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Midnight Voyager
Jul 2, 2008

Lipstick Apathy

Cacator posted:

Can't she just do it for free anyways but do a really lovely job of it?

Oh like that rear end in a top hat wouldn't show it to everyone to shittalk how bad she is at art either.

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Miserable Maid
Apr 22, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for preemptively buying my wife tampons?

So I don’t track my wife’s period but I’ve been with her long enough to get a sense of where it falls every month. She keeps them in the cabinet with the toilet paper, and I saw she only had one left.

So when I went shopping today I picked up a package because her period is “coming up”. Figured I’d be nice. Anyway when I got home and she saw them she got upset and said it was weird that I did it on my own and kind of creepy.

Is this something men just aren’t supposed to do? I didn’t do it with any previous girlfriends but I also didn’t live with my previous girlfriends for 8 years. AITA?

This one was so weird. Like, you even see it in the comments on Reddit, that's an awesome thing to do and honestly should be a no brainier for a happy relationship.

Maybe wife grew up in a lovely family that shamed her over periods?


Bruceski posted:

He didn't make the fiancee do anything. Nobody dumps someone because one person from their past says they're poo poo, he simply gave her a way to parse things she was seeing but hadn't admitted.

Yeah, the Fiancee was obviously pretty sure, or at least had a gut feeling, about weird poo poo going down. She just called the daughter to go from 90 to 100% certain she should run.

Miserable Maid fucked around with this message at 06:32 on Jan 10, 2020

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

quote:

So basically, he explained that he doesn't touch himself there, ever, because it's "gay". Therefore he can't clean the area specifically and just lets it get wet in the shower, that's it. Other than this his hygiene is fine. I only became aware of the issue when we started getting more intimate.

Yes. You read it right: He thinks washing his penis would be gay. What the hell. In fact he thinks any touching of anything between his legs is gay. This was completely ridiculous and I started asking him what about masturbating? What about wiping after he poops??

Well it turns out, the reason he uses a bidet is so he won't have to wipe. Using a bidet is not a problem to me, and I've never experienced a problem with his hygiene in that regard, but the fact he installs a bidet not out of cleanliness preference but to avoid "being gay" by wiping his OWN rear end is just.... I can't believe that's a real thing. I asked what about public toilets? He said he never poops anywhere besides his home so it's not a problem. That's bullshit, he's pooped at mine. And I don't have a bidet. So put two and two together.

Then as for masturbating, he apparently doesn't do that either! That's also "gay." What the hell. He admitted he used to masturbate when he was younger but it "he felt weird" doing it so he stopped. Uh... I'm not saying he's required to jerk off or something, I don't care, it's again the insane reasoning behind it.

He says "any contact a guy has with the male rear end or pubic areas is in a gay realm." I said that makes absolutely no sense when it's your own body. It's not GAY to tend to your OWN self, gay involves OTHER people!

This even extends into our sex life. I found out the reason he didn't want to try "doggy style" is because that's a "gay position." I'M NOT A DUDE, HOW IT IS GAY LMAO. Like this is so loving ridiculous.

This became an argument because I couldn't help showing how I felt about this bullshit. Like, is every girl a lesbian now because we wipe after peeing?? And girls who use tampons? Where does his logic end? Of course, he thinks "that's different" but can't explain how. Well what about all the other men who do jerk off, are they all gay too? He said, "I'm just saying you're dealing with a dick, it's kind of a gay act." He got more mad at me the more I tried to reason with him. I just gave up eventually and we haven't spoken much since, this was yesterday. I can't talk to him if he's going to be belligerent.

I really don't think I can just get over this. Both how he refuses to properly clean himself and also that the way he thinks about it is so irrational. I know it sounds horrible to say this but I almost feel like I've lost some respect for him. Before now I always saw him as a very mature intelligent person. Now I'm questioning that but am not sure if it's fair of me.

Has anyone else had a boyfriend with this issue before? Are there a lot of dudes who think like this? How do I get him to stop doubling down and understand why calling it gay makes no sense?

