Variable 5 posted:

Law firms, title offices, realtors, car dealers. Any business that has to deal with contracts will probably have at least one on staff. And the pricing is usually regulated by law.

cumshitter posted:

$2,000 for anal is a perfectly normal budget.

Red Oktober posted:

Corkage is the other way around - it’s for when people want to being a very nice or special bottle. It doesn’t usually work out economical to bring a cheap one and pay the extra, at that point you may as well just buy wine there.

cumshitter posted:

$2,000 for anal is a perfectly normal budget.

pentyne posted:

Isn't this the whole point of like a $50 "corking" fee?

Let trash taste havers enjoy their trash wine and just collect free money off them.

packetmantis posted:

Aren't there notaries in every Kinko's and post office? How is a "notary business" even a thing?

AKA Pseudonym posted:

Part of the joy of going to a nice place, especially something that has three Michelin stars, is sharing the experience with somebody else. Obviously there can be room for different tastes, but someone who's so indifferent that they bring they're own go-to bottle of whatever probably isn't going to be much fun to eat with. And if they can't bother to even just play along for something the other person probably considers a special occasion, then they probably aren't much fun to be with generally.

Bonster posted:

AITA for pointing out an allergy to a worker

I think this (probably non-existent) person is really stupid. Fun game - guess the many reasons why!

quantumwell posted:

What about the cost of lube ?

Red Oktober posted:

I think everyone is missing the post I put above - the poster is just doing a bit by taking a song about a couple who go to visit the wife’s sister on broadway and can’t agree on wine. It’s literally a song, it’s all over TikTok at the minute.

Red Oktober posted:

I think everyone is missing the post I put above - the poster is just doing a bit by taking a song about a couple who go to visit the wife’s sister on broadway and can’t agree on wine. It’s literally a song, it’s all over TikTok at the minute.

cumshitter posted:

$2,000 for anal is a perfectly normal budget. Hell, on the retirement planning packets I give to clients it's even listed as a monthly expense. Along with questions like, "Do you believe your anal expenditures will increase, decrease, or hold even post-retirement?"

Red Oktober posted:

I think everyone is missing the post I put above - the poster is just doing a bit by taking a song about a couple who go to visit the wife’s sister on broadway and can’t agree on wine. It’s literally a song, it’s all over TikTok at the minute.

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Me and my partner have been together for 8 years, married for 2 of them.

5 years ago we bought a home together a small 2 bedroom unit just to see if we could coexist without killing one another with the intention of only staying a few years before we got married and then upgraded to something larger.

3 years on we had enough of a deposit to do just that when my partners mother came to us asking for help. She wanted to buy a place but didn't have anything in the way of savings. she was tired of renting as it was becoming more and more expensive.

We talked about the issue knowing that if we agreed to help it meant delaying our own upgrade buy a further 3 years at minimum. with some hesitation on our part we never the less did the right thing and helped out his mother by giving her 90k (the sum total of all our savings at the time, making it clear it was just a loan) and she bought a place also with the aid of her other son.

Recently my partner has been talking to me about getting my name taken off the documentation to the house (so it is only her name and 2 sons on all the paperwork) . I know his mother has been in his ear about it because he only ever brings it up after a solo visit to her.

For a while I avoided the conversation but recently my husband has had an actual conversation with a lawyer to draw up paperwork to have my name legally removed.

When I found out I told my husband we needed to have a serious talk and I told him honestly that I would not remove my name from the documentation because, to date his mother has not paid either of us back a single cent of the money we lent her.

This angered my Husband who said I had agreed to take my name off the documentation that's why he spoke to a lawyer in the first place. When I insisted I never agreed and that I was just protecting us both by insisting our names stay on all the documentation he called me paranoid that his mother would never cheat us.

Now I feel guilty, AITA for refusing to remove my name from the documentation seeing as I did help pay for the place she bought, and without our help she would still be stuck renting.

quote:

If MIL is bad at money management, there is a fair possibility that she actually needs more money, and that you are an obstacle in her getting a second mortgage, while steamrolling the sons to agree would be much easier.

quote:

I didn't think of that. But if that is the case I will do my best not to let my Husband get sucked in any deeper.

We have both been saving for our upgrade home and I'll be damned if I have to delay again, I want out of this drat unit

quantumwell posted:

What about the cost of lube ?

cumshitter posted:

AITA for refusing to take my name of the deed to my mother in laws home ?
with some hesitation on our part we never the less did the right thing and helped out his mother by giving her 90k (the sum total of all our savings at the time, making it clear it was just a loan) and she bought a place also with the aid of her other son

cumshitter posted:

Quackles posted:

Nice new avatar.

packetmantis posted:

Aren't there notaries in every Kinko's and post office? How is a "notary business" even a thing?

PancakeTransmission posted:

Why would I, a guy in his mid to late 30s, be on TikTok to know this?

