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I just dont know how people gently caress up so bad at sharing money with their SOs.
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Sep 20, 2019 23:40
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AITA if I ate a sliver of my roommate's donut in the middle of the night, feel the shame of my actions, and buy 2 donuts in return and leave a note acknowledging my rear end in a top hat-iness?quote:On my kitchen counter is a donut box from an out-of-town shop. There is 1 full donut left. I don't know what came over me but I cut a sliver of it off. Tasted okay.
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Sep 20, 2019 23:43
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AITA for not being able to fulfill my bridesmaid duties due to anxiety? Here's the thing. This happened a couple of years ago, but it's always weighed on me heavily and I want to know who's the rear end in a top hat in this situation. A couple of years ago my cousin asked me to be her bridesmaid. I agreed but felt it was just for show since she barely talked to me and it was super awkward at the bachelorette party and bridal shower, like she barely acknowledged me. One day we went for a drive and she told me how two girls backed out of her bridal party and she couldn't bear if one more person did. She knew I had bad anxiety and asked me on the spot to tell her if I could do it or not. Of course I felt like how could I let her down so I said yes I would do it. Months go by and the wedding is getting closer and my anxiety is getting worse and worse. I can barely leave the house and my medication isn't working like it used to. I know the wedding is approaching and is in a big church which causes me more anxiety. Like I was literally making myself sick over this. Could barely go to work or anything. Finally it's about the time for the wedding and I break down crying to my aunt (her mother) who I tell that I don't think I can do it but don't want to let everyone down. My family isn't very understanding of mental health. My aunt says don't worry, try to make it, do some practice at the church and if you can't make it no problem we will get you a new dress and you can just do the reception. I felt a bit better but was still struggling, I wanted to be able to do this. My aunt drives me to the church, which was locked and I walked around a bit, very shaky, very anxious and she was getting frustrated and so I acted like I was ok. The day of the practice comes the day before the wedding and I'm throwing up and feeling so sick due to my anxiety, I've barely been sleeping. I break down to my family and told them I don't think I can do it. My aunt calls me and said in a very serious tone " I talked to your cousin and we both feel like you need to be there. So get ready". At this point I'm breaking down. My cousin shows up at my place and I'm crying my eyes out and she's like cmon lets go, and I try to explain but she just looks at me with disgust and leaves. At this point my grandmother calls me and yells, your aunt called and said no wedding no reception. That broke me, my aunt broke her word and I felt so lost. So anxious. It didn't help that my boyfriend was away at work, so I had no one. I called a friend who drove me to my boyfriends house and his mom was amazing. She made me drinks, took me swimming and I tried to stay away from social media for my cousins wedding. I'm a lot better mentally. Got new medication and had therapy!
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Sep 20, 2019 23:46
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Hellblazer187 posted:In my first marriage we had separate accounts and a joint account. We contributed equally to the joint account and paid bills from there but had our own money as well. But importantly, when my fiancee lost her job, I didn't withhold "my" money and make her struggle.
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Sep 20, 2019 23:48
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for disinviting my brother in law from thanksgiving because he conceal carries? Disinviting a drunk belligerent rear end in a top hat from a family event and seeing how people pick sides is its own reward
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Sep 20, 2019 23:52
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for disinviting my brother in law from thanksgiving because he conceal carries? Bolded the lol part. OP should be telling those assholes, "It's my house! I can tell people what they can and can't bring into my house!"
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Sep 20, 2019 23:52
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Haifisch posted:AITA if I ate a sliver of my roommate's donut in the middle of the night, feel the shame of my actions, and buy 2 donuts in return and leave a note acknowledging my rear end in a top hat-iness?
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Sep 20, 2019 23:54
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Imagine taking gun idiots side in that dispute. Hurr he's an adult therefore you have to let him do whatever he wants in your house.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:09
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Hellblazer187 posted:Imagine taking gun idiots side in that dispute. Hurr he's an adult therefore you have to let him do whatever he wants in your house. I feel like there is no going back. The guy is probably one imagined slight away from wasting OP at the next family gathering
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Sep 21, 2019 00:13
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:The unasked for apology is the rear end in a top hat move, assuming your roommate cares so much about a leftover donut that you need a note chastising yourself and two donuts as an apology would make them feel bad that you think so little of them. They're totally the rear end in a top hat, they couldn't even bother getting the same type of donut to replace it. Plus all they had to put on the note was "hey I cut a piece off, sorry, hope these two make up for it".
