|
Master Twig posted:So what do you call someone who has a healthy social circle that includes plenty of women, has healthy attitudes towards women and has no trouble socializing with, working with, and working for women, takes care of them-self and eats well and gets exercise, and makes good efforts to try to go on dates and meet women, yet can't seem to get beyond more than a couple dates and gets rejected over and over despite putting in their best effort. Like, involuntarily celibate, but without all the negative and toxic bullshit that incels believe. You do that for over a decade with no luck and then suddenly you find someone that you work with and it all clicks. At least that's what happened for me. Those years really sucked though, but you just gotta power through.
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 04:37
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 29, 2024 22:47 |
|
|
ranbo das posted:You do that for over a decade with no luck and then suddenly you find someone that you work with and it all clicks. Yep, second that.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 04:39
|
|
|
Oh god thank you for reminding me I haven’t had to hear my coworker’s phone do that since covid hit (because telework not that she’s dead)
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 05:10
|
|
|
ranbo das posted:You do that for over a decade with no luck and then suddenly you find someone that you work with and it all clicks. It’s this. I always told myself that all is fair in love and war. Dating is a rough numbers game. Especially these days with bumble and tinder and all. Remember if they are not interested in you after the first or second date, they’re the wrong fit for you! No shame in that. Just keep on keeping on and some day you’ll find the right one. I would recommend trying to learn from every experience though. Learn if any actions or ways you communicated might have come off wrong, but also learn what YOU like and don’t like in a person and what qualities in a person really help you shine as your own true self! Also keep working on your own qualities that others might like in you. Your physical and mental Heath. Maintaining mental fitness so you can bring happiness into a relationship is so often forgotten. The purpose of relationships is not to glean happiness out of the other person, but to share both people’s happiness into a common core. You have to be happy first before you can ever be happy with someone else. Some day you’ll notice that someone you meet not only is really exemplifying all you learned about others, but matching all you learned about who and what you like in a mate, and it will just pop. Have fun and don’t sweat it.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 05:16
|
|
|
Also a lot of people are just boring and don’t “do” memes and can’t poo poo post to save their life and that’s the majority, really. It’s hard to find someone who’s actually cool and gets loss.jpg. My wife does. Hell, she rocks at shitposting and shares the most dank DS9 memes. I love her even more for it.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 05:18
|
|
|
ranbo das posted:You do that for over a decade with no luck and then suddenly you find someone that you work with and it all clicks. Thirding this. Not quite a decade, but I started late and had to go through some actual abusive relationships which imo don't count. Also, be comfortable being deliberately single. Like, explicitly, deliberately, happy with your own company and not looking for more than that. You'll be surprised what the universe does to foil you.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 05:18
|
|
|
ranbo das posted:You do that for over a decade with no luck and then suddenly you find someone that you work with and it all clicks. You have my axe. I mean that is how it worked out for me as well. Chin up, hard up goon.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 05:28
|
|
|
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 06:40
|
|
|
Master Twig posted:So what do you call someone who has a healthy social circle that includes plenty of women, has healthy attitudes towards women and has no trouble socializing with, working with, and working for women, takes care of them-self and eats well and gets exercise, and makes good efforts to try to go on dates and meet women, yet can't seem to get beyond more than a couple dates and gets rejected over and over despite putting in their best effort. Like, involuntarily celibate, but without all the negative and toxic bullshit that incels believe. Just a guess, but it's more common than you think: are you waiting until the third or fourth date to mention the series of war crimes you committed in Bosnia? Because women hate that. Just be upfront, and if they don't like it, they aren't the one for you!
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 06:59
|
|
|
I just caught up with the thread, and pages have passed, but I must let it be known I was not exasperated at Duneposting, . I have no trouble with Dune. I was irritated at the meme that was using autistic as an insult, I think that's really lovely, but forgot to update and the other post was caught in the crossfire. Please let not the good name of Dune be besmirched. Here's a twitter of Dune memes for you in supplication: https://twitter.com/DankDuneMemes?s=09
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 07:10
|
|
|
Blind Rasputin posted:Have fun and don’t sweat it. I highlight this part because I can say that I found it hard to have fun, esp. with dates that I thought went well, but then didn't go any further. It... It can be really sad/crushing to try and open oneself up, only for it to be not reciprocated. I can definitely understand (though not condone AT ALL) at becoming bitter over it. The only thing I could suggest is to be yourself (and not the 'yourself' that one is at work or at a social situation that expects specific behaviours) sincerely. Sincerity, and not just being truthful, but being unapologetically open, really helps. And then there is the times when you recognize that the sincere type of yourself isn't necessarily who you want to be. That's a tougher thing to deal with, and is hard to do. But I feel it's not exactly relevant here. At least not just yet.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 08:27
|
|
|
The reason why incels tend to stay that way is the way their (understandable) frustration at dating and life in general turns into a poisonous attitude of entitlement. No-one wants to have anything to do with a person who thinks they are entitled to their "fair share" of someone's affection. The tragedy of course is that once you go down that path, it's very unlikely that you'll ever become self-aware enough to correct yourself on that. As long as you keep increasing the odds in your favor by working on yourself, and don't allow yourself to become bitter, someone's bound to turn up eventually. Most probably right when you least expect it.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 08:28
|
|
|
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 08:48
|
|
|
lmao
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 08:50
|
|
|
I found my partner on shitposting discord server when dealing with difficult relationship at the time, you will find the right person eventually, just don't try to work bad relationships with no future like I used to, not worth the nerves even when you are desperate for any human warmth like I used to
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 09:28
|
|
|
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 09:32
|
|
|
Blind Rasputin posted:Also a lot of people are just boring and don’t “do” memes and can’t poo poo post to save their life and that’s the majority, really. It’s hard to find someone who’s actually cool and gets loss.jpg. My wife does. Hell, she rocks at shitposting and shares the most dank DS9 memes. I love her even more for it. 
