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Power Khan posted:"He's like a brother" Getting flashbacks to the guy the other day who hosed his sister.
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datajugend posted:A tattoo of the ring from lord of the rings is pretty hosed up. a symbol of slavery and mass murder, the weapon of an evil dictator. A doof from work just got married and he and is wife got One Rings for their bands. When he showed me it after he got back from his honeymoon I had so many issues: 1. You both have One Rings. Two One Rings? 2. The Ring was created by a servant of Ultimate Evil who wanted to enslave all life. “into this Ring he poured his cruelty, his malice and his will to dominate all life.” This is what your marriage means to you? 3. The ring absolutely corrupted the bearer and in order to save all of creation it was destroyed. Again, not the best symbolism for a wedding band. 4. Why not pick Vilya, Nenya or Narya? Rings of creation and knowledge and wisdom-seeking? I think I said “oh, huh.” Or something equally erudite and smiled.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 17:29 |
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quote:AITA for being peeved about the price of my anniversary "gifts"?
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 17:31 |
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quote:AITA for demanding my husband cancel his boys weekend and come home? Thread spinoff idea: r/relationships championship of terrible partners. The Hey Sandy’s (yknow, for all the adventures of Pete and Pete’s, though not limited to Pete adventures)
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 17:37 |
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Agrikk posted:A doof from work just got married and he and is wife got One Rings for their bands. When he showed me it after he got back from his honeymoon I had so many issues: IIRC Tolkein actually recieved a home made mug from a fan with the One Ring inscription on it, and while he appreciated the effort, he could actually read the inscription, which isn't a nice thing to read, and couldn't bring himself to drink from it. So he used it as an ashtray. The dude invented languages basically as a hobby, and possibly wrote stories just to use them.
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teen witch posted:Thread spinoff idea: r/relationships championship of terrible partners. The Hey Sandy’s (yknow, for all the adventures of Pete and Pete’s, though not limited to Pete adventures) Wowwwww. His next yearly trip should be to the surface of the sun.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 17:53 |
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Thanks for the flu shot comments, reminded me I hadn't gotten one yet this year so I did it yesterday. Woke up with a 102 fever which was a bit freaky (I honestly can't remember the last time I had one) but better than the flu.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 18:10 |
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Kitchner posted:I mean she says it's a totally "PLATONIC" relationship, but we are only seeing her word for it. Personally I find she emphasises that point a lot in her writing and maybe it's just because she wants to make it clear or perhaps it's overcompensating.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 18:32 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:Wowwwww. His next yearly trip should be to the surface of the sun. Beep, boop, but it was his weekend! I wonder whether her boyfriend is an incredibly selfish manchild or just an engineer. But I repeat myself.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 18:52 |
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How can I politely explain to people that I don’t want the old large clothes from before their “weight loss journey”?quote:I'm a 31-year-old obese woman who works in outreach at a public institution in a smallish Midwestern town. I'm often at community events and around town, interacting with the public. It's a job I'm good at and that I enjoy very much. However, I've encountered a strange thing that makes me uncomfortable, and I'm looking for advice on how to prevent it from happening or, barring that, how to respond. quote:Oh, good Lord, how frustrating for you and how deeply embarrassing and thoughtless of these women. (Who raised them? Who taught them it was appropriate to ask a nicely dressed woman at work if she wants a lot of your old clothes because she’s the last size you dieted away from?) I don’t think there’s a way you could dress or comport yourself that would preempt these awful, cringeworthy conversations, because I think as soon as these women see your size, they decide they can say whatever they like to you, no matter how unsolicited, off-topic, inappropriate, or obviously hurtful-while-disguised-as-well-meaning. I imagine that your new supervisor, like your last one, does not think putting up with unsolicited offers of someone else’s old clothes is part of your job description. Saying “No thanks, I don’t need any new clothes” does not undermine your public outreach work. Regardless of how much weight you lose or gain, you deserve to be treated professionally when you are at work; you do not “deserve” to be offered stranger’s castoffs simply because you’re fat.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 19:50 |
