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FilthyImp posted:But it's the weekend. What else are we supposed to do?
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Sorry people were mean to you dude. They would have stopped being mean if you had improved yourself instead of trying to go to teacher for help. Going to an adult to help with bullying when you are 16 is basically proving the bully's point. Something should be done about this girl but punishing them by making them more bored (effectively giving them more free time to be a sadistic 16 year old) is a really bad approach.
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# ? Nov 10, 2019 23:46 |
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a fatguy baldspot posted:lmao I’ve had much worse said to me by much worse kids and I didn’t ruin the kids life because I’m not an awful teacher or human being and I realize that kids say stupid hurtful poo poo that they do not understand or mean because they aren’t fully developed humans yet but keep perpetuating the whole boomer “this twelve year old black kid knew EXACTLY what he was doing” attitude Palemdromes I don't believe for two seconds that your dense rear end has ever been in front of a classroom of any age lol.
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# ? Nov 10, 2019 23:56 |
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My friend [48M] just called me with question about his daughter [16F]. He found out she's running a human trafficking ring out of his basement. Apparently, her meth dealer introduced her to a Ukrainian guy with connections in the transport industry, and they've been smuggling women into the country in shipping containers for the purpose of sex slavery. He's freaking out and wants to take away her cell phone, and maybe even ground her. I keep telling him her brain isn't fully formed, and it's not right to ruin her life over a teenage mistake. Can some of you expert apologists please help me convince him not to be so harsh?
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# ? Nov 10, 2019 23:56 |
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Shbobdb posted:Sorry people were mean to you dude. They would have stopped being mean if you had improved yourself instead of trying to go to teacher for help. Going to an adult to help with bullying when you are 16 is basically proving the bully's point. This point is true. Teach your children how to throw a punch if they’re getting bullied. If that doesn’t work, take them to the gym to get jacked and then punch harder.
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AITA for saying "OK Zoomer" to my gen Z daughter?quote:I am not a Boomer, I'm genX, and I am personally excited for the day that the boomers are no longer relevant. Have been my whole life. That said, I think the whole OK Boomer thing is kind of dumb and is a bit overused right now, at least in my household. When my sixteen years old daughter was hyperbolically complaining about this old lady "Boomer" at the pet shelter where she volunteers, I said "OK Zoomer" to take the piss out if her. She thought it was really rude and her 14 year old sister kind of agreed (she also thought it was funny). She didn't use the exact term, but she thought it was basically cultural appropriation in the worse sense; taking something that belongs to her generation and using it to mock her generation. I was just trying to get her to not take everything so seriously; it was just a grouchy, entitled old lady. So,AITA?
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# ? Nov 10, 2019 23:59 |
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Dazerbeams posted:This point is true. Teach your children how to throw a punch if they’re getting bullied. If that doesn’t work, take them to the gym to get jacked and then punch harder. Escalate to coming in strapped, always works out
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:00 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for saying "OK Zoomer" to my gen Z daughter? Lol! Cultural appropriation ha!
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:01 |
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Dazerbeams posted:This point is true. Teach your children how to throw a punch if they’re getting bullied. If that doesn’t work, take them to the gym to get jacked and then punch harder. And they will be physically fit, which is a great thing to be regardless of whether or not you need to use it in a confrontation. Athletic, attractive people are much less likely to be bullied. It's a little trickier with girls since the mid-to-high popular girls are the ones most likely to be bullied because 16 year olds are all sociopaths. Wallflowers are ignored because they are basically "out of the game" when it comes to femininity.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:03 |
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WIBTA if I told my sister her son was caught smoking weed?quote:So I’m a cop in a smallish area. Last night my nephew (16) and a couple of his friends were caught smoking weed and with alcohol on them by another cop who was in the area. His friends got dropped off at their houses with a warning not to do it again, but my nephew had her call me to deal with him. Kid is lovely, calling in favors without warning that his friends don't have the advantages of, and then continuing to expect the full benefits of that. Having a cop in the family doesn't get you out of answering to your parents
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:04 |
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Dazerbeams posted:This point is true. Teach your children how to throw a punch if they’re getting bullied. If that doesn’t work, take them to the gym to get jacked and then punch harder. You can teach your kid to stand up for themselves without slinging complete garbage sociopathy that would get you fired like Shbobdb is. Shbobdb posted:Yes, she is a terror. Have you met 16 year old girls? Punishing her for acting age appropriate rather than trying to channel that energy into something more productive is going to backfire in a huge way. I've met and taught 12, 14, and 15 year olds, many of them inner-city and yeah no actually that's called being lovely. Not being age appropriate lol. You have no idea even slightly of what you're talking about and should probably stop acting like you do.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:04 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:WIBTA if I told my sister her son was caught smoking weed? ACAB but at least this one has something resembling principles so good on them. I'd be curious to see if he extends those principles to his fellow officers and not just vulnerable children.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:06 |
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AITA for ignoring a couple after they ate all our Bananas?quote:My (29F) partner (30M) and I recently purchased our first home and decided to commemorate with a housewarming party.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:07 |
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Grape posted:I've met and taught 12, 14, and 15 year olds, many of them inner-city and yeah no actually that's called being lovely. Not being age appropriate lol. What does that have to do with teaching public school kids?
