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Three Olives: Apr 10, 2005; Don't forget Hitler's contributions to medicine.

Part of the social compact of weddings is everyone hates going to them so at least you give them free booze.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 02:55

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Clark Nova: Jul 18, 2004

I don't have the self-confidence to throw a massive goddamn party about myself with absolutely no booze in order to find out how interested in my bullshit everyone actually is

# ? Oct 13, 2019 02:57

Clitch: Feb 26, 2002; I lived through
Donald Trump's presidency
and all I got was
this lousy virus

Have the decency to mention it in the invitations.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 02:59

FilthyImp: Sep 30, 2002; Anime Deviant

I'm literally sitting at a wedding now, the 'cocktail hour' is in its second hour with nary a complaint as the main hall gets set up.

You want to hold people hostage and treat it like some Salón then you better have some bomb-rear end food to compensate and not plan a 6 hour reception or get butthurt when people bounce after 45 minutes of no music and awkward chatter.

My wife and I have alcoholic-rear end relatives and we still went out of the way to cover a 3 hour open bar because fuuuuuuuck being sober.

Clark Nova posted:

I don't have the self-confidence to throw a massive goddamn party about myself with absolutely no booze in order to find out how interested in my bullshit everyone actually is

Truth.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:02

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

lmao at �we�re having a dry wedding without a dance floor because we want everyone to talk to each other all night!� yeah, all your friends and family who don�t know each other will be just delighted to make awkward icebreaker conversation over hot plate buffet food all night, sober

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:04

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

Those people are sadists in disguise and are trying to celebrate their union by making all the people they know and care about suffer in the worst way possible.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:06

Barudak: May 7, 2007

I know Ive told this story but the only totally dry wedding I know of resulted in the brides father and her husbands uncle getting into a fist fight in the parking lot because they thought the other one was cheating them out of their share of the one bottle they bought before the wedding that they were desperately splitting in the parking lot.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:07

Antioch: Apr 18, 2003

I went to a Mormon wedding once. Obviously there was no booze. But there was a one hour skit put on by the bridesmaids on how the couple met and the relationship. They were arranged and had been dating three months.

I ended up solid snaking my way out by offering to refill the ice water jug and just not coming back.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:13

Uncle Enzo: Apr 28, 2008; I always wanted to be a Wizard

I've been to tons of wedding with no booze, music or dancing. All of them were Mormon weddings and my wife and I rarely stayed more than 45 minutes.

^^^^ an entire hour?? surely you exaggerate ^^^^

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:14

Grape: Nov 16, 2017; Happily shilling for China!

I just went to the wedding of two good friends this past weekend, and it wasn't like it was gonna be some bummer affair without booze or anything, but like.... instead of being a nice thing it was a loving awesome thing. Because yeah, booze.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:23

Antioch: Apr 18, 2003

Uncle Enzo posted:

I've been to tons of wedding with no booze, music or dancing. All of them were Mormon weddings and my wife and I rarely stayed more than 45 minutes.

^^^^ an entire hour?? surely you exaggerate ^^^^

A full hour, with original songs and piano accompaniment. It was hell.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:36

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Antioch posted:

A full hour, with original songs and piano accompaniment. It was hell.

Please share with the class

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:39

PHIZ KALIFA: Dec 21, 2011; #mood

Barudak posted:

Please share with the class

They just took it on broadway, did you not hear? The Book of Morons, or something.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 03:43

The Lone Badger: Sep 24, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not serving alcohol at our wedding?

Have you ever been to American wedding?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 04:26

fauna: Dec 6, 2018; Caught between two worlds...

Pick posted:

I will, I will, sorry, there's just been like a lot going on ! 😫

# ? Oct 13, 2019 05:05

HMS Beagle: Feb 13, 2009

AITA for Pretending to Wanting a Divorce?

quote:

(23f) downloaded a fake WhatsApp messages app and used it to fake messages that I was thinking of divorcing my (36m) husband to my friend.When in the shower I left my phone out so he would see it and he did and when I got out of the shower he asked me about it.I told him that our relationship has been steadily declining and we have no of a friendship than any other kind of relationship,but I said it in a way that I hoped he could tell that it was a joke like the one he had played on me a week before, saying that my cat had run away (which was incredibly immature of him and I am still upset about) but he didn't get it and looked upset all evening

.I tried to tell him it was a joke but he was busy ignoring me so probably didn't hear me as he sulked in the living room with his headphones on so I just left him to it.