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Sep 21, 2019 00:15
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AITA for un-inviting my date to my school's dance because her dress was too revealing? I go to a private Catholic all-boys school, but I also hang out with a lot of kids from other schools. One of the people I hang out with is this girl Emmy, who I have an 'on-again-off-again' thing with. We've dated on and off for the past year, and although we aren't at the current time, I don't really like anyone else, so I asked her to our 'Fall Formal' dance (basically homecoming lol). She accepted, and everything was fine for a while. However, a problem emerged recently with her dress. Basically, my school is really big on dress codes at school dances, and there have multiple times in the past where people have been kicked out or just plain refused entry due to 'dressing badly'. Emmy's dress falls into that category: really low-cut v-neck, tight, and ends way above the knees. I had mentioned to her previously about the dress code rules before she bought the dress, but she shrugged it off/ignored me. After some back and forth, she refused to return the dress and get a new one, so I told her I was 'un-inviting' her as my date. I just think it's not worth all the trouble to be refused entry or get kicked out. It would make a scene and be generally embarrassing. Besides, I'm seen as basically a 'good, clean kid': good grades in AP classes, lacrosse and soccer teams, student government, speech and debate. And I'd hate teachers to see me as some sort of troublemaker, especially since they'll be the ones writing my recs for college. Anyways, she got pissed and went off about how it's 'her right' to wear whatever dress she wanted and called me a 'dick' and told me I had to go with her, because now she had bought a dress and it was too close to homecoming to find another date. I think she's entitled to wear whatever, but I'm also entitled to invite or not invite her. AITA?
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Sep 21, 2019 00:17
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SHALL NOT BE INFRINGED GRAMMAW *puts 17 rounds in the turkey in self defense*
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Sep 21, 2019 00:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for un-inviting my date to my school's dance because her dress was too revealing? Enjoy not having sex until marriage and end up finding out you are incompatible with your wife.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:20
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chitoryu12 posted:Canceling plans at the last minute is just what happens when you're an adult. Lol seriously? Control your schedule. Everything else in your post was about not being in control of your schedule but still rashly committing to things an adult wouldn't commit to because they couldn't actually do that......and rather just say "I might be able to, I don't know yet." A commitment is a commitment. This isn't a difficult concept unless you are trying to change the definition of the actual word.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:21
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Motronic posted:Lol seriously? Control your schedule. Everything else in your post was about not being in control of your schedule but still rashly committing to things an adult wouldn't commit to because they couldn't actually do that......and rather just say "I might be able to, I don't know yet." A commitment is a commitment. This isn't a difficult concept unless you are trying to change the definition of the actual word. Telling your friend “Yeah, I’ll come” isn’t some unbreakable bond that can never be violated.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:31
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chitoryu12 posted:Telling your friend “Yeah, I’ll come” isn’t some unbreakable bond that can never be violated. Repeatedly saying that you will come but consistently canceling it is still bullshit, and we're talking about a loving pattern of behavior not a loving one-off thing so all this loving ruleslawyer worrying about how ~~once in awhile a gRoWn-Up has to cancel~~ has nothing to do with the topic that is actually being discussed
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Sep 21, 2019 00:47
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Hellblazer187 posted:Imagine taking gun idiots side in that dispute. Hurr he's an adult therefore you have to let him do whatever he wants in your house. Tribal mentality at work. "GUNS ARE OUR GOD GIVEN RIGHT TO DEFNED OUR LIVES AND PROPERTY GOVERNMENT BETTER RESPECT IT AND STAY OFF MY LAND" "I'm not comfortable with you bringing a gun onto my private property" "HOW DARE YOU TRY TO CONTROL WHAT THIS ADULT MAN DOES WHEN COMING ON TO YOUR PRIVATE PROPERTY GET hosed AND LET HIM DO WHATEVER HE WANTS!" Its always about protecting liberty and rights until they get aggrieved and then anyone else's liberty and rights dont matter.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:47
