Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I tell my exes new wife that her ring was actually mine that I bought?

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

Lew means lion in some european languages and llewellyn, lewis, lou, leo, etc, are all names having to do with lions.

It’s not the most common name with that root, but it’s the name of a king that unified wales and not knowing it at all is p shameful.

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I tell my exes new wife that her ring was actually mine that I bought?

About 4 years ago I almost got engaged to my ex, but he called it off 3 weeks before our engagement event. He had really big issues with diamonds and I really wanted a diamond ring since young. I researched rings, and diamonds, and gold quality etc and because he couldn't put his views aside, he gave me the money and I got to buy whatever ring I wanted. I chose a simple solitaire ring and I remember it well. I put in lots of effort to find me a ring I really liked. Once he called off the engagement, I gave him the ring back. I know from speaking to him months after he had kept the ring and didn't know what to do with it.

I have since moved on, gotten married and have a child with someone else. Recently, through mutual friends on social media, I saw he got married. After feeding my curiosity, I looked through his new wife's profile, and I saw my ring! My ex was cheap in our relationship so I know it's the same ring. I'm two minded about whether I should tell her or get someone else to tell her, or just leave it.

Jewellery is sentimental, and that's such a low move for him to give his new wife my ring...he didn't even put in the effort to buy it...I did.

Power Khan posted:

...which might not be wrong, if that story plays in the UK

feedmegin posted:

Dude, we invented the sandwich.

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I have two gorgeous stepkids, my 15 year old stepdaughter Alex and my 12 year old stepson James. Things are usually.. usually...great in our home, I’m very lucky that I have 2 chill children that have made me feel very welcome.

Alex is extremely active, she is the golden retriever of the human world. My stepson James on the other hand is a basset hound... both incredibly adorable and awesome in their own way but two very different energy levels and so as a result two different body types. James’s doctor has advised me to change up his diet and portion sizes because he often complains of being tired/ sluggish and the doc would like him to lose some lbs, so I try and stay away from giving James candy and empty calories.

Both kids got equalish Christmas presents this year- James got a switch and assorted games, and Alex received an iPad. However, for stocking stuffers I ended up giving Alex some candy and I gave my son some lush bath bombs (those things are fricken expensive... and the kid goes NUTS for them) I had a feeling the kids were going to do a trade anyway, which is exactly what they did. James ended up swapping a bath bomb for some candy so he got a little amount anyhow, enough that he was able to eat candy without having surplus stock.

Now I got a phone call from their mom (who is also usually chill) and she was very upset on James’s behalf. She said that it was unfair of me to give them different stocking stuffers and that I was body shaming him, the list went on and on. I asked her if he mentioned anything, and she replied in the negative but something she said stuck with me ‘don’t think he doesn’t know what youre doing’ ...

now the kids live with me and dad full time and have for the past 11 years, so I like to think I know our son very well, but I’m worried that I’ve been too heavy handed. I spoke to James about it casually and he was surprised I even bought it up, but I would like some judgement so I can avoid things like this in future if it’s an assholey move... thank you Reddit

Licarn posted:

AITA for giving my stepdaughter candy for Christmas but consciously choosing not to give any to my stepson?
James’s doctor has advised me to change up his diet and portion sizes because he often complains of being tired/ sluggish and the doc would like him to lose some lbs, so I try and stay away from giving James candy and empty calories.

Cyks posted:

But how is it suppose to be pronounced? Lou-Ellen? As in the Simpsons character and Ellen DeGeneres?

If you had to decide on a nickname before they were even born, you gave them a bad name. Just give them the nickname.

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Hi everyone. Let me provide some details to this so I can get a genuine response to my actions. My sister is 20, 4 years younger than me, and has been playing sports her whole life. Just over three years ago, she discovered she has a torn ligament in her elbow that would require surgery to repair.

