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cumshitter posted:I do the same thing with conspiracy theorists but I just argue on behalf of the conspiracy. If someone brings up the Clintons alleged body count, lean into it like Hillary is the world's greatest assassin. Putin acting up in Eastern Europe again ? President Hillary takes a weekend at "Camp David" and then we get to find out who Putin named as his successor. Pro-democracy protests in China brutally suppressed ? Sudden vacancies on the Central Committee. It'd be great !
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teen witch posted:24 Hour Poly People (I'm stuck at the airport for 7 hours, so gently caress it have my babble) I wouldn't put it at 99% but the most significant digit is absolutely correct. Anyone who doesn't need a ton of therapy is not likely to be attractive on top of the crowd being overwhelmingly bitter nerds. So much so that ...ignoring how this situation came to be...at one point one of the monthly public gatherings was happening at my house last minute for some reason. A raver type roommate we had at the time was all perked up having a bunch of what he thought was a bunch of sex & love happy people coming over that would be fun to talk to. I laughed and told him "no no no, this is going to be a bunch of nerds talking about nerd poo poo and occasionally sex but have no actual interest in loving." I didn't want to be around these people so I was elsewhere the entire time, but he confirmed I was 100% correct about what happened. Seriously. You will never meet a person more interested in talking about sex than a poly person but actually having sex is harder with them than a random hookup in any random situation. This crowd will go on and on how sex positive they are but least with the American crowd there is still a massive amount of slut shamming going on. Actually I'd go as far to say that is the #1 difference between Poly & Swinging. Swinging folks are here to gently caress, Poly is here to date(when it's convenient for them). I get having a high sex drive. I get wanting to love on everyone. I don't get this disconnect from reality where Time & Distance are very real things with limits that don't give a poo poo about your dumb human emotions and relationship structures. The real stupidity to me is going off on your own path but doing your damnedest to make it look the same as the other way by trying to maintain typical 2 person sharing a home looking relationship. If you're going to be weird loving just do it. Frankly I don't feel they're even good at it. I've meet way more people who were happy to be with me for a time and were more chill about me doing my own thing that if prompted would say they're monogamous. Frequently they'd be rebounding, needing some companionship but not ready to get back into a full relationship. They have their fun for a while until they want to go seek someone out or develop a crush. I've always tried my best to encourage them to go do what's best for them and I am still good friends with a lot of them well after they've gotten married & had kids or whatever. I guess in the end the hypocrisy that everyone's picked up on is absolutely there and worse than you can imagine.
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cumshitter posted:I do the same thing with conspiracy theorists but I just argue on behalf of the conspiracy. I think Imperial Japan did this in real life, they were pretty pro-semitic but loved the protocols of the elders of zion.
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AITA for taking my daughter's christmas present away after she destroyed her sister's present? My husband and I have two daughters, Isabel (13) and Rosie (9). We had a small Christmas dinner but my husband's parents popped in and brought presents for the girls. Odd as it sounds Rosie has always been fascinated by clocks and time and things like that. Strange but we've always encouraged her interests. Her grandparents got her the most wonderful present. A miniature grandfather clock. Very authentic but small enough to fit on her table in her room. Isabel got a lovely gift too, a bracelet which she's had her eye on for months but unfortunately wasn't anywhere near our price range. I had to run some errands today and took the girls to help. We went to McDs for lunch, but as I was in a rush I ordered some food and asked them to share it among themselves in the car. They ended up arguing over the food and shouting at each other in the car and didn't speak to each other at all after that. When I got them home I was downstairs cuddling with my husband when I heard them having a screaming match in Rosie's room, just shouting insults at each other. We ran in and demanded Isabel leave and calm down, and she did, but not before giving Rosie a nasty look and slapping the clock off the table where it fell and smashed. Rosie was devastated and in tears. Isabel showed no remorse at all. I don't understand. They argue a lot but it rarely ever gets this spiteful and cruel. I said that I was going to withhold Isabel's pocket money and save it to buy Rosie a new clock. I also decided to take Isabel's bracelet and store it until a new clock is bought. If she destroyed her sister's present then I don't think she deserves to have hers until it is replaced. This made Isabel cry and say I was being unfair, since she wanted to show the bracelet off to her friends when she went back to school. My husband supports me taking her pocket money, but thinks I was wrong to take the bracelet since it was too harsh and she'd wanted that bracelet for ages. I don't agree. If she can take her sister's present away, then having her own taken away is a fair punishment.
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"Help being an actual decent loving parent means my kid might not like me and whatever vestigial neural damage that fucks up the Baby Boomers is threatening to subsume me, please validate me being a hardass and teaching my child that they can't be a sociopath without consequences."
