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FilthyImp posted:Skin color bias is a thing and "Well Immelda Orellana just nailed the part... but there's something about Brenda Marquez (neé Flaherty) that just, you know, feels comfortable and right. She only has herself to look out for. If it works keep doing it because that’s how you survive in her position.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for hiding the 135k I just inherited from my girlfriend and her family? This is absolutely going to lead to a purchase that will expose it and cause everything to implode
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135k is hardly enough to go wild about, the guy should treat it like a nice nest egg because that’s what it is. A buffer in case poo poo happens.
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Dec 29, 2019 23:31
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Well, at least he isn't a vampire or something. Being kept afloat with 135k is one of the nicer surprises
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Dec 29, 2019 23:32
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please knock Mom! posted:She only has herself to look out for. If it works keep doing it because that’s how you survive in her position. And all POC in turn should poo poo down her throat for the same reason
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please knock Mom! posted:135k is hardly enough to go wild about, the guy should treat it like a nice nest egg because that’s what it is. A buffer in case poo poo happens. written like someone who has never known poverty 135k would be a life changing amount of money to me or just about anyone in my peer group.
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Mr. Lobe posted:written like someone who has never known poverty Yeah, it’d change my life too. If I saved or invested it like a nest egg. It’s not gently caress you money in the slightest, it doesn’t buy you a house, you still have to work. Your life just gets more comfortable, it doesn’t change meaningfully. The biggest thing it might let you do is go back to school, but with a kid to take care of I’d play it safe. And I grew up poor so eat my whole rear end
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please knock Mom! posted:She only has herself to look out for. If it works keep doing it because that’s how you survive in her position. The term we're looking for here is Blackfish. A white person who passes as a person of color to gain any social benefits of being ethnic, while still having the ability to stop being ethnic whenever it may inconvenience them. Here's an article about Ariana Grande: https://thetab.com/uk/2019/02/08/ariana-grande-is-a-blackfish-and-these-are-the-receipts-91714
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Super Waffle posted:The term we're looking for here is Blackfish. A white person who passes as a person of color to gain any social benefits of being ethnic, while still having the ability to stop being ethnic whenever it may inconvenience them. Here's an article about Ariana Grande: Yeah, I know what her deal is. I’m poc, I know the type. She still should do whatever she can think of to get a decent life. I don’t agree with it personally but that’s a position of privilege, I don’t have to do something like that to eat bread and sleep indoors.
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Mr. Lobe posted:written like someone who has never known poverty I have lived in poverty before, and I guess that depends on your definition of life changing. It's not enough to retire on, which is what I think the other poster was getting at. If you have a decent income but lots of credit card debt and that could wipe it clean, I could see it being life changing. Or if you had the job and credit to buy a home but lacked a down payment. In most other situations I doubt it would fundamentally change things in the long term. Working as a banker I have seen some poor people come into that kind of money several times, and without exception it has been blown on bullshit within 6 months. therobit fucked around with this message at 00:08 on Dec 30, 2019 |
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Mr. Lobe posted:written like someone who has never known poverty 135k is 3-5 years of not having to work for a lot of people. It's 9 years for someone working fulltime for minimum wage. But hey, it's not enough to go infinite with interest so you never need to work ever again, so I guess it's basically the same as finding 50 bucks on the street. 
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people are so far in the hole on the life they want to live that $135,000 only makes a dent.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for hiding the 135k I just inherited from my girlfriend and her family? I like this one since it hits the 'YTA in title, but redeemed in text' thingie. They have separate finances, yet he's fully supporting her, their child, etc.
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HazCat posted:135k is 3-5 years of not having to work for a lot of people. It's 9 years for someone working fulltime for minimum wage. It’s a very nice nest egg. It pays off your debts and sends your kids to college. It gets you ahead of your rent. It won’t get you out of being working class, but it’ll make your life more comfortable and get rid of stress. It’s not gently caress you money in any way and its benefits will dry up in an instant if he treats it as such.
