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topical! My [27F] sister [30F] said something concerning to me quote:My sister is getting her master to become a social worker (or a therapist? sometimes I get confused as to which one she wants to be because of the way she describes her future role. Maybe a school counselor?)
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Oct 22, 2019 19:01
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"Really tired of all these dang pronouns!!!" - A therapist
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Oct 22, 2019 19:08
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Chomp8645 posted:"Really tired of all these dang pronouns!!!" even worse if she becomes a school counselor. trans teens have enough difficulty as it is.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:11
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Chomp8645 posted:"Really tired of all these dang pronouns!!!" no lgbt person who has ever been to any medical professional ever is even a tiny loving iota surprised this attitude is loving standard tbh
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Oct 22, 2019 19:11
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Straight White Shark posted:topical! This right here is something I'm just finally coming to terms with in my life. I had a neighbor who was an HR person for a larger international company. She was always very talkative, so we had a friendly enough relationship, until she started to talk about how much she hates Somalis. The day it came to a head is when she told me she turned a guy down for a job who even she said was a great fit, because she doesn't trust him, because he is Somali. It's always great when you know someone did something that is straight up illegal, yet there will be no repercussion for it, it just really makes sure your faith in humanity takes a real dive. What I think people should do is call it out. When you hear it, stop being polite, tell them it is racist, tell them it is homophobic, etc. Let them know that they are being terrible. If they don't like it, guess what, you don't need to talk to them, you owe nothing to anyone but yourself. Maybe when the person has been ostracized by their friends and family they will consider looking at themselves as the problem. All this is to say, let your mental health be your #1 priority, and stressing and fretting about your terrible family/friends can be solved easily by telling them to gently caress off. Oh and when someone lets you know their beliefs in a nice hushed tone, that's cause they know that it's wrong deep down, but just can't help being terrible.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:16
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InediblePenguin posted:no lgbt person who has ever been to any medical professional ever is even a tiny loving iota surprised this attitude is loving standard tbh Really? I can see that being the case with conventional medical staff, but I kinda thought therapists took a different tack. Never been to a therapist though, so what do I know I guess. Just sounded like the kind of thing they'd be up on.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:16
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Chomp8645 posted:Really? I can see that being the case with conventional medical staff, but I kinda thought therapists took a different tack. yeah you specifically have to look for LGBT friendly therapists most of the time, unfortunately even though you'd expect better of them they're just as bigoted as the population at large is.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:19
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InediblePenguin posted:no lgbt person who has ever been to any medical professional ever is even a tiny loving iota surprised this attitude is loving standard tbh Yeah, but if she wants to be a social worker or a school counselor, then she's likely to work with kids and teens who haven't experienced this attitude among professionals yet. And they aren't likely to have much choices at that age
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Oct 22, 2019 19:25
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DemoneeHo posted:Yeah, but if she wants to be a social worker or a school counselor, then she's likely to work with kids and teens who haven't experienced this attitude among professionals yet. And they aren't likely to have much choices at that age hold the gently caress up im not saying she's right -- im a queer trans and she's a harmful piece of poo poo. im saying there are thousands of pieces of poo poo just like her so that cishet people going "omg i can't believe a professional would be that way" understand that this is not a rarity but it is a thing that people like me experience regularly irl.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:29
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can’t stop thinking about those shawl boys
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Oct 22, 2019 19:34
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Chomp8645 posted:Really? I can see that being the case with conventional medical staff, but I kinda thought therapists took a different tack. Yeah, uh, it's a huge, huge problem for LGBT people because the population at-large will often either refuse to understand or will deny their existence... and it's so much worse if a gay or trans person lives in a rural or other strongly conservative leaning area. This is on top of how tough it can be, even as a straight cis individual, to find a truly non-judgmental therapist or social worker to actually listen to and address your issues and struggles in some cases. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 19:42 on Oct 22, 2019 |
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Oct 22, 2019 19:35
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InediblePenguin posted:hold the gently caress up im not saying she's right -- im a queer trans and she's a harmful piece of poo poo. im saying there are thousands of pieces of poo poo just like her so that cishet people going "omg i can't believe a professional would be that way" understand that this is not a rarity but it is a thing that people like me experience regularly irl. I was just trying to express some sadness for the lgbt teens who havent been crushed by lovely therapists yet, is all. Not accusing you of anything nor trying to deny your experiences
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Oct 22, 2019 19:38
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Anyways, that loving poo poo wizard story. Why do all reddit threads always devolve into poo poo?