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Mr. Lobe posted:if the goebbels looking guy changed his hair it would probably be a lot less noticeable of a resemblance. he just needs to shave it or grow it out or have it cut differently or something I know a guy who looks like hitler. He refuses to acknowledge it, but when you have that face you really, really need to make your hair different at least, or every time you get pissed an start ranting about something it looks like outtakes from Triumph of the Will.
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LethalGeek posted:slut shamming Mods please. I am ready to abandon my identity. Make me slut shamming.
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Motronic posted:Pete's cousin: Pete wouldn't have let that happen 2 times already. Spineless.
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AITA for forbidding my ex husband to leave our 4 year old daughter with his much younger (!!!) gf?quote:Sorry for spelling mistakes. I am quite livid and English is my third language. OP manages to take a situation where a college professor is banging a student and still is definitely the rear end in a top hat for her behavior. The commenters are shelling her pretty hard, it seems like she cheated on him? Not entirely clear but has spent the last 3 years unemployed and not taking care of the child and is now expecting to get full custody or something. From the comments she only gets weekends and the dad has primary custody so go figure how that shook out. Might be a fake, OP throws up "It's extremely inappropriate for my child to be half naked around adults" and when pushed on it claims "Oh so it would be fine for my daugther to be half naked and alone with a new stepfather?" and calls the person sexist for saying there's a difference. pentyne fucked around with this message at 22:41 on Dec 28, 2019 |
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bell jar posted:Pete wouldn't have let that happen 2 times already. Spineless. It actually tracks very closely to the canonical Pete story. Part of Pete's enduring legacy is that he wasn't especially jealous and was willing to allow the trip until he found out how extensive the history was. True, it took this guy longer to examine the details but then it is not given to every man to be a Pete.
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bell jar posted:Pete wouldn't have let that happen 2 times already. Spineless. He clarifies in one of the comments, that he thought it was a really old relationship, like been apart for a long time. He only recently learned that they were still having sex only a few months before OP and her got together. So not only were they hooking up more recently then thought, she kinda lied by omission
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AITA for telling my bf that I won’t raise our kids as Catholic following an argument about our sex life? For context, he (26m) is a non-practicing Catholic and I (23f) am a non-practicing Muslim. We’ve been together for nearly two years. For me personally, it’ll always remain a part of my identity and I respect how important it is for my family, but I’m very much “meh” with the whole concept of religion. We have discussed religion difference in the past and he said he’s not a particularly religious person and would prefer to just raise our kids with good morals / as nice humans. I’m on the same page. Yesterday we had an argument about our sex life. I am unsatisfied due to various reasons (mostly him not lasting longer than a few minutes for over 5 months now) and it’s really bothering me. I’ve tried to ask him if there are any issues with us, sex in general for him or at least try to make suggestions. In person when I’ve spoken about this, he seems to act understanding, but our intimate life has remained the same. So, I raised this over message which was definitely stupid of me I know. I told him that I feel like I am making most of the effort sexually and he blew off. His response to that message was- “you have a chip on your shoulder clearly, also I want to raise my kids as Catholic. So either accept it or we are finished.” Well I said no. Not because I want them to be Muslim, but I just felt the way he said it was so demanding, unrelated to our previous argument and so out of the blue. He’s never mentioned anything like this before. In all honesty I wouldn’t mind if he wanted to teach them about his religion and include them in religious rites. Like I said I’m not religious myself so I wouldn’t be a hypocrite and deny them one religion over another. They can be whatever they want tbh, I’m more concerned raising decent humans rather than focusing on religion. I told him my reasons for saying no is that he didn’t ask for my input and it just felt very emotionally manipulative of him to make such a demand. We’ve basically been arguing since and he’s told me I hate him and don’t respect his beliefs. I do feel bad now. But he’s never shown me any signs or actions that religion has meant something to him, other than celebrating Christmas. So Reddit, I’m actually confused. AITA for telling my bf I will not raise our kids as Catholics? (Edit: just for clarity- prior to this argument we have been fine, relationship has been going well, no major arguments like this in a very good while Although I should add for those mentioned deflection, that he has shown these tendencies before, right at the start of the relationship.)
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I actually really like Pete v.2.0 because he's not arguing a lot. Like when people posted that no, he probably doesn't trust her, he's just like "Yeah, I guess you're right.", And basically being reasonable and listening to everyone's takes
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Miserable Maid posted:I actually really like Pete v.2.0 because he's not arguing a lot. Like when people posted that no, he probably doesn't trust her, he's just like "Yeah, I guess you're right.", And basically being reasonable and listening to everyone's takes The people who already know the sensible thing and are just using Reddit as a sounding board to basically collect their thoughts are the only ones who will ever make it out of there alive.
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A real Pete takes immediate and decisive action. He doesn't issue ultimatums, because he's not giving you a choice. You've been Pete'd
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for taking my daughter's christmas present away after she destroyed her sister's present?
