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DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
haunted

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Grape
Nov 16, 2017

Happily shilling for China!

Mooseykins posted:

So if the wife is a US citizen, but the husband isn't, and they had kids why would the husband not be entitled to residency at some point?

My (American) ex married an English guy and after 2 years i think he was granted residency, and has remained there after they separated.

This doesn't seem to add up.to me unless i'm missing a crucial detail?

You don't just get granted residency, you have to apply and go through a whole process to get a green card, let alone citizenship.
Getting married outside the US legally speaking also makes the process more complicated than if you get the marriage in the states.

Grape
Nov 16, 2017

Happily shilling for China!

PMush Perfect posted:

The crucial detail is that this is America. The only thing we hate more than socialism is brown people.

Unlike England, the place where even Polish people aren't white enough.

PHIZ KALIFA
Dec 21, 2011

#mood

Beachcomber posted:

So what do they call a ventriloquist dummy in the UK?

(I crash in through a window, overturn an end table, stumble over a wingbacked chair, and plow through a trio of nuns)

BORIS JOHNSON

Mooseykins
Aug 9, 2013

Triangle tits and an annoying sex voice?

Fuuuuck youuuuu sluuuut!

Grape posted:

You don't just get granted residency, you have to apply and go through a whole process to get a green card, let alone citizenship.
Getting married outside the US legally speaking also makes the process more complicated than if you get the marriage in the states.

Oh, ok, that makes sense. I know they had to prove their relationship, show photos of them together and so on. I didn't know that it was more complicated/difficult though.

Grape
Nov 16, 2017

Happily shilling for China!

Mooseykins posted:

Oh, ok, that makes sense. I know they had to prove their relationship, show photos of them together and so on. I didn't know that it was more complicated/difficult though.

I don't remember the specifics but it definitely was a big deal to have that one difference.
I'd guess the guy in this story either never got a green card, or his expired or something.
It's of course not at all beyond possibility that ICE ignored all of that because they are evil pieces of poo poo to the core, but if it that were the case I'd imagine his post would be more focused on legal action against them rather than the wife.

Neither situation changes the wife also being a piece of poo poo.

Bruceski
Aug 21, 2007

The tools of a hero mean nothing without a solid core.

Beachcomber posted:

So what do they call a ventriloquist dummy in the UK?

Prince Phillip.

Grape
Nov 16, 2017

Happily shilling for China!
I'm also talking from the situation me and my foreign wife went through, which we thankfully mostly completed during the Obama years. So for all I know Trump has changed the whole process to a literal paper bag test.
My wife still doesn't have citizenship yet though so I wonder what splendor awaits us.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for telling my girlfriend she looked like an escort?

I [32M] have been dating this amazing woman [24F] for just under a year. I know there is a bit of an age difference, but that hasn't been a problem for us yet. Last week was my birthday and we decided to go out together for dinner at a steakhouse (my favorite food is steak). This wasn't an upscale Steakhouse like a Mastro's - think more along the lines of a casual franchise chain steakhouse.

The plan was to meet there after I got off work. I had worked a 10 hour day and was still in work clothes - jeans and button down shirt. My girlfriend wanted to look good for me, so she spent about 2-3 hours getting ready. She had her hair done, full makeup, tight black dress, heels, the whole nine yards.

I get where she is coming from, she wanted to surprise me and look like a bombshell. But the entire evening I felt very uncomfortable. The way I was dressed and the way she was dressed, I noticed other people were giving us looks. Probably because it looked like I was with a hired escort. I felt very uncomfortable and embarrassed the entire dinner.

I didn't say anything that night, but a few days later when I saw my girlfriend next I told her. I said she made me feel very uncomfortable and that she made me feel like I had an escort with me. I didn't tell her this to try and hurt her feelings - I told her because I needed to be honest and upfront, and because I didn't want her doing it again. I told her that there are 1,000 reasons I love her and that her looks are only 1 of them, she has much more to offer than just that.

She has been very upset the last few days and I don't think this is going to be one of those things that just blows over. AITA?

Pissflaps
Oct 20, 2002

by VideoGames
what a fanny

Burt Sexual
Jan 26, 2006

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Switchblade Switcharoo
He’s gonna need an escort soon.

sephiRoth IRA
Jun 13, 2007

"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan
You gotta have the broke brains (likely pornography-induced) to have that be your first thought and not “drat, my SO is hot as poo poo, all these people are checking them out!”