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Araenna posted:What about bisexual people? Can they never go on a trip with a friend alone? I can't imagine not going on trips with a friend I've been going on trips with since before even meeting my SO just because my SO is uncomfortable with me traveling with other people. And I can't imagine even wanting to have a say over my SO's friendships. At least not over something like "I'm insecure and jealous and don't trust you alone with your friend". How much do you value a friendship if you let something like another person's unfounded insecurity affect it? If travelling alone with friends who your SO is uncomfortable with for whatever reason is more important to you than your SO then dump their rear end. If it is not, don't. Everyone has flaws and everyone is human and if your red line is that if your SO is insecure about you travelling alone with someone they don't really know, then that's cool, but I know it's not mine.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 19:50 |
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DemoneeHo posted:How can I politely explain to people that I don’t want the old large clothes from before their “weight loss journey”? She should just tell them “oh, honey, that’s very sweet of you, but keep them, you’ll need them when you put the weight back on”
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 19:53 |
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AITA for holding a grudge toward my sister about being left out of her wedding pictures? Not the A-hole This summer, my sister got married. Last minute she changed the date of her wedding to be the same day of my birthday. I personally wouldn't have a day like that line up with something else of significance, but it's her day it's hard to get pissed over something like that. Day of wedding I get there many hours early to help get things prepared, altar included. They go through the ceremony which was great. After the ceremony, the bride and groom want to take wedding pictures at the altar before dismissing the assembly to the reception area. So they do. Groom goes first, gets pictures with him and his mother, him and grandmother, him and siblings, him and cousins, aunts uncles friends etc. He finished and it's my sister's turn. She gets wedding pics with our father, then our mother, then some cousins, then some friends, then some volleyball coach she had from back in the day. Basically everyone that came to the wedding aside from me, her brother and only sibling. Mind you, these are taken in front of everyone in attendance. It was embarrassing but frankly I dont really care about that aspect. Admittedly, we never had the strongest relationship siblings could have, but I'm still her brother and this broke my heart. I mean I only have one sister, and she is only gonna have one wedding (hopefully). It made me feel meaningless and insignificant. On my birthday no less, technically. AITA for holding a grudge toward my sister for being left out of her wedding pictures?
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 19:59 |
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Kitchner posted:If travelling alone with friends who your SO is uncomfortable with for whatever reason is more important to you than your SO then dump their rear end. Yeah the gist of the Pete story isn't "man objects to partner taking trip with member of opposite sex". It was more like "man objects to partner's travel to a party city with an ex who is probably still attracted, and upon reasonably voicing concerns got told to take a hike" E: wait wasn't Pete fine with the trip until it turned out it was with her ex?
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:12 |
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Everyone must be giving their girlfriend's bad gifts today AITA for only buying my girlfriend an 88 cent item that she wanted on AliExpress for her birthday? quote:My friend group is sorta split in the middle with some thinking I’m an rear end in a top hat and some are saying she’s caring about monetary value too much.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:13 |
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Power Khan posted:AITA for holding a grudge toward my sister about being left out of her wedding pictures? Lol ouch. That is incredibly hosed up.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:18 |
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AITA for being upset that my (22M) girlfriend (20F) copied my tattoo idea and didn't tell me about it until she was sitting in the tattoo parlor's chair? My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a year, although this happened about 6 months into our relationship. I don't have any tattoos but she has 6. I have always considered getting 1 but I want it to mean something, so its taken a while to decide on one. I really like her tattoos, and she knew that I wouldn't want to get matching ones with anyone unless I was married or best friends with them. Now for me. I love to hike and I have since I was 13. Due to this, I have traveled to Colorado each year for the past 5 years climb mountains that are over 14,000ft in elevation. Since this is basically my only true hobby, I have always thought that if I got a tattoo it would relate to mountains or hiking. So, my idea was to get a band on my arm that would be a custom mountain range that I would make by taking the outlines of photos of the peaks I've climbed and combining them into a strip. I really liked this idea and and I told my girlfriend just to get her opinion on it. About a month later, she tells me that she is getting a new tattoo but won't tell me what it is. She always designs her own and is very good, but she wouldn't let me even see her sketches. She tells me what day she is getting it so I can be there. We are in college together, and it slips my mind until the day arrives. When I walk in, she is already sitting in the chair, and her artist is pressing stencil paper into her arm to start. My heart sinks when I notice that it is in an outline of a mountain range in the shape of a band around her arm. She asks me if I am surprised and I don't say much. She then asks me if I'm ok and I ask if she copied my idea for my tattoo. She told me that she liked the idea so much that she wanted something similar, but she just freehanded her own range instead