I woke up in the morning and he hadn't gone to work and I found him in the kitchen cooking eggs and I asked him why he hadn't gone to work and he said he was trying to rebuild our relationship in an annoyed way as if I'd forced him to stay home.I reiterated that it was a joke and I I told him to come over and I showed him how the app worked then he got mad and said I made him lose a lot of money staying off work and I was cruel and immature and when I reminded him about the cat incident he said "It's nowhere near the same thing ".When I got home from uni he was still there and refused to talk to me. He said he married a kid and that was "his biggest mistake " and I think he's taking it too far. AITA? (Throwaway i don't want this on my main)

This couple is perfect for each other.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 05:14

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

Nurge posted:

Their wedding, their rules. Thunderdome.

OTOH actually getting through a wedding without getting absolutely fuckfaced is an ordeal I wouldn't wish on anyone. So I hope they let everyone know beforehand so they can shatter their own kneecaps or something to get out of it.

Do you often feel that social events are an ordeal unless you can get drunk?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 05:24

cumshitter: Sep 27, 2005; by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not serving alcohol at our wedding?

Christ, what an rear end in a top hat.

One time I went to a wedding and helped clean up a bit afterward. One of the groomsmen was helping to take away the liquor, since they had brought their own, and was giving out few half filled bottles to people. He didn't know me too well even though I'd known the groom for something like a decade, though we hung out sporadically and had done a few creative things together. I'd write and he'd draw. We actually worked on a comic based on the Malheur Wildlife Refuge takeover called Sovereign Man. It was Super Man, but he lands on Lavoy Finnicum's ranch and Lavoy thinks he has super powers because he doesn't have a Social Security Number. It fizzled out though.

Anyway, at the end of the night he hands me a mostly full bottle of loving blue curacao, everyone else got liquor. Thanks for the loving mixer, rear end in a top hat.

Uncle Enzo posted:

I've been to tons of wedding with no booze, music or dancing. All of them were Mormon weddings and my wife and I rarely stayed more than 45 minutes.

I thought Mormons were supposed to be really good dancers and that they enjoyed it?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 05:27

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

lmao at �we�re having a dry wedding without a dance floor because we want everyone to talk to each other all night!� yeah, all your friends and family who don�t know each other will be just delighted to make awkward icebreaker conversation over hot plate buffet food all night, sober

For real do they not realize that alcohol is the best way to get strangers to talk to each other? Best man has probably tried pointing this out but they're not listening

Why would OP feel like she would be less happy if other people were drinking? I can understand not wanting a bunch of shithead drunk people yelling during your reception like buffoons, but surely they already know who those people are and can get their other friends to chill them out with some weed or something beforehand?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 05:31

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Grape posted:

I've lived in the NYC metro nearly my whole life, and the idea of people choosing to drive into NYC rather than take the train is insanity I cannot comprehend of.

I went NYC after getting my learners permit and I was terrified just watching the traffic and thinking about driving in it.

Years later having driven in London, LA to all sorts of insane icy mountain roads and being the guy who has to help friends park in tight spots I�m equally terrified.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 05:42

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

WOOf a lot of alcoholics in this thread

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:07

Chairman Mao: Apr 24, 2004; The Chinese Communist Party is the core of leadership of the whole Chinese people. Without this core, the cause of socialism cannot be victorious.

HMS Beagle posted:

AITA for Pretending to Wanting a Divorce?

I woke up in the morning and he hadn't gone to work and I found him in the kitchen cooking eggs and I asked him why he hadn't gone to work and he said he was trying to rebuild our relationship

Aw that's actually kind of--

HMS Beagle posted:

in an annoyed way as if I'd forced him to stay home.

