Hughlander posted:

AITA for “causing” a coworker to get written up by HR


People who make false HR complaints absolutely should not be promoted and be put in a position over anyone else.

spouse posted:

Me 42M my son 17M caught my wife (his mom) 40F cheating on me with a friend of mine also 42M

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when she asked him to take out the trash he responded with there's the door.

rotinaj posted:

This story is being very careful in not saying what the actual argument was over, and I wonder if they got to the topic of CRT and that’s why it got heated.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for “causing” a coworker to get written up by HR


People who make false HR complaints absolutely should not be promoted and be put in a position over anyone else.

Motronic posted:

You don't think that someone butting into a conversation to keep repeating "people without kids shouldn't have a say in what kids are taught" and then being judgy about this person decision to not have children (which bafflingly seems to be public knowledge) isn't enough to make things heated?

rotinaj posted:

I think that the narrator is biased and may not be telling us the truth, because he is being very careful not to mention the actual argument. If he was getting very mad about crt, she may have said "why are you so mad, you don't have kids in school?" And he is telling us a version that makes him a hero. This could be absolutely wrong, of course, which is why I'm just curious as to why the OP was being so careful not to mention it.

Half of Dracula posted:

post clearly says they were talking about student loans and coworker jumped in to talk some poo poo.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

CRT is such an incredible leap from "the student loan system" that you might as well just premise your posts on the idea that what really happened is the OP pulled a gun on her

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

or maybe an office argument about student loans is inherently uninteresting and irrelevant to the topic they want to discuss now? OP doesn't go into detail what kind of shoes anyone's wearing either, extremely sus imo

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My sister got married last weekend and I was one of her bridesmaids. The whole wedding process was very exhausting since my sister had many demands that most of us couldn't fulfill but tried our best anyway so we wouldn't be accused of ruining her say.

Before the wedding happened my sister made sure to let me know that my fiancé is not invited to the wedding because he'll be a distraction to me. She also said she's not giving any bridesmaid a plus one for that reason. I told her she must be out of her mind since my fiancé has been in our family for 5 years and our wedding is also few months away. I said none of us would be distracted and uninviting my fiancé for that reason is a poo poo move. My parents agreed with her and thought her decision was unreasonable. She said ok fine and said she'll invite him. He'd sit at a different table as a family guest rather than as my plus one since he's been part of our family for years, not simply my plus one. My sister later admitted that her original thought was unreasonable.

On the day of the wedding, after the ceremony as we were about to enter the venue , I walked in with my fiancé and the wedding planner came to me and said "the gentleman is not invited, bride's orders". I said the bride had reinvited him. She said "I know he's back on the guest list but I'm here to make sure the bride has her perfect day and her original request was for the bridal party to have no plus ones, she got pressured into it but I'm here to make sure I'll speak her mind when she can't do so because of her stress. Now please, the gentleman must go! " I told her to piss off, she's a wedding planner not a lawyer and if my sister still has an issue she can come and talk to me herself because my fiancé being reinvited was agreed upon after all.

The wedding planner threatened to kick me out as well until my parents and my sisters parents in law stepped in and said that's enough. I told her I don't want to make a scene just let us sit down and take it up with my sister.

The wedding went smoothly after that, thankfully no drama happened, but as soon as the party ended the wedding planner came to me and said that she hopes someone wears white to my own wedding if I couldnt respect the bride's wishes.

My sister called me TA for going against her wedding planner but also said her wedding planner was out of line trying to speak over her when it was agreed upon that my fiancé would be invited. I'm so confused now because I don't know if I'm TA or not.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling a wedding planner to piss off?

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Well basically as it’s the end of the year I’ve been looking at some top 10 film lists for the year and one of the films that caught my eye is Son of Saul, a Hungarian film about the holocaust. Me and the boyfriend like to watch films together so I asked him if he’d be interested in watching it. He said that he thought it sounded like typical Hollywood bullshit, and when I told him it wasn’t American he still said he didn’t want to see it. Well basically I pressed him for more details about why and he eventually admitted he didn’t want to see it because he “didn’t believe the official story of the holocaust.” I was honestly kind of shocked and just dropped it, but later I asked him about what he actually believed happened.

He said that while Hitler did order the Jews into camps and ghettos this was only meant to be done during the war and that afterwards he wanted to deport them. He said that the deaths were mostly from disease or lack of food due to the war and that the showers weren’t for gassing but for delousing or something like that. I asked him where he read this stuff and he said that there are some books on the subject that go into detail. He also claimed that the Nazis didn’t have the technology to burn millions of bodies and that there weren’t as many Jews in Europe as is reported anyway. He said that while he believes the Nazis were bad and that hundreds of thousands of Jews died, the allies greatly inflated the numbers to discredit the Nazis further.

I mean obviously this stuff just set off my bullshit detector but I’m not really knowledgeable enough about history to dispute this. My boyfriend leans right but he’s never made racist or anti-Semitic comments before, although he is sometimes heavily critical of Israel when they're in the news. Is he just misguided or is this the kind of thing only a neo nazi would say?

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I had stage IV aggressive breast cancer. I had a double mastectomy and bc of major complications I cannot have a rebuild. (Never) My spouse has been 100% supportive and we have always had a great relationship… until his bestfriend is around. I overheard him telling my husband that I have lost my appeal, my beauty, he even said I look trans. Men need breasts and I am no longer attractive. After about 15 minutes of constant nagging and insults, my husband caved and agreed. My hair hasn’t grown back as fast as it should and the years of treatment really affected my teeth. I am still quite beautiful just different. Our sex life is great and we are only impacted when his buddy comes around. I’m really starting to hate him. We have kids and a great life. Am I just insecure?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling a wedding planner to piss off?