TL;DR: My boyfriend won't wash his genitals, among other things, because he believes touching his body there is "gay". All he did when I pointed out how that doesn't make any sense is get defensive. I had no clue he was this neurotic about intentionally neglecting his personal hygiene. Which is a problem for obvious reasons. What do you do when your partner persists in believing something crazy?

Mr. Fall Down Terror
Jan 24, 2018

by Fluffdaddy

Miserable Maid posted:

Yeah, the Fiancee was obviously pretty sure, or at least had a gut feeling, about weird poo poo going down. She just called the daughter to go from 90 to 100% certain she should run.

yeah. if you have a small child, and you are about to marry a person whose child refuses to speak to them, it is a wise idea to investigate that whole situation on behalf of your child, let alone your able-to-cope adult self

wheatpuppy
Apr 25, 2008

YOU HAVE MY POST!

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.
Clearly, he used to think about gay sex while touching himself so it's his penis's fault.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

Wouldn't want to be accidentally transported to the "gay realm"

But yeah getting some strong closet vibes here

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

Yo cumshitter we found your failure of a son.

Ugato
Apr 9, 2009

We're not?

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

I can’t even begin to imagine what created this

E: ^ beaten with the answer apparently

SilvergunSuperman
Aug 7, 2010

ad090 posted:

AITA for making my dad's fiancee dump him right before the wedding?

I love how often reddit sees themselves in the shitstain being described and rush to find excuses it might not be true.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for refusing to buy Chick-fil-a for my pregnant wife?

I really don't know if I'm an rear end in a top hat. Some people are calling me a prick, but I don't think I'm in the wrong.

My wife is currently 6 months pregnant. And we are both super excited for our future. Though, we did have some hurdles after the pregnancy.

Yesterday, my wife asked me for a grilled chicken sandwich from Chick-fil-a. I drive over, and get her one, and myself something. When I come home, she takes a bite out of her sandwich, then she throws it into a wall. I was surprised, and did whisper "What the gently caress". Then she says "I said no pickles". There were absolutely no pickles in her sandwich. I even checked afterwards. I told her that, and she immediately apologized.

She wanted my sandwich. I just said no. Then, I ate my sandwich. I also told her that I'm not going to Chick-fil-a for her cravings, and that if she wants ti go there that she can do it by herself.

She told her friends, who are calling me an rear end in a top hat for doing that. I really don't think I am.

So, AITA?

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

This is unrecoverable, but I think step 1 would be to call his parents and laugh at them.

SilvergunSuperman
Aug 7, 2010

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to buy Chick-fil-a for my pregnant wife?

I really don't know if I'm an rear end in a top hat. Some people are calling me a prick, but I don't think I'm in the wrong.

My wife is currently 6 months pregnant. And we are both super excited for our future. Though, we did have some hurdles after the pregnancy.

Yesterday, my wife asked me for a grilled chicken sandwich from Chick-fil-a. I drive over, and get her one, and myself something. When I come home, she takes a bite out of her sandwich, then she throws it into a wall. I was surprised, and did whisper "What the gently caress". Then she says "I said no pickles". There were absolutely no pickles in her sandwich. I even checked afterwards. I told her that, and she immediately apologized.

She wanted my sandwich. I just said no. Then, I ate my sandwich. I also told her that I'm not going to Chick-fil-a for her cravings, and that if she wants ti go there that she can do it by herself.

She told her friends, who are calling me an rear end in a top hat for doing that. I really don't think I am.

So, AITA?

I can't speak from experience but movies have taught me that's like a 3/10 crazy pregnant mood thing, suck it up buttercup!

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to buy Chick-fil-a for my pregnant wife?

Look, you do whatever your pregnant wife asks. If she wants you to feed her a stray cat, you better get out a can of tuna and some scratch resistant gloves.

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to buy Chick-fil-a for my pregnant wife?

I really don't know if I'm an rear end in a top hat. Some people are calling me a prick, but I don't think I'm in the wrong.

My wife is currently 6 months pregnant. And we are both super excited for our future. Though, we did have some hurdles after the pregnancy.