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Oct 22, 2019 19:39
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Dazerbeams posted:Me [20 M] concerned about my realtionship with my GF[21 F] after horrible experience this weekend Who invites people to a party over, instead of caring for your partner with food poisoning? Wtf.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:40
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DemoneeHo posted:Anyways, that loving poo poo wizard story. not all of them! some of them are poo poo right from the start!
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Oct 22, 2019 19:42
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Someone who knows their party is going down in history after their partner pukes and shits themselves into a spinning mess, that's who.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:42
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cumshitter posted:So the guy who poo poo himself in front of everyone just went back to bed and fell asleep in it, still covered in poo poo and puke? Looks like somebody locked the bathroom. Lol
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Oct 22, 2019 19:42
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Power Khan posted:Who invites people to a party over, instead of caring for your partner with food poisoning? Wtf. I would probably actually prefer my wife leave me alone, but if she invited 20 people over while I was spraying out of both ends I would probably divorce her.
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Oct 22, 2019 19:48
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Power Khan posted:Who invites people to a party over, instead of caring for your partner with food poisoning? Wtf. a young person who wants to party so hard that they think "hey, we can go back to my place, my severely ill partner will be there wandering about and moaning but it's no big deal" every part of this story, from the accidental food poisoning, to the migrating pregame, to the pregame that just turns into a drinking party, to the guy who thinks "watch me lock the one and only bathroom door in this house" can be summed up as "twenty year olds are only technically not teenagers" even just the small detail of pregaming with nearly 20 people is like, ah, i remember when i was young and thought that trying to hit bars in a group that large was a fun idea and not completely obnoxious in every way Mr. Fall Down Terror fucked around with this message at 19:53 on Oct 22, 2019 |
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Oct 22, 2019 19:50
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teen witch posted:Every paragraph gets worse, much like someone’s posting! Holy gently caress this poor girl. She gets in a car accident serious enough to need surgery and rehab but all her parents and grandparents seem to care about is that she "has an attitude" and is "snippy". "I know you're learning how to walk again but you better stop the whining, missy!" 
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Oct 22, 2019 19:50
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luxury handset posted:a young person who wants to party so hard that they think "hey, we can go back to my place, my severely ill partner will be there wandering about and moaning but it's no big deal" Only just occurred to me, but how do you have a bathroom door that can be easily locked from outside but not easily unlocked?
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Oct 22, 2019 20:00
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Sunswipe posted:Only just occurred to me, but how do you have a bathroom door that can be easily locked from outside but not easily unlocked? probably a cheap interior doorknob, where you would have to deliberately lock yourself out which would not be a problem for anyone except an aspiring magician https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uV2LRlrJxmE Mr. Fall Down Terror fucked around with this message at 20:09 on Oct 22, 2019 |
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Oct 22, 2019 20:07
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Sunswipe posted:Only just occurred to me, but how do you have a bathroom door that can be easily locked from outside but not easily unlocked? Its pretty easy if the lock is a switch you turn on the doorknob and shut the door while the lock is engaged. And while a lot of doorknobs have little holes that you can use to unlock from the outside, if you don't have the right tool, you can't unlock it from the outside. For example, my old apartment had locks that you could stick any wire or paperclip through a small hole and push a button to unlock. But my current place needs a specialized "key" tool to insert and twist to unlock from the outside
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Oct 22, 2019 20:10
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luxury handset posted:a young person who wants to party so hard that they think "hey, we can go back to my place, my severely ill partner will be there wandering about and moaning but it's no big deal" wow okay so i should just never have anyone over because my boyfriend is one of the living dead, real nice
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Oct 22, 2019 20:11
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I'm certain this was posted in here a month ago, but i can't find the right post. But here it is with an update: AITA for not teaching a skill to my oldest son that I taught his siblings because of the custody arrangement? quote:This is the original story: UPDATE to AITA for not teaching a skill to my oldest son that I taught his siblings quote:I offered the two best options to my oldest which a few days after I posted during dinner.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:13
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DemoneeHo posted:Its pretty easy if the lock is a switch you turn on the doorknob and shut the door while the lock is engaged. I appreciate this revelation that the douchey guy's "magic trick" is probably just knowing how to stick a paperclip into a doorknob
