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Lucrece posted:In the comments, only $3000 of the combined "savings" is his, and was some sort of student loan (sorry, little hazy on the details). He's not touching his money at all, he wants her to pay off the entire tax bill with her money. LOL even worse IMO. Dude doesn't have the ability or desire to save it sounds like. If they break up he'll never pay her back. She should sever.
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therobit posted:Yeah but they ain't married, he's asking for half her savings which is almost $10k, and then he would still have $7500 of his own. It's a debt to the IRS for back taxes and I don't see where it says he's been making a payment. He should handle this himself by borrowing the other $2500 he needs and then if they get married she can help pay off what's left. Granted, but I'm not married to my mom either. I guess I'm having difficulty saying I'd marry someone who I couldn't trust in this situation.
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It's just sketch as gently caress that he's insisting she pay the entire thing, regardless of all the setup of him paying her back for it
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Agreed, I did say his money needs to be depleted first, and sorry if I missed that in the post.
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Does my GF deserve a ring?quote:So My GF(F,30) been fighting with me for 3 years accusing me of all sort of things cheating because I did not post her picture on my Instagram.
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Lucrece posted:Does my GF deserve a ring? I hate both of you. Stay together and keep yourselves out of the dating pool.
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AITA for not giving my obese friend a plane ride?quote:Well, today I had to break some tough news to a friend of mine. He weight a little over 400 and has rapidly declining health. He is in his mid 30s. Hes not doing to well and is having a midlife crisis thinking he wont be around that much longer. I assume theres more going on due to his weight and I am not going to prod. Anyways, I'm a pilot and have a 172A (4 seater Cessna). He has wanted to fly for a while, hes never been in a plane, let alone take the controls of one. He has been asking me and I told him I needed to look into some things and I would let him know. Well after doing some math, with his weight and size it would not be safe. Hes too large, not only weight wise but I dont thing he could fit inside the plane. Its tight. I looked into putting him in the back two seats but the weight and balance just will not work out in a way I'm comfortable with. For anyone who's not aviation savvy, the way you balance and distribute the weight onboarding the plane is very important and can mean life or death if you over load with fuel, passengers and luggage. Well today I had to break it to him. And hes devestated. If he could motivate himself to lose weight I would gladly take him up and even let him fly. But I dont think he took it that way. I am worried that him knowing hes to big to safely fly in a plane will make his depression 10x worse. But I cant take risks like that. And it sucks. I told him I would see about finding someone with a private jet he could get on, but he would not be able to fly it. Pretty obviously not the rear end in a top hat (not only is it extremely unsafe to fly with a plane that's out of weight and balance limits, it is also illegal) but I thought it was a nice break from the usual relationship drama. anyway what's the friend's forum name
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Sagebrush posted:anyway what's the friend's forum name Pretty sure it's this rear end in a top hat.
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Sagebrush posted:AITA for not giving my obese friend a plane ride? For loan dude I'm conflicted - certainly for a spouse it makes sense to look at finances jointly, but if he's holding onto his own savings that's a big red flag. I'd probably tell him to look for a loan elsewhere and see how he reacts, his reaction could make or break it.
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I (19F) dated a girl (26F) for a month and then broke it off. I think the same girl and my dad (40sM) are now datingquote:I (19F) met a girl (26F) on Tinder a couple of months ago. She was a bit older than me, but we still got along on a good, mature level and I really enjoyed her company. To be completely honest I was really clingy towards her because she was very attractive and idk just seemed really cool to me. We went on a few dates and hooked up within the month, but eventually she told me she was not interested and we haven’t really talked since other than keeping a snapchat streak. I was a bit hurt because she was only the second person I’d ever had sex with, but I’m over it now.
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Tanith posted:I (19F) dated a girl (26F) for a month and then broke it off. I think the same girl and my dad (40sM) are now dating Thats loving wild.
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Tanith posted:I (19F) dated a girl (26F) for a month and then broke it off. I think the same girl and my dad (40sM) are now dating Well huh... uh... life finds a way?
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Tanith posted:I (19F) dated a girl (26F) for a month and then broke it off. I think the same girl and my dad (40sM) are now dating  d, as she should have. You're already in free fall and haven't even figured out how to use your parachute yet. quote:Does she remember me? No.
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Admiral Ray posted:Counting people you have sex with is idiotic. You haven't moved on. I'm glad your dad is fuckin' this woman, because god knows you were a disappointment, and not just to your dad. She did the right thing by dumping your clingy rear end. Absorb this lesson, child, and guide the neural circuits, embedding it in your memory. She :severed:, as she should have. You're already in free fall and haven't even figured out how to use your parachute yet. 
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derra posted:Granted, but I'm not married to my mom either. I guess I'm having difficulty saying I'd marry someone who I couldn't trust in this situation. I might see it a little differently if it was "Fiance" and bot "Boyfriend of 5 years (intent to marry." If they had a date that was soon it would make sense. About a month or two before we got married, I got an offer in the m mail for 0% balance transfer for the life of the balance on a credit card I had. My fiancee at the time had a $5k credit card balance at a high teens interest rate from when she was studying abroad (we were both still in college but had been together for 5 years). I transferred the balance to my card, we got married, and we worked together on paying it off. But if he hasn't put a ring on it yet, why would you give him close to 5 figures of money?