Or, you know, not even notice other people and enjoy your nice date dummy

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my girlfriend she looked like an escort?

I [32M] have been dating this amazing woman [24F] for just under a year. I know there is a bit of an age difference, but that hasn't been a problem for us yet. Last week was my birthday and we decided to go out together for dinner at a steakhouse (my favorite food is steak). This wasn't an upscale Steakhouse like a Mastro's - think more along the lines of a casual franchise chain steakhouse.

The plan was to meet there after I got off work. I had worked a 10 hour day and was still in work clothes - jeans and button down shirt. My girlfriend wanted to look good for me, so she spent about 2-3 hours getting ready. She had her hair done, full makeup, tight black dress, heels, the whole nine yards.

I get where she is coming from, she wanted to surprise me and look like a bombshell. But the entire evening I felt very uncomfortable. The way I was dressed and the way she was dressed, I noticed other people were giving us looks. Probably because it looked like I was with a hired escort. I felt very uncomfortable and embarrassed the entire dinner.

I didn't say anything that night, but a few days later when I saw my girlfriend next I told her. I said she made me feel very uncomfortable and that she made me feel like I had an escort with me. I didn't tell her this to try and hurt her feelings - I told her because I needed to be honest and upfront, and because I didn't want her doing it again. I told her that there are 1,000 reasons I love her and that her looks are only 1 of them, she has much more to offer than just that.

She has been very upset the last few days and I don't think this is going to be one of those things that just blows over. AITA?

How is this even a question? There is never a context where saying some looks like an escort/prostitute has positive connotations.

Mooseykins
Aug 9, 2013

Triangle tits and an annoying sex voice?

Fuuuuck youuuuu sluuuut!

Smirking_Serpent posted:

She has been very upset the last few days and I don't think this is going to be one of those things that just blows over. AITA?

How horrible of her to dress up nice and make a big effort for his birthday! Awful.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

You gotta have the broke brains (likely pornography-induced) to have that be your first thought and not “drat, my SO is hot as poo poo, all these people are checking them out!”

Or, you know, not even notice other people and enjoy your nice date dummy

They were probably looking over wondering why a girl all dressed up nice like that was having dinner with a guy who'd made no effort to even clean up.

Mooseykins fucked around with this message at 20:12 on Sep 22, 2019

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
This is how Sumptuary Laws get started, lol, by embarrassed little piss babies at Outback steakhouse.

cock hero flux
Apr 17, 2011



Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my girlfriend she looked like an escort?

I [32M] have been dating this amazing woman [24F] for just under a year. I know there is a bit of an age difference, but that hasn't been a problem for us yet. Last week was my birthday and we decided to go out together for dinner at a steakhouse (my favorite food is steak). This wasn't an upscale Steakhouse like a Mastro's - think more along the lines of a casual franchise chain steakhouse.

The plan was to meet there after I got off work. I had worked a 10 hour day and was still in work clothes - jeans and button down shirt. My girlfriend wanted to look good for me, so she spent about 2-3 hours getting ready. She had her hair done, full makeup, tight black dress, heels, the whole nine yards.

I get where she is coming from, she wanted to surprise me and look like a bombshell. But the entire evening I felt very uncomfortable. The way I was dressed and the way she was dressed, I noticed other people were giving us looks. Probably because it looked like I was with a hired escort. I felt very uncomfortable and embarrassed the entire dinner.

I didn't say anything that night, but a few days later when I saw my girlfriend next I told her. I said she made me feel very uncomfortable and that she made me feel like I had an escort with me. I didn't tell her this to try and hurt her feelings - I told her because I needed to be honest and upfront, and because I didn't want her doing it again. I told her that there are 1,000 reasons I love her and that her looks are only 1 of them, she has much more to offer than just that.

She has been very upset the last few days and I don't think this is going to be one of those things that just blows over. AITA?

I sort of get the sentiment but really, the angle to go with was "you looked so great I kind of felt underdressed, you don't have to go all out like that just for a casual date" as opposed to putting on your best danny devito and going "you looked like a HOOOOOOOOOR"

goblin week
Jan 26, 2019

Absolute clown.