Yesterday, my wife asked me for a grilled chicken sandwich from Chick-fil-a. I drive over, and get her one, and myself something. When I come home, she takes a bite out of her sandwich, then she throws it into a wall. I was surprised, and did whisper "What the gently caress". Then she says "I said no pickles". There were absolutely no pickles in her sandwich. I even checked afterwards. I told her that, and she immediately apologized.

She wanted my sandwich. I just said no. Then, I ate my sandwich. I also told her that I'm not going to Chick-fil-a for her cravings, and that if she wants ti go there that she can do it by herself.

She told her friends, who are calling me an rear end in a top hat for doing that. I really don't think I am.

So, AITA?

Hold the line. There's a psychic war going on in her brain right now as her brain matter is slowly siphoned off to the fetus. She may be fine one day, a mess the next, be unable to even stand smelling broccoli, or even become irate over minor issues. You need to be her rock, her anchor in all of this. Use advanced psychological techniques to put her at ease while letting her face her new-found fear of pickles. Place jars of pickles in random, but obscure locations in the house, as these will concentrate and dispel her negative psychic emanations. Beware of the psychically charged pickles, however, as they will become powerful reality warping spiritual tools after this process is over.

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000


Ultra Carp

quote:

"any contact a guy has with the male rear end or pubic areas is in a gay realm."

Every man lives in three realms: the internal and the external and the gay. The internal is that realm of spiritual ends expressed in art, literature, morals, and religion. The external is that complex of devices, techniques, mechanisms, and instrumentalities by means of which we live. The gay realm is any contact a guy has with the male rear end or pubic areas.

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000


Ultra Carp

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to buy Chick-fil-a for my pregnant wife?

So, AITA?

Gonna be brutal when she gets pissed & throws the baby into the wall

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000


Ultra Carp

DandyLion posted:

This is like me and my ex wife but in reverse.

:rimshot:

Uncle Lizard
Sep 28, 2012

by Athanatos
Nvmd

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000


Ultra Carp

PetraCore posted:

Clearly a REAL man would walk around the house in BUDK night vision goggles and blind himself when he accidentally flicks on a light.

MERICA!

Barudak
May 7, 2007

The Gay Realm sounds like what people fight for in Mortal Kombat Slashfic.

avoid doorways
Jun 6, 2010

'twas brillig
Gun Saliva

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

/r/relationships: is every girl a lesbian now

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse
Husband went to casino for my birthday, without me.
So yesterday was my birthday, had to work a 12 hour shift through the whole day. My coworkers and job are amazing and I had a great day.

My husband had some leftovers heated up for me when I got home which was super nice of him.

So I end up falling asleep late, and wake up and call him to see where he's at.

He's at the casino with his buddy... Idk if I'm overreacting, or if I should just end it all now.

We are both 29 been together almost 10 years, and have two sons together.

About a year and a half now he has had issues with drugs and talking inappropriately with other women.

I have begged him not to leave in the middle of the night, it makes me worry tremendously if he's cheating or overdosed somewhere.

He just leaves, no note, nothing. Idk I don't even want to talk to him. How do I comprehend this situation? I feel like if he wants to act single, go ahead. I work my rear end off, he has no job and he's the one who gets to go have fun? I'm really exhausted from it all and would appreciate any advice.

Edit: I had no idea I would so many responses. I feel as though I should clarify a few things. Most of you are right, it's not about my birthday, it's not about him having fun without me. It was the point of disrespecting me when I ask him not to do something that is so standard in relationships.

For a good 8 years we had an amazing relationship, we were best friends, he was my home. He held the same job that whole time, provided for his family. He is all I know, I thought I would grow old with him and never wanted another.

He has made so many mistakes, he has broken me, he is lost. But I started seeing who he used to be again and I held on despite not being really happy.

He has been getting better with his drug addiction, I told him I would not give up on him and for my kids I will make sure they have their dad for a long time.

He does not gamble, that just happened to be what he was doing last night.

I know I'm a fool, most days I want to run... Idk why I can't.