Welp never mind.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:14

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Enjoy your sober no dancing talking wedding goons sounds like an absolute blast

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:15

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

My [19M] girlfriend [21F] is mad because I slept with another girl while she went on a trip to Europe while �single�.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. This summer she planned a 2 week trip to Europe with her best friend and she told me she wanted to tale a break from our relationship while on her trip. I�m not stupid and I know what she meant, she even told me she wanted to be single for her trip then come back to me after. I broke up with her, like a real breakup. She still went on her trip and I thought that she had just gotten over me. She texted me when she got there and she was upset and told me that I broke up with her so I could see other girls.

Basically she was making herself the victim when this was all her fault. I told her she was being a hypocrite and that I wasn�t going to listen to ger bullshit and I was pissed. One of our mutual friends knew about what happened and she asked me to hang out at her place one night. I drank and smoked to try and clear my mind and she asked me to get in bed with her and I had sex with her. When my girlfriend came back she started begging for me to take her back, but she found out about what happened.

She�s pissed obviously, but it�s not like she wasn�t sleeping around with other dude on ger �trip� so I wasn�t going to let her treat me like if I was a dumbass. She forgave me and is still pretty mad about it, but now I don�t know if I want to be in a relationship with someone like her anymore. Would I be a bad person to just bail on her after everything that happened?

Tldr: I slept with another girl after my girlfriend had a �single girl� summer in europe, am I wrong to just leave her?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:16

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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:

Enjoy your sober no dancing talking wedding goons sounds like an absolute blast

Is there anything goons love more than not spending money on weddings?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:17

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My mother (46F) married my high school classmate (22M) while I was away at college. Do I move back home after graduation?

quote:

When I was 12, my father passed away from a decade long on and off battle with brain cancer. I have three younger siblings, 2 sisters and a brother. Life sucked for the next few years after his death but our mother did an amazing job of raising all 4 kids on her own.

Fast forward to high school, I had found a solid group of friends and we would often party at each other’s houses. It was never anything too hard, maybe a few beers, but never anything much more. My mom has always been super chill, so our get togethers were often held at my place.

Eventually, word got around that we had a spacious backyard and it became the hot spot for high school partying. People beyond my general friend group were showing up to our parties. It was at this point that my mother met ‘Adam’. Adam was always a year ahead of me in high school (he graduated in ‘15, I graduated in ‘16). I had spoken to him before on few occasions but only considered him a mutual acquaintance.

One night, he and my mom got into a deep conversation and they apparently exchanged phone numbers. He moved away after he graduated to attend university, but they continued to secretly text one another. One night, my mother confessed all of this to me and told me that Adam was planning to move back after his freshmen year of college so that he could be closer to her. He would transfer to a closer university and finish his degree there.

A few months later, I graduated and moved out of state to attend university myself. Adam indeed moved back to be closer to my mother and they announced they were officially dating. I was just ready to get the hell away from home at this point and not have to deal with what I figured was going to be a ‘gently caress buddy’ ordeal.

Two years later, they became engaged. I keep in often touch with my younger siblings still. They are now 18, 16, & 13. They were all very disturbed by the relationship initially, but they’ve all seemed to have been brainwashed to jump on board with it. My sisters claim he’s a good guy who truly loves our mom. My brother is a bit more doubtful but he still seems to be generally accepting of it.

Long story short, they got married last month. My 46 year old mother is now the wife on my 22 year old former high school classmate. I did not attend the wedding but did send my mom my best wishes the night before. She understood why it would be awkward for me to attend but suggested that I move back to town upon my graduation from college.

I will be graduating in May. I haven’t made many friends out here so I will definitely be relocating over the summer. All my friends and family are back at home, so that would be the obvious choice. However, I just can’t fathom having to see ‘him’ often. I’ve spoken to him maybe 5 times since he started dating my mother and it’s been super awkward every time. He acts like we never knew each other before he decided to hook up with her. He tries to act like he’s this super mature guy and I’m still this immature child which is absolutely ludicrous considering he’s ONE YEAR OLDER THAN ME.

