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teen witch posted:AITA for saying my manger should come to work despite a death? Hmm on the one hand justified revenge, particularly against management. On the other hand, is this a case of crab-bucketing? Generally I try and be happy for people (real people, not the rich) who may have it better than me.
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Really grossed out by my [F30] husband [M33] after finding his stash of old used cum ragsquote:This is so loving stupid and I’m embarrassed.
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teen witch posted:Hi let’s get into fights about this deadly cold post guillotine the csm
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Nov 10, 2019 14:30
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on one hand managers aren't human but on the other hand goddamn their mom died, what, you want the boss around more? are you insane?
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Nov 10, 2019 15:05
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Why doesnt that guy just jerk off into a coffee cup like everyone else
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Nov 10, 2019 15:05
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bird with big dick posted:Why doesnt that guy just jerk off into a coffee cup like everyone else You can only do that so many times before you get banned from Starbucks for life
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Nov 10, 2019 15:13
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Uncle Enzo posted:Hmm on the one hand justified revenge, particularly against management. On the other hand, is this a case of crab-bucketing? Generally I try and be happy for people (real people, not the rich) who may have it better than me. no, it is not crab-bucketing to force management to bear the consequences of the policies they ruthlessly enforce this isn't like the dude who made it so no one could eat in the office bc he's petty, this manager carelessly crushed OP at a time she needed space, all over a loving grocery store job that anyone can do in a pinch - no one is so valuable to the grocery store team that you can't make up for it. a good manager would have given her the time off and space to return. this is just deserts for abuse of power and petty tyranny. OP will find another job. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 15:27 on Nov 10, 2019 |
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Nov 10, 2019 15:24
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Uncle Enzo posted:Hmm on the one hand justified revenge, particularly against management. On the other hand, is this a case of crab-bucketing? Generally I try and be happy for people (real people, not the rich) who may have it better than me. Managers can and do bend the rules when it's convenient for them. Case in point: She did it for herself. Class traitors can grieve while they work if efficiency is so drat important.
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I saw someone in a thread not long ago saying they don't understand the blue collar/white collar worker split and that white collar workers 'don't bear the same resentment' towards blue collar workers as vice versa, and I'm here to tell you that white collar folks and management know exactly what they are doing and many will happily throw their entire team of workers under a bus for another bonus or vacation for themselves, 100% it isn't some instance of people just randomly hating their own and crab-bucketing because they don't know any better and work against their own interests, blue collar workers hate management in this way because management treats them as a resource instead of people. a good manager tries to overcome this by working to address everyone's concerns and trying to make everyone feel a part of the team, a bad manager indulges in it and revels in being in control. If you enjoy moving people like pawns across a chessboard, eventually they'll flip your board. this is people learning why kings get deposed StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 15:39 on Nov 10, 2019 |
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Nov 10, 2019 15:33
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The manager hosed the op over when she was in a even more vulnerable place so gently caress her, I wouldn’t try to be empathetic either.
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No action against a manager who denies your bereavement is cruel or unjust.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I saw someone in a thread not long ago saying they don't understand the blue collar/white collar worker split and that white collar workers 'don't bear the same resentment' towards blue collar workers as vice versa, and I'm here to tell you that white collar folks and management know exactly what they are doing and many will happily throw their entire team of workers under a bus for another bonus or vacation for themselves, 100% white collar workers are 100% to the man aligned with capital. they are no better and deserve the guillotine just as much as any billionaire
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carry on then posted:white collar workers are 100% to the man aligned with capital. they are no better and deserve the guillotine just as much as any billionaire
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I [M24] haven’t heard from my fiancée [27F] in a day, number blocked this morningquote:Hello all,
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chemtrail huffer posted:I [M24] haven’t heard from my fiancée [27F] in a day, number blocked this morning Well, that’s fuckin weird. Either unreliable narrator, and he’s leaving out his hobby of murdering dogs or something, or she’s really abruptly cheating on him My money is on the former
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Well, that’s fuckin weird. Either unreliable narrator, and he’s leaving out his hobby of murdering dogs or something, or she’s really abruptly cheating on him It sounds like he might be smothering her, between all the messages and saying they basically spend all their non-work time together.
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Nov 10, 2019 16:31
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Maybe super overbearing and needy? Dude sent a barrage of messages within hours of their separation which is presumably only going to last a weekend. Then he doubled down and sent even more after he got the message to stop.
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Yeah, I quickly got the impression that's separation anxiety from a major clinger. Quite possibly she's finally spending some time away and realising how exhausting constant need for attention is.