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Oct 22, 2019 20:13
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AITA for being mad at my husband for throwing up?quote:I don’t even know where to begin with this. My husband has a really bad issue with throwing up. He throws up every day. He wretches loudly and I hear him every time. He throws up in the morning. He throws up in the shower. He throws up before bed. He throws up after he eats sometimes. He gets up in the middle of the night to throw up and sometimes doesn’t make it to the toilet. He has a tiny trash can next to the bed that he uses when he wakes up puking. He throws up out his window while driving. It’s out of control. He’s done this since I’ve known him (5 years) and his family claims he’s done it since high school. The problem lies where he absolutely refuses to go to the doctor for it. He gets mad at me when I beg him to go. He doesn’t care at all about his health. He doesn’t think it’s a big deal at all. I used to be bulimic, and when I went to the doctor, they told me all this terrible awful stuff that throwing up can do to your body. I actually had bleeding ulcers from it and it damaged my teeth pretty badly, and that was just after 6 months of it. He says I’m just projecting my past into him. That it’s not like he’s bulimic. He doesn’t understand (maybe he does and he doesn’t care) that this can cause SERIOUS health issues in the future. He literally tells me to “stop nagging about it and let me live my life”. He lies to me about when he throws up like I can’t hear him from the other room. But I don’t let it stop me. The only thing I can do it nag and argue about it in hopes he goes to the doctor one day. We argue constantly about it, more so now than before because it’s just been wearing down on me. After years and years of this, it’s obvious it’s something medically wrong that isn’t going to change without intervention. I can’t handle hearing him wretch and puke every day like this anymore. We can’t even go for walks or go out to dinner because of it. He says I’m being overbearing and awful. The arguments are seriously straining the relationship. AITA for nagging him and arguing with him about it so much? wtf  He's bulimic, you gotta force him to the doctor now
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Oct 22, 2019 20:18
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My GF (28F) Joked About Male Enlargement Pills, I (28M) Brushed it Off.... Two Days Later She Says "I Bought You Something.."quote:The title says it all, but I will elaborate a bit more here:
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Oct 22, 2019 20:21
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for being mad at my husband for throwing up? How in the heck has she been with him for 5 years and hasn't given up on this crazy fucker for not going to the doctor or getting therapy or whatever he needs?!! 
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Oct 22, 2019 20:21
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Straight White Shark posted:My boyfriend (22M) insists I’m (21F) bisexual and it’s causing fights One of my friends has repeatedly made out with and leered at girls while drunk, but steadfastly insists that she's not bi. Some people are weirdly tied to their sexual identity.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:23
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DemoneeHo posted:I'm certain this was posted in here a month ago, but i can't find the right post. But here it is with an update: *Sigh* you stupid motherfucker. If the guilt really was too much to bear, then he should have let himself be bought out by the twins and then gave as much money as he felt he needed to to the older son. The idea that the three kids were ever going to work together productively was a non-starter as soon as the bitter one started getting family to take sides. Now you've ruined your retirement, are going to put yourself in an early grave by doing work you aren't fit for, and it will be an absolute waste because even if the other son was capable of working and learning from you by getting over his attitude, he is just simply not suited in skills or temperament in the first place. This will be a complete waste of time and money and no one will be any happier about it than they are today He wanted a handout, and you've done everything but give him one. The kid is a moron too. Dad's on his way out of his earthly shell and he had all the leverage in the world to ask for dad's share in the will while he worked at Starbucks for a couple years or something. Now he's got a garage full of poo poo he can't use and a family who will snub him out as soon as dad is out of the picture.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:30
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DemoneeHo posted:I'm certain this was posted in here a month ago, but i can't find the right post. But here it is with an update: Some pretty appallingly bad fathering here. If my dad put in the time and effort to teach my siblings something but barely bothered to try with me because it was inconvenient I'd probably just peace out on my immediate family.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:31
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chitoryu12 posted:One of my friends has repeatedly made out with and leered at girls while drunk, but steadfastly insists that she's not bi. Some people are weirdly tied to their sexual identity. Not that i'm accusing the OP of being bisexual herself, but it is a thing among men to engage in lots of gay sex and still identify as straight. Its so much of a thing that medical professionals call them MSMs or men who have sex with men. "Are you gay or bi?" "Straighter than Chuck Norris, doc." "But you said you sucked 37 dicks while getting rammed by 5 dudes in the dark room of the Eagle this past Saturday night." "Still straight, doc."
