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AITA for cancelling our 'siblings only' vacation because my brother wants to bring his mother-in law?quote:This happened last night:
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Nov 14, 2019 22:20
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AITA for basically snapping at a stranger who spoke to me in Mandarin because of my appearance?quote:I'm a 25M Chinese American - I have familial roots in HK (thus I look Asian) but grew up in the US. Also of note is that I recently finished a masters degree in Germany, speak adequate German, and am back in my US hometown for two weeks.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:23
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for basically snapping at a stranger who spoke to me in Mandarin because of my appearance? Owns. Best part is even if she spoke Chinese it would be Cantonese since her family’s from Hong Kong
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Nov 14, 2019 22:27
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AITA For outing my husband's kinks to my friends? So let me [F26] start something off because otherwise everyone is going to flip. Nothing that we do is without my whole and full consent. My husband [28M] has a few unusual kinks that he brought up when he felt comfortable after we'd been dating for a few years. He never pressured me into it and I had to stress that I was okay with it before he'd explore it with me. He likes women drunk (before you all grab torches and pitchforks, again I need to stress, never without my explicit consent and he's never pressured me once) So obviously he loves it when I go out with the girls and get hammered or when I have happy hours at work etc. And I like it because it's fun and I never have to worry about my partner getting annoyed if I go out with my friends. So here's the problem: I got nice and tipsy one evening a few days ago with my friends and we were all talking about our lives, the conversation turned towards our partners and I made an offhand joke about him being happy that I'm coming home night and drunk. One of my friends (let's call her A) pressed for more information since it was an unusual comment. I answered why and moved on with the night. The next day I found out that she's been telling my friends some awful things about him, from a friend who wasn't there (She called me obviously concerned). He found out from A's husband and he is pretty unhappy with me for sharing this information and he's been pretty withdrawn over the last few days, I was telling him it's not a big deal and trying to snap him out of this funk, but he seems to think it's a major problem. AITA?
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Nov 14, 2019 22:29
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AITA for being annoyed that my girlfriend wants me to wear a necklace that shows prominently that we are in a relationship all the time? My girlfriend has recently given me a necklace that shows prominently that we are in a relationship. She wants me to wear it pretty much all the time. I am a bit upset with this and told her it makes me thinks she doesn’t trust me. She said “I trust and love you baby, it is the ho’s in this neighbourhood I don’t trust want them to know you are mine”. 
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Nov 14, 2019 22:29
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Good lord we just went over this recently. loving read you idiot.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:31
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goethe.cx posted:Owns. Best part is even if she spoke Chinese it would be Cantonese since her family’s from Hong Kong But...how did he recognize it was Mandarin then?
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Nov 14, 2019 22:34
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Chomp8645 posted:Good lord we just went over this recently. loving read you idiot.  chitoryu12 posted:But...how did he recognize it was Mandarin then? I mean, you can recognize a language without understanding it
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Nov 14, 2019 22:36
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goethe.cx posted:I mean, you can recognize a language without understanding it Yeah but if you don't speak Chinese you aren't going to tell the dialects apart, and it's even less likely if his family is from a Cantonese-speaking region that he would be able to hear Chinese and immediately recognize it as Mandarin.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:38
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Everyone who thinks the brake checker was even slightly the rear end in a top hat should have their license taken away.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:44
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chitoryu12 posted:Yeah but if you don't speak Chinese you aren't going to tell the dialects apart, and it's even less likely if his family is from a Cantonese-speaking region that he would be able to hear Chinese and immediately recognize it as Mandarin. Nah, I'm in that exact boat and it's pretty easy to recognize if you think about it, approximately the same way a French-speaker can probably recognize Spanish without being able to hold a conversation in it.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:44
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Hobo Clown posted:If you're driving in the passing lane and going slower than everyone else then you deserve to be tailgated. it's not like you're going anywhere all that important
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Nov 14, 2019 22:46
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for basically snapping at a stranger who spoke to me in Mandarin because of my appearance? loving owned lol, definitely NTA
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Nov 14, 2019 22:48
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Yond Cassius posted:Nah, I'm in that exact boat and it's pretty easy to recognize if you think about it, approximately the same way a French-speaker can probably recognize Spanish without being able to hold a conversation in it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2km_z4-1T8 They start doing sentence comparisons at 6:20. If I didn't have the reference right in front of me, I'd never be able to tell them apart from someone just suddenly speaking to me.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:49
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chitoryu12 posted:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2km_z4-1T8 That sounds like a personal problem to me. I'm telling you, I'm a second-generation Hong Konger with mediocre Cantonese, and I can semi-reliably recognize Mandarin when it's being spoken to me, even if I couldn't tell you a drat thing about its actual content.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:55
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chitoryu12 posted:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2km_z4-1T8 Did you somehow miss the part where the guy asked if he spoke Mandarin? I don't understand why you're so hung up on this.
