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AITA for sticking my used cold sore patch on a rude employee?quote:So I'm pretty sure I'm TA but I'm hoping I'm not a horrible person.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:18 |
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# ? Jun 2, 2024 21:48 |
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Doesn't like half the world get cold sores?
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:20 |
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Regardless of its justification, bio warfare is a war crime
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:21 |
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1redflag posted:So can you delineate exactly what this guy was supposed to do in this situation? How long was he supposed to remain a part of this kid’s life, especially when the relationship w/ the child’s mother is gone? Like, I’m imagining him as a step dad and he broke up w/ the mom and looking at your post it seems you would expect the step dad to basically treat the kid as his own for the rest of his life which seems insane to me. She was still his daughter until he chose to leave. Like I already said, family is more than blood. He should have continued being her father regardless of biology. Parents separate every day for all kinds of reasons, including reasons that result in near-total separation while still retaining a custody arrangement. e: quote:E. Or you want him to have some heartfelt discussion w the 3 year old about how his mom lied to him about his paternity? First, I feel like that’s a discussion that should wait until the kid can actually have that discussion intelligently, and second, that seems like the mom’s job given what happened. There's no need to create strawman arguments like this, I never so much as implied that anyone needs to have a conversation about paternity with a 3 year-old. He should have had the same conversation that every separating couple should have with their young children: that even if they don't want to be with each other, they still love their kids.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:23 |
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/r/relationships: the infectious liquid is long gone but still.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:24 |
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QuarkJets posted:She was still his daughter until he chose to leave. Like I already said, family is more than blood. He should have continued being her father regardless of biology. Parents separate every day for all kinds of reasons, including reasons that result in near-total separation while still retaining a custody arrangement. Except its not his kid.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:25 |
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Jack2142 posted:Except its not his kid. QuarkJets posted:family is more than blood I don't agree with the notion that only biologically-related parents are real parents.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:30 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:/r/relationships: the infectious liquid is long gone but still. Someone might assume that the /r/relationships posters all disappeared with that kind of title
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:31 |
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QuarkJets posted:Like I already said, family is more than blood. This isn't a ubiquitous thing, you're saying it like it's more than your opinion, which is all it is
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:32 |
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Quarkjets, no offense, but I feel like you have no idea what you are talking about and you are just giving the real glib answers because you can’t imagine the day to day reality of what you are saying. You can’t just give yourself custody rights to a kid and as a lawyer who has handled a lot of legitimacy/custody cases, this guy was going to get taken to the cleaners if the bio mom disagreed about anything. He effectively has no right (or obligation) to the kid under the law.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:32 |
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And, again: Mom lied to the kid about why dad left.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:36 |
I can only see one (rare) situation that would explain wtf the cold sore employee was on about. I have a friend whose daughter died at 10 days old because a relative with a cold sore had kissed her and passed it on. Apparently it can be deadly to newborns. If that employee had lost a child like that I could see why she might freak out on somebody about that at that level. That being said it probably wasn't the case and that employee deserves to get cold sores from what the mom did, I mean wtf?
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:49 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for sticking my used cold sore patch on a rude employee? So you gave her herpes for being rude to you?
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 01:52 |
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Bananaquiter posted:Some of the reddit consensus is that he was rear end in a top hat for abandoning a girl he raised for three years. General reddit spinelessness or sunk cost fallacy? I'm generally in the "you raise it, it's yours" camp but you gotta draw the line somewhere. I think if you find out and leave while they're still barely old enough to remember you that's probably worth a mulligan.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:07 |
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I feel like there's probably a middle ground between "stay married" and "go no-contact for a decade"
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:18 |
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Rent-A-Cop posted:I feel like there's probably a middle ground between "stay married" and "go no-contact for a decade" Sure, but not everyone has the werewithal to murder their cheating spouse and get away with it so I don't hold it against him for taking the easy way out instead.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:24 |
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You’re an inhuman monster if you can just walk away from a child you raised for three years as your own, hth all you idiots so terrified of being a cuck meme that you can’t fathom taking a child’s feelings into consideration. Divorce the wife, try to stay in the kid’s life in some way. You might fail but gently caress you if you don’t try.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:26 |
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Rent-A-Cop posted:I feel like there's probably a middle ground between "stay married" and "go no-contact for a decade" Get told by the government to piss off, because sure you changed his diapers, saw his first smiles, steps and words, but he didnt originate from your balls so you cant be a part of each others life?