Obviously, with any elbow surgery, this meant she would be in a splint for a while. My entire family, including myself, tried to convince her at the time of her injury to get the surgery, however, she refused and continued to play spots such as softball and volleyball which ultimately made the injury worse.

Around 14 months ago, I got engaged to my boyfriend of 5 years. Almost immediately upon me asking my sister to be my maid of honor, she jumped into action on finally getting her elbow surgery. Calling doctors, scheduling appointments, etc etc. My family and I were obviously glad that she was finally opting for the surgery considering how much worse things had gotten for her within the last year.

Thinking she would schedule her surgery far enough away from the wedding so that she wouldn’t be in a sling anymore, I thought nothing of it. However, as soon as my fiancé and I settled on a date for our wedding, my sister scheduled her elbow surgery for exactly a week before. I’m getting married in 3 weeks.

Obviously, I want my sister to be pain free and finally get her surgery. But, like any human being, there is a selfish side of me. I don’t want her to be the maid of honor in my wedding because she’ll be wearing a sling in all of the photos and videos from the wedding.

Now, most of my family thinks that I’m a horrible person for even considering not letting my sister be part of the wedding party. I feel as though she could’ve waited after the wedding to get the surgery, considering she’s waited 3 years already, or had enough time to get the surgery in advance of the wedding.

So reddit, am I the rear end in a top hat for wanting to kick my sister out of my bridal party because she’ll be wearing a sling at my wedding? I appreciate any feedback, good or bad.

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I have been so confused and hurt for the past day since he messaged me the video followed with a ‘we’re done.’ The girl in the video is of similar race to me and her lower half looks a bit like mine but that is where physical similarities end. The video isn’t of very high quality but you can make out she has a different nose, hair, face in general (only jawline is very similar). He won’t listen to sense. He says her moans sound distinctly like mine and it ‘sounds a lot like my voice.’ He believes it could have been from when I was around 16, just before we met.

I have denied it and sent him various print screens proving it isn’t me such as nose differences, she has nipple piercings and she has a gap in her teeth which I don’t etc. He still won’t believe me. I’m in shock. After eight years of being together he can’t seem to recognise me? I’m completely lost. I’ve gone as far as to try to locate the original actress but to no avail. I’ve also sent the video to close friends to see if they think the girl could be mistaken for me and they all disagree strongly.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you.

Update - the girl in the video looks to be in her early 20’s. He’s convinced it’s me at 16. I had my first tattoo at 17. The girl has no visible tattoos.

Lucrece posted:

My (25F) partner (24M) of eight years watched a porn video and is convinced the girl in the video is me.

Lucrece posted:

My (25F) partner (24M) of eight years watched a porn video and is convinced the girl in the video is me.

EIDE Van Hagar posted:

Lew means lion in some european languages and llewellyn, lewis, lou, leo, etc, are all names having to do with lions.

It’s not the most common name with that root, but it’s the name of a king that unified wales and not knowing it at all is p shameful.

Lucrece posted:

My (25F) partner (24M) of eight years watched a porn video and is convinced the girl in the video is me.

He believes it could have been from when I was around 16, just before we met.
Update - the girl in the video looks to be in her early 20’s. He’s convinced it’s me at 16. I had my first tattoo at 17. The girl has no visible tattoos.

FoolyCharged posted:

Yikes. Hopefully the wife recovers from the mad hormones enough to realize it was a poo poo situation all around.

That said, shouldn't this dude have had paternity leave for this set up?

Colonel Cancer posted:

I am the child with a very uncommon and foreign name (also an immigrant from very non-english nation) and lemme tell ya... It sucks until you stop giving a gently caress

Lucrece posted:

Update...He’s convinced it’s me at 16. I had my first tattoo at 17. The girl has no visible tattoos.

SilvergunSuperman posted:

Sorry, I realize this is ridiculous but uh, what does that prove?

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First time poster, gently caress my organization of this post and so on.

A bit of a backstory, I guess? I've never posted and don't even know where to start.