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AITA for snapping my fingers in my boyfriend's grandfather's face? I was meeting my boyfriend's father's family for the first time last Sunday. He warned me ahead of time that the older men were sexist and likely to make dumb jokes, especially his grandfather, who is in his 60s and the patriarch. There was a match so they were coming to my place to watch. We cooked and bought drinks to cover everyone and at one point I finished my beer and offered to refill other people's. A few people asked if I'd get them another drink so I collected empty glasses/bottles and then I heard clicking. I looked around to see where it was coming from and the grandfather was snapping his fingers. I walked over to him, he held out his empty glass, which had contained his third or fourth gin & tonic, so he was clearly drunk, and I took the glass off him. I went to set the glasses down on the kitchen counter and opened the fridge to start on refills when I heard the grandfather snapping again. He was sort of smiling the first time but this time he was full on smirking. I took his drink and went over to him. He held out a hand to take it, but instead I used my free hand to snap my fingers in his face. He looked shocked, so I said "oh I'm sorry. Is this offending you? Is this rude? Is this something you shouldn't do to a person when you're in their home?" and I was using the snapping like punctuation. I gave him his drink and went into the kitchen to grab the rest. I went back out to the main room and the women there and the younger people (boyfriend's stepmum, siblings and cousins) all seemed to be either smiling or just generally looking approving, while the rest of the men were glaring at me. I handed out the remaining drinks and sat through a very tense end of the match. We'd had plans for after the game, but my actions appeared to have put a damper on things because they left instead. The women hugged me before they left and the men filed out in silence. My boyfriend went with them to see his grandfather into a cab. When he came back he just helped me do the dishes and we didn't say/do anything to acknowledge what happened. Today I got coffee with a cousin on his dad's side of the family that didn't make it to the game. He said that his brother had told him what I did, and that they both found it funny, but the other men did not. Not only is the grandfather expecting an apology (although he won't say so to my face because "he doesn't feel he should have to") but all the older men who were unhappy with my actions are also expecting apologies for disrespecting him in front of them. I told my boyfriend that I'm not apologizing, and if he's waiting on me to say sorry, he'll be waiting a long time. My boyfriend has said that they are his family, they're important to him, and that I've made things difficult as in the last few days whenever he's spoken to his grandfather he gets told to break up with me. I'm not budging on this. AITA?
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Sep 21, 2019 00:49
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pentyne posted:Tribal mentality at work. no, it's always about protecting THEIR liberty and rights and anyone else's NEVER mattered to them.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:50
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Really it depends on context. I had a college reunion recently with some friends, and we agreed to meet up the next day at 10 at a restaurant nearby with some nostalgia. I show up at 10. Two people were staying on the other side of town and overslept. The third was up all night getting drunk and didn't get to bed until 6, I guess he forgot he doesn't bounce back like he used to 10 years ago. So I just hopped on the train to downtown and started ticking some things off my to-do list. I honestly would've been fine with it and hopped a bus back to campus as soon as folks got their poo poo together except that, for unrelated reasons, that day everything else decided to go wrong. One of those days when a whole bunch of minor things keep landing at just the right pace that you can't brush them off like usual. I ended that day pissed off at the world and those guys' flakiness was an unfortunate focal point. I didn't burn any bridges, but I did have some apologies to make.
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Sep 21, 2019 00:52
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for snapping my fingers in my boyfriend's grandfather's face? Haha awesome
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Sep 21, 2019 00:53
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Cut people who side with their lovely family over you at the drop of a loving hat. They can gently caress their grandpappy instead.
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Sep 21, 2019 01:21
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NTA old guy get hosed.
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Sep 21, 2019 01:24
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There is no reason to not constantly call out and mock bigoted old men until they get mad.