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Nov 14, 2019 22:55
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chitoryu12 posted:Yeah but if you don't speak Chinese you aren't going to tell the dialects apart, and it's even less likely if his family is from a Cantonese-speaking region that he would be able to hear Chinese and immediately recognize it as Mandarin. Why not? I don't speak Chinese and even I can semi-reliably tell the difference between Cantonese and Mandarin, simply from being told when people are speaking one vs the other and picking up on the verbal differences. They use the same characters but the vocalizations are more different than alike, they're practically 2 different languages when spoken. Like French vs English more than Minnesotan vs Bostonian The guy talking at the OP also directly asked him, in English, whether he speaks Mandarin. So... that's a good clue QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 23:07 on Nov 14, 2019 |
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Nov 14, 2019 22:57
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chitoryu12 posted:Yeah but if you don't speak Chinese you aren't going to tell the dialects apart, They're not dialects, Mandarin and Cantonese are totally different languages that don't even sound alike. There is no such thing as a "Chinese language". Like don't tell me if you heard someone going off in Italian next to someone going off in French that you wouldn't have a decent idea which was which. EDIT: In the video you posted he says they are both Sinitic/Chinese languages which is true, in the sense that he's saying they're part of the same sub-family of a larger language family. Just like French and Italian are both Romance languages, part of the larger (much larger) Indo-European language family. But you wouldn't think twice about mixing those two up yeah? Grape fucked around with this message at 23:17 on Nov 14, 2019 |
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Nov 14, 2019 23:13
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Jenrai posted:Everyone who thinks the brake checker was even slightly the rear end in a top hat should have their license taken away. Where should I send it? Both tailgating and brake checking can and should be classed as dangerous driving you knob.
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Nov 14, 2019 23:14
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I praise the tailgaters, the break checkers, the coal rollers, the truck nutters. Make road rash real (Vote me, 2020)
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Nov 14, 2019 23:16
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dudeness posted:I praise the tailgaters, the break checkers, the coal rollers, the truck nutters. Make road rash real (Vote me, 2020) What is your position on rubber labia for the trailer hitch reciever tube?
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Nov 14, 2019 23:22
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Ugly In The Morning posted:I haven't seen someone have a glass of milk in years and I hadnt realized it until just now. This is pages back but: I dont drink and I find it amusing to order a pint of milk from the bar. The bartender always has to double check that yes, I want a plain pint of milk and I get strange looks from patrons as I sit at the bar nursing a tall udder-sauce. Try it sometime. It’s a different bar experience altogether.
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Nov 14, 2019 23:23
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I can describe right now, Cantonese has a percussive very bouncy kind of sound (it has like six tones or some poo poo). Mandarin has this kind of sound in it a lot where it sort of sounds like someone's almost closing their teeth up but exhaling air to make some of the needed intonations.
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Nov 14, 2019 23:24
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA For telling my friend he could run a DND game at my house and that I was excited to play, but, upon finding out the “twist” he put on his “DND” game, telling him I would not participate? Oh honey, I have some news for you: He very clearly wanted to flirt with a specific someone at the game.
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Nov 14, 2019 23:31
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The spicy bang of the brake check is fun and all, but it doesn't come close to the smooth savory hit of slowly getting your speed down to single digits while the rear end in a top hat behind you gets so fixated on raging out that they forget they could just drive around your near-stationary car.
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Nov 14, 2019 23:31
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NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:The spicy bang of the brake check is fun and all, but it doesn't come close to the smooth savory hit of slowly getting your speed down to single digits while the rear end in a top hat behind you gets so fixated on raging out that they forget they could just drive around your near-stationary car. This is what I do if someone is tailgating me really, really closely. It's not safe to continue driving at this speed but it's also not safe to brake, so I lift my foot off the accelerator and slowly coast down.
