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Nurge posted:That food thing really strikes me as STDH. Unless it's the weirdest family group ever, 3-4/12 or whatever complaining about no meat seems just incredibly implausible. I'd buy it in a family of conservatives who wouldn't notice or care if their nachos or whatever didn't happen to contain a meat item, but since they know the OP's a vegetarian are going out of their way to be assholes about the lettuce-munching pinko trying to infect them with the plant agenda A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 03:37 on Oct 2, 2019 |
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Nurge posted:That food thing really strikes me as STDH. Unless it's the weirdest family group ever, 3-4/12 or whatever complaining about no meat seems just incredibly implausible. There are still some people left that will get grumpy over seeing that there is even an option provided for the vegetarians, even if they had nothing to do with cooking it and there are plenty of meat options. This has cooled off a lot in the last decade of vegetarianism being normalised and gluten free and other dietary choices taking more of the heat. It used to be that just overhearing you were a vegetarian would prompt at least one person to sound off on their rant about vegetarians or outright try to fight you about it, whereas now you are more likely to hear someone try to claim some degree of vegetarian adjacency like "...I don't eat much meat...I'm trying to cut back". But there are still plenty of people who don't consider a dish without meat to be a meal and I can easily imagine a sort of dietary version of the republican family members situation. These people will be especially enraged because the cook was vegetarian so they will perceive it as the vego trying to force their lifestyle on everyone and a sign of the advancing hordes coming to take away their meat (and also religion, guns and christmas)
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Pirate Radar posted:Apparently their breakfast is pretty good too. That's why we tried to go there at my college reunion. When a couple of my friends were pulling all-nighters they liked to get breakfast there. The one who could make it wanted a group photo to send to the one who couldn't. Plans fell through because that group of friends has always been kinda flaky and I was the only one who apparently got enough sleep and non-hangover to actually show up.
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My [23M] triad [23F] [22F] has broken down, and I'm worried I stayed with the wrong person.quote:My girlfriend (let's call her A) and I have been together since we were teenagers [7+ years], and we're always open to the idea of meeting other people and being with other people in a sexual sense.
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Pinecone Sample posted:My [23M] triad [23F] [22F] has broken down, and I'm worried I stayed with the wrong person. This is why I only date in Quads so I can Monty Hall Problem my way out of this exact situation.
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Bruceski posted:That's why we tried to go there at my college reunion. When a couple of my friends were pulling all-nighters they liked to get breakfast there. The one who could make it wanted a group photo to send to the one who couldn't. Plans fell through because that group of friends has always been kinda flaky and I was the only one who apparently got enough sleep and non-hangover to actually show up. Happens. If you didn’t know, the story with the Acrop is that the late owner also owned a ranch so the club gets its beef cuts at cost.
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Pirate Radar posted:Happens. If you didn’t know, the story with the Acrop is that the late owner also owned a ranch so the club gets its beef cuts at cost. I didn't know that. Neat.
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Oct 2, 2019 04:15
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Reading the poly post is like trying to figure out when two trains will meet but theres a third train that just watches
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chitoryu12 posted:You could try not acting like a robot. “Beep boop, you have transitioned therefore you are the Other!” Y'all are dumb. She's doing the best thing you can, because otherwise it's giving the message "Well, sure, you've transitioned to a guy... But you're not like, a REAL guy."
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Pinecone Sample posted:My [23M] triad [23F] [22F] has broken down, and I'm worried I stayed with the wrong person. lmao
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chitoryu12 posted:You could try not acting like a robot. “Beep boop, you have transitioned therefore you are the Other!” I wouldn't take a swing that hard. It's difficult to generalize out an ideal way to act in that situation because there are plenty of people who argue that actually you are meant to instantly beep boop them into the other category the moment they have declared intention to transition and a failure to do so is problematic. An invitation to girl's night would then be seen as a rejection of their identity rather than a show of support, possibly with additional awkwardness of not even wanting to be reminded of previous girl's nights because they were only there as a consequence of their earlier gender miscategorization. This isn't even a thing trans posters can fairly roll their eyes at ignorant cishets for, since you will find trans people arguing for exact opposing perspectives on this with aggressive assurance that their perspective is both the universal preference of all transfolk and the only path to a fair and decent society.
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AITA For Walking Out of the Room? This one is pretty straight forward. I [25] was watching TV with my roommate [25] and his GF [21]. She let out an rear end clapping fart. There was no question it came from her, and it smelled like death. I was shocked for a moment, cause they just pretended as if nothing happened, but as soon as the smell hit my noes I just said, "Goddamn!" and instantly got up and exited the front door to smoke a cig. My roommate was fuming over this and said I really hurt his GF's feelings, and that she doesn't want to come back over again. He said that was not cool to react that way. I didn't really know what to say, and we haven't been talking much since. Nor have I seen his GF lately... I was just acting on instinct. I don't know.
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Miserable Maid posted:Y'all are dumb. She's doing the best thing you can, because otherwise it's giving the message "Well, sure, you've transitioned to a guy... But you're not like, a REAL guy." err.. she's doing the best she can by excluding this person from a close group of friends?