My partner and I have been together for almost 5 years and this is our first big issue.

He graduated university last year and is working in his field while I just started my Master's this year.

He received and accepted a great job offer in a lab where my uncle also works. (This will be important later) This is a large lab with many different specialties and such.

A woman who was recently hired asked him out for drinks, she said that a few of them were going to hang out and invited him along. She asked for his number so she could text him when they solidified the time and place.

She called him last week and asked if he still wanted to go out, which he accepted. When he went out, she was the only one there. According to what he told me, he asked where everyone else was and she said that she didn't invite anyone else. He told her that he must have misunderstood, as he has a partner and was only interested in a friendly night out.

She claimed that that's all she wanted too. He told me all about this and I mentioned that I found it weird, but whatever.

Nothing I can do can stop someone from cheating/being an rear end in a top hat, so I don't really worry about it. Plus, when we first started dating, one of his female friends told him she was interested and he told me about it/showed me the messages where he shut her down.

I did however, get a bad vibe from this woman, which I've never felt around his friends. Obviously, that's not exactly scientific proof though.

A few days later, she asks him to go for coffee, so he says "Sure, where would you like to meet?" But she tells him to come over to her place, since her ex has her kids.

He tells me this and I thought it was still a bit strange, seeing as she barely knows him, but meh. He tells me he's going over and he'll be back shortly. He was gone for about an hour. When he gets home, she immediately calls him "just to chat." He sat in the same room as me the whole time, but they were on the phone for almost an hour.

The next day comes and she calls him at 11PM (He works afternoons so he stays on that schedule even on his off days and I'm on winter break from school, so we were both still up) and asks him to come over for coffee.

I get weirded out and say something akin to "Aren't these booty call hours? Why is she inviting you to her home at 11PM?" He shrugs it off and tells me that he won't be long, and here's where it gets dicey.

He comes back home just after 2AM. At this point, I'm getting a bad feeling. I ask him how his visit was and reiterate that I found it a bit weird. He told me I was just being jealous, which surprised me since we've always been open about our friends and poo poo. This pissed me off so I hopped in my car, text one of our mutual friends, and went for a drive and talked it over with her in order to get a fresh perspective.

She points out that she's been friends with my partner for 10 years and has never once invited him over at 11PM, and she thinks it's sketchy that she's calling him instead of texting, especially since he hates talking on the phone, but seemingly has no problems talking to her. (She's called him at least 5 times a day since he gave her his number.)

But she calms me down by reminding me that my partner is very much an extrovert who likes to make friends and is sometimes too polite for his own good, so he probably just didn't want to shrug her off or upset her.

Which is true since I've seen him eat an entire plate of disgusting food just so he didn't upset the person who made it.

He also hasn't been acting any different and he didn't lie about where he was going.

Fast forward to today, we got up early to go to the gym, where he tells me that he wants to take me out for breakfast because he wants to talk to me.

He tells me that he's not speaking to that woman anymore and tells me that he's been getting red flags ever since she spoke to him the first time and he apologized for not noticing them.

But then he tells me that when he went over at 11PM the second day they hung out, she was hanging out in a sports bra and booty workout shorts.

And I know, dress however you want. That's fine. But not only is this Canada and it's -20C outside, I've never hung out with one of my male friends in just a bra and short shorts unless we're literally at the gym.

He told me he found it weird and asked her if she needed to get changed before they hung out and that she replied with "Oh no, this is just how I hang around the house." Despite her apparently being fully dressed the first time they hung out.

She also told him not to tell anyone at their job that they were hanging out, but numerous people have been asking him about what happened between them because she told everyone that he came over to her house. (He showed me these texts too, from 3 coworkers saying that she told all of them that he "spent the night" at her place.)

He also mentioned (and showed me) that when he gave her his number originally, she said "I'll text you a few blank texts so you know I'll be calling you soon." And he found that weird.

