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Runcible Cat posted:First line was hell yes, When you say first line do you mean, quote:AITA for refusing to let my soon to be ex wife and her boyfriend have a key to my house. Or the title lol Also gently caress that little brother what a little douche. Kick him out with no second thought about it.
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DemoneeHo posted:Ah, but then you'd have to waste precious space on your carry-on luggage to bring something soft for those hard spots. Having a row to yourself is still more comfortable than sitting in a full row, imo, even if that one person chooses to not recline.
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 20:32 |
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MarcusSA posted:When you say first line do you mean, Yeah, title. Though if she has the key boyf can get it easy enough. And hell yeah WTF. You live in someone's house for free, eat their food and don't get off your arse to do a few loving chores for them? Even if the wife hadn't been eight months gone. I'm glad big brother was a total Pete about it. If mum wants to bitch she can take in the freeloading little poo poo.
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 20:34 |
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AITA for not allowing my wife's sister's family to live with us after her husband lost his job? My brother-in-law lost his job about 1 month ago and his family (2 adults, 2 kids) are going to need a place to stay since they can't afford their apartment anymore among other things. They asked if they could move in with us. For many years my brother-in-law and sister-in-law have bragged about how much money they have, all the nice things they buy and how much better their things are than mine. These have not been passing comments; these were usually direct statements. Years ago they moved into these fancy new luxury apartments that cost a fair amount more per month than my mortgage. Every other year they get two new leased cars. Their clothing always must have the big-name logo on them. Fancy watches and I could go on. I've just learned to ignore them since I was certain they lived way past their means. I also spend as little time around them as I can since they almost always make a scene wherever they go. Their kids are also jerks who have no comprehension of right and wrong or respect of people's property. They are 10 and 12 and should understand this. The last time they were over our house, the older kid put a hole in my basement wall with his foot. I asked the parents to pay for the repair, they were not willing to do that since "kids are kids" and we should expect that to happen. I dropped the issue and paid a local handyman the $100 to repair it. My wife and I have done the opposite. We never discuss money or purchases with anyone. We are dumping as much as we can into our 401k's, emergency fund, mortgage, have a college fund for our kid and set aside money for fun. I'm not saying that my wife's and my way is perfect, but we do plan for the future. I must be right that they lived beyond their means because they must not have any savings since they can't make it a couple months with severance and unemployment checks. The first time they contacted us was to ask to borrow money. It was about the equivalent of 6 months of mortgage payments. I told my wife that I did not want to do this since I have huge doubts that we would ever be paid back. They wanted the money so they could keep up their lifestyle instead of cutting back and make it last as long as possible. Also, I just did not want to bail them out of a problem they created. The next time they contacted us was to ask to move in with us (we are their only family on this side of the state). I just can't. I talked with my wife and she understands and agrees, but the "family" part is what is troubling her. They also refuse to ask their friends if they can stay with them for unknown reasons. Apparently our decision has made the rounds with cousins, aunts, uncles, parents, etc and I'm being accused (just me - not my wife) of being unreasonable for not opening up our home to them. Am I the rear end in a top hat for keeping my home as is and not bailing their family out of a self-created problem?
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 20:39 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not allowing my wife's sister's family to live with us after her husband lost his job? Oh hell to the no. A thousand times no. That’s just ridiculous.
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 20:42 |
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Obviously not, although the grasshopper vs ant telling of it is a bit heavy-handed.
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 20:45 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not allowing my wife's sister's family to live with us after her husband lost his job? Yup sounds about right. Tell your brother that your home is too small to house his lovely family Homeless after 1 month, wow
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not allowing my wife's sister's family to live with us after her husband lost his job?
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 21:04 |
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I had a guy recline his seat into me on a transatlantic flight. I peeked around the chair during the night and he was leaning forward to sleep on the seat in front of him.
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ilmucche posted:I had a guy recline his seat into me on a transatlantic flight. I peeked around the chair during the night and he was leaning forward to sleep on the seat in front of him.
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 21:54 |
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The city literally came and took our street away.quote:So, there was a table sized pothole blocking one side of our street. It’s been there since May. It was really inconvenient because you couldn’t enter the street from that side. The city let it sit there for 6 months, all summer and fall.
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Pinecone Sample posted:The city literally came and took our street away. This sounds exactly like the right time to call your local news station out to put this poo poo on the evening news.
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 22:05 |
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I've got sympathy for that person. My street's been torn up and completely closed since August, was supposed to be done in October and they just started paving last week.