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AITA for cutting off my father if he skips my wedding to go on vacation with his new wife/step kids?quote:Throwaway because people know me on my main account.
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Dec 15, 2019 08:15
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Admiral Ray posted:Counting people you have sex with is idiotic. You haven't moved on. I'm glad your dad is fuckin' this woman, because god knows you were a disappointment, and not just to your dad. She did the right thing by dumping your clingy rear end. Absorb this lesson, child, and guide the neural circuits, embedding it in your memory. She gently caress lol
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Dec 15, 2019 08:16
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Hughlander posted:AITA for cutting off my father if he skips my wedding to go on vacation with his new wife/step kids? Not even a little bit of an rear end in a top hat, everyone in your family is drinking the "but he's faaaaaaamily" kool-aid, your father is literally choosing his new family over you of course you're entitled to tell him to gently caress off forever for that little stunt
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Dec 15, 2019 08:18
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QuarkJets posted:Not even a little bit of an rear end in a top hat, everyone in your family is drinking the "but he's faaaaaaamily" kool-aid, your father is literally choosing his new family over you of course you're entitled to tell him to gently caress off forever for that little stunt True but I kinda wanna see what this email said lol. It’s not as cut and dry as the title leads us to believe.
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Dec 15, 2019 08:19
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AITA for watching someones funeral from the 17th story of my work next door? My coworker called me out and said i was trashy for doing so, i work security at a 18 story building for a major company. I regularly go to the cafe on the 17th story get a coffee and watch the graveyard thats next door aswell as sunrise and sunsets. I watch for several hours a day between my rounds as the cafe has a booth directly pointing out the window for me to see almost 180° into most of the main city (we are on the outskirts) When theres a funeral or two i like to watch them. But my coworker says i need to give those people privacy and that im a pos. But its not like those people know??? Its not like im firing a t shirt cannon from the roof loaded with “gently caress you mom wheres my inheritance” shirts i just sit and watch. Sometimes i joke to myself but who cares??
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MarcusSA posted:True but I kinda wanna see what this email said lol. Yeah I was all primed to say NTA based on the title, but saying "you can come but your wife and kids can't" is really lovely. Dad's still a cheater but there's no call for that. If you really can't bear to see his new family don't invite him at all.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for watching someones funeral from the 17th story of my work next door?  I love that mental image so muchNTA, they're in a public space and yeah it's not like you're bothering them, you're just watching from a distance
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Dec 15, 2019 08:58
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Hughlander posted:AITA for cutting off my father if he skips my wedding to go on vacation with his new wife/step kids? I had to find this and read through the comments. I absolutely LOVE this one from OP..... quote:Toastyghosty48272 Plus, dad is paying for half of the wedding!
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I (30F) moved into my husband’s (45M) filthy apartment and am miserable. What do I do? My husband and I never lived together before we got married. We’d dated 6 years before tying the knot. I love him a lot and was always shocked that we had no big fights — that is until we moved in together. My apartment was too small. His was cheaper and bigger, so I began moving in after we got married. The trouble is, he is a pack rat and very messy. I’m talking clothing all over the furniture and on the floor, dirty dishes left over night on the counter, in the sink, on the tables. He piles old filthy shoes and things he promises he’ll Ebay one day but never does to the point where now I’m having to eBay things for him or get rid of the things not even Goodwill will take in secret. He’s infuriated by any suggestion or request to clean up. I’ve tried bringing it up in the morning, in the afternoon, on the weekend, during the weekday. Each time he says I’m ruining his mood and it’s not a good time to discuss it. When I try to clean up he tells me I’m doing it wrong or critiques me. When I finally blow my stack at the end of the day upon walking in the door and seeing that the place is still a pigsty and he’s laying on the couch drinking a tea - I get in trouble. He is freelance and doesn’t make as much money as I do at my full time job. He also works out of the house. I work full time, pay for all insurance, pay half the rent and utilities, cook and do a lion’s share of the cleaning. If he cooks, he just leaves a massive mess. If I ask him to clean up, he makes more of a mess. I brought over a nice table of mine (the one piece of furniture he decided could come over) and I asked him to not put anything but our plates and cups on it. It’s become a storage facility for his overflowing junk. I ask nicely for him to remove the stuff from the top. He blows up and refuses to compromise. He can’t throw boxes away because he’s convinced he can use them to eBay his old garbage. And in the middle of all this, I can’t move any of my things into his place - beyond some of my clothes and toiletries - because there is no room. I was abused growing up as a kid. My room was a safe space for me. I don’t feel comfortable or safe in messy environments. I’ve explained this to my husband. He thinks I need to get over it. He’ll push me and insult me until I freak the f*** out, and then, when I kick a bag of dirty laundry, I become the bad guy. And maybe I am? Maybe I’m turning into my mother. I’m devastated by this idea. I’m only a month into our marriage and feel like I’ve just made a massive mistake. I’ve asked him to go to counseling with me. He refuses and says I’m the problem. What can I do here? How do you get someone to compromise with you? Is it time for me to get my own apartment and live separately? I’m miserable from the moment I walk in the door and feel so angry at this person. And mostly at myself. TL;DR: My husband (45M) is a pack rat and I (30F) can’t be around his mess any more.