Boba Pearl posted:

AITA for wanting to bring my favorite wine to dinner?

Red Oktober posted:

Oh god, it’s not a TikTok song or anything, Christ, that would be tragic. It’s a proper off-broadway musical starting in 2008.

BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:

I once had to notarize a document with a dude who had an extremely tight schedule that precludes him from possibly going to any of the free notaries because they all have limited hours. We called 10 minutes ahead of time and a woman took a break from watching Netflix to stamp poo poo on her front porch in her pajamas for a 20. That’s how a notary business is a thing.

Boba Pearl posted:

AITA for wanting to bring my favorite wine to dinner?

OGDanDogg posted:

You put them in a bouncer/playpen and do the cooking, dishes, laundry, etc.

Uncle ShortyB posted:

This is just too god drat cute I love it.

Anyway, talking about PII and poo poo like that at my job has me thinking a certain type of way so make way for some content!!!

AITA for not giving my sister our mortgage paperwork?

quote:

Our daughter and her husband had their first child at the start of the pandemic, and suddenly, my daughter didn’t want anything to do with me. I had reached out to offer help, ask if I could stop by, called just to talk, you know, like a normal parent does, and every time, I felt that she was upset about something. So, I would wait two weeks or so and call or text again. Each time I did so, I felt more and more rejected. Last Thanksgiving, my husband and I hosted the family dinner. At the end of the evening, both my daughter and her husband yelled at me because they thought I had broken one of their rules. Our only granddaughter doesn’t know us. We weren’t invited to her first birthday at her other grandparents’ home, though both our sons and significant others were there. My husband has unfollowed her on Instagram, and I only look at her posts during moments I’m feeling very brave. I still don’t know why we aren’t welcome in their lives, and don’t know if I ever will. Holidays are so hard.

quote:

Jaylene, a widow whose only daughter is estranged, said she recently looked in the mirror and—in her words—saw a cold-hearted mother staring back. “I decided not to give my estranged daughter holiday gifts this year,” she said. “I’ve become indifferent. I guess I’ve healed so well that I no longer care.”
. . . .

With support, Jaylene made decisions about the holidays that sustained her self-growth and forward focus. She would send an e-card because it didn’t feel “right” not to acknowledge the holidays—and admitting her hope was honest. She would not send a gift or otherwise reach out though because that would feel like stepping backward into pleasing-her-daughter mode. She could live with this decision. It didn’t mean she was a bad person, cold-hearted, or even indifferent.

AceClown posted:

I remember a throwaway chapter in on of the Belgariad books where they have to take shelter in this house and it's a family of total narcissist horrible people. Anyway, when they leave Garion is all like "holy poo poo they are terrible people, we should do something" and Beldin I think is all like "if you can think of a better punishment than letting these vile people live out the rest of their lives, never finding happiness, in each others company then by all means share it" and Garion is all like "daaaamn that's fuckin cold, but also fair"

anyway, it's been 20 years since I read those books and this thread makes me think of that chapter often, thanks for coming to my TED talk.

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I love my son a lot, but honestly, Hailey Would be better off without him. I know how that sounds, but she would be. He is the definition of deadweight, in part because she enables him. At times I am legitimately ashamed to call him my son.

He has no job, and refuses to look for 1 outside of his niche field (petroleum engineer). He’s dependent upon his wife and provides nothing to her financially, emotionally, or domestically.

Today his daughter had to come home from school, and Hailey called me asking if I could. I asked why he couldn’t, and she said…..”he stayed up late last night, and needs his sleep”……I mean, seriously? I swear I just feel embarrassed to call him my son sometimes.

I picked her up and brought her home, went in the house to wake up my son, and we argued a bit, before I told him he needed to, “man up, and start bringing something to the table”. He lectured me for saying man up instead of grow up. And I told him That when he acted like this I was embarrassed to call him my son. He apparently told his wife about it (figures), and she says I was to harsh and he’s, “trying his best”. I told my son I hope his wife gets out of the relationship, and he told me to F off. So respectful. My husband also agreed with my daughter-in-law.

To the ones saying that they can afford to have him lay around. My husband and I have had to pay their rent for them in the past. Which my husband doesn’t mind.

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My 17 year old daughter enjoys flipping things off. Yes, that means giving the finger, flipping the bird, presenting the one fingered salute - whatever name you like to use. I don't know why she does it, but everybody else (my wife and my children) think it's the funniest thing they've ever seen.

She will walk up to the animals and present her middle finger right between their eyes. If there is a character she doesn't like in a movie or a TV show, she will flip them off until they leave the screen. If somebody has a dish she doesn't like, she will thrust her middle finger onto the plate. Never touching the food, but only barely. It's the height of bad manners, and I can't help but feel that I failed as a parent for not teaching her manners correctly.