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Nov 15, 2019 00:07
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"then asks me in English if I spoke Mandarin" Hmm
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Nov 15, 2019 00:23
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The Lone Badger posted:This is what I do if someone is tailgating me really, really closely. It's not safe to continue driving at this speed but it's also not safe to brake, so I lift my foot off the accelerator and slowly coast down. But what if your slow, slight reduction in speed causes them to swerve off the road and into a stack of cheeto bags and mountain dew? Bet you didn't consider that
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Nov 15, 2019 00:25
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A professor at my university was getting tailgated pretty hard on a one lane road but just kept driving about 5 over the limit. Eventually after like 10 minutes of this dude tailgating him and slamming his horn he drives over onto the dirt, roars up, and drives away. My professor thinks, oh good done with that guy. Well sure enough a minute or two later he sees the tailgater has pulled across the road to block it. Professor comes to a stop and the guy hops out with a plank of wood and starts rushing the professors car when the professor pulls a gun (louisiana baby). Plank of wood guy sees it, backs off, and then hops in his car and roars off as fast as he can. No one in his class ever thinks the professor did the right thing leaving the tailgater alive.
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Nov 15, 2019 00:30
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Barudak posted:A professor at my university was getting tailgated pretty hard on a one lane road but just kept driving about 5 over the limit. Eventually after like 10 minutes of this dude tailgating him and slamming his horn he drives over onto the dirt, roars up, and drives away. My professor thinks, oh good done with that guy. Well sure enough a minute or two later he sees the tailgater has pulled across the road to block it. Professor comes to a stop and the guy hops out with a plank of wood and starts rushing the professors car when the professor pulls a gun (louisiana baby). Plank of wood guy sees it, backs off, and then hops in his car and roars off as fast as he can. This is terrifying. But also I feel like you could run the guy over and call it self defense in this scenario.
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Nov 15, 2019 00:32
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Dazerbeams posted:This is terrifying. But also I feel like you could run the guy over and call it self defense in this scenario. Depends on where you are and the exact geography. Generally you can only use lethal force when the other person is credibly threatening your life, which is constantly variable. Even an unarmed person can be shot if they're sufficiently strong to present a credible threat and there's no way to flee them, but in this case you might end up with the prosecution asking why you didn't throw your car in reverse or drive around the truck. This is actually where Stand Your Ground laws come in. Without that law, you can only use lethal force if you have no reasonable ability to escape.
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Nov 15, 2019 00:36
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And yeah the jury is going to be like "why didn't they just put it in reverse and leave"
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Nov 15, 2019 00:57
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The fact the guy set up a goddamn ambush might get you some room to argue that you were concerned about something blocking the other way out.
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Nov 15, 2019 01:01
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I live in PA which follows castle doctrine. Apparently my car is my castle and I would be under no obligation to flee my castle if I were to be threatened. Open and shut case.
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Nov 15, 2019 01:05
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Ugly In The Morning posted:The fact the guy set up a goddamn ambush might get you some room to argue that you were concerned about something blocking the other way out. The other way out being the direction you literally just came from, the one that definitely wasn't blocked
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Nov 15, 2019 01:33
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Road barricade guy is an idiot. Did he learn nothing from Wacky Races? When you're ahead you don't waste time setting up stupid traps that blow up in your face, you gun it. That's why Snidely and Muttley never won a race.
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Nov 15, 2019 01:37
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Dazerbeams posted:I live in PA which follows castle doctrine. Apparently my car is my castle and I would be under no obligation to flee my castle if I were to be threatened. Open and shut case. I feel like castle doctrine should necessitate using castle weapons, so your attorney would have to argue that an automatic pistol is actually just a very small cannon
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Nov 15, 2019 01:38
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QuarkJets posted:I feel like castle doctrine should necessitate using castle weapons, so your attorney would have to argue that an automatic pistol is actually just a very small cannon  da gubmint can take mah ballista from my cold, dead hands
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Nov 15, 2019 01:41
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It is always legal to defend yourself with a horse and lance, or a crossbow if you're a coward
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Nov 15, 2019 01:44
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I'm gay for the trebuchet
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