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HazCat posted:135k is 3-5 years of not having to work for a lot of people. It's 9 years for someone working fulltime for minimum wage. 135k x 3 buys a decent house and a small garden here. Makes you think.
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please knock Mom! posted:Your life just gets more comfortable, it doesn’t change meaningfully. Wait, why wouldn't that be a meaningful change? Not needing to worry about your next paycheck coming on time, not needing to decide whether you buy food or pay rent this week, knowing that you could probably afford a sudden mandatory car repair without wiping out your meager savings? The reduction in stress alone would be a meaningful change, imo
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There are lots of parts of the US where 135k buys a house or two. That's a huge life change.
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QuarkJets posted:Wait, why wouldn't that be a meaningful change? Not needing to worry about your next paycheck coming on time, not needing to decide whether you buy food or pay rent this week, knowing that you could probably afford a sudden mandatory car repair without wiping out your meager savings? The reduction in stress alone would be a meaningful change, imo I meant that you don’t get everything you need, you still have to pick and choose whether you want a down payment, paying off debts, etc. You’re right that it’s a really nice windfall but it’s a windfall to be really protective of and responsible with
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Pinecone Sample posted:My (F21) boyfriend (M19) moved in with his second girlfriend and they now wear matching promise rings. Why do stories like this read like people are substituting “too cowardly and spineless to break up” with “we are in a poly relationship”?
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The desperate need to feel in control of a situation they are clearly not in control of is more powerful than self-respect
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please knock Mom! posted:I meant that you don’t get everything you need, you still have to pick and choose whether you want a down payment, paying off debts, etc. You’re right that it’s a really nice windfall but it’s a windfall to be really protective of and responsible with While that's true, we're talking about whether that's a life-changing amount of money. I think all of the things discussed are life-changing even if you're still working the same job, living in the same place, etc. Even just suddenly having some financial security is a big deal to most people. Even just having the opportunity to be able to make the choices that you've listed is life-changing, imo
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AITA? MIL opened a can of beer that was special to mequote:So, I’ve had this Carolina Panthers can of Bud Light for about 5 years now. It was in my fridge, but has been unopened. I’ve been keeping it as a keepsake. Well, lo and behold, my MiL decides to open It, despite me telling her we have a lot of other cans of BL in the basement fridge. I’ve been keeping my annoyance to myself, only letting out a little anger when I told her that when she was done with it, not to recycle the can, that I wanted to keep it as I was important to me. That said, I’m still pissed off by this.
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why are you keeping it in the fridge if you never intend to drink it? put it on the shelf. it's not going to rot or anything stupid
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA? MIL opened a can of beer that was special to me man this guy is all kinds of passive aggressive
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It's Bud Light. You should be apologizing to HER.
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Super Waffle posted:The term we're looking for here is Blackfish. A white person who passes as a person of color to gain any social benefits of being ethnic, while still having the ability to stop being ethnic whenever it may inconvenience them. Here's an article about Ariana Grande: Does it still apply if the article in use is a last name? Not saying she isn't doing something very similar, but it doesn't sound like she's changing anything physical. Or does that not matter.
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Grape posted:Does it still apply if the article in use is a last name? Not saying she isn't doing something very similar, but it doesn't sound like she's changing anything physical. Or does that not matter. Doesn’t matter. It’s taking advantage of an apparent ethnic ambiguity to get the benefits of that culture without having to actually deal with any cultural baggage or racism. She can revert back to white whenever she needs to.
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hey what does lockpicking have to do with spice smuggling? is spice smuggler just a pejorative like budgie smuggler
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TheDeadlyShoe posted:hey what does lockpicking have to do with spice smuggling? Only one gets you wanted in twelve systems.
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Goat pooping on my patio and eats my shrubsquote:Kitsap Washington.
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Pinecone Sample posted:Goat pooping on my patio and eats my shrubs Ctrl+F "fence" No Results 
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Hellblazer187 posted:There are lots of parts of the US where 135k buys a house or two. That's a huge life change. Yeah, but you end up in Buttfuck, NE or some decaying town that industry left.