Then today, while we were at the gym, she text him. The texts went;

Her: Let me know when you're alone so I can call you.

Partner: Why do I have to be alone to talk on the phone?

Her: I don't want -me- around.

Partner: Why? I think his is becoming inappropriate, so please respect my boundaries and don't contact me anymore.

Her: I didn't mean it like that! I just don't want her around, but I don't want to ruin our friendship

She then called him 10-12 times in a row, and he blocked her number.

I'm really uncertain what to think about this, considering he didn't tell me about all of these red flags until today.

I kind of said "I loving told you so, but ok." And we mostly finished breakfast in silence since I didn't know how to respond.

When we got home, my uncle called me from work, which has Never Happened in the history of my life, so I'm near panicking.

Uncle: Hey! Are you ok! What's going on!?

Me: ??? Nothing? I'm fine?

Uncle: I got worried. -woman- told me and everyone working today (they have the week off for holidays, but there were a few people in today finishing their paperwork. Also, this woman didn't know that my uncle obviously knew who I was) that -partner- went over to her place the other night but wouldn't gently caress her. She loving lost it saying that she's going to confront him for blocking her number.

Me: She did hit on him and he shut her down, as far as I know.

Uncle: I'm not surprised, she invited a few other married/unavailable men out for drinks too. I don't know what's happening, but I thought I'd let you know.

So... yeah. I don't know what to believe or what to do. My partner went to take a nap after I told him what my uncle said, but he was extremely pissed.

Not only am I still concerned that something weird might have happened, I'm also annoyed that he will now have to deal with work drama because he didn't listen to me when I mentioned how shady she was being.

I'm just wondering if I should start packing my poo poo now or..

Thanks for reading this loving novel, folks.

TL;DR! My partner started hanging out with a shady woman who ultimately wants his dick and I'm unsure about the potential of him cheating.

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Well, everyone who commented on the original post was correct.

My partner left his phone out the other day and I saw some very inappropriate texts from his coworker. I opened his phone and checked them out and they were absolutely sleeping together.

He had originally told me he blocked her number and that he would never put our relationship at risk.

When I showed him the texts and asked him what the gently caress his problem was, he told me I was a "delusional oval office" and told me I "completely misunderstood" the texts.

He also called the police and demanded they charge me with assault, because he got extremely defensive when I approached him and was less than an inch away from my face screaming at me and I pushed him away because I was so scared.

A friend of mine was here when it happened and despite her telling the police what happened, I was told that I had to leave our home because I'm the aggressor, even though my name is on the lease.

He also called the police after I left and claimed (with no proof) that I was suicidal and mentally unstable. Even though I was sitting in a Starbucks with my mother. They demanded I come to the station for a risk assessment, but I declined as the police have been nothing but misogynistic and demeaning towards me during this.

I'm currently at a friend's home, trying to find a place to live.

I was not arrested, though he is still pushing for me to be charged. I have a lawyer who was recommended by a local women's shelter, but I'll have to see.

TL;DR- My partner was cheating on me and attempted to have me arrested when I confronted him. He also gets to keep the apartment, because the police hate women.

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Basically, I found out that my partner was cheating and when I confronted him, he was screaming at me, threatening me, and calling me derogatory names less than an inch from my face.

I was terrified that he was going to hit me, so I lightly pushed him away so I could get out of that situation, police were called and he demanded I be charged with assault.

The police were extremely unprofessional and despite the death threats and harassment, I was told to leave my home, even though I'm on the lease.

I know I shouldn't have pushed him, I fully understand. He had me cornered and I thought he was going to hit me.

I spoke to a counselor at my local woman's shelter and I've spoken to a lawyer, but I'm just looking for any advice that could help my situation. I'm going to have to drop out of school and if I do get charged, I will lose the only, small part time job I have.

Thank you.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for laughing uncontrollably at my son when he asked me to replace a Christmas gift he broke out of anger?