Bruceski posted:

I'm not familiar with judo or the risks involved. Naturally people get injured by accident in this sort of thing, but is that something that can just happen or some Cobra Kai poo poo?

A broken collarbone is absolutely not a thing that will happen in regular judo, unless you go against some guy way beyond your level and he throws you shittily or in a way you never learned to amortize yet

Hobnob
Feb 23, 2006

Ursa Adorandum

Beachcomber posted:

So what do they call a ventriloquist dummy in the UK?

A ventriloquist's pacifier, just to be extra confusing.

No, we call them a dummy too, but just "dummy" on it own like in the post title almost always refers to the baby accessory. Perhaps it didn't help that I'd recently listened to a particularly horrific episode of The F Plus

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug

Hobnob posted:

A ventriloquist's pacifier, just to be extra confusing.

No, we call them a dummy too, but just "dummy" on it own like in the post title almost always refers to the baby accessory. Perhaps it didn't help that I'd recently listened to a particularly horrific episode of The F Plus

I still haven’t been able to work myself up to listen to that one. Plushfuckers and garbage fetishists have nothing on adult babies in terms of creep factor.


Has anyone actually ever wanted a ventriloquist dummy in their house? Those things are so creepy.

kimbo305
Jun 9, 2007

actually, yeah, I am a little mad

Bruceski posted:

I'm not familiar with judo or the risks involved. Naturally people get injured by accident in this sort of thing, but is that something that can just happen or some Cobra Kai poo poo?

You’re taught first thing to land safely, but if you’re getting dominated, you might but have time to get into a safe posture before getting driven into the mat.
When it’s that unmatched, the dominator would probably have some sense how hard they could throw before the throwee wouldn’t be able to handle it, but is competition and you could be going 100% on the first throw attempt and end up overwhelming someone.

PHIZ KALIFA
Dec 21, 2011

#mood
hnnnnnngh gepetto help i'm trying to become a real boy but i'm dummy thicc and the clap of my wooden asscheeks keeps bedeveling me with whale attacks

(USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


Well that was a fast red text

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


AITA for buying my bratty nephew store brand mac and cheese

quote:

My 9 year old nephew eats Kraft dinner constantly and its disgusting but my sister doesn't see anything wrong with it and since I was yelled at last time for simply bringing up he should be eating healthier food I shut my trap about it. Recently I was on my way over one day when she called me and asked if I could buy a box to bring since they're out. Whatever its only a buck so I stopped at walmart when I saw the Great Value brand and bought it instead because what's the difference? Well when he saw the box he threw an absolute tantrum screaming about how its "not the same". My sister punished him for it but yelled at me for "buying the wrong one" and I told her to buy that garbage her drat self next time. Later at dinner the Great Value mac and cheese was made for nephew and at one bite he started screaming how it "doesnt taste right" and my sister demanded I go and get the right kind. So I said I would, left and didnt come back. This morning I woke up to 20 texts about how Im a heartless rear end in a top hat and how "hes just a child" and other bullshit over mac and cheese, but now Im wondering if I should have just got the kraft junk to spare a headache

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for buying my bratty nephew store brand mac and cheese

That’s when you go and buy the store brand, put it in the Kraft box, and go all “AH-HA! Got you!” When the lovely child eats it happily.

Also that kid is going to be awful when he grows up, picky eaters drive me up a wall even when they aren’t assholes.

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe
One day, pa said he was going out to buy some Kraft mac & cheese and never came back.

PHIZ KALIFA
Dec 21, 2011

#mood

DemoneeHo posted:

Well that was a fast red text

PERFECT IN EVERY WAY!

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for buying my bratty nephew store brand mac and cheese

Expect see the exact same post in 10,years on reddit relationship advice but "nephew" will be changed to "bf(19)"

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Ugly In The Morning posted:

That’s when you go and buy the store brand, put it in the Kraft box, and go all “AH-HA! Got you!” When the lovely child eats it happily.

Also that kid is going to be awful when he grows up, picky eaters drive me up a wall even when they aren’t assholes.

Definitely a picky eater in the making and demonstrates what I believe is usually true with kids that are otherwise neurotypical: the parents are too willing to compromise just to make the child stop crying so the child learns that they can just eat chicken tendies (or whatever) for every meal.