of fully copying me. She also got a quote there, so she said that hers would be different compared to mine. I was still upset because I didn't want to end up having a near matching tattoo with my girlfriend of 5 months, and I knew that she hadn't done much hiking at all either. She ended up noticing me and asked if she shouldn't get it. I knew she wanted it, but before I could even answer the artist started on it. He had already been paid a nonrefundable deposit so it makes sense, but I had to fight back tears at this point. We had some issues after this for about a week. I didn't even want to talk to her or look at the tattoo. Eventually, I became more ok with it and found it attractive, but I still can't help but feel like I can never get what I wanted. I actually managed to get her to go with me to CO this year for her first peak, which justifies the tattoo a bit more, but it still doesn't feel right. AITA? Part of me thinks that I have the right to be upset since she took part of my idea, but another part of me thinks that I shouldn't be upset when she thought she was being thoughtful and that I'm holding a grudge for too long. I think about this often and I'm torn inside.
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MagusofStars posted:I couldn’t make it past the first paragraph, where it took 500 words to say “My spouse and I are close friends with three other families”. We need to patreon 6BC to take on all hot posts in r/relationships.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:22 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for being upset that my (22M) girlfriend (20F) copied my tattoo idea and didn't tell me about it until she was sitting in the tattoo parlor's chair? Tattoo drama is the most asinine kind of drama I can imagine
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:22 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for being upset that my (22M) girlfriend (20F) copied my tattoo idea and didn't tell me about it until she was sitting in the tattoo parlor's chair? When he mentioned Colorado I was hoping his tattoo idea was just a big rectangle
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:25 |
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But ~*~it’s meaningful~*~ to me!!!
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:25 |
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Uncle Enzo posted:Yeah the gist of the Pete story isn't "man objects to partner taking trip with member of opposite sex". It was more like "man objects to partner's travel to a party city with an ex who is probably still attracted, and upon reasonably voicing concerns got told to take a hike" There was the Pete story where his girlfriend booked a trip with a guy, and then said "Hey I'm going to Amsterdam with Dave" and then Pete said "OK". Then said "Do you have history with him?" "yeah we dated four years ago" "OK, do you think that's appropriate?" "stop trying to control me like an abusive boyfriend I can go on holiday with who I want!" "😐" "waaah I got dumped". Then dave basically text back like "lol cool now we can gently caress" and she surprised pikachu faced at him. Then there is the non-pet story, where a girl agreed to go to Disney with a PLATONIC friend who's she's been to Disney before with and her BF doesn't know without telling her BF, then invited her BF along, and when he said no and he doesn't want her going alone with her PLATONIC friend. (Emphasis is hers). Oh an they had shared a hotel room before and nothing happened so it's nothing to worry about. I just don't see not being able to go to Disney land with a friend that you apparently don't see often enough that your boyfriend apparently doesn't know him as a big deal. Personally I also think if you're super into Disney then Disney land is probably a fairly romantic place to go.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:27 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for being upset that my (22M) girlfriend (20F) copied my tattoo idea and didn't tell me about it until she was sitting in the tattoo parlor's chair? 1. She shouldn't have done that. 2. He has now spread the idea out into the universe, so good luck not seeing it 100 more times.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:32 |
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Beachcomber posted:1. She shouldn't have done that. Yeah to both. Like it was his idea for his first one it was pretty lovely of her to cop it first for her like 7th one.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:37 |
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The fact that the girlfriend didn't say anything about using it herself makes it clear that she knew she was stealing an idea and going behind his back on it.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:43 |
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Dazerbeams posted:The fact that the girlfriend didn't say anything about using it herself makes it clear that she knew she was stealing an idea and going behind his back on it. Yeah like she knew she was being shady because she wanted to “surprise” him. Kinda feel bad for the dude because it seems like he put some thought into it. Vs like someone getting a Darth Vader tattoo because they identify with the dark side.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:46 |
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Getting an empire tattoo to show to the First Order daily military parade at Disney on my trip with my platonic friend
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:47 |
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Imagine not being able to go to an amusement park with your friend because your boyfriend is insecure as gently caress and scared that you're going to jump on your friends dick the second you're alone with them. If you cant trust your partner then why are you even together?
