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I babysit my 1 year old nephew from 7am-8pm Mon-Fri for free because a) I love my brother and nephew and b) I'm already a SAHM for my 5mo daughter and adding another kid isn't a big deal for me, I have everything he needs already at home and I love kids.

The spare room in my apt has been transformed into a playroom with floor mats, exersaucers, toys, a nap cot, etc and that is where my daughter and nephew spend most of their time playing and napping. There is also a tv in there, and today semi hidden behind the tv I found a weird circular object with a lens in it. After some googling I found that it was a small hidden wifi enabled camera that live streams to an app. I flipped my poo poo, called my fiance and asked him if it was his. He vehemently denied it and suggested I called the police and explain to them that I need a bug check. The only other person with regular access to my home and the playroom in particular would be my SIL; she drops nephew off in the morning and picks him up after work, and Bro and our parents only come on the weekends. I suspect the camera was placed recently which rules them out. Another reason I suspect SIL is because I had put my nephew in a long sleeved foot pajama this morning because my apartment can get chilly, and 5 mins later she texted me "it's going to warm up later so please don't dress (nephew) too warmly, thanks!" It could be a coincidence, but now that I found the camera I'm not so sure.

If it's her, she knows I know since I'm assuming she saw me find it. What do I do? Do I confront her and ask if its hers? I couldn't even begin to imagine why she would think to put hidden cameras in my house; I have treated my nephew like my own from the start and love him wholeheartedly. I would never think to hurt him or neglect him, my family actually compliment me quite often on what good care I take of my daughter and how happy she always is, and of course I treat my nephew the same.

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for giving my son an ultimatum to leave the house?

He had also been fired from work. He was in the employee room chatting with coworkers, when one of them said “I have to go now, my parents are here to pick me up”. My son responded “that’s impossible, your parents are dead”. I don’t know why he thought that was funny, but that’s not how I raised him. It turns out that the girls parents were actually dead (no, my son was not aware).

Sunswipe posted:

Maybe I've OD'd on cold medication, but this makes no loving sense.

extremely online posted:

Does this lady not understand what a minor is.

DemoneeHo posted:

OH

The dude who had a tattoo of his little brother on his chest so his girlfriend would see it every time they had sex


edit: shameful snipe, have a story

I (21F) found a hidden camera in my house. I suspect my SIL (26F) put it there to watch me while I babysit my nephew (1M). What do I do?

DemoneeHo posted:

I (21F) found a hidden camera in my house. I suspect my SIL (26F) put it there to watch me while I babysit my nephew (1M). What do I do?

DemoneeHo posted:

I (21F) found a hidden camera in my house. I suspect my SIL (26F) put it there to watch me while I babysit my nephew (1M). What do I do?

Submarine Sandpaper posted:

leaving the house means going to the library

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So I told him he has two options:

1. Go to the library and finish his resume.
2. Leave my house and find somewhere else to stay.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I feel like any kind of thread canon would be relatively simple:

Pete
Eagle BF
Australian Cousin Wears Dog
Timothy the rat
Angry masturbation GF
Tummys were unhappy
Fightman

anything else people reference a lot?

Submarine Sandpaper posted:

leaving the house means going to the library

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I feel like any kind of thread canon would be relatively simple:

Pete
Eagle BF
Australian Cousin Wears Dog
Timothy the rat
Angry masturbation GF
Tummys were unhappy
Fightman

anything else people reference a lot?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to host a Halloween party with alcohol or animal products?

To preface, I am a Buddhist, and while avoiding animal products is not required by my faith, for me, it is an important aspect of my practice of it. My avoidance of alcohol dates back to when I was thirteen, and my then sixteen year-old brother had to have his stomach pumped. My family and friends are well aware of both.

Moving to the matter itself, every year, my hosts a large Halloween party. Usually, there are around two hundred guests in attendance. For a variety of reasons, my parents are unable to host the event this year, and they asked me to do so in their stead.

When they asked, I said I would be willing, but I immediately reminded them of my beliefs and avoidance of both alcohol and animal products and how I did not think I would be a suitable host because of them. They said it would be fine. Earlier today, my mother called me. I had emailed her the menu and guest list for final approval. She was furious.