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:27 |
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There is only one bad guy in the story and that's the woman who decided to lie to her own child about her parentage. If the guy wanted to go above and beyond and try to help the kid despite a hostile co-parent that would have been really swell of him but it basically falls under the good samaritan principle at that point. He's largely a bystander and victim to his ex's decision to wreak havoc on her kid's life.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:35 |
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realbez posted:You’re an inhuman monster if you can just walk away from a child you raised for three years as your own, hth all you idiots so terrified of being a cuck meme that you can’t fathom taking a child’s feelings into consideration. Divorce the wife, try to stay in the kid’s life in some way. You might fail but gently caress you if you don’t try. Again, this sounds real nice but when the reality is spending tens of thousands of dollars to get told “gently caress off” by the judge, it’s nothing more than grandstanding E. And to get at the cuck angle or whatever stupid poo poo you are apparently trying to hang your hat on, recognize that since the mom will almost assuredly have 100% of the custody rights to the kid, the “dad” would basically only be able to see the kid at the mothers whim, so you are basically saying this guy was an rear end in a top hat unless he agrees to also play along with any bullshit the mom tried to pull on him re: conditioning visits on whatever hosed up terms she sets. Brother Tadger fucked around with this message at 02:42 on Dec 27, 2019 |
# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:36 |
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1redflag posted:Quarkjets, no offense, but I feel like you have no idea what you are talking about and you are just giving the real glib answers because you can’t imagine the day to day reality of what you are saying. You can’t just give yourself custody rights to a kid and as a lawyer who has handled a lot of legitimacy/custody cases, this guy was going to get taken to the cleaners if the bio mom disagreed about anything. He effectively has no right (or obligation) to the kid under the law. She's a hurt 13 year old who feels abandoned and now just discovered her mom has been lying to downplay mom's culpability here, gonna guess her biological dad has no interest in her either. That must feel awful, I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Buuuut... i don't think he's the rear end in a top hat for explaining to her why he left, which is what he's asking. She has a right to know.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:38 |
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I just want to know where the actual biological father is in all this I hope it's not me
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:41 |
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1redflag posted:Again, this sounds real nice but when the reality is spending tens of thousands of dollars to get told “gently caress off” by the judge, it’s nothing more than grandstanding It’s the fact that he walked away without even the barest of effort to stay in the kids life and that he found that to be an acceptable thing to do that makes him an rear end in a top hat. Raising a kid from birth to three is a lot of work (unless you’re a useless parent who let the other parent do everything) and requires an enormous emotional commitment. Just being able to walk away from that is a sign of a hosed up person.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:47 |
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And lol at pretending he avoided a custody battle out of consideration for the kid. The kid wasn’t considered at all the second he found out she wasn’t blood. Gross.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:50 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for sticking my used cold sore patch on a rude employee? General Bullshit › /r/relationships: Last Christmas, I gave you my herpes
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 02:51 |
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realbez posted:And lol at pretending he avoided a custody battle out of consideration for the kid. The kid wasn’t considered at all the second he found out she wasn’t blood. Gross. Leave some woke points for the rest of us you greedy gently caress
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:01 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for kicking my sister and her BF out of my house for Christmas because she had sex in the room I let her stay in? Both redditors and OP seem to be weirdly focused on there being childrens toys and pictures in the same room during the sex. Is there some sort of taboo among the americans that I'm unaware of, or can I just file it under "people who post on reddit are weird".