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SHY NUDIST GRRL posted:Getting an empire tattoo to show to the First Order daily military parade at Disney on my trip with my platonic friend Their Stormtroopers are quite often legitimately funny/menacing/cute with small children. We took our 2yo nephew and he needed a nap, so we parked coincidentally close to one of the doors where characters come out from backstage and it was just a lot of fun to watch them at work. Thank you for your support, citizen.
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DamnitGannet posted:Imagine not being able to go to an amusement park with your friend because your boyfriend is insecure as gently caress and scared that you're going to jump on your friends dick the second you're alone with them. If you cant trust your partner then why are you even together? Yup, Disney parks are one of the most common destinations in the world for both romantic partners and friends alike. It's like the most normal trip to take with a good friend. If her dumbshit boyfriend can't trust her to hang out platonically with her long-time friend, then they should just break up.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:55 |
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Maybe he's secretly upset she's one of those childless Disney adults.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 20:58 |
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WIBTA for reporting a TA at my kids' school? My wife and I adopted 2 children. I am white with red hair and blue eyes, my wife is latino and has brown hair and brown eyes. Our kids are latino with brown hair and green eyes. (note: I am using what my wife said are the correct terms to refer to them. Apologies if they aren't) They're both primary school age. They started in September and due to our schedules, I drop them off at school and see them in, and my wife picks them up at the end of the day. At the beginning of the day there are no teachers watching, but at the end the teachers stand at the door and don't let the kids leave until they see their parent. My wife was ill on Friday so I went to get the kids. The teacher saw me, I saw the kids, they saw me, they moved towards me, the teacher stopped them. I saw her talking to them and them gesturing to me but the teacher stood between them and the door so they couldn't leave. Due to the circumstances that led to them being in the foster care system, they don't do well with adults standing between them and exits. The principal said the teachers would be made fully aware of this. I start walking towards the door and I hear the kids speaking simultaneously, both saying something to the effect of me being their adoptive mother and saying "let us leave!" The teacher is still stood between the kids and the door and I can hear my daughter's voice shaking, like she's about to cry. I loudly call to the teacher (who has her back to me) that I am their adoptive mother, give me my children, and they run towards me. The teacher then challenges me, saying she has a duty of care and I look nothing like them and she's met their mother who does look like them. I say that's my wife, give me my children, and show her my lock screen of me, my wife, and the kids. She lets me take my children home. The kids say she's a TA, not a teacher, and doesn't work for either of their classes, so it's probable she didn't know, but she could have listened to any of us 3 and resolved it. My wife says she made a mistake, but what about next time? What happens if i need to pick up my children urgently (they both have mental health issues due to their early life) and she stops me again? I want to call the school and tell them what happened and let them deal with it. WIBTA? Edit: while I am relieved that people can't just walk off with my kids there are other steps she could have and should have taken. There's meant to be a list of people cleared for pick up and I was on it but she didn't have the list with her. When my kids said "that's our mum, let us leave" that should have been the end of it. There was no need for her to physically prevent my children leaving. Edit 2: she stopped me because we didn't look alike. What happens if their bio parents ever show up and this TA thinks to herself "oh, well, they certainly look like the children" and the kids don't know what to do? Edit 3: I absolutely do not want her fired. That would not be my intention. If I wanted anything out of reporting her it would be the principal/her supervisor saying "be more careful next time" Update: My wife is still ill so I just went to pick my children up for the second school day in a row. I was waiting by the door, the TA, again, came out without the list. I went to get my children. She asked me whose mother I was. The kids came to the door and pointed me out. The TA would not let me take my children. She then gestured to a woman behind me who looks vaguely similar to my wife and kids and waited for the stranger to come over. The stranger then saw my children and said "those aren't my kids." TA then says "so where is your parent, then?" They, again, point me out, and I say "I am". She then says "do you have any proof?" I say "do you have the list?". She then tells me to hand over my ID. It shows that