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My [29 M] girlfriend since highschool [29F] had been cheating on me with a coworker. Advice on spending time with the 'other guy's' (now) ex-girlfriend? As per the title, I learned that my girlfriend since I was 15 (yes, we've been in a relationship for basically have our lives) had been cheating on me with a coworker. I'll spare the details, but it was some incredibly slimy behavior on her part (Devious ways of hiding things), and I honestly never thought she would be capable of such a thing (In terms of deception, dishonesty, etc). Anyways - So we're done, and I've asked her to move out. While I've only had a couple of weeks to process things, but I'm seeing this as kind of a positive thing... I'm a very active/hobby-driven person, and I'm using this time for self-improvement (Exercise every day, eating very well, not drinking, etc). I've also (Yes, hindsight is 20/20) realized that maybe this was a blessing in disguise, and that I'm perhaps better off without her. I'm not sure if this is a common emotion, but after a few days of bawling my eyes out, I actually feel alright about the whole thing. Anyways, I learned about the affair from the other guy's girlfriend [29F?] (She found my work contact details, and emailed me). She's in a similar boat as me, but she immigrated to my country with her partner and doesn't really have a huge circle of friends, and also doesn't have any family here (Very tough around the holiday season). Since she told me, I offered to go for a walk with her to get stuff off our chest, get closure, etc. This was a few days after I found out. The conversation was super therapeutic, and it made me feel a WHOLE lot better about the situation (her describing things she disliked about the guy really put some things into perspective about my relationship). We ended up chatting/walking for a few hours, discussing the situation, what we're going to do about living spaces, etc. My parents are aware of the situation, and even told me to invite her for Xmas dinner, since her family doesn't live here (She ended up buying a SUPER expensive ticket home last minute to spend time with her friends/family). Anyways - The walk/talk was weirdly pleasant! She seems bright, honest, cool, and is very good looking! We've been keeping in contact lots via text, and I'm thinking (THIS IS WHERE I NEED ADVICE) that I'd like to see if she wants to hang out again (but not to vent about things). She had told me that she looked up a music artist I mentioned and really likes it, and I've got concert tickets at the end of January - I casually said something like, "Well, you're welcome to join me if you want!" In general, we've been communicating about stuff that isn't our problem, but is fun stuff. She also said that she'd like to meet again when she's back in the country. Basically, given the state of us, the way we've met, and the circumstances, is it appropriate to spend time this way with her? Is it a terrible idea??? I'm sure she's been hurting as much as I have, and I don't want this to be a predatory thing from my end (I've heard of this "rebound" state in people). As another FYI - I'm a pretty level headed guy, and she seems so too. TL;DR: Should I hang out (Both as friends, or potentially as a date) with the ex-girlfriend of the guy who my (now ex) girlfriend was sleeping with? Are there risks to this???
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bell jar posted:A real Pete takes immediate and decisive action. He doesn't issue ultimatums, because he's not giving you a choice. You've been Pete'd This. This other dude is not a Pete at all.
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pentyne posted:AITA for forbidding my ex husband to leave our 4 year old daughter with his much younger (!!!) gf? Setting aside the creep-factor of the dude (yikes), I don't think it's irresponsible to let a 22 year-old babysit a 4 year-old, especially one who has been around long enough for the kid's father to consider proposing, and she actually sounds pretty rad what with basically setting up a whole painting project for a 4 year-old instead of sitting her in front of the TV. OP is acting way out of line here
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Smirking_Serpent posted:TL;DR: Lol, classic rebound sex scenario... hmm guess I should take it slow and see if this is a good foundation for a relationship.
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AITA for not letting my wife start a restaurant? My wife and I have been married for 10 years now, and we are both 35. My parents both passed young, and left me their inheritance. This has meant that neither my wife or I has had to work for ~6 years now. With proper investing and spending habits we can go until the ends of our lives like this. My wife seems to feel... a bit unfulfilled. Needing something to do. I started painting and coding my own video game in my spare time, but she seems to want something else. She wants to start a business. Now in general I don’t mind her starting a business. But she wants to start a restaurant. Now restaurants are high cost, high risk, low margin businesses, that require tons of work to make profitable. Not something ideal for our situation. When she first brought up the idea I shot it down, and said maybe something different. A hair salon or something (just a random idea). Or an online jewelry store. She has her heart set on a restaurant. I said no when she brought it up again, and she accused me of stifling her. I basically said when she can come up with the money to start it and run it completely on her own without using money from our planned savings she can do it. She called me insensitive. Was it insensitive? Edit: she has never worked in a restaurant, but does love to cook and is very good at it, for all those asking.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not letting my wife start a restaurant? You know how to make a small fortune in the restaurant business? Start with a large fortune.