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AITA for "rewarding" my employee this way? At my fast food place I manage I have an employee, "Hal" who's been a bit of problem but not enough of one to fire him. We have side-work and cleaning tasks we do once our morning rush ends to prepare the joint for nightshift. There are easy tasks everyone fights over and hard tasks no one wants. I have side-work of my own that only the manager can do so I allow my employees to delegate amongst themselves since they're the ones doing the tasks. That said, I'd never ask them to do a task I, myself have not done or wouldn't do if the need arose. I keep a white-board up by the employee sink where everyone initials by which task they did. It's all about fairness and lately I've noticed Hal will rush to do the easy stuff and sign his name then sit back and watch his coworkers do the harder tasks without helping. Hal works the 5am-12pm shift and once we're slow I have to start letting people leave otherwise I'm losing money so Hal typically ends up leaving when he's finished. I admit to being remiss while doing my own work but that's all changing. I took a couple days, reviewed the camera footage, talked to my employees, let them vent, apologized for not noticing sooner, and then come up with a way to fairly punish Hal. It's just sort of sucky because while he's being a jerk to his coworkers he's technically doing his job so I had to find an accurate way to punish without going too far. Day before yesterday I called everyone together when the rush ended and pretended to scold everyone but Hal, then I praised Hal for being so efficient and thorough with his side-tasks and said that since he was the only one willing to work then maybe he wouldn't mind doing all of the side-work since he's the only one I can trust. I think he realized he had been caught out but he didn't say anything and he did the work. My other employees I gave very easy tasks like wiping down the counters, or helping me count the tips, and they all ended being able to leave early or on-time while Hal stayed until I let him go: exactly at the time which he was scheduled to leave and not a moment later or sooner. All yesterday Hal was very, very passive aggressively quiet and broody. He wouldn't speak to me at all unless I asked him a direct question and barely spoke to his coworkers. When he did his side-work he did bathrooms and trash, two of the least-liked tasks, finished them early and efficiently and was able to leave about twenty minutes early. But I could tell he was very upset. But now I'm beginning to worry, was this punishment too much? Should I have just given him a lecture and warning? Was I an rear end in a top hat?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "rewarding" my employee this way?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for "rewarding" my employee this way? I would say it's time to start being the manager in that aspect too and not leave it up to the employees to sort among themselves, make a rotating schedule of duties so everyone shares the crap parts. Also maybe see who wants to consistently leave early and who needs the money enough to stay the full shift and plan accordingly, I always had a few who wanted to leave early and others who asked for as much time as possible so they didn't mind doing the cruddy parts
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 22:54 |
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Yeah that guy is a terrible manager
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 23:28 |
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Yeah what's this first come first served nonsense? If he's doing way less work than everyone else, then give him more to do. The correct answer is to try and make things more equitable
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AITA for letting my employee pick up the check? I run a small company. One of my friends works for me and has a senior position (as senior as you can be at a small company). He and I go to lunch regularly. Sometimes he picks up the check, sometimes I do. We always end up talking about business for a good chuck of lunch, though we are personal friends as well. Today I asked the server for the itemized receipt so I could expense the lunch. My friend/employee asked, “you expense these?”. I told my girlfriend this story and she reacted very negatively. She said I should either pick up the check every time and expense, instruct my employee to expense when he picks it up, or neither of us should expense every time. She thinks it is unfair for him to pay out of pocket and me to pay with the company’s money. As a founder of the company I think it’s perfectly reasonable of me to use my discretion about when a lunch can be expensed, and I’m not doing anything wrong by letting my friend/colleague pick up the tab. AITA for letting him pick up the tab, and expensing it when I pick it up?
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 23:48 |
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Tell your girlfriend she can ask who the rear end in a top hat is to tips@irs.gov
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# ? Dec 14, 2019 23:52 |
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How should I(20/f) ask a stranger (46/m) out via email?quote:There is this man(46/m) I(20/f) like and I thought of writing him an email. I would write something like this:
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 01:05 |
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Lucrece posted:How should I(20/f) ask a stranger (46/m) out via email? What in the hell is this?
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 01:07 |
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Just get tinder ffs
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 01:26 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not allowing my wife's sister's family to live with us after her husband lost his job? They would suck your family dry, expect you to thank them for the privilege, and then leave as soon as they can't mooch off you anymore. Stay firm with the no and if family try to guilt trip you for it, ask them why the family can't move in with THEM then.
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quote:My ex wanted to throw away our relationship over my period. Yesterday I signed and bought his half of our house. Murder.
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 01:55 |
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Obviously not, although the grasshopper vs ant telling of it is a bit heavy-handed.