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse
My husbands balls are so smelly it makes me sick
Hi! I (F22) and my husband (M24) have been married for 4 years and are highschool sweethearts! We have one son together, and we love each other so so much. I love everything about him, expect one thing. His balls are so smelly, it makes me want to puke. I can’t help it, i feel horrible. everytime he scratches “down there”, it makes me sick. I ask him to wash his hands when he does and he gets so defensive and leaves the room. I’m honestly at my whits end and don’t care, I need him to wash his hands. If he goes to the bathroom, the stench stays in the air. I can’t go in there for like 30 minutes.

What is happening?? He showers. I bought him those expensive boxers that keep “cool down there”.

It hasn’t always been this way. When we first met, it was never this bad. As he’s gotten older, and gained it a bit of weight I’ve noticed it’s just turned into this musky horrible smell.

Please reddit help me!

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse
Boyfriend (33M) charging me (30F) rent for weekends
So I (30F) have been with my boyfriend (33M) for two years. I've started to stay three nights at his house at weekends.

I work Monday - Thursday and pay full time rent at my own place in another town. He works at weekends and is a full time student. He only has to pay for bills as his house is owned by his mum.

He wants me to pay towards energy bills but especially over the winter due to the electric heaters. I'm yet to know if he also wants water and gas payment.

In December I stayed at his house for 7 nights the entire month as I was away with family. We've been using the heaters since November.

We alternate paying for food shopping and I always pay for travel to/from his house (two hours by train each way). Sometimes he will drive me 20 minutes to the train station on Sundays. I'm very careful to turn off lights in the house and unplug appliances I'm not using. I barely eat anything in his house (orange juice and toast) as he doesn't keep it stocked up. I agree I could take the metro to go food shopping myself. Usually I go out for lunch or dinner with friends anyway because he works shifts in a restaurant (he eats meals on duty). When he comes home he doesn't eat with me, maybe just a snack. The electric heaters have pushed up the cost (the house is freezing even with the heaters on), but if we didn't use them it would be unbearable.

To add to my contribution I clean every weekend, do the laundry, and pay for Netflix.

TL;DR I have never been asked to pay towards bills for weekends before - is this fair?

avoid doorways
Jun 6, 2010

'twas brillig
Gun Saliva

Power Khan posted:

My husbands balls are so smelly it makes me sick

Married at 18 to a guy who doesn't wash his balls and from the comments is a fast food addict and gained 150 lbs over the past 2 years for a total of 360.

fins
May 31, 2011

Floss Finder
"doesn't wash his" is a good search term

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Im really hoping one of them is like "he doesnt wash his unconditional love and respect for me due to constantly meeting and exceeding my wants and desires and I want to do something nice for him" but instead itll be some new baffling thing like he takes his poops out of the toliet to inspect them then refuses to wash his hands

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Barudak posted:

Im really hoping one of them is like "he doesnt wash his unconditional love and respect for me due to constantly meeting and exceeding my wants and desires and I want to do something nice for him" but instead itll be some new baffling thing like he takes his poops out of the toliet to inspect them then refuses to wash his hands

That's weirdly specific

MagusofStars
Mar 31, 2012



Power Khan posted:

Husband went to casino for my birthday, without me.
My husband had some leftovers heated up for me when I got home which was super nice of him.
Cons: drug addict, “talks inappropriately” with other women, disappears with no warning, doesn’t work, I’m not happy.
Pros: he can operate a microwave successfully

Should I stay with him? :iiam:

empty sea
Jul 17, 2011

gonna saddle my seahorse and float out to the sunset
Christ. I'd rather die alone with 15 lizards than deal one time with a man who refuses to wipe his rear end/clean his dick.

I'd be like the Home Alone Bird Lady but bearded dragons in the summer. And I'd be loving happier because I never had to choke down my own puke trying to get near my bf/husband's unwashed junk.

Sunswipe
Feb 5, 2016

by Fluffdaddy

Barudak posted:

Im really hoping one of them is like "he doesnt wash his unconditional love and respect for me due to constantly meeting and exceeding my wants and desires and I want to do something nice for him" but instead itll be some new baffling thing like he takes his poops out of the toliet to inspect them then refuses to wash his hands

Why would you need to take your poop out of the toilet to inspect it? Just look at it then drop it in the toilet like a totally normal person.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ba8-Vjn2a8c

DandyLion
Jun 24, 2010
disrespectul Deciever

Sunswipe posted:

Why would you need to take your poop out of the toilet to inspect it? Just look at it then drop it in the toilet like a totally normal person.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ba8-Vjn2a8c

Dammit beat me to it!

