Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for essentially uninviting the guy I'm seeing from my birthday party, over a t-shirt my friends got me?


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Chairman Mao posted:

Yeah it's that thing you just made up about the story and not the really loving obvious reason that was actually posted.

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Housemate (landlord) is allowing access to our home security camera to his top twitch donators depending which ones he trusts, myself and GF don't consent (TN)
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My landlord (also housemate) installed 2 security cameras, one overlooking the kitchen with front entrance, the other overlooking the living room and back entrance (only 2 entrances to the home) and has decided he wants to make a few bucks from it by giving access to those of his top Twitch donators whom he trusts...

He only averages 10 viewers on Twitch and I don't know any of them, he has met one in real life but doesn't know any of them that well either apart from playing video games with them.

My concern is the home security risk this poses as anyone who is granted access may have malicious intent and can do the following:

Use the view from our kitchen window to locate our house, leaving us open to swattings and if the person wanted to, home invasions

Monitor movement with a bot and store data for when people (the other renters, our hosuemates,) arrive and leave

Share the video access information with other people that we don't know

Viewers could record their screens (since the video cameras are live only, there is no storage) and do God knows what kind of creepy stuff with it

We live in Tennessee, and this address is listed on my driver's license so I am legally living here (plus I am a US citizen, just for those curious)

My girlfriend and myself both do not consent to this, as we feel it is an extreme invasion of privacy. We feel that expecting not to be watched by people we do not know (and do not wish to know) even in the kitchen is a "reasonable expectation of privacy"

I don't want to take my friend, landlord and housemate (again, all are the same person) to court at all and we really don't have any other options for shelter at the moment.

Any advice is helpful, thank you.

teen witch posted:

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Some background: We were together for about 15 years and and married for 13. We have 2 kids: 12 year old daughter and an 10 year old son. 3 years ago, my wife says she wants a divorce because she doesn't feel the same about me anymore. I begged her to go to marriage counseling but she refused. She pushed for the divorce.

I met "Jed" through work 4 years ago when he was freshly out of University and since day 1, he's always been flirtatious towards me. I was flattered but happily married. He was always very playful. I enjoyed our interactions and we related to each other well, worked well together on projects, had great conversations about everything, and shared many laughs but always remained friendly. That line was never crossed. He would make small jokes but that's all.

A year after I moved out, Jed all but told me that he likes me and knows that I'm married and have children but he'd love to spend time with me outside of work. As I said before, we got along great and we clicked. We ended up spending a lot of time together and a year later our friendship evolved into a romantic relationship. I fell head over heels for him. I know it sounds cheesy and childish but I didn't even realize what was happening before it I made the connection.

My kids still don't know about Jed and the plan was not going to introduce them until some time had passed after the divorce was final. He's met my family and friends and they all love him.

Recently wife's mother reached to me and has begged me to get into contact with my wife because she's miserable. I called her because I still care about her and was genuinely concerned. She starts telling me that she's hosed everything up and doesn't want to lose me and that it took losing me to realize what she lost. She was crying hysterically and was begging for a second chance. She had asked if I was seeing someone and I told her that I was but didn't tell her who because she was a wreck.

My kids are also suffering. For the past few months, my daughter has been struggling with depression and my son hasn't been sleeping properly at night and has been acting out a lot. More so than usual.

I had confided in Jed and he responded by saying that he doesn't want to come between me and my family and we should stop seeing each other. My family though they love Jed thinks I should at least try to mend things with my wife.

I'm honestly at a loss and don't know what to do.

Pirate Radar posted:

No one, absolutely no one, is allowed to call me Two-Dick Thomas

DemoneeHo posted:

Have a heated gamer moment on camera to get his channel banned

DemoneeHo posted:

Have a heated gamer moment on camera to get his channel banned

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA If I didn't go to my sister's wedding because I need to present a semester long group project?

DemoneeHo posted:

Soon to be ex-wife(39F) wants me(41M) back but I've been seeing a younger male colleague(24M) of mine and I'm happy but my kids (12F, 10M) are struggling.

cumshitter posted:

One simple trick to get your landlord you and everyone around you sent to prison for distribution.