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:07 |
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Self defense is never sociopathy.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:08 |
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Okay, bananas cost like a quarter, and they are not a proper name.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:09 |
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Shbobdb posted:What does that have to do with teaching public school kids? lol I have never been in a private school either as a student or teacher, but nice attempt at a credibility dodge. Dazerbeams posted:Self defense is never sociopathy. Victim blaming bullshit, and "kids will be kids" nonsense from some mook who obviously doesn't work with those age cohorts are though.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:09 |
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Is it ok to give a birthday present to a sex worker I visit I (32M) have been visiting a sex worker (24?F) about once a fortnight for the last six months; I know how this must sound and I am very confused about the whole situation myself. I was in long term, and I thought, loving relationship; but my girlfriend (33F) was actually sleeping with my, well not my best friend, but a good friend and, it turns out, also had a thing for going to bars and loving in the toilets. I came out of this relationship pretty messed up and couldn't imagine trusting anyone again. I get on well with women, not like a Romeo type but I am comfortable with female colleague, female friends and had a normal dating life before my long term relationship; after my troubles things got in my head, I was worried I'd start manipulating women or try to prove something to them about what happened with my girlfriend. In the end I decided to see a sex worker as that would be a "relationship" I could control. I tried to make sure it was someone who was happy with sex work, not someone forced into it. "Trisha", the sex worker I visit, has a kid and is studying in college doing a masters in media studies, sex work allows her to earn money quickly at the weekend. I really enjoy visiting her, not just the sex, but she is fun to chat to and affectionate in her own way, kind of like a bar woman in a bar you go regularly, remembering stuff you told her, flirting a bit. I would like to show her I appreciate her but I don't want to make her think I don't understand there is nothing to our physical relationship beyond the commercial aspect. I know she has recently had a birthday and would like to buy her something, not something flashy like men buy sex workers as a sort of reward, more something small, say a book, like you'd buy a friend or colleague; would that make things weird between us. TL;DR I visit a sex worker, we get on pretty well and I'd like to show that with a small gift, would that make things weird between us.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:11 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:Okay, bananas cost like a quarter, and they are not a proper name. That's my thought. It's a lot weird but, like, we conquers a bunch of countries so we can have cheap bananas. It would be an insult to the brave soldiers and natives who died for us to treat them as anything other than a really cheap consumable. If they like bananas for breakfast, they can skip one day.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:11 |
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Grape posted:lol I have never been in a private school either as a student or teacher, but nice attempt at a credibility dodge. How incredibly posh of you. Though with the Brexit mess, I can understand why a Tory would hate bullies. The media is sooooo unfair. Edit: Like, what the gently caress is wrong with you? You are fantasizing about punishing a 16 year old girl for being 16. That's seriously scary poo poo. Shbobdb fucked around with this message at 00:24 on Nov 11, 2019 |
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Shbobdb posted:That's my thought. It's a lot weird but, like, we conquers a bunch of countries so we can have cheap bananas. It would be an insult to the brave soldiers and natives who died for us to treat them as anything other than a really cheap consumable. Sometimes in the summer it's tricky to time your banana purchases so you have yellow ones for every day of the week but otherwise yeah
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:18 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:Sometimes in the summer it's tricky to time your banana purchases so you have yellow ones for every day of the week but otherwise yeah That's true. My daughter has been going through a big banana phase and that is a real challenge. Thankfully, she will eat green ones too so it all kinda works out.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:19 |
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Mordiceius posted:Is it ok to give a birthday present to a sex worker I visit Just leave a cash tip, shows appreciation without getting too perosnal
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:28 |
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AITA for throwing my roommates loofa off a cliff?quote:I go to a military college and I have three roommates that have stayed together since freshman year. We all get along pretty well and we’ve never really had any serious problems with each other.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:34 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for throwing my roommates loofa off a cliff? Pop culture has taught me that doing something that results in collective punishment at military training gets you beaten half to death with socks full of soap, so I'd say loofa guy got off lightly
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Pinecone Sample posted:Okay, bananas cost like a quarter, and they are not a proper name. but what if i apply some wild assumptions to this story and say that it takes place in Australia in 2005 after a hurricane destroyed our banana stocks and they went up to $15 each, huh? what would you say then!!