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Ugly In The Morning posted:It sounds like he might be smothering her, between all the messages and saying they basically spend all their non-work time together. Given that they’ve been together 15 months, I’d guess she told him to chill the gently caress out a bunch of times already, then this was just the straw that broke the back to “ugh, I’m over this poo poo, just blocking him”.
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Nov 10, 2019 16:41
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teen witch posted:Hi let’s get into fights about this deadly cold post The only thing is that the worker should document the manager's actions against 'em and go to the union/csm if it becomes retaliation.
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MagusofStars posted:This, but there’s also probably some unreliable narrator going on. The fact they just got engaged two months ago makes me wonder if there were those warning signs. Unless he was constantly haranguing her about it.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Lol. Don't most people in the US spend like $3000 or less on an engagement ring? Pretty sure I read that a while back. My wife's engagement ring was like $200, and she liked it so much, she wanted it to be her wedding band too. Her proposal complaint was that I did it in a parking lot, but in my defense, when I asked her to step under the mistletoe arch in the Christmas village spot at the zoo date we were on, she said "I'm not getting under mistletoe. Kissing under a poisonous plant is the dumbest loving tradition" so 
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life is a joke posted:She's not wrong but that sounds like a conversation roommates would have - not necessarily the content, but the tone of some of these relationships just sound so dry and plain. Sorry to sound like im defending the honor of cumrags but im not, I just get so sad at these kind of "we generally get along fine" marriages... that text is like an FYI work email and I can't imagine how joyless my life would be if I felt that guarded around my ~life partner~. It's horribly goddamn depressing, but there's so many people out there, women especially but men too, who are like "I'm 28 and I'm getting old, maybe it's time to meet someone and start a family" and they get into the least successful partnerships imaginable which started solely out of inertia and convenience. One of several reasons why we see nonstop stories about poor flabbergasted ladies married to pathetic garbage dudes who spend 98% of their time outside of work playing video games and refuse to change a diaper or hold their kid for 5 minutes. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 17:14 on Nov 10, 2019 |
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Nov 10, 2019 17:07
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AITA for not cooperating with my dad when he calls the cops on mequote:I (17F) have gotten the cops called on me by my parents three times now. I think each time was completely unjustified whereas my dad thinks it was completely reasonable.
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Nov 10, 2019 17:08
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not cooperating with my dad when he calls the cops on me There’s no way in hell this family isn’t white Ugly In The Morning posted:Not saying there’s no white Hindus but it seems pretty unlikely that this family is. Fair enough. The mindset of the police being a helpful force in getting a young kid in line is so alien to me. DrManiac fucked around with this message at 17:50 on Nov 10, 2019 |
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not cooperating with my dad when he calls the cops on me Very cool and effective parents who are definitely not going to hear from their Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 19:38 on Nov 10, 2019 |
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Nov 10, 2019 17:34
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My (24F) boyfriend (27M) keeps constantly saying 'vibe check' and it is seriously negatively effecting my loving 'vibe'
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DrManiac posted:There’s no way in hell this family isn’t white quote:Additionally, the third incident, recently, was completely forgotten about the next day. The next day was Diwali and we’re practicing Hindus so it was like we all mentally agreed to move on and be a happy family for Diwali. Not saying there’s no white Hindus but it seems pretty unlikely that this family is.
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AITA for asking my sister to stop telling my kids that they should get straight A’s in school so they’ll have a lot of money when they grow up, especially since she herself has money mainly because she married a rich guy? My family comes from a middle class background, but my younger sister Nicky married into old money and now lives a very comfortable lifestyle. She and her husband Joel don’t have children yet, and they love to spoil my kids, who are 6 and 4. My problem is, every time Nicky and Joel buy my kids gifts or takes us on vacation, Nicky tells them that they should study hard and get straight A’s in school so that they’ll have a lot of money to buy the things they want when they grow up. I don’t want my kids to feel pressured to excel academically, because that’s what my parents did with me and Nicky and I hated it. I also don’t want them to grow up materialistic or think that money is the most important thing. The tipping point for me was when my husband Ben and I were looking at TV’s online and I made a comment about how I like a certain model but it’s too expensive. My son said something along the lines of “Why don’t have you have the money to buy the TV you like? Didn’t you get good grades when you were in school?”, which is definitely something I don’t want him to say to other people. The next time Nicky had gifts for my kids, I took her aside and said that while I’m very grateful that she and Joel are so generous to us, I want her to stop telling my kids that they should get straight A’s so they’ll have money when they grow up. Nicky was surprised. I explained my reasons, and she replied that she just wants my kids to be happy that’s why she buys them gifts, and she wants to encourage them to do well in school at the same time. She said that I get the final say about my children so she won’t say that anymore, but she doesn’t understand why I think it’s wrong to say that since our parents said that to us too when we were younger. I told her that our parents saying that made me miserable because I felt pressured to get good grades. She said that I might not have liked being told that then, but it was for our own good and because of it we are now in a good place financially. At that point I felt that she was being passive aggressive, because she knows I didn’t do as well as she did academically and I’m not yet in a good place financially. So I asked her if it was really straight A’s that got us there because for me it’s my work that puts food on the table and not my grades, and she and Joel don’t even use their degrees because Joel’s trust funds cover everything. Ben said that I went too far by bringing up Joel and Nicky’s finances and making it seem like Nicky wouldn't have money if it weren't for Joel. My best friend Kim says it’s fair game because it was a fact that I just pointed out, and as Nicky said herself, I get the final say about my children so she should have left it at that and not asked me to justify myself. Thoughts?