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That restaurant and their relationship will be gone in 6 months.
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Inceltown posted:That restaurant and their relationship will be gone in 6 months. along with all that inheritance money
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quote:Smirking_Serpent posted: She needs to start small, and move up slowly, conquering her rivals one by one. Someone get on Reddit and advise the guy to have her start out with a hotdog stand in a small town.
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1st_Panzer_Div. posted:This. This other dude is not a Pete at all. Let us settle this matter by turning to the gospels of Pete (PBUH) Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 6 months - we broke up after I booked tickets to go on a trip with an ex from ancient history, who is more of a best-friend. quote:My good friend, who we'll call Dave, was my boyfriend from the age of 18 to 21, after which we broke up because we wanted different things in life. We stayed good friends though because we had a great friendship and had been through so much together. He lives in a different country at the moment but we still talk semi-regularly online and in Whatsapp. Pete knew that Dave was a friend of mine but didn't know he was an ex until about 2 weeks ago, when Dave asked me to visit him in Amsterdam while he's on a work trip (I live in the UK, he lives in Italy). I had already agreed and booked a ticket before I told Pete - they were on sale for a ridiculously low price on the dates that he would be there, so I jumped at the opportunity. Pete was fine with his girlfriend taking a trip with a male friend until he learned that they had very recent history. He didn't break up with her on the spot, he expressed his feelings on the matter without outright issuing an ultimatum. He let her say her peace (as well as a bunch of disrespectful poo poo along the lines of "I'm going, you can't control me"), and then he didn't even break up with her until later. This other dude was fine with his girlfriend taking a trip with a male friend until he learned that they had very recent history. He didn't break up with her on the spot, he expressed his feelings on the matter without outright issuing an ultimatum. We don't know how she has responded, and he has said that he's planning to break up with her if she decides to go anyway. It's like... exactly the Pete story but from Pete's perspective and taking place a few days before the breakup
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I know a hotdog stand she could invest in. To late to spend her gift money on though.
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Also, the food is delivered to your car by dogs wearing rollerskates.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not letting my wife start a restaurant? You know what the right move here is? Get a spot at a local weekend farmer's market (or equivalent weekend street fair sort of ordeal) for a month or three and see how it goes. It's super low risk, and then maybe it'll turn out that this is her passion and that she's great at it, maybe it'll turn out that she doesn't like even a mild taste of the service industry. Then work up from there. Jumping straight into starting a restaurant with no experience in that industry seems like a really bad idea
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Here’s a great article about how lovely it is to run a restaurant: https://torontolife.com/food/restaurant-ruined-life/ When the url includes the phrase “ruined life” you know it’s a fun one. But that guy learned too late there’s more to running a restaurant than being a good cook.
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QuarkJets posted:Let us settle this matter by turning to the gospels of Pete (PBUH) Exactly. I think people are just remembering Pete differently. That's part of what made Pete such a good patron saint of the r/ thread, the fact that he was very reasonable and willing to work through it, but also was steadfast in good boundaries
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Ugly In The Morning posted:You know how to make a small fortune in the restaurant business? https://torontolife.com/food/restaurant-ruined-life/ Highlights quote:I could envision him swaggering around his Hampshire restaurant, the Yew Tree Inn, dropping exquisite plates of food in front of wealthy customers with all the bombast of a star footballer. As he got older and no longer cooked in the kitchen, he was known to hang about the bar and drink cider with customers, at times with a .22 rifle close by in case he had the sudden urge to go rabbit hunting. To me, Marco Pierre White was inspirational. I wanted to be him. And I wanted my own Yew Tree.
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the best part of the story is this quote: I explained to him how Dave and my relationship wasn't like that and that we were strictly platonic. He didn't seem to really react, he just gave me a look that was...sarcastic, I suppose, would be the best way to describe it.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not letting my wife start a restaurant?
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PetraCore posted:Maybe she should try something lower overhead like a food truck in the summer? Food trucks are still not great financially. I was trying to start one in a college town and I was looking at 50k upfront. Plus every cook I talked to wanted to do their own spin on some kind of higher end thing and didnt want to go with my plan of “selling grease to drunk college kids”
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Pete's also improved by not being his own story. That's why they didn't let Jesus write the gospels.
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QuarkJets posted:You know what the right move here is? Get a spot at a local weekend farmer's market (or equivalent weekend street fair sort of ordeal) for a month or three and see how it goes. It's super low risk, and then maybe it'll turn out that this is her passion and that she's great at it, maybe it'll turn out that she doesn't like even a mild taste of the service industry. Then work up from there. LMAO that his suggestions were hair salon or jewelry store, though.
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PetraCore posted:Maybe she should try something lower overhead like a food truck? Cut her teeth on it and see if she really wants it, but less overhead and less of a money sink.
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