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Oct 22, 2019 20:31
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DemoneeHo posted:My GF (28F) Joked About Male Enlargement Pills, I (28M) Brushed it Off.... Two Days Later She Says "I Bought You Something.." Make her get the boob job first if you are going to do this deal.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:34
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The Bramble posted:*Sigh* you stupid motherfucker. If the guilt really was too much to bear, then he should have let himself be bought out by the twins and then gave as much money as he felt he needed to to the older son. The idea that the three kids were ever going to work together productively was a non-starter as soon as the bitter one started getting family to take sides. Yeah they hosed this one up real good. Also lol at the mom being "I hate that we're fighting about money! Let's just force them to cut their brother in!" Like lol that will only make things worse, assuming it's something you have the capability to "force" them to do, which you probably don't. The whole situation sucks though because while it's very unfortunate the dad's skills weren't passed to first son, the explanation for why that happened is completely reasonable.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:34
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TheScott2K posted:Some pretty appallingly bad fathering here. If my dad put in the time and effort to teach my siblings something but barely bothered to try with me because it was inconvenient I'd probably just peace out on my immediate family. Really? Gonna have to disagree strongly here. It sounds like this was ingrained in the upbringing of the other two kids. Dad only had the other son for weekends or something, so he didn't have the ability to really teach him properly. Sounds reasonable to me, and it sounds like he did try, as much as he could in the situation. Also the alternative was "every weekend you go to see dad, you're going to work with wood and concrete, no fun stuff". Wow yeah I bet that would have been just been a stellar way of doing things that every kid would love. Dad went wrong in his reaction to the fallout, but you can't blame him for how it happened. He didn't have primary custody.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:37
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Chomp8645 posted:Yeah they hosed this one up real good. I realize it's pretty much the point of r/relationships, but it still bothers me as much today as it did years ago to read about people utterly destroying their lives because they're too emotional to do anything except react react react to the way they feel, or the way they're manipulated to feel, and it's always disastrous. Like so much money, blood, love, and goodwill could be preserved if people would just hit the pause button on their lives and ask themselves "what is the preferred outcome for me in this situation, is it realistic, and is my current course of action bringing me closer to it?". Instead 95% of the posts are from people who missed the point of no return weeks ago and are asking the internet what to do with the flaming wreckage of their lives in the here and now. The other 5% are people making GBS threads themselves without warning. Guilt is a gun you hand the person most eager to shoot you.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:43
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TheScott2K posted:Some pretty appallingly bad fathering here. If my dad put in the time and effort to teach my siblings something but barely bothered to try with me because it was inconvenient I'd probably just peace out on my immediate family. That’s not what happened though? He didn’t have full custody so he couldn’t feasibly teach him.
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Oct 22, 2019 20:43
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Chomp8645 posted:Really? Gonna have to disagree strongly here. From the oldest sons's perspective, dad didn't really bother trying. It fits right in with what I imagine are very strong feelings of alienation from being the "other" kid. The one from the failed family that didn't work out. The other kids get to be a family and run a successful business together, all because of something his dad did for them but not for him. That's some deep hurt, and it didn't have to be that way. There's also some extreme dismissiveness about contributions he could make that aren't on the crafting side of things. He could do the books, or do sales, or any number of other things a growing business needs that skilled craftsmen aren't necessarily suited for or interested in. But they see him as a sour-grapes interloper so that's not even on the table. What a family.
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DemoneeHo posted:I was just trying to express some sadness for the lgbt teens who havent been crushed by lovely therapists yet, is all. Not accusing you of anything nor trying to deny your experiences sorry for getting defensive
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