Chocolate Bunny
Jan 13, 2019
I'm willing to bet that if the kid hadn't seen the box, and mom hadn't made a big deal out of it being different he probably would have just eaten it without realising. Yeah there sometimes is a difference between brands but it's lovely boxed mac and cheese either way.

Cognac McCarthy
Oct 5, 2008

It's a man's game, but boys will play

Grape posted:

Unlike England, the place where even Polish people aren't white enough.

Polish makes people shiny, not white. You're thinking of bleach.

Runa
Feb 13, 2011

Cognac McCarthy posted:

Polish makes people shiny, not white. You're thinking of bleach.

They stopped making that anine

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!



Deadbeat "partner" of ten yearls

quote:

Tl;dr boyfriend of ten years is lazy, doesnt contribute, and I resent him. Looking for support for a tough convo.

My boyfriend and I have been together 10 years. Of those 10 years he has never kept a job for more than 6 months. He hasnt worked at all in a year and a half.

He receives VA disability monthly, which he generally spends within two weeks and has zero $ the rest of the month. He contibutes about 1/4 of our living expenses.

He has never cleaned and he rarely cooks. I have enabled him for years to live like this. He has gained a significant amount of weight, drinks a lot of beer, has poor hygiene, and doesnt put much effort into his appearance. Our relationship continues to deteriorate. I resent him for being lazy and unmotivated. I feel disrespected. I'm completely unattracted to him.

We have multiple pets together and are locked into a lease for the next two years. I'm not sure I could find another place to live on my own that would allow all these pets and that I could afford. I'm also fairly certain if I were to leave there would be a fight over who gets the pets.

I feel stuck. I'm aware that I've let this go on like this way too long, so I dont need a lecture on that. We have been together 10 years and honestly I cant imagine my life without him in it, but i need him to change drastically.

Just looking for support and maybe some tips on how to approach what will soon be a very hard conversation.

Staying together for the pets...

VanSandman
Feb 16, 2011
SWAP.AVI EXCHANGER

QuarkJets posted:

Definitely a picky eater in the making and demonstrates what I believe is usually true with kids that are otherwise neurotypical: the parents are too willing to compromise just to make the child stop crying so the child learns that they can just eat chicken tendies (or whatever) for every meal.

Yeah unless the kid is diagnosed on the spectrum or something that's absolutely learned behavior.

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug

QuarkJets posted:

Definitely a picky eater in the making and demonstrates what I believe is usually true with kids that are otherwise neurotypical: the parents are too willing to compromise just to make the child stop crying so the child learns that they can just eat chicken tendies (or whatever) for every meal.

One of my roommates in college was a picky eater that would only eat pizza, grilled cheese, or French fries. Dude basically sweat grease. When we met his mom it all made sense, she would roll over for him on basically anything the second there was a hint of resistance.

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
i am so indescribably glad that my grandpa was feeding me capers and carpaccio at 18 months and i don’t care what health risks there were it was worth it

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

QuarkJets posted:

Definitely a picky eater in the making and demonstrates what I believe is usually true with kids that are otherwise neurotypical: the parents are too willing to compromise just to make the child stop crying so the child learns that they can just eat chicken tendies (or whatever) for every meal.

It's not necessarily set in stone. I would literally (literally literally) not eat anything but mashed potatoes and gravy for more than a year when I was three. Then it was grilled ham and cheese. Any restaurant we went to had to have one of those. I apparently had incredible willpower. Wish I had saved some.

Today I eat things that horrify my family, like sushi or poke. If you can name a culture I'll at least try the food. I'd really like to try horse steak and dairy cow steak. I'm working up the courage for lengua tacos.

Still need to try scrapple next time I'm home.

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
there is definitely some part of picky eating that’s not down to parenting though; like I was always down to try any food, whereas my sister ate nothing but peach yogurt and fish sticks from 3-5, but then got over it and has no picky eating issues. so, idk

Pigsfeet on Rye
Oct 22, 2008

I'm meat on the hoof

Beachcomber posted:

So what do they call a ventriloquist dummy in the UK?

Jacob Rees-Mogg

AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

LadyPictureShow posted:

Deadbeat "partner" of ten yearls

"The person I sleep next to literally disgusts me, but it would be a lot of effort to break a lease, so...."

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