Apparently, I was unclear when I said I was uncomfortable. My parents thought that when I agreed, I agreed to serve meat and alcohol. They are saying it will be a huge issue at the party.

I once again suggested having someone else plan it, but, as they pointed out, it’s less than a month away from the party. We really don’t have time for someone else to take over the planning. I don’t want to compromise my beliefs for this event, but I also don’t want to disappoint my parents or their guests.

Edit: For clarification, I am the one who is now paying for the party. Also, the party is being held on my land.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I feel like any kind of thread canon would be relatively simple:

Pete
Eagle BF
Australian Cousin Wears Dog
Timothy the rat
Angry masturbation GF
Tummys were unhappy
Fightman

anything else people reference a lot?

Van Kraken posted:

The woman whose mother-in-law was poisoning her with her husband gaslighting her about it

DemoneeHo posted:

The aforementioned woman who wanted to give birth to her dead boyfriend's reincarnation

Woman "hypnotized" into having an affair

Anyone who opened up the relationship, only for their partner to have better game instead of them

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I feel like any kind of thread canon would be relatively simple:

Pete
Eagle BF
Australian Cousin Wears Dog
Timothy the rat
Angry masturbation GF
Tummys were unhappy
Fightman

anything else people reference a lot?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My girlfriend (24f) puts hot sauce on everything, including food at restaurants. I think it's rude and embarrassing.

There's always that one annoying habit of someone you love. You usually have to get over it. But I can't get over this.

Jenny puts hot sauce on everything. She said she grew up doing this, but I have never met anyone who has done this. She doesn't put as much on the food she or her family cooks but she tells me other places don't use enough seasonings. She'll even put it on pasta salads at gatherings, or on food at family events like Thanksgiving.

The final straw was when we went to a very nice italian restaurant, she ordered a creamy pasta dish, and pulled out her hot sauce and put it on. I couldn't believe my eyes.

I've asked her not to do it in front of my family or my friends when they cook for us. She said she would try, but it would make it hard to eat their food, because there wasn't enough "flavor" most of the time.

The only time she hasn't done it is at my Mexican coworker's house when they invited us for dinner. She raved over how flavorful everything was and how she misses "real" food. Not to them but to be afterwards.

It honestly feels like she thinks white people can't cook, and I don't know if I can deal with that level of racism. She has straight up claimed the food of my people, Polish people, is bland and flavorless. I have told her that I find it insulting that she adds hot sauce to the food I make, and she has stopped doing that but it always comes across like she's making some huge sacrifice for me.

I don't know what to do. How do you get someone to stop doing this kind of poo poo?

tl;dr: GF puts hot sauce on everything and I find it insulting. She won't stop around my family.

Martha Stewart Undying posted:

That weird turn to "it's racist against whites," is suspect.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My girlfriend (24f) puts hot sauce on everything, including food at restaurants. I think it's rude and embarrassing.

It honestly feels like she thinks white people can't cook, and I don't know if I can deal with that level of racism.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My girlfriend (24f) puts hot sauce on everything, including food at restaurants. I think it's rude and embarrassing.

There's always that one annoying habit of someone you love. You usually have to get over it. But I can't get over this.

Jenny puts hot sauce on everything. She said she grew up doing this, but I have never met anyone who has done this. She doesn't put as much on the food she or her family cooks but she tells me other places don't use enough seasonings. She'll even put it on pasta salads at gatherings, or on food at family events like Thanksgiving.

The final straw was when we went to a very nice italian restaurant, she ordered a creamy pasta dish, and pulled out her hot sauce and put it on. I couldn't believe my eyes.

I've asked her not to do it in front of my family or my friends when they cook for us. She said she would try, but it would make it hard to eat their food, because there wasn't enough "flavor" most of the time.

The only time she hasn't done it is at my Mexican coworker's house when they invited us for dinner. She raved over how flavorful everything was and how she misses "real" food. Not to them but to be afterwards.