Pirate Radar posted:

Twitch gave somebody probation recently for dressing up as Chun-Li so do that I guess

Inceltown posted:

As poo poo as the twitch streamers are twitch themselves seem to take the Lowtax 'ban the fuckers' approach to modding when you step over the line which is a change.

teen witch posted:

Housemate (landlord) is allowing access to our home security camera to his top twitch donators depending which ones he trusts, myself and GF don't consent (TN)

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you realize that police are people too... prejudices and all. They are raised by families and go home to their own families. if police killed blacks on principle then every black person in the US would have been killed already. Thankfully that's not the case.

Taima posted:

I like how this guy posts in legaladvice and then ends his post with "by the way, I am not interested in pursuing any legal remedy whatsoever"

Pirate Radar posted:

They gave her probation because they thought it was too sexual

Inceltown posted:

I've been probed every time my posts got too sexual too.

Pirate Radar posted:

Motronic posted:

My (F31) husband (M34) of 5 years (together for 9 years) takes me for granted and doesn’t care. Relationships
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goethe.cx posted:

https://twitter.com/redditships/status/1174015194516852736?s=21

Inceltown posted:

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Me: 22M who is an avid online gamer (4 hrs/day)

Sister: 24F who disapproves of my goals under the context of "Does it put food in your mouth? If not, why do you spend so much time on it?"

Situation:

Earlier today, we decide to order pizza (delivered to our place) for dinner. I inform her that she will have to open the door for the delivery man to take the pizza. She agrees and goes into her room.

20 minutes later, the delivery man arrives and rings the doorbell. I am in the middle of a game at this point in time. My sister comes out and decides to throw herself between myself and the monitor at which point I signal her towards the door to open it and take the delivery. She picks up the pizza and heads into the kitchen. I wrap up the game shortly (30 seconds) and follow her into the kitchen.

At this point:

Me: "Please don't disturb me when I am in the middle of a game."

Sister rolls her eyes and doesn't acknowledge what I said

Me: "Do you understand?"

Sister: "You do realize it's just a game right? It's not a life or death situation."

Me: "That doesn't mean that I can't take it seriously".

Sister continues to ignore me. I lose my temper here given the amount of poo poo she has given me over gaming.

Me: "I take my goals seriously in life. Stop being a little bitch."

So AITA Number 1: AITA for calling out my sister?

Sister: "How dare you call me a bitch? Show some respect to your elders."

The "respect your elders" argument is one commonly used by our mother (Asian) whenever she wants to end a losing discussion.

Me: "Don't you dare use mom's argument on me. I don't treat you as an elder in this house."

Cue my sister leaving and slamming her door shut.

So AITA Number 2: AITA for telling my sister that I don't treat her as an elder?

Xik posted:

Lmao how does someone even know they have a fetish this insanely specific...

Like, did it just start as a pirate fantasy, then it was a fishing boat, then the captain was Irish, etc etc until they just lose their poo poo in the absurdity and can't get it up for vanilla anymore?

Lucrece posted:

AITA for calling out my sister over my goals?

Lucrece posted:

AITA for calling out my sister over my goals?

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AITA FOR RESENTING MOTHER?

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Hi all! I am incredibly allergic to avocados. If I am in the same room as in that’s been cut open I break out in hives and my throat swells. I am allergic to many different fruits, but avocados are the worst.

My other coworker, let’s call him Mike, is allergic to peppers in the same way.

Most people in my workplace are very respectful of our allergies, and don’t eat anything or cut anything around us that we’re allergic to. Except this one woman, let’s call her Katherine.

Katherine regularly brings in guacamole, whole avocados, etc. she tells me just to not eat any, despite me constantly telling her that being around that is bad. I’ve had bad reactions at work because of this. Last week, Mike walked into the kitchen and Katherine was cutting up some bell peppers. Immediate anaphylaxis for Mike. Katherine was complaining about it, saying she has a right to eat what she wants where and when she wants.

Am I an rear end in a top hat if I go to upper management about it? Katherine says she has a right to eat what she wants, but don’t Mike and I have a right to not die?

QuarkJets posted:

an allergy to avocado is worse than death, sorry

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AITA for Insulting My Sister’s Choice to Send Her Children to Public School?
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My sister sends her daughters to the local public school. Like most of the faculty, however, their teachers are not licensed, instead working as permanent substitutes. The third grade teacher for all four core subjects has a degree in English. The fifth grade teacher for all four core subjects has a degree in accounting.