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 00:50 |
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Mordiceius posted:Is it ok to give a birthday present to a sex worker I visit If giving the sex worker you frequent a copy of Dune is wrong then I don't wanna be right. Just make sure you leave a personalized message in the front cover so whoever buys the book when it ends up at Goodwill can have a good laugh.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:10 |
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I want to say two things. Firstly:Pinecone Sample posted:My boyfriend [21M] of 3 years has suddenly decided that he is religious and is going to church. I feel blindsided and my [23F] attraction to him is suffering. If you believe in karma surely you can't believe that you make your own destiny? By definition some force in the universe seeks to rebalance moral and immoral actions with a system of karma. If I want my destiny to be the fact I'm a ruthless billionaire who got there on the shoulders of the poor and stupid morons who make up the vast majority of my country, live a long happy and healthy life of carefree guilt because gently caress those xenophobic small minded pricks... I can't because of karma. It's like I had a friend who insisted she both believed in fate but also our choices held meaning. I tried explaining if you believe in fate then ultimately our choices cannot hold meaning as we were fated to make them, to which she explained fate only mattered for some choices. I don't really think the idea of our destiny is fully in our hands is compatible with ideas like fate/karma. The second thing I wanted to say is totally ignore that other dude cocaine is 100% a hard drug in the UK. I grew up in a rough area in the UK and went to a rough school. Cocaine was a drug some of my friends did but they pretty much only did it at 18 when they were mixing it with drinking. I was drinking alcohol at 15, got into fights at school, gently caress looking back I probably was seen as a bully to some kids. If I got caught with cocaine though it would be a Big Deal.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:18 |
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Most americans interpret Karma as a thing that happens in this life, as a direct reaction to your actions taken, almost neutral but inevitable punishments for bad behavior or an eventual reward for being good. For many if not most there is at best a small bit of supernatural or spiritual component to it, its basically just a fancy "just world fallacy". I highly doubt she believes in actual, dogmatic Karma
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:22 |
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Why even post in this thread if I can't pretend to be a socially tone-deaf pedant?
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:26 |
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Dazerbeams posted:This point is true. Teach your children how to throw a punch if they’re getting bullied. If that doesn’t work, take them to the gym to get jacked and then punch harder. Unfortunately this doesn't really work anymore... A lot of the "zero tolerance" rules just exist to punish the kids that stands up for themselves, since they don't make a difference between the bully and the victim. "They were both fighting" It's bullshit and makes things even worse
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:30 |
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Miserable Maid posted:Unfortunately this doesn't really work anymore... A lot of the "zero tolerance" rules just exist to punish the kids that stands up for themselves, since they don't make a difference between the bully and the victim. "They were both fighting" Probably we should be teaching our children to be Dexter-style serial killers instead no body no crime, Timmy no body, no crime I'm sure this will have no long-term negative societal effects
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:46 |
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“bullied girls should hit the gym instead of crying” is some classic-rear end e/n posting, keep it up
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 01:57 |
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The well-deserved punch in the face should be legal in all 50 states, U.S. Territories, and the District of Columbia. All complaints, civil and criminal, would be decided by a Worldstar "Had it comin'?" poll. No handicapping cops either.
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Clitch posted:The well-deserved punch in the face should be legal in all 50 states, U.S. Territories, and the District of Columbia. All complaints, civil and criminal, would be decided by a Worldstar "Had it comin'?" poll. No handicapping cops either. I disagree. Almost all cops need to be handicapped.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 02:22 |
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Clitch posted:Why even post in this thread if I can't pretend to be a socially tone-deaf pedant? Not an emptyquote.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 02:33 |
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Shbobdb posted:Kids are still kids even if they are smart so poor impulse control is to be expected. Punishing her for being better than her peers is just going to breed resentment. That's how you end up with a pregnant burnout. Girls will be girls! Affluenza is definitely a legitimate defense.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 02:47 |
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"We can't possibly have the child being a poo poo face consequences for being a poo poo! This will only lead to them being a poo poo!" Go away, holy gently caress.
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# ? Nov 11, 2019 02:50 |
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My (43F) now ex-Boyfriend (45M) has had a mistress for 9 yearsquote:I don't even know where to begin. Five months ago a man I went to college with over 20 years ago contacted me over social media. We actually have several common acquaintances. I hike mountains, and he had just begun hiking mountains. He commented on all my posts and started sending me private messages. He asked to call me. First thing he did was ask me if I was single, which I am. He then asked me out to dinner. I was actually happy because typically men just text or are not direct. He was very direct, and made everything clear. We went out to dinner and it was great. We did not kiss. He is on the road for his job. He does hospitality construction, so is on job sites all over the country, and comes back "home" for 3-4 day weekends every 3 weeks. He sometimes gets to stay home for a few weeks at a time. He said he had been divorced for over 2 years, and separated for 4. He said he had tried dating 2 women over a year ago, but was not ready, but now he is, and he had always been attracted to me. I was hesitant to start a long-distance relationship, but he said he had every intention of coming off the road by the end of the year. He would still have to travel, but would be home more than away, and would be home every weekend.
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AITA for masturbating at a 5-day men’s retreat for church?quote:Just what the title says — throwaway because this is embarrassing. I (20M) am not a religious person, but my parents are. I respect their belief, but lately they have wanted me to be more involved in their church. I’m living with them for now, and so I try to live and let live.
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