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, title. Though if she has the key boyf can get it easy enough. According to the reddit thread, their parents are in an aged care community and need approval for even temporary visitors. His lovely brother had to crash with a friend but doesn't really have anywhere to stay. Cue the tiny violins because maybe he should have thought about that before being a sponge who let an 8 months pregnant woman shovel snow. Knobb Manwich posted:Murder. Murder him then celebrate your Petra-ness. Men who try to shame women for menstruating are just pathetic. Megillah Gorilla fucked around with this message at 02:36 on Dec 15, 2019 |
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Sounds like brother needs to get a real non seasonal job so he can like afford to live and poo poo.
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 02:36 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for letting my employee pick up the check? Hey maybe don't let your employee pay for half of the lunches while you expense the other half, shitbird. Whenever "at your discretion" it seems to be a business lunch, always expense it, don't just do that when it happens to also be your turn.
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 02:54 |
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I work for a huge company that tightly controls spending, but there is no way in hell one of my managers would allow me to pay for a business lunch. If it was a personal outing and not discussing business, it might be 50/50 on whether we buy our own on our own dime or they expense everything, but if it's a business lunch the most senior person there has to buy and put it on their corporate card. It's like the rules an poo poo.
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 03:05 |
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I work for a tiny company and the idea that I would go out for lunch with my boss and then pay out of pocket is borderline incomprehensible
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 03:11 |
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:Why would you need to drill a hole in your gas tank to siphon gas? If it had all gone to plan what was his plan for his work van that now has a gas tank with holes in it? depending on the baffles he might not be able to access the inside, old tanks you have to sandblast for rust removal. It sounds like he was super lazy and trying to just drain the tank of old gas without dismounting it so he drilled a hole, and then he'd use a gas tank epoxy to reseal the drill hole
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AITA For refusing my girlfriend's trip she has been planning for a year because she has school debt?quote:About a year ago my girlfriend, of 6 years told me, she wanted to visit Korea and Japan with me. I thought this was just her talking out loud and said I would go with her. She got extremely excited and from then on would briefly bring it up saying: All formatting OP's
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 03:44 |
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He probably chides her when she gets herself a Starbucks in the morning, too.
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 04:22 |
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10k is an insane amount to spend on a single trip.
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# ? Dec 15, 2019 04:43 |
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Aita for telling my daughter that she can't have kids while she still lives in my housequote:I know it sounds bad but here's the story. I (62f) live with my husband (65m) who I my kids stepfather. I had 3 kids with my first husband who passed away a few years ago, they are all relatively successful. 2 of them have moved out but one still lives with me, which I don't mind, but I think it's time that they be on their own as the others are.
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Tythas posted:Aita for telling my daughter that she can't have kids while she still lives in my house So far beyond NTA that she didn’t even need to post it.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:It's been said pretty clearly before; never lend money to friends or family. You can give them a gift to help them out and maybe they'll give a gift of equal or greater value later on, but don't expect it as an obligation. Pretty much any other arrangement can destroy relationships sooner or later. When my household got into medical debt I did a similar thing, borrowing money from my parent's HELOC and paid it back within a year + the interest owed on it to avoid higher finance charges. I didn't even have a written contract but did everything verbally. This doesn't even require a change of behavior from him as he's coming up with the monthly paymemt already. He'll even have a higher income potential with his certification. Also, if they've talked about marriage their finances will be combined at some point. Any money in his name should be applied first, any increased income should go towards servicing the loan but if she trusts the guy enough to marry him and doesn't need the money now it makes sense to do so. If an actual spouse wasn't doing this for their partner this would be setting up warning signs for me.
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derra posted:When my household got into medical debt I did a similar thing, borrowing money from my parent's HELOC and paid it back within a year + the interest owed on it to avoid higher finance charges. I didn't even have a written contract but did everything verbally. This doesn't even require a change of behavior from him as he's coming up with the monthly paymemt already. He'll even have a higher income potential with his certification. Also, if they've talked about marriage their finances will be combined at some point. Yeah but they ain't married, he's asking for half her savings which is almost $10k, and then he would still have $7500 of his own. It's a debt to the IRS for back taxes and I don't see where it says he's been making a payment. He should handle this himself by borrowing the other $2500 he needs and then if they get married she can help pay off what's left.
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therobit posted:Yeah but they ain't married, he's asking for half her savings which is almost $10k, and then he would still have $7500 of his own. It's a debt to the IRS for back taxes and I don't see where it says he's been making a payment. He should handle this himself by borrowing the other $2500 he needs and then if they get married she can help pay off what's left. In the comments, only $3000 of the combined "savings" is his, and was some sort of student loan (sorry, little hazy on the details). He's not touching his money at all, he wants her to pay off the entire tax bill with her money.
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