstep and demand her emotional labor. 
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AITA for leaving my ex nanny stranded?quote:I and my wife have very demanding careers. It pays well and is satsifying but we get called in last minute for emergencies. We have one daughter. We hired a full time nanny from a reputable agency so that there wouldn't be last minute child care issues. There's actually people in the thread calling the OP an rear end in a top hat for leaving her there. wtf. christmas boots posted:If you think about it, it's actually pretty misogynistic for him to show up at her doorstep and demand her emotional labor. ._________  ^ the point ^ You Try getting a bit closer to the point. Kuros fucked around with this message at 20:52 on Sep 12, 2019 |
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Sep 12, 2019 20:49
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christmas boots posted:If you think about it, it's actually pretty misogynistic for him to show up at her doorstep and demand her emotional labor.
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Sep 12, 2019 20:56
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christmas boots posted:If you think about it, it's actually pretty misogynistic for him to show up at her doorstep and demand her emotional labor. lol
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Kuros posted:AITA for leaving my ex nanny stranded? Bless your heart
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WIBTA for confronting my parents who don’t acknowledge my birthday because of 9/11? I was born on 9/11 in the 80s. I have two sets of parents, neither set acknowledges my birthday in any way once I turned 15–the year of the attacks. It’s always hurt and irritated me. None of them have ever said why but every year I hope for a text or something and it never happens. We didn’t know anyone who died or was directly affected by the attacks. We lived across the country. Other than watching it on tv like everyone else it wasn’t something that was directly connected to us. Because then I could understand. I didn’t even know to connect the events of 9/11 to the lack of birthday acknowledgement until this morning when my stepparent messaged me and said they never say anything about my birthday because they don’t think it’s appropriate while the whole country is mourning. It boggles my mind that these two sets of people who hate each other so much have come to the same conclusion that this is the best course of action without ever mentioning it to me. I always feel so rejected. WIBTA for being irritated about this and confronting them? It’s not like anyone else in my life has a problem sending birthday greetings. My MIL always makes a point to call which means a lot to me. ETA: I just wonder if it’s not bratty to be all “love me because it’s my birthday!” I had always assumed they were somehow forgetting my birthday. But knowing they remember and can’t be bothered makes me mad!
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Sep 12, 2019 21:04
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I wonder if those families spend the day in quiet reflection and mourning or if they just go about their days, like the bank near me that closed early for 9/11 yesterday. You know its just an excuse for everyone to go out for happy hour.
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Sep 12, 2019 21:06
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AITA for refusing to testify as a character witness for my husband's best friend in a custody hearing? My husband's best friend is bipolar and has been fine on medication for 20+ years. A few months ago something changed in his brain chemistry and his meds were no longer right. He has been manic since. He is not violent. He has had erratic behavior- drinking, smoking a lot of pot, left his wife, came back, left again, posting crazy rants on social media, randomly took off for Florida with another woman for a weekend, and is blowing through his savings. His wife obtained a legal separation, has the kids, and did screw him out of money as far as what their house is worth. My husband says she has also prodded at him to get a rise out of him but I don't have any specific details. She now has a restraining order against him for herself and their 2 kids. He has asked my husband to testify as a character witness in a week at a custody hearing. His other friends have written him off, his brothers live across the country, father is deceased, and his mother refused. To be fair, his mother is also a little nuts. My husband is pretty much the last one left but is unsure if he can take off work. He asked if I would do it and I said I don't think I'm the right person for the task. He is beyond pissed at me and thinks I'm being callous and obtuse. I do think he deserves to see his kids but should be supervised. I honestly don't know what I would say. My husband also feels like I'm not being there for HIM, not just his friend. They have been friends for 30+ years. I'm so torn. Am I the rear end in a top hat? UPDATE: I told my husband I could only do it if I can say the following: I don't think he's a bad dad. I do think he's a bad husband, and thought this before any of this happened, but being a crappy husband doesn't make someone a bad dad. I believe he deserves to see his children. But I think until his medication has been corrected, he is seeing a therapist regularly, and has had a mental health professional sign off on it, visits should be supervised. My husband insists he is working on getting his meds right and that I haven't seen him in 5 months so I can't judge based on the last time I saw him. WHICH I SAY IS A PRETTY GOOD ARGUMENT FOR NOT BEING A WITNESS. He now doesn't think I should do it because I might hurt his case. But he still thinks I'm the rear end in a top hat
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Sep 12, 2019 21:07
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*dashes to the Wikipedia page on "things that have happened on December 25th", desperately looking for any excuse to not buy our son anything*
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SuperMechagodzilla posted:It seems pretty straightforward to say that a woman is not obligated to let someone into her home if she is afraid of that person. Plus all the ‘he’s traumatized’ poo poo collapses after the next few days when he’s texting her and STILL not explaining poo poo
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Sep 12, 2019 21:11
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You really have to wonder at the thought process of trying to coerce someone intp testifying about a thing they either don't understand or don't agree with, and who directly states as much. Like what do you expect to happen when they get up there.
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Sep 12, 2019 21:12
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Guildenstern Mother posted:I wonder if those families spend the day in quiet reflection and mourning or if they just go about their days, like the bank near me that closed early for 9/11 yesterday. You know its just an excuse for everyone to go out for happy hour. happy birthday son, for your party we're going to spend all day being those weirdos standing on the overpass waving a car dealership-sized American flag at everyone who drives by
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