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:04 |
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"loving in the room owned by the 6 year old is incredibly trashy and bad" is not a uniquely American mindset, no.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:07 |
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The real rear end in a top hat is the kid tbh. Three years old is old enough to pick herself up by her bootstraps and get along without her father.Malachite_Dragon posted:"loving in the room owned by the 6 year old is incredibly trashy and bad" is not a uniquely American mindset, no. You'll find that most non-Americans have sex in their children's rooms, much like how they spell it as "colour" vs "color." It's extremely sophisticated sex-having.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:10 |
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America can really run the gamut but is generally loosely 'christian' based, so a lot of shame-based poo poo around sex yeah however even among the sex-positive it's considered p. rude/gross to gently caress where kids can hear or perceive you. so i kinda get where OP is coming from, not because of the 'she hosed near toys!' but more 'they hosed in the room next to my sleeping kid loud enough that i could hear it'. also maybe don't get ejaculate all over the sheets your sister will be laundering. if you wanna jizz up sheets, go to a hotel. that's literally what they're for. there's nothing inherently wrong with having sex, but having sex in a way where you make it everyone else's inconvenience to clean up after you is not cool, and kinda gross if its family StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 03:17 on Dec 27, 2019 |
# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:13 |
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I mean... You just put down a towel, it's not like your hosing the entire room down with jizz.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:14 |
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quote:My eldest daughter has a pretty large single bed in her room (it is bigger than your standard single bed, but not quite as big as a double - it was custom made for unrelated reasons), so I offered my sister and BIL the option of staying in her bed instead of on the sofa. I checked with my daughter (who as a 6 year old, was just excited for them to see her things because she thinks her room is super cool) and she said yes, so they came on the 23rd and they were supposed to stay until the 27th. Americans are so prudish, everyone else is okay with jizzing on a six-year old's bed, especially onto sheets that probably leaked onto the mattress pad. Doesn't everyone do it at least once in their kid's bed?
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:19 |
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realbez posted:It’s the fact that he walked away without even the barest of effort to stay in the kids life and that he found that to be an acceptable thing to do that makes him an rear end in a top hat. I can see where you're coming from (I've gone to bat for this point of view w/r/t older kids, for sure) but he said it was an acrimonious divorce and he's had 10 years to distance himself from it, I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt about how easy it was for him at the time. Boba Pearl posted:I mean... You just put down a towel, it's not like your hosing the entire room down with jizz. speak for yourself, buddy
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:19 |
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Boba Pearl posted:I mean... You just put down a towel, it's not like your hosing the entire room down with jizz. well yeah of course. it's the unspoken rule of boning down at a family member's house: either you do it well enough no one knows you ever did it, or don't do it at all. that couple didn't put down a towel, they just sorta assumed it was all cool to leak on their niece's sheets rude
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:19 |
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• I [34M] didn’t get a present for girlfriend’s [31F] moms dog and I’m in trouble quote:Me: Dylan 34 Girlfriend: Jen 31 Her mom: Monica [50+F] Ruh roh
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:26 |
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/r/relationships thread: where we can find at least one poster that will argue that cranking my hog while sitting on a child's seat in a kindergarten classroom is acceptable
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:26 |
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Pinecone Sample posted:/r/relationships: the infectious liquid is long gone but still.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:28 |
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*leaving a fuckstain that you can smell from the hallway on your 6-year-old's bed* "you fuckin' prude. you're like a goddamn american"
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:54 |
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realbez posted:It’s the fact that he walked away without even the barest of effort to stay in the kids life and that he found that to be an acceptable thing to do that makes him an rear end in a top hat. It's not his kid. It's yours. Why should he have to raise your kid?
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 03:57 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:well yeah of course. it's the unspoken rule of boning down at a family member's house: either you do it well enough no one knows you ever did it, or don't do it at all. Ewww.
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# ? Dec 27, 2019 04:00 |