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 09:43
|
|
|
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 09:45
|
|
|
 
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 10:08
|
|
|
It is rude to solicit other posters for threesomes.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 11:14
|
|
|
Master Twig posted:So what do you call someone who has a healthy social circle that includes plenty of women, has healthy attitudes towards women and has no trouble socializing with, working with, and working for women, takes care of them-self and eats well and gets exercise, and makes good efforts to try to go on dates and meet women, yet can't seem to get beyond more than a couple dates and gets rejected over and over despite putting in their best effort. Like, involuntarily celibate, but without all the negative and toxic bullshit that incels believe. contrary to the "supportive" advice posts above, soulmates aren't real and there is more to life than getting laid if you allow it. but when masturbation's lost its fun you're loving lonely.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 11:57
|
|
cowboy
|
Poops Mcgoots posted:I imagine the incels of higher socioeconomic status act out their misogyny in less obvious and explosive ways than mass shootings. 
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 12:26
|
|
|
 
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 13:26
|
|
|
Incredible
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 13:53
|
|
|
And these were... drawn from life?
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 13:59
|
|
|
Draw me like one of your Cool Esses
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:11
|
|
|
Kheldarn posted:Sunset from Australia Where's Luke?
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:23
|
|
|
Blind Rasputin posted:Also a lot of people are just boring and don’t “do” memes and can’t poo poo post to save their life and that’s the majority, really. It’s hard to find someone who’s actually cool and gets loss.jpg. My wife does. Hell, she rocks at shitposting and shares the most dank DS9 memes. I love her even more for it.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:30
|
|
|
Lincoln posted:Where's Luke? Which one, the regular or Bigger Luke?
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:31
|
|
|
Krowley posted:Which one, the regular or Bigger Luke? Edit: NOT Luuuke.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:43
|
|
|
One More Fat Nerd posted:My understanding is they're actually more minority heavy than the general US population. This is a sign they're running into some genuine socioeconomic problem, since it appears white privilege insulates men from going incel. A death befitting virgins
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:45
|
|
|
Somfin posted:Thirding this. Not quite a decade, but I started late and had to go through some actual abusive relationships which imo don't count. Yup, got married in my mid 30s to a great partner after being mopey about it since high school. Just focus on enjoying your freedom and making ill-advised choices before you have responsibilities to another person.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:49
|
|
|
Finally got around to watching Deadwood and, well. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWPcXZJV694
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 14:50
|
|
|
Bloody Hedgehog posted:Maybe the bolded part isn't as true as you think it is. Yeah, you could be running into a socialization issue that you're unaware of. Also, just gonna throw it out there, even a hint of desperation is extremely unappealing to most women. I would've guessed you might be shooting too high, attractiveness wise, but if you're actually getting first/second dates thats not normally the case. Just keep a good attitude and keep trying.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 16:04
|
|
|
biracial bear for uncut posted:Finally got around to watching Deadwood and, well.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 16:16
|
|
|
Krowley posted:Which one, the regular or Bigger Luke? Wow. I was not expecting to find a new dumbest loving thing on the internet today.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 16:39
|
|
|
Master Twig posted:So what do you call someone who has a healthy social circle that includes plenty of women, has healthy attitudes towards women and has no trouble socializing with, working with, and working for women, takes care of them-self and eats well and gets exercise, and makes good efforts to try to go on dates and meet women, yet can't seem to get beyond more than a couple dates and gets rejected over and over despite putting in their best effort. Like, involuntarily celibate, but without all the negative and toxic bullshit that incels believe. I can almost guarantee you're putting too much pressure on them. The solution to bad luck in dating is often dating several people at once and not immediately making plans after a date.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 16:42
|
|
|
One More Fat Nerd posted:Also, just gonna throw it out there, even a hint of desperation is extremely unappealing to most women. That's really the worst and most dangerous part about it, the feedback loop.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 16:52
|
|
|
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 17:03
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 29, 2024 22:47 |
|
|
Manager Hoyden posted:I can almost guarantee you're putting too much pressure on them. The solution to bad luck in dating is often dating several people at once and not immediately making plans after a date. Dating several people at once is not for everyone though, I find it extremely exhausting. Also I think that if by the 3rd or 4th date the other person would actually bring up plans for a sequel I would find that very charming. On a 1st date it would be a bit too much pressure, yeah, though all bets are off if it all happens to gel incredibly well.
|
|
#
?
Oct 14, 2020 17:44
|
|