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I suppose the idea of asking him privately "hey, would you still want to come along to girls night as just a party or is that out of the question?" is entirely unthinkable
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AITA for taking away my niece's flower girl duty the day of the wedding? Got married last weekend and had a lovely day, but had some commotion early on the wedding day. For flower girl, we had a choice between my two nieces, Amber and Katie. They're both eight and it was a tough decision. Unfortunately for my perfect day I felt shallow and since Amber has more of a typical angelic ''cute'' appearance (very long hair, glasses, big smile) I picked her. Her parents also convinced me she deserved it because she got top marks in some assessment her school did. During the wedding prep Katie and her dad (my brother) kept telling me that Amber had been bullying her about the fact she didn't get the job. The girls have never liked each other for reasons I don't know. I didn't pay too much mind to it since I was too caught up in myself. On the wedding morning I got to witness the bullying myself and it was pretty cruel. Amber (and keep in mind this is an eight year old child) told Katie that she'd never get married because she's too ugly. I could imagine how upsetting this would be for a child and I made Amber apologise and also took away the flower girl job and gave it to Katie. Amber was crying throughout the wedding day, and for the past days I haven't heard anything from her dad my other brother. My husband and I are going away on our honeymoon on thursday, and i was anxious to get in touch with my brother before we leave. He finally called me and was extremely angry at me for taking the job away from his daughter. He said Amber has been crying the past two days and felt really humiliated, and was really looking forward to the job. As someone who was bullied myself growing up, it felt like the right thing to do after Amber's behaviour towards Katie. I can't imagine how upsetting those comments would be, and at that point Katie, who had never been anything other than well behaved deserved it more than Amber.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for taking away my niece's flower girl duty the day of the wedding? It’s loving pageantry poo poo like this that probably goes on all the time that makes the girls not like each other, you idiot.
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Oct 2, 2019 05:00
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Job switching aunt is a good lady and ambers parents have revealed where she gets her trash behavoir from. Mister Olympus posted:I suppose the idea of asking him privately "hey, would you still want to come along to girls night as just a party or is that out of the question?" is entirely unthinkable I think this is the only actual solution. Its an unexplored territory for this group that involves new identity and existing social behaviors and without talking its very likely somebody here, including other women in the girls night, could be upset or hurt with just a blanket disinvite. Related: since this is a topic that requires information we arent present for and the OP seems to lack, unless an update arrives Id like to ask we let this topic go and stop posting on it or probes start coming out. If youve any issues please let me know via pms.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for taking away my niece's flower girl duty the day of the wedding? Why couldn’t you just have two flower girls from jump street? I mean, it’s good that Amber faced consequences but this could have been entirely avoided. Or god forbid, not having a flower girl at all? Eurgh, and choosing by who is more “angelic”? Lady, you’re the biggest child of em all. Also, is the thread closing? If it’s possible from mobile, I don’t mind IK’ing this thread if it’s really that wretched, I post in it constantly.
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Miserable Maid posted:Y'all are dumb. She's doing the best thing you can, because otherwise it's giving the message "Well, sure, you've transitioned to a guy... But you're not like, a REAL guy." Why is everyone still ignoring the fact she isn't asking if she should exclude him just because it's girls only, but using an excuse about safety? Why the gently caress would a close friend transitioning suddenly make you feel unsafe around them? How is this about just trying to validate his gender when it's based on the friend somehow becoming causing some sort of nebulous fear now that he's transitioning? It's almost like there's a word for that..
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As the new IK of this place, this thread is not closing, not yet until Ive had a go of it. Unless there are further updates from the OP subsequent posts on the trans exclusionary repeating friendates will be a probe Barudak fucked around with this message at 05:24 on Oct 2, 2019 |
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LOVE LOVE SKELETON posted:err.. she's doing the best she can by excluding this person from a close group of friends? Araenna posted:Why is everyone still ignoring the fact she isn't asking if she should exclude him just because it's girls only, but using an excuse about safety? Why the gently caress would a close friend transitioning suddenly make you feel unsafe around them? How is this about just trying to validate his gender when it's based on the friend somehow becoming causing some sort of nebulous fear now that he's transitioning? It's almost like there's a word for that.. Haha, I was mainly trying to make a point about a lot of dumb posters here, the ones claiming that it's totally normal for women to constantly live in fear of all men and expect them all to kill/rape them at a moment's notice She's just being logical, her friend transitioned to a man, he's clearly become a monster now. What, you think gender is just an arbitrary societal construct and doesn't determine someone's worth as a person? Don't be stupid. sorry I'm really bad at hot takes (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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*waits to see if barudak is actually IK* e: oh drat bell jar fucked around with this message at 06:52 on Oct 2, 2019 |
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Oh poo poo he is Guess we have to grovel at barudak's feet now
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Barudak posted:friendates Pronounced fren-da-tay
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for taking away my niece's flower girl duty the day of the wedding?  what a poisonous child.