Just the other day I was making a salad to go with dinner that had olives, and because my daughter HATES olives, she decided to walk right up to my bowl, stick her hand inside, and flip off my food! Her knuckle was barely an inch from my Iceberg lettuce! Not only is it unsanitary, but it's disrespectful to the food I put time and effort to prepare for my family.

I calmly asked her to not stick her rude finger into my salad because it was rude, unsanitary, and I didn't know if she washed her hands or not. She simply replied, "but you know I hate olives, dad," in a snotty tone. Enough was enough, I had talked to her in the past and asked her very nicely to not flip anything off anymore, so I forcibly removed her hand from the bowl and yelled at her to get out of the kitchen and go live outside with the dog if she wanted to behave like an animal.

Later, my wife told me that I shouldn't have blown up at her and that I need to "lighten up". I asked her if she would like it if our daughter kept flipping off her food, and she shrugged and said "well, I don't put olives in things she will be eating". I don't think I was unreasonable by my actions, but my wife sure thinks I was. AITA?

TL;DR; daughter flipped off my salad, I told her off, and now my wife is mad and thinks I'm an rear end in a top hat.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for telling my son that I was embarrassed to call him my son, and I hoped his wife left him?


Mom knows what's up with the man-child she raised.

Yolo Swaggins Esq posted:

AITA for yelling at my daughter for flipping off my food?

teen witch posted:

soda chat:

American sodas that own: regular barqs root beer gently caress I’ll take any loving root beer rn, Surge (RIP), Mt Dew midnight black, Pepsi blue, sprite remix, Polar orange dry (hot take: better than orangina), Mr. Pibb if I’m feeling esoteric, Moxie, Penn Dutch Birch Beer, Faygo Rockin Red

Swedish sodas that own: Trocadero (OG owns but zero is passable), Pepsi Max (every flavor except the syrupy Mango one ew), Cuba Cola, Vanilla Coke Zero (the cinnamon one owns too, mango and strawb suck, lemon…eh), Irn Bru (occasionally I can find it here but it’s SO good)

Yolo Swaggins Esq posted:

AITA for yelling at my daughter for flipping off my food?

hawowanlawow posted:

this one could easily be an unreliable narrator, but still lol

quote:

I'm a 28 year old woman and I got really lucky to get the job I have right now.

I studied electrical and computer engineering in college, and job hopped 4 times.

Each time I switched jobs, I negotiated really hard for pay and benefits. I am making 160 grand now, working remotely, and living in a very low cost of living area.

It's a really nice gig, and I recognize I'm extremely lucky to have interests that line up with a super well paying industry, and suuuper lucky to have been able to go to college at all.

But despite that, I feel like I did work to deserve it somewhat, college was super demanding and difficult, my first few jobs had greuling schedules, and I feel like I'm being paid more for the knowledge I built over all that time.

But still I have to admit it's pretty cushy, I never work over 40 hours a week, my coworkers never contact me about work outside of my 9 to 5, I get paid stupid good money for it, and I have 2 months vacation time

So onto the conflict...

My boyfriend used to work outside the home, he is an IT admin at a large company. But because of the pandemic, his job became partially remote. So we're working out of the same house and I think he sees how different our jobs and pay are.

He makes 65 grand a year and works a lot longer hours, he usually starts his day at 7 or 8 am and works till 6 or 7 pm, he more often has to work weekends to do IT stuff, and he is on call for emergencies with his personal phone... And it seems like they're having emergencies every week.

So... Since we've been working from home together, he makes comments about it occasionally. Like "must be nice" kinds of things.

Recently he's gotten more frustrated with me though. Yesterday I had a bad headache so I told my boss that I was going be away from my desk for a while since I wasn't feeling well. I blocked out a 2 hour "meeting" on my calendar so people wouldn't try and reach me and took a nap. My boyfriend saw me napping during work and said "they're really paying you to sleep, huh"

I snapped at him saying that they were paying me for my skills, and that I didn't care for the way he had been talking about my job.

He said something petty about my skills at napping and shooting the poo poo on zoom, and how that's definitely worth 6 figures, and I got really irritated and said that just because he was underpaid doesn't mean that he could call me overpaid, if he was mad he should go take that out on his boss not me.

He said that I was being ridiculous, he'd be in the poo poo at work if he did. I said maybe he needs to find a better job if his boss isn't ready to talk money.

He called me privileged and out of touch and said that it isn't that easy to just go find a better job.

I said that if you don't try your never going to know.

He got irritated and stormed out.

AITA for how I talked to my boyfriend about work?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for telling my son that I was embarrassed to call him my son, and I hoped his wife left him?


Mom knows what's up with the man-child she raised.

Gadzuko posted:

AITA for getting frustrated with my boyfriend for implying I don't deserve to make the money I make?

The evergreen advice that actually applies to both parties in this situation:
https://twitter.com/dasharez0ne/status/979810839749210112?lang=en