my name is different to my children's surnames. She then refuses to let my children leave and physically grabs their wrists to stop them walking to me. I take my license, go to the school office, tell them the situation, and a receptionist walks back to the children's exit with me and the list and then and only then does the TA let me take my children home. This is the second day running this has happened with this same TA. I am scheduling a meeting with the principal. I don't care if this makes me an arsehole or Karen or whatever, it's not happening again. I want to reiterate my intentions are not to get her fired or anything like that, it's just that she brings the bloody list with her. She has demonstrated 2 days running that she is more willing to give my kids to someone who looks vaguely like them or has the same surname than she is willing to actually let me pick up my children. Either she brings the list or they fix their whole pickup system, but this can't happen again.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:What in the heck? How have these dumb weirdos never heard of an IUD or vasectomy???? Why is she still with this rear end in a top hat? What is going on with this story? I hate everyone involved, including OP. "Hey everyone! Come meet our 5 kids - Snickers, Reuben, Frosty, Whopper & Gordita"
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 21:02 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I knew she wanted it, but before I could even answer the artist started on it. He had already been paid a nonrefundable deposit so it makes sense, but I had to fight back tears at this point. Hahahahah jfc.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 21:02 |
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WIBTA to refuse to recognize my new grandkids unless my son recognizes his first born daughter (he has been a deadbeat dad)? So some details. I [65F] have a son [35M] whose wife recently gave birth to twin boys. However when he was 22 he met a girl on a single night and had a daughter [13F] with her. He and my granddaughter (who I am very close to) never had a proper father daughter relationship because he never bothered to join their lives. Beyond paying the bare minimum in child support mandated by the government, he does not treat her like his own flesh and blood at all. His daughter’s mother and him do not talk at all. Now in contrast, my son has become very wealthy and successful and he and his wife live a very lavish lifestyle. In a massive house in a wealthy neighborhood. However his daughter and the mother of his child live in a small apartment in the poorer part of town. He believes he doesn’t need to pay or do anything more than what’s ordered even though his life with his current wife is at least 10x more comfortable than his daughter and child’s mother’s. I believe I raised him better than this so seeing this over the years has broken my heart. We’ve had a tough relationship as a result as I want him to step up as a real father and he resents me for reminding him he has a daughter who needs him. Now, his new twins are in the world and they are acting like they are the only children worth loving in their lives. It disgusts me seeing him spoil them and speaking of wanting to give them the best of everything (best schools, best toys, best everything) while his flesh and blood daughter has nothing. I am considering telling him and his wife that I will not be in their lives or their children’s lives as a loving grandparent until he recognizes the daughter he’s discarded. My husband thinks this is too much but I wouldn’t be able to bring myself to “spoil” these babies when I know how their older sister lives just miles away. WIBTA? quote:No, [the son] hasn't discarded her. What OP is mad about is that [his son] had premarital sex and didn't marry the mother. He visits her, made her a trust fund, bought them a home, and pays all child support. The mother decided to get back with an abusive ex, which OP blames the father for because he didn't "man up" and marry her.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 21:07 |
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Power Khan posted:WIBTA for reporting a TA at my kids' school? Guarantee that TA is hella homophobic and is trying to keep The Gays from raising children. First time could have been a mistake but twice is purposeful
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 21:08 |
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did the likpas just break sauron's butthole
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 21:10 |
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Power Khan posted:WIBTA for reporting a TA at my kids' school? LOL after the second incident your goal should absolutely be to get this woman fired. Holy poo poo.
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# ? Nov 4, 2019 21:11 |
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Power Khan posted:AITA for holding a grudge toward my sister about being left out of her wedding pictures? He was wearing one of those anime cum face shirts wasn't he.
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Power Khan posted:WIBTA for reporting a TA at my kids' school?
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