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AITA for telling my mom not to get a tattoo? My mom (55) has decided she'd like to get another tattoo, which is cool and wouldn't be her first. My dad (60) said she's too old, and I defended her. I 100% support her getting a tattoo. My problem comes in with the what she wants. She'd like to get a tattoo on her lower back (known as a tramp stamp, a phrase I kind of hate) of my grandmother's name and her face on an angel. For context, my grandma passed away years ago, I was 15 and I'm now 33. This is problematic because I was named after my grandma. I can't imagine living in a world where my name is tattooed above my mom's rear end. I tried to calmly explain why this is not a thing I'm ok with. I told her there's other tattoos she could get to honor her mother, though I can guarantee she wouldn't approve of the tattoo or placement, but she is dead set on this. It escalated a bit, and I told her I wouldn't speak to her if she got it. She's upset and says I don't support her grief. AITA here?
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If you have goats get a fence. Livestock 101. If they can get into the neighbor's yard one's probably gonna wander onto the road and get hit by a car (well, goats might be smarter than that, but it's a basic responsibility concern). If you can't keep animals, don't keep animals.
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30-50 feral goats making GBS threads on my patio within 3-5 minutes
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my mom not to get a tattoo? Like I get it but Christ, OP is a soggy flannel blanket. Be glad it’s grandma and not a swastika or the below: 
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Sir DonkeyPunch posted:Ctrl+F "fence"
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My boyfriend is filthy, please helpquote:Me and my boyfriend been on and off for 8 years I am female 23 and he is male 22. We are at the age where we're settling down with each other maturely. He’s a great guy, makes me happy, we always have fun together .... but it’s one problem. He’s sooo freaking dirty. I come from a clean home where we routinely wash dishes, mop, take out trash, vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom. I never had roaches or mice. Him on the other ever since I first met him his house was disgusting; roaches everywhere (crawling on the TV, on the walls, layers of layers of mouse droppings that stick together, mouse chatter every from them biting into the styrofoam box where old food is left, dishes left in the bed room for days, bathroom sometimes without toilet paper, roaches in the bathroom) it’s just filthy. I have allergies and Asthma and his house always triggers me and cause me to wheeze and sneeze. ( His filth is Probably why we never stayed in a continuous long term relationship when I think about it, I can only deal with it for so long!!) when I think about it, it’s starts at home, I was 15 when I met him and his mom didn’t clean often and if she did it wouldn’t be thoroughly. Since that’s how he grew up he doesn’t see to have a problem with it. I have a seriously problem and I can’t live like this. I’m just too old to be cleaning up after a grown man. He doesn’t wash clothes, wears the same things multiple times a week, doesn’t wash his rear end or brush his teeth daily, dirty clothes everywhere, Mouse chatter everywhere, super dusty and he hasn’t changed his sheets in a month! I’m trying to wash his clothes now but his washer machine is broke and it’s certain things you have to do to make it work and he won’t show me. He’s getting angry at me like I’m nagging WHEN IM TRYING TO HELP HIM OUT!!! like I said I love him dearly but I feel like I can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself. What should I do. I don’t need to put up with this! I stop being a sugar baby to get back to him and I miss my lifestyle because I didn’t have to put up with this type of crap!!! He still live with his mom and I have Had 2 apartments already. He has a child (primarily live with her mother) and I have no kids. He’s a great guy and I love him dearly but I can’t deal with the filth it’s literally driving me insane. Im a very clean person!!! I’m not even a wife, I don’t feel like I should clean after someone who doesn’t clean up after themselves !!!! Especially if I’m trying and he’s giving me attitude because I’m interrupting his video games. Of course I should leave him but That’s easier said than done please I need some advice
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Pinecone Sample posted:My boyfriend is filthy, please help I stop being a sugar baby to get back to him and I miss my lifestyle
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