M_Sinistrari
Sep 5, 2008

Do you like scary movies?



Fatkraken posted:

Vegan diet doesn't make you lose weight, calorie deficit does. Just eat more :shrug:

I'm wondering if there's some malnutrition happening as well since it has happened where someone went vegan and found out their bodies had trouble processing vitamins from supplements. I remember some years back a vegan blogger ended up diagnosed with that problem and after trying all other options, she had to start eating some meat because of how severe her condition was. Vegan community vilified the hell out of her insisting if she was a true vegan she should've accepted dying over eating meat.

AngryRobotsInc
Aug 2, 2011

New vegan girlfriend might also feel like crap because it's such a sudden change in diet. It's definitely possible to feel like warmed over garbage when you completely change your diet over a really short period, even if what you're eating is theoretically healthier.

McSpanky
Jan 16, 2005






fins posted:

"doesn't wash his" is a good search term

Love him to death, but my [25F] boyfriend [22M] doesn't wash his feet and they smell like death

I have been with my man for going on 3 years. We are very much in love and our relationship is perfect, except for this issue! His feet smell so bad. He thinks he doesn't have to wash his feet in the shower because, according to him, the water and soap collects on the floor of the shower, so he doesn't have to scrub them.

He is so wrong.

His hygiene otherwise is very good and he doesn't neglect any other body parts, thankfully. Just his feet. He is very into fitness, so as you can imagine he gets very sweaty. He showers twice a day, but his feet still stank.

I told him he actually has to wash them, but he insists they are getting clean in the shower and doesn't understand why they smell so rank.

It's really bad, y'all. I don't like going down on him because my face is too close to his stinky feet for my liking.

How do I convince this grown man to wash his drat feet?! :/

TLDR Boyfriend won't wash his feet. They smell of spoiled milk and rancid meat left in the Alabama sun for a fortnite.

This one was a year old but, holy poo poo what kind of alien flesh-eating athlete's foot does it take to cause this

Ratzap
Jun 9, 2012

Let no pie go wasted
Soiled Meat

DemoneeHo posted:

My (23F) boyfriend (24M) of almost a year doesn't wash his genitals.

This one makes me think he's fighting his internal gay demon and losing. She shouldn't be too surprised if she gets dumped for a boyfriend once he snaps. Whatever is going on, that boy is not comfortable with his sexuality, not in the slightest and it's going to explode some day.

ishikabibble
Jan 21, 2012

QuarkJets posted:

That's weirdly specific

Hey now, they could be german.

Why else do german toilets have poop inspection shelves, if not to take it out and examine further?

McSpanky
Jan 16, 2005






Ratzap posted:

This one makes me think he's fighting his internal gay demon and losing. She shouldn't be too surprised if she gets dumped for a boyfriend once he snaps. Whatever is going on, that boy is not comfortable with his sexuality, not in the slightest and it's going to explode some day.

In fact it's totally normal to be so extremely straight that NO MAN touches your dick.

DandyLion
Jun 24, 2010
disrespectul Deciever

McSpanky posted:

In fact it's totally normal to be so extremely straight that NO MAN touches your dick.

Considering the dude is full of jizz I'm not sure how he could be any more gay.

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Megillah Gorilla
Sep 22, 2003

If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.



Bread Liar

Power Khan posted:

Boyfriend (33M) charging me (30F) rent for weekends
So I (30F) have been with my boyfriend (33M) for two years. I've started to stay three nights at his house at weekends.

I work Monday - Thursday and pay full time rent at my own place in another town. He works at weekends and is a full time student. He only has to pay for bills as his house is owned by his mum.

Living rent free in mummy's house but he still wants her to pay utilities for when she's there.

Two good reasons, right there, for why you should dumb his worthless arse.

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