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teen witch posted:If it’s possible from mobile, I don’t mind IK’ing this thread if it’s really that wretched, I post in it constantly. But I think we need some kind of purestrain threadargue posted in the last 2 pages to go out with a bang. I Suggest: AITA? I [M, 21]was upset with long term twinsoul [F, 19] because she said I had an "OK" dick after we agreed to Open the Relationship and our [Pan, 35] polycule mate suggested my circumcision was an act of violence. Accidentally didn't leave tip after getting rejected by cute AA waitress I asked out and now soulmate thinks I may be racist.
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Started from page 1 now we here Somewhere in the middle this started becoming PYF AITA though Pete still rules Talk to your trans friends about what they want and don’t dump them out of a social event when they likely haven’t had the opportunity or time to set up other stuff if they even want to (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Boyfriend (29m) said I (26f) smell bad, and that’s why we haven’t had sex in a long time. We’ve been together for 6 years, that alone comes with its own problems, but overall we have a fairly healthy relationship. However, in the past few months our sex life has gone in the gutter. We still have sex, but maybe once a week, if that? I haven’t necessarily addressed it, partially to avoid confrontation but also hoping maybe he would snap out of it and things would go back to normal. I don’t want to sound conceited, but I know I am an attractive person; I work as a bartender at a bar where they only employ females based upon looks, body type etc (most of you know what type of bar/restaurant I’m referring to) so there definitely isn’t any lack of male attention on my part. I don’t know if this matters but my boyfriend is a manager/bartender at a completely different place. We have similar jobs but don’t work together. Anyways, earlier today I was getting ready for work and he was laying in bed playing video games (it’s his day off). I was doing my makeup in my underwear and when I turned around he said something along the lines of “wow you have a great butt” and I don’t know why but I kind of snapped and replied “then why don’t you want to have sex with me?” Okay, granted I know I shouldn’t have said it like that but I wasn’t really thinking. At first he didn’t really say anything...but then he goes “well you’re kind of smelly; when was the last time you showered, like 4 days ago? I’ve been counting.” What. The. gently caress. You guys I was shocked, my freakin heart sank and I felt like I was going to throw up. I DO NOT smell bad. Not my sex, not my freaking hair, or armpits. I don’t smoke and I eat so freaking clean. And I’ve definitely taken a shower in the past 4 days. I had just gotten out of the shower when I was getting ready for my shift. I literally have to look good for work that’s my freaking livelihood! When he saw that it hurt my feelings, he apologized and insisted it was just a joke. But it didn’t feel like a joke. I told him he really hurt me, and I think this is a deeper issue than we are making it out to be. I told him I didn’t want to continue the conversation because I didn’t want to get worked up before my shift. I feel like he’s making dumb excuses instead of addressing what’s really going on? I’ve always been told “if he doesn’t get it from you he’s getting it elsewhere.” I know he watches porn, who doesn’t? But to the point where it’s affecting your performance with your long term gf is a problem, right? TLDR; boyfriend said I smell bad and that’s why we haven’t had sex all last week.
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AITA for telling my friend the truth about God?quote:So, I'm not religious myself, but my friend is a fully devout Christian. He will sometimes try to convert me with his ideologies, and I will try steer the conversation away from it. He can be a bit overbearing with it sometimes, like last week I got promoted and he said God did that for me which really felt like he was belittling all my hard work. I usually ignore this type of commentary but it frustrated me and he kept going on and on about how I should pray so that God will be more willing to reward me.
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Lucrece posted:AITA for telling my friend the truth about God? Ok initially I was not on board but no, this is kind of a valid point. I’m cool with this swerve.
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teen witch posted:Ok initially I was not on board but no, this is kind of a valid point. I’m cool with this swerve. Im just confused how thats the avenue no christian ever wants to hear OP immediately jumped to. Black Jesus on Black Velvet holds poweful sway in my family
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I feel like the friend’s adverse reaction to it retroactively justifies the swerve. There are lots of Christians for whom “Jesus wasn’t white  ” would just get a reaction of “so?” or “uh, yeah, I loving know” but this friend seemed to take it extremely poorly.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Boyfriend (29m) said I (26f) smell bad, and that’s why we haven’t had sex in a long time. Place your votes goons 1. Boyfriend sleeping with someone else 2. Boyfriend gay 3. She actually does smell
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Given how cagey she is about exactly how many times she showered in the past 4 days and said she eats clean instead of like "I use soap" I dont see how it cant be all 3
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Xik posted:Place your votes goons None of these are mutually exclusive
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Barudak posted:Reading the poly post is like trying to figure out when two trains will meet but theres a third train that just watches
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The Bramble posted:
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quote:AITA for telling my Dad in law to stop watching TV and focus on his grandkids who are trying to please him. The comments section is mostly redditors pulling ESH/YTA because “~entitlement~” “not everyone wants to hear your kids”
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Boyfriend (29m) said I (26f) smell bad, and that’s why we haven’t had sex in a long time. "I literally have to look good for work that’s my freaking livelihood!" Look =/= smell It's not like her customers get to smell her crotch or her cloth wouldn't catch most of the smell. Wouldn't be surprised if she's a case of: Poor wiping skills Toilet paper crumb thicket sticking to wiry rear end hair Leaky butthole
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