I don’t have a lot of money. Even if I get lucky and find a decent paying job right out of college, it will take time to save up and prove that I have a reliable income coming in to rent a place. My worry is that I may have no other option than to move back in with my mother and her new man.

Upon graduation, what are my realistic options? Do I swallow my pride and move back in? Do I crash on someone’s couch? Do I start a new life somewhere else? At this point in time, I’m leaning towards moving back home but I really would prefer to not live with my family and not have to deal with him.

TL;DR : My mother married one my high school classmates and I’m graduating soon and debating whether or not to go home until I can make a steady income.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:21

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Tldr: I slept with another girl after my girlfriend had a “single girl” summer in europe, am I wrong to just leave her?

NTA. play stupid games, win stupid prizes; if you 'take a break' to have sex while on vacation, your now-ex is not obligated in any way to wait for your dumb rear end

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:22

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

Pick posted:

WOOf a lot of alcoholics in this thread

Yeah, but they're not wrong about weddings either

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:24

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Malachite_Dragon posted:

NTA. play stupid games, win stupid prizes; if you 'take a break' to have sex while on vacation, your now-ex is not obligated in any way to wait for your dumb rear end

I agree and good for him for putting his foot down on it.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:29

Bruceski: Aug 21, 2007; The tools of a hero mean nothing without a solid core.

Dazerbeams posted:

My friends just divorced over kids/not wanting kids and I think part of the problem was that the guy didn�t realize just how much he wanted a family until he visited friends who had small children of their own. In some ways similar to how women who swear they don�t want kids will change their mind after getting pregnant. Obviously people should go into a relationship knowing where each party stands on big decisions but sometimes people can do a 180 and it�s not really anyone�s fault.

Yeah, when this happens organically to only one partner in a relationship it's really heart-wrenching.

That said, people who respond to someone not wanting kids with "I used to think the same" or "you'll change your mind someday" can go right through the window for all I care.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:31

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

i think it's good he put his foot down and hosed someone else, but he loses points for still taking her back after everything

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:31

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Malachite_Dragon posted:

NTA. play stupid games, win stupid prizes; if you 'take a break' to have sex while on vacation, your now-ex is not obligated in any way to wait for your dumb rear end

It's one of those classic "hall pass" situations where people think they have a reasonable expectation of being able to cheat on their partner for some exceptional circumstance with no consequence. She clearly thought her BF couldn't get laid easily and after banging her way through Europe she expected to come back and tell him she made a mistake and is sorry and wants to be together again.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:34

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Smirking_Serpent posted:

i think it's good he put his foot down and hosed someone else, but he loses points for still taking her back after everything

That's why I didn't call him a Pete; his ascension to Petehood is so close, if he can just find it within himself to dump her...

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:35

FilthyImp: Sep 30, 2002; Anime Deviant

Pick posted:

WOOf a lot of alcoholics in this thread

Lol, gently caress man. If you're sticking a bunch of people in a room for hours at a stretch you better do something to provide some social lubrication.

Otherwise it's "oh you know Bride from High School? Uh, I met Groom in College. Yeah. . ."

There's only so much "man. These mashed potatoes are good" will do.

Throw no dancing/music on top of that? gently caress no.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:35

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

I enjoy a bit of alcohol at a wedding but it's never been mandatory or even a factor in whether I attend, that's insane.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:37

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

idk if you're really qualified to make judgments on which social conventions are insane

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:42

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

Pinecone Sample posted:

Is there anything goons love more than not spending money on weddings?

Bragging about how much they didn't spend on their wedding?

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:44

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

If you can't stand being around other people for any length of time without double-fisting pints the problem might in fact be you

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:45

cumshitter: Sep 27, 2005; by Fluffdaddy

Drinking at weddings is cool and fun and also it doesn't count as a missed day for getting your 1 year chip.

If you redo your married cats' vows every day that also counts.

# ? Oct 13, 2019 06:49

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Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Malachite_Dragon posted:

If you can't stand being around other people for any length of time without double-fisting pints the problem might in fact be you

Yeah but weddings

# ? Oct 13, 2019 07:00

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