Uncle ShortyB posted:

AITA for wanting my husband of 25 years to not bring his BF home anymore?

I feel so bad for this woman, I totally agree that she should just kick this dude's bestfriend to the curb and keep his rear end out there.

Brawnfire posted:

"After about 15 minutes of constant nagging and insults, my husband caved and agreed."

...I'm sorry, he AGREED?

Twenty five years?!?

He agreed?!?

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

wonder how much extra she had to pay the wedding planner to pull that poo poo for her

My [21F] Boyfriend [20] of 6 months said that he doesn't believe the 'official story' of the holocaust

hrmmmmm

IOwnCalculus posted:

As bad as that is, I'm hung up on the very first part. Who the gently caress would let someone poo poo on their spouse's appearance for 15 minutes? I can't fathom carrying on any conversation with someone like that. At best I'd give them the benefit of a sudden onset of foot-in-mouth disease, but if they actually persisted that'd be a "this conversation is over, leave immediately and lose my phone number on the way out".

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling a wedding planner to piss off?

Ravenfood posted:

The 10 year old writing about being upset about a stepmom entering her life is totally reasonable and normal (and the kid probably needed more therapy). An adult acting like a shithead because a 10 year old wrote some hurtful things down in a completely private (lol) setting is utterly mindblowing.

spacetoaster posted:

It does. The research on kids and screens/social media shows it's clearly not good. My kids and their friends do just fine with regular calls/group texts and stuff. But we're fortunate enough to live within walking distance of their schools and friends.

Have you got your kids learning the language if you're planning on going to China? My youngest boy has been taking it for about 8 months now and it's pretty cool.

(too bad a trip to China is waaay too expensive and troublesome right now.)

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

wonder how much extra she had to pay the wedding planner to pull that poo poo for her

My [21F] Boyfriend [20] of 6 months said that he doesn't believe the 'official story' of the holocaust

hrmmmmm

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Dear Care and Feeding,

My daughter (“Sara”) has a spouse (“Jamie”) who recently came out as gender-fluid, and explained that they often feel like a different gender from one day to the next. If this were just about adults interacting, I’m as tolerant as anyone; I’ll call Jamie “he” on Monday and “she” on Tuesday and “they” on Wednesday and whatever else Jamie wishes. Jamie has the right to identify as they might wish, and I respect that.

But this isn’t just about adults interacting. Sara and Jamie have a 6-year-old son (“Danny,” my grandson), and that son needs a father. However, Jamie and Sara are asking Danny to work with Jamie’s fluidity. Some days Jamie is “Daddy” and some days Jamie is “The Other Mommy.” Danny is obviously confused, and was embarrassed the one time I saw Danny around other kids on a Jamie-as-Mommy day. I’ve even seen Sara scold Danny and threaten to give him a time-out for misgendering Jamie. I tried to say something the first time it happened, and after Sara and Jamie sent Danny outside to play, they went off on me about respecting Jamie’s identity. They said that Jamie needs support, and Danny needs to learn to respect people as they are. I’m trying to respect Jamie, but I really believe that his son has to come first, and a 6-year-old is not ready for a parent who switches identities day to day. Danny needs a father who puts his son first. Sara thinks that I’m missing the point, and says they’re raising Danny to think beyond labels, not to be confused by them. What should I do?

— Gramma’s Tolerant, but Come On

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My [21F] Boyfriend [20] of 6 months said that he doesn't believe the 'official story' of the holocaust

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

I Canceled My Toddler gonna be an incredibly lucrative oped niche

Pigsfeet on Rye posted:

For real, everyone should have a registry at Design Toscano
https://www.designtoscano.com/

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My wife’s Dad is one of those “Back In My Day” kind of guys, and has shown me his high school and adult rec league (seriously) athletic trophies on multiple occasions. I mean, he’s insanely proud of his athletic accomplishments although the most recent one happened 20 years ago.

Well, this past weekend, a few of us were sitting around talking about sports and he proceeds to tell us that he could’ve been a professional basketball player or…swimmer. Two very different sports, but whatever. After we all laughed at him, for some reason, he decided to direct his ire at me and tell me that he’d have kicked my rear end if we were in our athletic primes at the same time, and that he might very well beat me today. Usually, I’d brush this off but he made it a point to go at at me in front of family and friends for zero reason. Also, he’s previously introduced me to others as his daughter’s “ meager unathletic husband,” and on a separate occasion, he told a men’s group at church that he didn’t want me on his side in a team event because I’m allegedly not a “great communicator” and team sports is all about “communicators” in his words. It’s all super weird and unprovoked.

Well, I was a decent player in my day and still play occasionally, and always figured that I could beat him pretty handily (I’m 24 years younger than him). And on this particular day, I’d had a few beverages in me and was feeling a bit frisky. So I readily accepted his challenge to play a game at the elementary school around the corner, to shut this thing down once and for all.

AITA for beating his rear end 11-0 in front of his mom, wife, kids and grandkids?? I knew after a few points I had him but he’s taunted me for years. I then finished his beer when I got back to the house lol.

Update: So my wife stopped by her parents tonight to pick up mail. Her Dad wasn’t home so she asked my MIL where he was at (he’s usually home since he works remotely). Apparently, he was at the school “getting up shots” and has been there three days this week. My wife drove by him on her way home and he was in a full lather. Not sure if I should laugh or cry. 😅

Smuggins posted:

Dammit I would buy that Shakespeare bust but only if it flipped back and had a button to the batcave.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA For Destroying My Wife’s Dad in One on One Basketball?

Motronic posted:

Smuggins posted:

Thank god it is sold out, my budget would be screwed

rotinaj posted:

The story feels fragmented and has massive leaps of logic...