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Tanith posted:I (19F) dated a girl (26F) for a month and then broke it off. I think the same girl and my dad (40sM) are now dating Aside from the obvious craziness of this post, how does someone need to estimate the age of their own father?
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I havent paid income tax in almost 20 years, how screwed am I?quote:Since I got my first job at 14 I've been claiming exempt on both state and federal withholdings. Nobody ever said anything about it so I decided I was gonna keep doing it for a couple months and see what happens. Well fast forward 19 years and I'm still claiming exempt. I'm 33 now, and this year I've decided I want to file my taxes and pave my way through America just like everyone else. I just bought a house and car for the first time of my life this year, and I really don't want to lose them and go to prison for tax evasion, so for the first time in almost 20 years i am going to file my taxes. I'm incredibly scared, but I am going to follow through with it anyway. Am I going to have to go to prison? How much of a debt do I owe to the IRS? And are there any ways I can soften the impact? Pls halp
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:Aside from the obvious craziness of this post, how does someone need to estimate the age of their own father? Honestly I don't know my parents age at all. My mother always (jokingly) referred to herself as twenty-one whenever the question came up. Since I don't need her birth year for any documents and she never liked to say it I never pried.
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AITA for being against my wife getting in contact with her narc parentsquote:My (47 m) wife (23 f) met 5 years ago in a night club 3 hours from my house. I took her home and did the deed with her and soon found out she was pregnant. Her parents kicked her out because they didn't want me to be with her and since we had feelings for each other I told her that if she kept the child I would let her live with me since she was my first time and I fell in love with her and knew this was my only chance at being a father. She agreed and 9 months later gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, the son I always wanted. We got married without anybody knowing and have been leaving peacefully since then. Our special guy's birthday is soon and everything is good. I recently found out wife has been talking to her mom again and wanted her and dad at our son's party. I was LIVID. I screamed at her that she is falling for her abusers trap and that they tried to ruin our relationship before and kicked her out when she was pregnant. Wife said her parents are incredibly sorry and want to be in her and my son's life again. I threatened divorce (which meant she would be homeless with no job) and would fight like hell for custody of my son (she would be deemed an unfit mother because of no permanent residence or source of income) if she went against my wishes on wanting to protect her from her narc parents. Wife backed down and I was able to convince her not to trust her parents. For the past week she keeps bringing up how she misses her family since we live 3 hours away. I told her that she has to get it out of her head because her family is toxic and only wants to destroy our relationship. She keeps acting like a child and its pissing me off. Am I being the rear end in a top hat here or should my wife see the error of her ways?
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Lucrece posted:AITA for being against my wife getting in contact with her narc parents thatsbait.jpg
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t-.-t posted:Honestly I don't know my parents age at all. My mother always (jokingly) referred to herself as twenty-one whenever the question came up. Since I don't need her birth year for any documents and she never liked to say it I never pried. So when you have a birthday party for her, you just don't even know which one she's celebrating? You don't know how old she was when you were born? I can't imagine not knowing this stuff.
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Lucrece posted:I had to find this and read through the comments. I absolutely LOVE this one from OP..... Lol well that settles that then. She’s TA.
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:So when you have a birthday party for her, you just don't even know which one she's celebrating? You don't know how old she was when you were born? I can't imagine not knowing this stuff. i find it weird that you do know it
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MarcusSA posted:Lol well that settles that then. She’s TA.
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Lucrece posted:AITA for being against my wife getting in contact with her narc parents so these people met during a one night stand when she was 18 and he was a 42-year-old virgin? That's like the worst romcom premise of all time. Imagine Fools Rush In but instead of Salma Hayek and Matthew Perry it starred Ellen Page circa Hard Candy and Leonardo DiCaprio circa now
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:So when you have a birthday party for her, you just don't even know which one she's celebrating? You don't know how old she was when you were born? I can't imagine not knowing this stuff. I'm with everyone else posting on this. Why would I need or want to know how old my mother was when she gave birth to me? I happen to know her birth year solely because when I was a kid it was part of the password for the user account on the family computer, but it's not a number that I've ever needed since then
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Play posted:You look around the post for the rear end in a top hat, but you can't find them. Everyone looks like an rear end in a top hat. EveryTHING looks like an rear end in a top hat. It's like a labyrinth of assholes, stretching to the horizon. You desperately look for the exit, but there is none. The post has no exit, and around every corner is a fresh rear end in a top hat, dripping and slobbering on you. You are trapped and will never escape CYOA for Gen Z is utterly horrifying
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:So when you have a birthday party for her, you just don't even know which one she's celebrating? You don't know how old she was when you were born? I can't imagine not knowing this stuff. My step-dad's mother was a nurse in WWII and she's been 39 for as long as i've known her
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