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Sep 21, 2019 01:27
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for snapping my fingers in my boyfriend's grandfather's face? Lmao, gently caress that guy
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Sep 21, 2019 01:55
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Unless you work at a teeny tiny shop with literally no other business, Ive never worked for ad agency that would have any issue with you not working on an account for reasons like that. They already pay more for cigarette and gun companies to attract people to work on them and Ive had people get out of working on accounts due to vegetarianism, religious prohibitions, and general political incompatibility. Advertising is, globally, very leftward skewing politically so even if this job wont for some unfathomable reason she could easily find another job that will. Now jobs where the client is too stupid to live, well, that one you usually cant get out of, Friendlys.
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Sep 21, 2019 02:01
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Joint accounts seem like a pain in the rear end. Just make a document to track monthly expenses and divvy up who pays for what in a way that's balanced. If you're in a relationship, you should be able to trust that your partner will cover the utilities while you handle the groceries.
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Sep 21, 2019 02:29
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(F/28) my boyfriend (M/30) said something the other day that’s bothering me. Hi guys. This might seem really trivial but I can’t get it out my head. I’ve been with this guy for 2 months so it’s pretty early days. But we were at a McDonald’s drive thru the other night and I noticed that he didn’t say please or thank you when the woman took/gave him his order. I said to him “aren’t you going to say thank you ?” And he replied “not really. So what ? They’re just McDonald’s workers” ... I know this post probably sounds pathetic, but that’s bothering me so much. Him being rude because “they’re just McDonald’s workers” . I’ve spoke to him about it and he said I’m making a fuss over nothing. But would this bother you guys too ? TLDR- boyfriend was deliberately rude to someone because they “work at McDonald’s”, and it’s really bothering me.
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Sep 21, 2019 02:31
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Smirking_Serpent posted:(F/28) my boyfriend (M/30) said something the other day that’s bothering me. This person is scum, worse than garbage
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Sep 21, 2019 02:34
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We have a shared account and personal accounts for frivolous spending. So I transfer X000.00 every month or so and then use my personal to pay off my
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Sep 21, 2019 02:35
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Boyfriend trying to break up with me but unable to through my furious shame snaps
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Sep 21, 2019 02:38
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Taima posted:That just makes me sad because she must have a learning disability or something and the dude made fun of her :/ There was a guy in a blowoff class I took my last semester of college who loudly bragged about how he was going to graduate with 4.0 because he was only taking one class a semester and "really concentrating on it."
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Sep 21, 2019 02:39
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it is said that if that if a guy treats a waitress like poo poo, it's a preview of how he'll treat his GF in six months.
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Sep 21, 2019 02:40
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from r/LegalAdviceUK:quote:Wife did not report notifiable disease, what offence is this, will PF prosecute her due to lack of evidence (Scotland)?
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Sep 21, 2019 02:41
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Smirking_Serpent posted:it is said that if that if a guy treats a waitress like poo poo, it's a preview of how he'll treat his GF in six months. So if your boyfriend flirts with the waitress then you're in for a sexy time?
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Sep 21, 2019 02:43
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Lazyhound posted:from r/LegalAdviceUK: You and your wife are idiots.
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Lazyhound posted:from r/LegalAdviceUK: Dear Reddit: I would like to begin by saying I’ve committed a crime. Here’s the jurisdiction I’m in, the specific crime I committed, and enough facts to narrow down who I am. FYI I committed the crime in writing using this specific app to discuss my crimes which, again, I committed. Do you think the police will be able to discover my crime? If you need more information about me or my crime to help give me an answer I will be happy to provide it. Sincerely, 90% of r/legaladvice posts
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Sep 21, 2019 02:54
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GamingHyena posted:Dear Reddit: Also! If that wife really is a vet she should have her license pulled. Thats incredibly stupid and dangerous to the public health. I hope that one is fake because it really pisses me off.
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Dazerbeams posted:Joint accounts seem like a pain in the rear end. Just make a document to track monthly expenses and divvy up who pays for what in a way that's balanced. If you're in a relationship, you should be able to trust that your partner will cover the utilities while you handle the groceries. I don't really see how that's better or worse than just having the joint account and trusting that your partner isn't pissing money away irresponsibly  I can't imagine having to negotiate who picks up what part of the cost every time an irregular expense comes up.
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