I am a state licensed teacher, however. I currently teach my daughter and five other students, all in kindergarten.

My sister is a firm believer in public education. I am not. The system is broken, and it is failing. As a side note, I make more now teaching half a dozen children than I did teaching a class of 30.

My sister and I had an argument the other day. She made the statement, “Nobody is qualified to teach everything. That’s why homeschooled children fail.”

I reminded her, “I’m more qualified to teach than Cindy and Amy’s teachers. The Department of Education agrees. If you cared as much about their education as you act, you wouldn’t be sending them to a school that is so bad, the state threatens to sanction it every three years.”

My sister hasn’t spoken to me since, but her husband called and told me I shouldn’t be questioning their parenting, and I was out-of-line. Was I?

Edit: For clarification, my sister was insulting my ability to teach all six students, including my daughter. I am homeschooling my daughter, and under the private tutor clause in my state, I am teaching the other five.

Lucrece posted:

AITA for pushing for foods that myself and coworker are allergic to be banned?


The comments on this one are really.......something!

ulex minor posted:

yes, in fact you saw through my sarcastic ruse

edit: please PM me with your dumb, predictable american opinions

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Groom and I had been friends since middle school and best friends since high school. I'm one of the only people he talks to about his emotions, which is particularly important because I've been his go-to for advice, especially in relationships. In fact, since knowing him, I've talked him through each of his break ups. We've mutually called each other brothers, he helped me move, I helped him plan and throw his mom's birthday party. I'm close with his family, his mom actively asks about me. I've also been close to each of his significant others, save for his now wife.


A month after his engagement, Groomsman Invitational Boxes went out. We have a very tight knit group of friends that have been together since high school, supplemented by college and work friends. Of the original high school group, I was the only one not asked to be a groomsman. This obviously stung, but I maintained a jovial demeanor towards everyone while acid flowed in my veins. It triggered my depression for a solid month where I questioned so much (do any of my friends even care about me? am i not groomsman material? is it because they thought i was too fat?) until the Groom and I had a talk.


He said it was a very hard decision choosing groomsmen, which I'm sure it was. He told me that I was in the original roster of groomsmen (only 6 out of 7 had received invitations) but that the Bride would not sign off on my involvement. Apparently, I had said something off-color about their relationship as it was beginning and she held it against me ever since. She'd apparently never brought it up until now, years later, and never gave me any indication of being uncomfortable with me (her family even loves me). I'm generally a very positive, well-received person, so this was news to me. He said it was tearing him up inside, and I believed him at the time, and he asked me to try and talk to her, see if we could make amends. He said that he'd let her know that I knew about how she felt towards me and that I'd be reaching out to talk about it. So I messaged the Bride through text and DM, saying (paraphrased), "Hey! I'm so sorry if anything I've said has upset you. Can we meet sometime and talk? I'd love to clear it up, or hear your side at least." The Bride leaves me on read, and a month later, the final Groomsmen Invitation Box goes out to another friend.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, the Bride, Groom, and I are hanging out. Groom and I are talking, and I'd since been able to process the reality of not being involved in my best friends wedding, so I ask how he's doing, and how all the prep is going. The conversation leads us here...

Groom: Hey man, I wanted to know if you could help me out with something?

Me: Sure. What's up?

Groom: I was wondering if you would want to usher for me? It's no big deal if you can't, but I want you to be there for me if you can, you know? Like, be a part of the wedding."

Me (very touched): Yeah! Of course I can, dude. Anything for you two.

Groom: Thank you so much. You know, we also have the rehearsal dinner next week. I know it's late notice, but if you can make it...

Me: I'll have to see if I can leave work early, but I'm already there, man. Thanks for thinking of me!


A week goes by with no updates or details on ushering or the rehearsal dinner, so I shoot him a text saying, "Hey man! Big day's this weekend. Just wanted to reach out and see if you still needed help with ushering, or if you'd still like me at the dinner. I got the time off with my boss, so I can definitely make it. Just let me know." He returns my text a few hours later with a call saying (paraphrased), "Yeah man, we would still like you to usher. I'll text you details later today, but we actually don't need any help at the rehearsal dinner, we kind of want it to just be the bridal party and stuff, but yeah. Thanks for helping us out!" I'm a little put out, but I persevere. At least he asked me to be an usher. That's something, right?