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AITA for moving an advanced student to lower classes? I teach maths. We separate pupils into ability sets. I am currently teaching a top set of year 11 (15-16 year old) pupils. A girl called Eva is both the most advanced and disruptive pupil I've ever had. She's top of my class and other ones including English and Science. She learns and understands things quicker then any pupil I've ever taught. I've tested giving her A Level and even university level tasks and she's been able to learn the material very quickly and complete them to a high standard. However, she's often on her phone during my class and is often late or absent. She's been caught three times with banned substances (Booze and weed in her bag and was caught doing cocaine with her friends in the toilets). She's on her final warning regarding this and will be expelled if caught again, but I've reason to believe she's been under the influence several times in my class. She's made clear that she thinks I'm ''a poo poo teacher''. Us teachers do our best to be aware of the ''pupil politics'', and we know that Eva runs her year group. She's been in trouble for bullying several times including one serious case on social media in which the other girl's parents pulled her out of school. She was trying to pick on one girl in my class a week ago during a task. She made her cry and got her phone out to film it. By this point I had become aware of what was going on and took her phone. She became very argumentative, demanding her phone back, but I insisted on keeping it until the end of the lesson. I am pregnant and happily announced the news to all the classes I teach. When I walked away with Eva's phone, she loudly said ''I hope your baby dies''. Everyone was shocked at this.I gave her phone back at the end of class like I promised but she didn't apologise. I've always kept my cool at work, but after everyone was gone I broke down crying. In the staff room later I started talks about getting Eva moved to a different class as I don't want to teach her any more. School rules allow us to move pupils to another class group if they are too disruptive, and it doesn't make any difference about whether the subject divides pupils on ability. As a result Eva was moved to one of the lower classes. Her mum is a school governor and is furious at this, demanding I let her back into my class. She's pointed out that her daughter is far too talented for her new class (which is focused simply on making sure the less able students pass the subject and not on getting the most advanced students the best grades), but I've argued that it doesn't contravene school rules and that with her natural ability she will get a top grade anyway. I had a long conversation with the mother yesterday and she said that her daughter shouldn't be punished for ''a childish remark'' and that she would ''take action'' against me, though I don't think she has a leg to stand on according to school rules. I did the right thing since Eva has the talent to get a high grade anyway.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for moving an advanced student to lower classes? Hope Eva and her mom get pinned under a flaming bus
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Keep Eva in your class then give her the final write up to get get expelled See how she takes nuking her future over some cliquey bullshit, then laugh
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for asking my sister to stop telling my kids that they should get straight A’s in school so they’ll have a lot of money when they grow up, especially since she herself has money mainly because she married a rich guy? Maybe if the mom had done better academically, she would be in a good place financially. Seriously though, good grades does not equal financial success but having money is a hell of a lot better than not having money.
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yeah let’s ruin a child’s life because they’re doing dumb childish poo poo that they obviously got from their lovely mother. just happens to be a girl. gbs showing its whole rear end yet again (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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a fatguy baldspot posted:yeah let’s ruin a child’s life because they’re doing dumb childish poo poo that they obviously got from their lovely mother. just happens to be a girl. gbs showing its whole rear end yet again You're right, that IS where I learned to do cocaine in the bathroom
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for moving an advanced student to lower classes? Murder her narcissistic idiot mom and force Eva into intensive therapy because that's really sad.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for moving an advanced student to lower classes? Multiple drugs (felony) on premises offences, multiple bullying offenses, electronic device offenses, wishing harm on an instructor. Any SINGLE one of those could be grounds for major punishments, and possible expulsion. How is she still going to school there? Also, how are her parents not under investigation by the police for the drugs? That's enough for cops to tear their loving house/life apart. We had a kid that age get expelled for getting into a mutual fight with another teenage boy where one had to get a couple of stitches.
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a fatguy baldspot posted:yeah let’s ruin a child’s life because they’re doing dumb childish poo poo   goon misogynists rushing to judgement again!
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