It honestly feels like she thinks white people can't cook, and I don't know if I can deal with that level of racism. She has straight up claimed the food of my people, Polish people, is bland and flavorless. I have told her that I find it insulting that she adds hot sauce to the food I make, and she has stopped doing that but it always comes across like she's making some huge sacrifice for me.

I don't know what to do. How do you get someone to stop doing this kind of poo poo?

tl;dr: GF puts hot sauce on everything and I find it insulting. She won't stop around my family.

Martha Stewart Undying posted:

That weird turn to "it's racist against whites," is suspect.

duck trucker posted:

2. Lady who was normal until she got around sugar and turned into George Costanza throwing kids and grandma out of the way to get to her 3rd piece of cake.

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The whole time we've been together, (5 years total) I've known my wife loves sweets and desserts. This includes cake, cookies, pies, candies, donuts, ice cream, anything you can think of with a lot of sugar. She self admits she has no control and will eat sweets until she feels sick. To control it she rarely ever buys them. She does not put herself in a situation to be gluttonous in our own home.
The problem happens when we're at other people's social events who have sweets available. These have included, weddings, parties, celebrations, most recently a baby shower. It also sometimes happens at informal hang-outs with our friends who might provide them for snacks.
At these times my wife displays no ability to control. She is constantly getting up for another helping. She rushes to be the first one to load her plate with sweets, or she grabs things, before anyone else can. She grabs things with her hands instead of provided tools. She eats very fast, like she fears someone will take it from her. This leads to a mess around her from crumbs. I've seen people look disgusted because of the loud chewing. She will get more dessert before some people have had their first. Sometimes she takes two or three pieces of something like cake or pie to start with.
I mentioned a baby shower most recently. We went to my 26F sister's baby shower yesterday and the main treat was a gender reveal cake. All of this happened once the cake was cut open:
I saw my wife shove her way to the front of the group. I saw her elbow my 16F cousin. It could have been an accident but I don't know (She didn't slow down or apologize)
My other sister 24F, who planned the shower had cut the cake. My wife grabbed the plate with that first cut piece which my sister had been going to give to my pregnant sister
She scooped out more m&ms with her hand from inside the cake then started eating immediately before even sitting down
She went back for seconds and thirds, then because there were no more pieces already cut, she cut another piece from the cake. That piece was maybe 3 times the size of the ones my sister had cut for everyone. This left what would have made about 3 normal slices remaining.
At the end of the party my wife went back and took the leftover.
All together, I guess that she ate half the cake, which was for 15 total people
There was frosting on her face and crumbs around her place at the table. She's also single focused on eating during these times so was not joining in any conversations.
I was so embarrassed in front of my family. I don't understand it. She doesn't do this with any other food, only desserts. If she can see sweets in the supermarket and not load up with them, I don't know why she can't do the same at social events.
My family I'm sure noticed the gluttonous messy eating. My friends have noticed it before too. To them it's a joke. To me it makes me feel like I have to do damage control, but that would mean drawing more attention to her eating. So I don't know what to do.
I've told her clearly how I feel and how it looks gross to other people. I told her what to do instead-wait your turn, start with one helping, closed mouth chewing. She always says she will, then says she forgot. She laughs like it's not a big deal.
Another worry is what if she's ever around dessert with coworkers and does this? She just got a good job she's wanted for a long time.....
Does she just not care? It's so rude like what you wouldn't expect anyone over 10 to still do. I've started dreading any events we're both invited to. I can't ask people not to have certain foods at their events just because my wife does this. I have to get her to change instead and I don't know how, nothing has worked.
tl;dr--my wife does not manage her sweettooth at social events with desserts or other sugary foods. The amount she takes for herself and other actions like shoving ahead of people are embarrassing to me.

Clark Nova posted:

I'll withhold further judgement without knowing the brand of hot sauce

Smirking_Serpent posted:

LadyPictureShow posted:

Oh, she came back, having a meltdown on a train, and the husband decided to divorce her. I can't remember if the train freakout was posted here, or I just saw it while scrolling through stories to mine for gold.

But here's the story in question!

My wife (28F) has a gluttonous sweet tooth. How do I (29M) explain the social embarrassment?
sweettoothwife

bell jar posted:

how does someone become 15% anything