Morning of the wedding comes around and I'd still not received any details on what ushering is going to be like, or what time I should show up to the reception to start helping. Then Bride messages me asking for a favor. These messages were juxtaposed perfectly against the unanswered messages I had previously sent the bride to olive-branch our relationship. Bride says they forgot about the appetizers & need someone to pick them up. Can I do this for a bride, on her wedding day? Sure. Oh, one more thing, the order hasn't been paid, but they'll give me money at the ceremony, or pay me back at the reception. Sure.


At this point I should have stopped and asked myself, "Why am I helping so much? Why didn't I ask for their money up front? Should being a good friend really cost you so much emotionally, physically, or monetarily?" Hindsight. 20/20. With the ceremony ended, my group of friends who weren't in the wedding party spend the hour and a half before the reception pre-gaming while I go pick up the appetizers. Thank God I played as much Tetris as I have, because fitting all that in my car in such a way that they wouldn't otherwise topple and ruin the wedding was an all-time high score achievement. I text the Bride to let her know we've got everything together and I'd see them at the reception. Once again, left on read.


I get to the reception venue expecting a bustling crew of event organizers and family to receive me and help bring the food in. I find no leadership at the venue, no planners, no family who weren't already seated at their tables and otherwise willing to help the newlyweds get things ready. The venue does have staff, but they are all preoccupied with in-venue needs. So I have to carry all the appetizers inside by myself.


Since guests were already seating themselves, I immediately moved from placing the last appetizer box in the back to working usher duties at the front. It was a loving mess. At one point, I was so down about the situation that I literally googled, "is it an insult if someone asks you to usher their wedding?" To start, the place cards were in no discernible order. They were also written in intricate cursive that was sometimes unclear. I should mention, too, that because of the cultural heritages of our newlyweds, we had some very interesting, hard to spell, and sure as poo poo hard-to-read-in-cursive names. We weren't given a table map, or a master list, or any direction at all. The best part is, I say "we" because at this point I met my ushering-peers; they were the Grooms youngest adult cousins, aged 18 and 19 (I'm 29), and they were really good at finding names and seating people. When I asked why they were so good, they said, "they always make us do this because no one else wants to. We did this at the wedding last year."


After finding out that, to the Groom, I was about as equal as the lowest-rung of his family, my group of not-in-the-wedding-party friends shows up. They ask me to stay for a drink, but I can't because I'm still ushering. As I step back behind the name card table, I take a look out the door to my left and see the groomsmen laughing and taking a selfie. To my right, I see all of my other friends at a table without me, taking a shot. I look down at the random, nonsensically ordered name cards and I wonder, how did I get here?

Wedding kicks off & in the rare instance I can speak to Bride & Groom they don't say thank you or bring up the money. I also don't talk money because it's their loving wedding reception, but what should I do, pluck $500 from her wedding dress during the money dance? I'm sure it's true of other weddings, but it seems like the bride and groom don't really engage or reply when I walk up to them with my hugs and congratulations. I can understand this. Maybe they're burned out. Maybe they're trying to hold back things from boiling to the surface.

Now the last song is playing, and the lights are on, and everyone's getting ready to go home and the Groom approaches me.

Groom: Hey, thanks again for your help. I was wondering if I could borrow you again?

Me: What's up?

Groom: Did you drive here? We have stuff we need to get back to the hotel... it could really help us out.

Me: ... how far is the hotel?

Groom: 10 minutes away.

Me (for a Groom, my best friend, on his wedding day: .... Sure.

Get to hotel, unpack everything, it's 12:30am, I'm hungry. Groom says to stick around, we'll hang out, drink more. He goes to get changed, I say I'm gonna grab food & come back. Groom asks for food for he & Bride. I say sure. Bride's cousin overhears & asks me to buy her food too. Sure. Then she asks the room at large who'd like food. Now I'm buying food for almost the whole after party. Cousin says she'll venmo me when I get back, & she'll pay for everyone elses stuff. Sure.

Come back, cousin is passed out. Drunken guests grab whatever food they see. Groom walks up to me, burger in hand, & says he's actually really tired so he's gonna go pass out, but thanks for the food and help, and then leaves. I grab my food, take the elevator to the first floor hotel cafeteria, & eat alone, upset, in silence. At this point, I'm out $500 for the appetizers, $80 for the late night food run, and am pretty sure that I never really had a best friend to begin with. I feel used, humiliated, upset, and incredulous. I went from, "being a groomsmen," to being a guest, to being an usher, to being an unpaid wedding coordinator. This was the first wedding in my close knit friends circle and it turned out nothing like how I thought it would. I've never worked so hard for such little gratitude and I'm left wondering how I could have been such a chump, and how many other times I'd been taken advantage of for being helpful.

The advice I'm hoping for is, how can I go about expressing how terrible a time I had at his wedding without insulting him, if I should do that at all, how can I develop myself to not be put in situations like this, and when would it be appropriate to ask for the appetizer money back? Also, I feel like the missing puzzle piece is the Bride's side of the story, but she still hasn't given me any indication of what I did to her. I know she read my texts about wanting to clear the air, she had to have when she asked me to get the appetizers. How can I start a dialogue with her and sort this out if she won't even acknowledge it? Should I just step away from this relationship all together (after getting back my money)?

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tl;dr "Best Friend" couldn't make me groomsmen cause of now-wife, who had no problem asking huge favors of me on the day of the wedding, little to no thanks, out $$$, ended up doing the most out of whole friend group (groomsmen / bridesmaids included), ended the night feeling defeated and losing even more money.

Xik posted:

Lmao how does someone even know they have a fetish this insanely specific...

Like, did it just start as a pirate fantasy, then it was a fishing boat, then the captain was Irish, etc etc until they just lose their poo poo in the absurdity and can't get it up for vanilla anymore?

Lucrece posted:

Story sucks and is quite depressing, but I love the title!

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My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for just over 5 years. We meet up when we can (which has unfortunately not been very often) and it's going great; but obviously it means that we can't be intimate anywhere near as often as we'd like. As a lot of couples seem to do, we make up for this lack of physical intimacy using technology: phone calls, video chat, sharing photos etc. It's a lot of fun, but it's no substitution for the real thing.

Anyway, last week me and my girlfriend finally got to meet up after what seemed like an eternity. I ended up flying over to her place, and we had a fantastic weekend together. However, on the last night of us staying together, as we were getting intimate, she said she had a surprise for me. Both of us were naked at this point, and she told me to close my eyes before pulling her laptop out from underneath the bed. When I opened my eyes there was a Powerpoint presentation loaded on the screen, consisting of around 50 pictures of her naked that I had never seen before. Now, it felt a little silly to see this on a Powerpoint presentation, but I could get over it: I obviously like seeing pictures of her naked, and she really likes to show them to me. What got me, however, was that when she actually started to go through the Powerpoint there were little animated transitions between each slide; the kind you of thing you would use giving a presentation as a young child at school. Sometimes the pictures would fade into one another, sometimes one picture would suddenly be separated in two like a pair of curtains that would be opened to reveal the next, or sometimes one picture would be replaced by another in a ferris-wheel like motion.

I had trouble hiding my laughter through this, especially as my girlfriend was looking intently at me as each new slide came on-screen, but when one of pictures appeared to shatter like a pane of glass to disclose the next, I couldn't help but burst out laughing. This caused a huge fight between me and my girlfriend, and she was understandably very embarrassed. Anyway, I flew home the next morning and our conversation has been a lot more sparse and awkward since, and I have no idea how we're going to restore any kind of intimacy now, given that our last interaction involved me uncontrollably laughing at the kind of pictures we would usually send each other to get through these long periods of absence.

I know that it was wrong of me to laugh, and I feel bad about it, but I honestly couldn't help it. It seemed like a joke. Am I entirely in the wrong here? What can I do to make this situation better and rehabilitate our intimacy?

TL;DR - My girlfriend used a Powerpoint presentation during sex, causing me to burst in to a fit of laughter, and I'm concerned that it will ruin any semblance of intimacy for the rest of our long-distance relationship